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Taking a 'Break" ?
First off, I am a girl, and I am dating another girl. Now on to the problem. Ive been dating Molly almost 11 months now. A few months ago, things got really rocky between us, so we took a short break, and things got alot better, and we didnt fight or anything. Now, about 2-3 weeks ago, she, just out of the blue, says she wants a break, a longer one, and when I asked why, she said she didn't know how she felt anymore. She says she is starting to fall out of love with me, and that she needed space so she could work it out. It was really hard for me, at first, but now I am getting better. Now the thing is, she is sending mixed signals. Sometimes it seems like things may be getting better, others, not so much. She even tells me that I can 'do stuff' with other girls, should I choose to (I dont want to) and then when I hang out with someone that something could potentialy happen with, I think she gets kinda jelouse (but I'm not sure if I am reading signals wrong). Now I have 2 questions: The whole doing stuff with other people. Is she testing me? Or possibly she wants to not feel so guilty if things dont work? And my second question is, How long should I wait for her? Our one year is January 20th. Im only 17, I have invested a year of my life into our relationship, I am not ready to give up yet. What can I do?
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She can't expect you to be ok with taking another break or doing things with ither girls without giving you a valid reason why. You need to talk to her properly and ask her whether she does or doesn't want to be with you. If she doesn't want to be with you anymore then its best to get it over and done with now otherwise you will just get more and more upset as time goes by.
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Talk to her! Tell her that you think she's sending the signals. Maybe she's not sure what she wants right now. Thats okay. I say talk to her and hope things get etter. Tell her that that you don't want to give up! Sometimes it really does work to have a break. Then the person realizes how much they love their boyfriend/girlfriend. Just talk to her. She has something to say and so do you.
*Randy T*
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17-year-olds can't be Bi-sexual, you do it because it's the new fad, date guys like a normal teenager, and you wouldn't have this damn problem. kthnx. <3
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heres my guess, and i could be way off. she cheated on you, most likely soemthing fairly minor like a kiss. she feels bad but she likes the person she kissed. she might be letting you get even with her without actualy knowing it.
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well talk to her one on one explaining your feelings to her so that she understands that you still want to be with her...
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Well, firstly - if you're on a break, technically you can look around for other girls you might like. I don't think that you should be "waiting" for her at all - if she wants you back, thats cool, but if she doesnt, there are other girls out there. I know its hard to break up with someone, but just in case it happens, you should be like looking around for someone you might want to be with (for when you get over your girlfriend). I hope everything goes okay!
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i think you should give it some time, things may work out, or they may not. and also, it may be a signal that you need to try looking for a guy, instead of a girl. thats a different story though. so your gonna have to let time decide.
hope i helped
~stef~
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You are a teenager. In middle school, I bet u had a new love interest weekly or monthly. Crushes are common in your age group. Try not to take relationships too seriously. You have your whole life ahead of you, with plenty of new faces to meet and greet. Being part of a couple means giving the other partner plenty of space when needed. By all means, it sounds like you both could use some space. Time rules all.
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I agree with advice1300. And why the FUCK are you dating a girl when you are a girl? Thats just wrong. You need help.
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I think you should talk to her and ask her what she wants to do. and tell her how muck you love her if you truely love her. and if you both love eachother enough i think you should work out your problems. and if not, maybe you should take a break to figure things out!
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it could be that she is testing you, so to play it on the safe side, dont do anything just yet with other girls. and if she asks you if you ahve done anything and why not that way you can let her know that you didnt want to, you only wanted her and that you were having such a hard time with your break away from her. as for waiting for her, find out from her if there is a chance of you two getting back together at all. if not then that is your que to just move on. if she says yes there is a possibility then wait for her as long as you'd like. if you cant wait for her then mess around with some other girls until she is ready to come back to you. i am not say you have to date them and i am not saying that you dont have to either. its your choice. if you want to date and mess around, ok, and if not, you would just rather mess aound and not date, ok. but talk to her first, before putting your whole life on hold for her. see if there is a chance for you two again if not then you dont have to wait and you know that it is ok to go around with other girls. if things dont work out and she is feeling guilty then theres nothing that wil change that guilt. so dont worry about her feeling guilty. but i hope this helps. good luck and ahve fun.
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