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I don't know if i should tell my ex-boyfriend that i still have feelings for him. He's asked me before but i never gave a straight answer. We started going together at the begining of the school year last year but broke up like a week later. By the end of the school year we started acting like we were when we first started going out. I don't kow if i should tell him how i feel about him or keep it a secret. It's just that i really like him. He's like the best person in the world and the sweetest. What should i do?

You should definitely talk to him. If you really like him, and you don't talk to him, he'll never know that you actually have feelings for him.

Just tell him the whole truth, and if he really loves you and he's a genuine guy, he'll understand and sweep you off of your feet again. :)

-Mariah-

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What are some shoe brands geared more towards teenage girls?

There are lots of shoe brands out there that teen girls can wear. If you're looking for skater-type shoes, I'd try Etnies, Adios, or Macbeth's.

If you're looking for cute and casual athletic shoes, I'd try Skechers or K-Swiss.

If you're looking for athletic shoes for sports, I'd try Adidas, Nike, or Basics.

Hope this helps! :)

-Mariah-

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ok so my friend doesnt know how to dance and shes been looking for like videos thaat show you how to dance like at parties and stuff. i would teeach her but she went to florida for the summer. so thanks!

I don't think dance videos are the best to go by...

Just tell her to sway to the music, and let the music just carry her. The easiest way to dance is to just sway from side to side, with your toes tapping. She shouldn't be afraid of how she dances. There are lots of people at parties that don't know how to dance. Maybe she could find a guy that doesn't know how to dance, and they could both have fun and try to teach each other how to dance. Learn some new moves from a hot guy, and snag the hot guy. :)

-Mariah-

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I love my bf rodney but recently (on the phone) if he says I have to go ill say ok but then kinda start to hate him, I dont know why I just get mad at him and sometimes I don't and sometimes I do. Is this normal, it has never happened before so can anyone please tell me why i am doing this, thnx

I think he is just getting bored with this relationship. Unless you want to lose him, I'd schedule a fun date for the both of you, like going to the movies, to a concert, to a theme park or carnival, .etc.

If you really like him, then I'd try to keep him.

If he still seems bored and uninterested, then I'd drop him. If he can't enjoy your company, then you can't enjoy his. There are plenty of other guys out there just waiting for the perfect girl, maybe this guy isn't the one you were meant to find. But, then again, all relationships require lots of hard work. That's mostly why most celebs get married and divorced a whole bunch of times, because they're to lazy to try and work things out...

-Mariah-

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So basically, my hair is reallllly dry/damaged from me straightening it everyday.

Well sometimes, I don't wash my hair so it stays straight, and I skip a day or two. But it looks downright AWFUL if I don't straighten it.


So I was wondering if I could do anything to un-damage it??

I'd see a hair stylist ASAP to help you revive your locks. But other than that, I'd try the new Herbal Essence line of hair care products, such as Hello Hydration. All of the products work REALLY good, and they have a different line for every hair problem and hair type.

-Mariah-

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15/f

this boy, who used to be my best friend, like i told him everything, he was like the bestest friend i ever had. we were best friends for like 3 years, i loved him soo much. we were such good friends. and then this thing happened, and we just stopped talking. well, i switched over to his school, and he'd ALWAYS stare at me. like look me in the eyes, and like look at me forever. then, i saw him today, and every chance he got, he'd like sneak looks at me, or directly look me in the eyes. i'm not sure what i should do, i don't know when i'll even ever see him again. but im just.. confused. i mean, why is he always looking at me? all of his friends were like looking at me too. they werent laughing at me or anything. but like, they just were staring at me. why?? i just, really need some answers. i wanna know whats up with him. i really wanna talk to him, but i'm scared about what he may say. i dont know how he feels about me, and i just dont wanna get hurt.

why do you think hes always looking at me?
and what should i do?

Girl, he REALLY likes you! Those are all tried and true signs that he is diggin' the heck out of you! You have got to take serious and immediate action. This guy sounds like a great catch, so I'd jump at the chance to ask him out if I were you, or you could be missing out on a great opportunity...

