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I have been having theese problems I mean every thing schoolparents boys and I have been cutting myself for about a year and it is really bothering me at school I will go to the bathroom and just carve a knife into my leg and I want to stop but I jsut cant I tried to but I couldnt plz help me
Well, first you wanna ask yourself.. Do you REALLY want to end up in a mental hospital? cause when I did that, thats where I ended up.. and trust me its really not that much fun.. I know things can be sh*t but honestly - that's not the way to deal with it. You need to get EVERYTHING sharp away from you (btw - taking a knife to school isnt smart - you'll get caught eventually, trust me), find someone you can talk to, and (this is the most important one) ask your parents if you can see the doctor - if you've been cutting for a year, you need anti-depressants (and probably a psychiatrist). Even if you think your parents hate you or you've been fighting, they do care and they don't want you to be miserable. Oh, and one last thing - I have scars from 2 years ago that are still really noticeable and people always comment, so i mean theres another reason to try harder to stop. I hope this helps and I hope you'll take my advice - let me know what happens.
I hate my life and myself. My parents love me and all, but all we do is fight. My friends and I are fighting, I'm not good enough for any boyz, and I'm always finding myself getting mad. I don't think i'm that ugly, and boys tell me I am. THey like the popular girlz. Please help me. What do I do with myself?
aww I'm sorry.. I know how you feel though (not exactly, of course, everyone's situation is different). If it helps any, I used to fight with my parents and all my friends, and I've never been hot enough for the guys. First off, the guys who've been telling you you're ugly are just jackasses (sry for the language) and you shouldn't listen to them. And secondly, I think you should go to a doctor or a psychiatrist. The doctor might be able to give you anti-depressants (they gave them to me and they helped a LOT) and the psychiatrist is just someone to talk to - you can tell them stuff and they're not allowed to tell ANYBODY anything you say (or you can sue them:-)). And lastly - whatever you do, don't hurt yourself. Nothing's bad enough for that. I hope I helped!
First off, I am a girl, and I am dating another girl. Now on to the problem. Ive been dating Molly almost 11 months now. A few months ago, things got really rocky between us, so we took a short break, and things got alot better, and we didnt fight or anything. Now, about 2-3 weeks ago, she, just out of the blue, says she wants a break, a longer one, and when I asked why, she said she didn't know how she felt anymore. She says she is starting to fall out of love with me, and that she needed space so she could work it out. It was really hard for me, at first, but now I am getting better. Now the thing is, she is sending mixed signals. Sometimes it seems like things may be getting better, others, not so much. She even tells me that I can 'do stuff' with other girls, should I choose to (I dont want to) and then when I hang out with someone that something could potentialy happen with, I think she gets kinda jelouse (but I'm not sure if I am reading signals wrong). Now I have 2 questions: The whole doing stuff with other people. Is she testing me? Or possibly she wants to not feel so guilty if things dont work? And my second question is, How long should I wait for her? Our one year is January 20th. Im only 17, I have invested a year of my life into our relationship, I am not ready to give up yet. What can I do?
Well, firstly - if you're on a break, technically you can look around for other girls you might like. I don't think that you should be "waiting" for her at all - if she wants you back, thats cool, but if she doesnt, there are other girls out there. I know its hard to break up with someone, but just in case it happens, you should be like looking around for someone you might want to be with (for when you get over your girlfriend). I hope everything goes okay!
13/f. I have this friend. We've been friends for two years already. Well, he's nice a lot. We make jokes and all. But other times he makes me upset. He talks badly about my friends. He also always comments on my profile on AIM. He tells me somehow how I'm wrong in what I put, or how it's dumb. He promises time and time again to keep my crushes a secret, but tells them anyway. Half of our grade finds out and soon enough I'm a laughing stock. I no longer tell him but sometimes when he's nice I do it anyway. In person he's got a really great personality. We used to date in 6th grade and he was the sweetest guy. When we broke up he talked about all the things I didn't do perfectly when we were going out. He makes me upset basically just online. So what do I do?
