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I'm being bullied by my closest friends
I am i 14 year old female and for the past few years my friends who i have known since i was 3 have been constantly been making fun of me and especially now that we are in high school its worse. They do it as a joke and it really hurts my feelings and i tell them most of the time that they're hurting my feelings and they say they'll try and stop but they never do. I can't deal with it anymore please help
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Dear "I'm being bullied by my closet friends",
Friends are family that you choose and I'm pretty sure you don't want your family to hurt you. If your "friends" are really hurting you and not listening to your plea to stop, cut the umbilical cord and lose them. Plus you're just 14, you'll find plenty of friends! All you need is to be happy with a bright smile, and if you can't find it with your friends then forget them.
Signed mooshoomary
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Be straight up with them and say look stop making jokes of me because iys not funny to me! Or just laugh with them. If it makes you inscure stop talking to them and mingle with others and to see if they care that you stopped talking to them
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Childhood friends are not always the best/closest friends. It is not about the time, it is about the quality of their values and morals.
Your friends are not respecting who you are and are hurting you emotionally, and therefore I suggest you stick with other friends instead of them.
If you are uncomfortable with not letting them go, adapt to situation and and just laugh with them, they get less pleasure from that hahaha.
you say it like they are in a group, this can be tormenting but in another case you could stop letting them meet you so just walk to the library, chat with another group of friends.
TLDR:
1. Stick to other groups of friends
2. Laugh with them
3. Hide from them discretely, dont make it as though you fear them
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hi! you're the same age with my daughter and at that age a lot of you guys will encounter mean girls. anyway, just remember that these mean girls who bullies you have one thing in common with all the bullies in the world. they are nothing but insecure girls and boys and that bullying others gives them a power over their victims once their victim does not retaliate. so that's the secret on how to stop them from hurting you. retaliate. let them know that you don't allow them to hurt you. do not accept the words they say to you but instead say it back to them. practice doing it over and over again in front of the mirror so that you will gain confidence before you face them. if you do retaliate they might stop but if not then go tell your teacher or any adult who has authority over them in your school about the bullying and try to look for new friends to go with. these kids even if you know them since you were 3 are not your friends anymore. you have to let go of them and find other friends you won't hurt you.
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They only can hurt you if you allow it.
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Well they certainly don't act like they are your friends. They know it hurt your feelings. If they really cared, they would actually stop and not just say they will.
Just because you've grown up with them doesn't just make them your friends. Friends don't hurt each others feelings all the time.
I think it's time to branch out and find some new friends who are nicer. It's hard to lose friends but it's a part of life.
Good luck and I hope everything works out for you!
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I'm not trying to bash your friends but... THEY'RE NOT TRUE FRIENDS. Just because you know them for a long time doesn't mean they're going to be a friend until the end. I say they're not true friends because anyone who ignores your feelings and is constantly being disrespectful towards you, then that person is not your friend. Bullying is NEVER okay. If you don't want these girls to make fun of you, then you should stop hanging out with them. Just CUT THEM OFF. And if they keep messing with you, THEN LET SOMEBODY KNOW. Do not ever keep a bullying situation to yourself. And if you tell an adult, it is not SNITCHING. Snitching is a false term that was created by people who were afraid of being exposed as what they really were... Liars, cheaters, theives, bullies, but most of all, COWARDS. Don't let these girls bully you anymore. Ignore them and find some new friends because you outgrew the old ones.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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