-Mariah-

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okay so i want a hippie van SO bad but like in the inside of it ive benn looking at pictures and i dont like how the steering wheels and front seats are so i was wndering what kind of car and model resembles a hippie van [huge backseat with no seats] and still is kinda modern so its cute in the front?

I would get a Chevy 82' van.

Here's a pic of the nifty little hippie van: http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://www.4x4plus.com/Chevy_Van_2.jpg&imgrefurl=http://www.4x4plus.com/1982%2520chevy%2520van.htm&h=480&w=640&sz=77&hl=en&start=2&tbnid=Th9O4bfsLOeY9M:&tbnh=103&tbnw=137&prev=/images%3Fq%3DChevy%2BVan%26gbv%3D2%26svnum%3D100%26hl%3Den%26sa%3DG

Enjoy! :D

-Mariah-

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Hi, I'm looking to lose about 30 pounds. My mom wants to order me Nutrisystem, but is it really worth the money?

Couldn't I do the same thing with Lean Cuisine meals, or some other way cheaper diet brand? Or is Nutrisystem really helpful?

Also, how long would it take to lose around 30 pounds on Nutrisystem? Thank youuuu!

Whatever you do, do not fall into the diet traps like Nutrisystem, Lean Cuisine, Jenny Craig, Aitkins, .etc

1. Sure, some of them work, but once you stop when you reach your goal, you will gain back every pound that you lost, if not more.

2. Diets like Aitkins and whatnot have been proven to be bad for various parts and organs of your body. For example, the Aitkins diet has been proven to be bad for your pancreas.

The best solution that also works the best is to just eat healthy and exercise. There is no miracle diet that will help you lose weight effectively without exercise. I'd just try going to the gym and lifting weights, or even take up jogging and job 1 mile a day, until you feel comfortable with that length, and then go to 2 miles a day, then 3, and so on. You gotta move it to lose it. :D

-Mariah-

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does tanning help prevent acne?

and also, why does it do that if it does?

Despite rumors that it does prevent acne, it actually doesn't. It actually makes you break out more, because your skin can get to dry, so your hormones send a message to produce more oil, which results in lots of clogged pores and pimples...

-Mariah-

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alright well me and my bestfriend went out a year and a half ago and it was great. well we always text at night and stuff and he always tells me he thinks im gorgoues and that he wants to hookup with me.. he also tells me that if i was single alot of guys would come chasing after me... well i cant tell if hes interested or not

help please!

Well, duh. He can't offer more clues than that; he's DEFINITELY interested! Strike at the chance to ask him out if you feel like and and like him. I smell romance amidst the air! :D

-Mariah-

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Im only 15 and skiiny 100 pounds!
And im female

and i have stretch marks on my theighs?

How do i get rid of them?

I think 100 pounds is a little to skinny for a 15 year old, unless you are less than 5 feet tall, but even then it's still a little to skinny...

I would try weight training to build muscle. Building muscle should get rid of stretch marks...

If that doesn't work, there are some excellent creams and lotions out there that you can get by using the Jergens product line.

-Mariah-

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16, Female

my eyes look different to me. They seem to have a slightly green tinge(I have Brown eyes) and the pupils have really shrunk. and they've bene like this for a bit. has anyone ever heard of eyes changing like this?
and it's not jsut in my ehad, because my friends have noticed it too.

It just has to do with your genetics. It also can do with what you wear. Like if you're wearing something that's blue or purple, your eyes will appear more blue or purple.

As for the genetics, when you hit puberty or another stage of life, your hormones can make genetic changes to your body, such as changes in hair color or eye color. You have no control over it.

However, if you aren't satisfied with your eye color, you can always get the "colored" contact lenses that make your eyes appear to be a different color, even if you don't need contacts or glasses, people can still wear them.

-Mariah-

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ok so is it true that guys like it when they have to chase a girl.. n work for it? if that makes any sense

Yes and no... Guys do enjoy the hunt for a girl, because it's fun for them and they like a good challenge. However, if a girl plays to hard to get, they'll soon get uninterested in the catch, and they'll move on. But, then again, guys don't like to have serious relationships with girls that are easy. Once in awhile, just seem uninterested in something a guy says, he'll catch on and he'll find that chasing you is quite fun.