Umm that's really kind of weird. Maybe he says mean things to you online because he can't see you when he does (and there's no chance of getting punched lol).... I don't really know, all I can think of is don't talk to him online or tell him how bad he makes you feel.. Hope i helped!
OK here's the deal. Me and this kid have liked each other for a few weeks now and he finally asked me out. We've only been going out for 2 days now but its feels like longer. I really do love him, and he loves me. There's just one problem. He's kind of "advanced". I'm only in 8th grade and i've never really been into doing things with guys. For example, I wouldn't give a guy head or handjob anytime soon. He jokes around a lot about this and really wants me to do it but he isn't pressuring me. The problem is, he always wants me to go to his house after school, and for some reason i don't like to go without a friend. I don't know why, but I just can't bring myself to go alone. I love him a lot, but I feel better knowing that someone else is there with me in case something goes wrong. Even if it's one of his friends that's there too, i'm ok, but other than that, i just get a little uneasy. It's just something weird I guess that's going on with me that's making me not want to be alone with him. The other problem is that I still don't know how to kiss and now that I have a boyfriend, I think that maybe that's the reason im scared to be alone with him because i'm afraid of his making a move on me. I don't suppose I would mind too much if we kissed but I still don't "know how to". He sounds mad whenever I don't go to his house. He always wants me to, and he always wants me to go to the movies. That's where my problme of being alone with him comes out. I don't want to go to the movies with him if it's just me and him so I usually suggest a double date but the thing is, my friend would be making out with her friend during the whole movie and it might make me and my boyfriend feel weird so I never want to go. I feel bad saying no to him, but I don't know what to do to not be scared about it. Can someone please help me and tell me what I should do? I would appreciate it so much and i will rate you 5 even if you don't give good advice. Thanks
I used to have the same problem.. actually, it still sometimes freaks me out to go to a guy's house alone;-). You trust your bf, right? Well, you should be able to trust him to not do something if you ask him not to.. So if you're afraid of "going too far" then if you feel that its getting a to be a little too much, just ask him to stop. As for not knowing how to kiss, I don't think anyone really does! You just sort of have to wing it and I'm guessing you get better at it with practice (I don't really know lol). I hope it gets better, and if you find any really good way to not feel weird going to a guys house alone, tell me! ;-)
I have this friend who can get on my nerves so much because she just tries to control everyone! well many people i know complain about her and it is so annoying. she is always in my face like am i your best friend and i made you a picture but im not gonne give it to you and do u hate me, and AHHH ITS IS SO ANNOYING!!! i like want to scream my head off when im around her and answer all her questions "truthfully" and AHHH!!!!!! but i cant because she like gets my friends mad at me and why do i care? AHHH WHAT SHOULD I DO?!
Talk to her about it - most people like that don't realise how controlling they are. Maybe she'll try to change if she realises how much it bothers you. How does she get your friends mad at you if they complain about her? Don't yell back at her, then you'll get in a fight (trust me) and it will be totally uncomfortable and unfair to your mutual friends. Just try to stay calm and ask her to stop being so bossy. I hope this helps!
Okay, so there's this boy. He's the cutest thing ever but he's two years younger then me. He is friends with a whole bunch of my friends and stuff so thats how i know him. He likes me and he asked me out and i like him. But i don't know if i should go out with him because i like this other guy A LOT. But i don't know if he likes me. I would feel bad to the guy two years younger though because i don't like him as much. Should i go out with him anyways? Because maybe i'll like him more when i get to know him better? I don't know him very well. Thanks for all help!
Well, you could try going out with him for a while. If it doesn't work out, then you should end the relationship. But I would say first try to figure out if the other guy likes you - flirt with him to see if he's interested! I hope I helped.
okay well i have been talking to this guy online and on the phone almost every night for about a year and 1/2 and even though i have never actually physically met him i think i have fallen in love with his personality. we only live about an hour away and i am friends with his cousin who lives near me, so its very possible that we could meet whenever we wanted to. well i do want to meet him to maybe try to start a relationship, but the problem is that i sent him a fake picture of me. not just one fake picture, but i have sent him websites..TONS of fake picures saying that they were me. so now he has this image of a beautiful girl in his mind. its not that im afraid he will think im ugly at this point, but i am afraid to admit that i sent him alllll those pictures. its extremely embarassing.. and i didnt do it just once, ive done it ALOT!!! i dont know what to do..if i never meet him then it will break my heart and i think i will be missing out on something really great...what should i do? i know this is pathetic..please dont be rude i just need help!!
How do you know that he didn't lie too? First off, internet relationships don't always work out, and are often based on lies. Just remember that. Secondly, you've already lied to him, so you can't take that back, so as embarrassing as it's going to be, you're going to have to admit those pictures weren't really you. It may screw up your relationship possibilities, but at least then you'd be able to meet him! Good luck and I hope it isn't too mortifying :(.
wht do you do when you go to a school dance and your frined gets asked out but you dont. I just have a question because on the same night of the dance i see my ex-boyfriend slow dancing with this really mean girl lets call her marissa and he deserves so much better.I still have huge feeling for my ex and i just felt so depressed after that. i will rate a 5 for anyone who gives me good advice.,
Well, you have fun anyway, dance with your other friends and don't think about guys! I'm sorry about your ex - but there doesn't seem to be much you can do. If you two are still good friends, you could tell him how mean you think she is, but I don't think that would do much good.. Just wait until the next dance to get asked out! ;-) It'll work out eventually.
One of my best friends we'll call her Nicole did something totally uncalled for last night. We all went to this dance and she knows I have a major crush on this this kid. I'll call him Ryan she slow dances with him right in front of me. Next time I'll see her is Mon. and I don't know how to react to the situation. I have another crush but he was with his ex- girlfriend (who is also my friend). Help me please.
Wow thats a totally evil thing to do. She KNEW you liked him and danced with him anyway? I think you should ask her about it on Monday - let her know how hurt you were. If she doesn't care, then no offense but she doesnt sound like
the greatest friend. :-/ I hope you and your friend work it out!
Ok..well I've liked this boy for quite a long time now and we have dated before but like last school year. This school year we have been on and off like I've always liked him but he sometime says he doesn't anymore. Just recently he told me he loved and all and he just went farther than he has before in what he says to me. So I think that made me attached more...well then he stopped calling me so I decided to call him a couple days after he stopped talking to me. He says from all the time I've known him I don't talk to him enough. This has happened so many times it's almost predictable, he likes me and all and then he stops because I don't talk to him enough and then I try to and then I just get sick of it because it doesn't seem to go anywhere and then I give up and then he seems to pop right back up again and like me again! I really like this kid and I don't know what to do, should I give up and see if he comes back like always or should I try talking to him more and just hope something happens or what? I can't give up on him I don't think it would last I've tried and tried either he came back just in time or I get feelings again! Anyone have any ideas? Thanks in advance!
He seems like the type of guy who likes girls when they stop liking him. Does this happen with any other of his girl friends? You should try talking to him more - but don't spend all your time talking to him lol. You should also mention (nicely) what he's doing and what its doing to you.. If he's nice, he'll try to stop. I hope this helps!
hello! me and my boyfriend have dated for 3 months and then we broke up. But know we started dating again. And know he is different, he wont touch me i always have to grab him. like grab his hand if i want to hold it. what should i do?
OMG! My ex-bf did the exact same thing. Maybe he's just uncomfortable with the whole breaking up and getting back together thing. You should talk to him about it - communication is key if you want your relationship to work. I hope I helped!