-Mariah-

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im really confused about those pictures of tyra banks on how she's fat, is that true? because when i see her on TV she's skinny. thanks

Tyra Banks is not fat, by no means. The media has everyone convinced that being normal is being overweight. Tyra Banks is a normal weight for her height, and the media portrays that as being fat. She is an inspiration for everyone so that girls young and old don't give in to the media's portrayal that thin is in. She looks skinnier on TV because they do have the ability to edit the celebs bodies, so that they can take away anything that looks bad...

-Mariah-

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so i'm thinking on loose 10 - 15lbs by the time school starts.
i'm 145lbs right now and 5'4. i want to weigh at least 130. or just fit into a size 7 by the end of August.
is it possible?
i already got the eating thing down straight.
i just need to know some good excersises. and how often i should use them for.

thanks.

You are a little overweight for your height, not to be mean. The ideal weight for your height is around 130 pounds. I would try jogging, starting at 1 mile, and continuing for a few days, or until you feel comfortable, and then up it to 2 miles, then 3, and so on. Running is the best way to lose weight, along with healthy eating. The best way to eat healthy is, when going grocery shopping, stay out of the aisles and only buy things that are outside of the aisles, where the dairy products, fruit and vegetables, .etc are. These foods are not processed, so they are healthy for you.

-Mariah-

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I know someone who has a myspace tracker that ACTUALLY works and shows your exact location of where you live. I don't feel safe about this and was wondering if there's some internet option that doesn't log my IP address and make that information available to other people. Thank you.

If you really feel worried about this, then don't post any personal information on your profile that would identify yourself.

If you're still worried about it, don't visit their profile anymore. That's the safest way to not be tracked.

-Mariah-

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alright well.. im about 5'1 and im really curvy. i have a flat stomach and an ass so i get alot of attention from guys. well also my cup size is a D and theyre very perky. guys r always maken comments to me about them and guys always wanna see them.. the problem is... i have an inch and 1/2 space between the 2 of them and i have a huge circle around my nipple. its embarassing and im considering plastic surgey.. but my question is.. will that turn guys off? pls help.. thanks so much

If guys are really worried about what your boobs look like and whatnot, then those aren't the right guys to look for. I wouldn't get so hyped up about getting plastic surgery if you just want to make the guys happy. You should be looking for a guy that likes you for your personality, and not for your body. Looks don't last.

If you need anymore help, just ask.

-Mariah-

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Okay well im a 14 year ols female and my boyfriend think we are ready to have sex and i was wondering , what do you think i can do to pleaseure him

If you have a boyfriend that thinks that you both are ready for sex when you are only 14, I'd find a different boyfriend or tell him that it just doesn't feel right. You are only 14. You have your whole life set for you, and if you do this without taking precautions and knowing what to expect and what could happen, your life could be ruined just by this one choice. I'd look at the facts. There are more cons than pros to having sex.

What happens if the condom breaks?

What happens if you get pregnant?

What happens if you get an STD?

What happens if your parents find out? Because they eventually will...

I just don't think it's worth it, nor do I recommend having sex to anyone...

-Mariah-

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i know this is really stupied but how do you make out?

Just do what feels best and what you feel most comfortable with doing. Don't go farther than you want to, because you'll just end of getting hurt. When the time comes, you'll know what to do. :) I'd practice making out with your fist. lol It might sound weird, but that's the closest thing to the real thing...

-Mariah-

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I've asked about 6 of my friends to go to the movies with me. REJECTED! all busy.. so

Well, do you go see a movie ALONE?

i feel little weird.. because I always see someone with at least 2 people with them.

Yeah, it is kind of strange going to the movies alone, but hey, you could start something here and make a statement by going alone. :)

You could also call some acquaintances that you don't really know very well, but would like to get to know better to go see a movie.

If you feel uncomfortable going alone or calling some acquaintances, I'd rent a movie or a PayPerView and just stay at home and watch movies. It's not as expensive, and you're in the comfort of your own home. :)

-Mariah-

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