Okay my boyfriend and I have been going out for a little over 3 months. I really love him. The problem is that his parents are having marital problems. So they might move to Texas. I only know of one way to possibly keep them here but it is probably impossible and that is to get married. I just have no clue how even if it would work. Any other ideas or ideas on how that would work. Any ideas on how I tell him my idea about getting married to possibly keep them from moving.
Um, WHOA? How old are you? If you're over 18 then I'm fine with this, but honestly. You've only been dating him for like 3 months! I'm not saying you don't love him - but IF he moves to Texas, you might have to try a long-distance relationship. If he's going to move, he's going to move - there isn't a way to keep him with you. I know it seems unfair, but it'll be okay. I'm sorry if I told you what you didn't want to hear. I hope everything works out for you.
(BTW - He'll probably get totally freaked out if you mention marriage, so I would advise against doing that)
how old do you have to be to get your toung peirced in new york?
If you have parental consent, its probably 16 (at a respectable place). If you don't, its probably 18 - unless you find one of those places that they'll pierce you anyway, but I wouldn't reccomend that.
i've been friends with this guy for like... forever right? ok well, i'm really starting to like him and i don't know what to do about it. we're the kinda friends that hug every day, and he'll tell me i'm pretty and stuff, but still. i don't know if i should try ignoring my feelings or if i should try talking to him about it. a lot of my friends say i should ask him to sadies whenever that is. i think it's soon. so can somebody tell me what to do? i'd really appriciate the help.
I agree with your friends - take a chance and ask him to the dance. (It's Sadie Hawkins Dance btw - where the girls ask the guys.) You never know what might happen!
me and my boyfriend of 5 months dont go to the same school but we see eachother ALOT i love him to death and everything is perfect with him except that im always the one who has to go to see him...i go over there every wednesday and mostly on the wekeends....SOMETIMES he comes to the mall which is close 2 my house....he never has a ride and stuff...but my mom is like oh he has to come over here before i let you go back to his house because he never comes over here and i always hav to take you over there.....what can i do? he cant take the bus or drive or nothing but its not fair to me...
Well, have you talked to him about this? I mean, it really isn't very fair of him to be making you do all the work - I had a boyfriend who did that too. I guess the only advice I can give you is to talk to him about it and ask him over to your house or something. Maybe he's like uncomfortable around your parents or something, I don't know. Just try to compromise with him! I hope I helped:-)
my name is nicole ok i live in cali and im 15 years old me and my x like broke ^ like on monday i feel like soo tear a part i have been crying i dont know if i should go back with him i was like with him for like 8 months things dont feel the same because his not in my life right now i feel like some other girl could take my place he has been crying 2 so have i i dont know if i should move on or not should i take him back or give me more time can somebody please help me!!
Aww I'm sorry bout you and your guy, but it's probably better that you move on. Of course its gonna hurt for a while - if you had been together for 8 months, you were probably really close. But in the long run, you'd still break up, and it'd still hurt.. so move on and remember there are other guys!! I hope you feel better soon
does anybody know how to evenly put on eyeliner on the top lid of your eye? like i do it and it isnt perfect..
Haha, I had the same problem!! It just takes a WHOLE lot of practice;-). It gets easier the more you do it! Good luck!
Hey...thanks for the advice...well he lives in the area and i mean i'm only 15 so its hard for me to get to him...he doesnt have the internet either...:( but i saw him today when i went by his work and asked him if hes been avoiding me or has just been to busy and he said hes not avoiding me, hes still interested in me but i've gotta understand him working all the time...and i've thought about the whole what if we worst to get into a relationship what would happen...but i just gotta support him and be there for him...thanks for the advice...bye
No problem! I'm glad you talked to him. Hopefully you two can work something out! :-)
i have to do this thingy in front of my class.. which is 36 people and i have to memorize it... its a monologue. and im scared. i think imn gunna go out there and like freeze!! what do i do? 13/f
Get really comfortable saying it - memorize it really well, and then is there one person in your class you can look at and say it to? Or you could focus on the wall? Or, if worse comes to worst, you could picture everyone in their underwear;-).