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a friend online making me upset
13/f. I have this friend. We've been friends for two years already. Well, he's nice a lot. We make jokes and all. But other times he makes me upset. He talks badly about my friends. He also always comments on my profile on AIM. He tells me somehow how I'm wrong in what I put, or how it's dumb. He promises time and time again to keep my crushes a secret, but tells them anyway. Half of our grade finds out and soon enough I'm a laughing stock. I no longer tell him but sometimes when he's nice I do it anyway. In person he's got a really great personality. We used to date in 6th grade and he was the sweetest guy. When we broke up he talked about all the things I didn't do perfectly when we were going out. He makes me upset basically just online. So what do I do?
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Umm that's really kind of weird. Maybe he says mean things to you online because he can't see you when he does (and there's no chance of getting punched lol).... I don't really know, all I can think of is don't talk to him online or tell him how bad he makes you feel.. Hope i helped!
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You should stop being his friend. It might be hard, but it's not worth being friends with someone who makes your life misearble over and over.
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If he makes you feel uncomfortable then forget about him. Even if he's nice in person it's easier in person to put on a lie. If he does this to you then he really doesn't deserve your friendship. I hope I helped!
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i think you should just ignore the rude things he says online. delete them if you can. if its really bothering u and u cant handle it anymore, then just put in big bold letters that uve had enough and he needs to f*** off. hope i helped.
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Sweetie, you don't need this guy in your life! Who ever talks about your friends, makes you upset, critizes you on everything, and then makes everything better with his personality! Tell him how you feel about all of this! Once you tell him, you have to let him go! You don't deserve this! You need to find a better friend who doesn't upset you, talks about your friends, and critizes you! Hope I helped :)
-Karen
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Dont worry bout him!
u dont need anyone in your life like tht even if he is nice every once in a while..
and babe, i thnk hes just jelous... hes upset and i thnk he wants u baq..
i no tht sounds weird but its true guys do tht to me then the next thing i know they r asking me out again!
guys r weird
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Wow...that is all I can say.
Anyways, it seems to me that he is only nice when he wants something. He usually makes you upset over AIM because he probably doesn't have the "power" to say it in person. lol, that sounded really stupid, but you know what I mean!
You seriously need to tell him how you feel, or he is going to just keep on doing this. You need to give him a heads up. Tell him that it bothers you when he talks badly about your friends and tell him that it bothers you whenever he makes comments on your profile on AIM. If you won't tell him, like I said earlier, he is going to keep on bothering you. If he doesn't listen, maybe he isn't the guy that you think he is. He won't be a true friend if he doesn't listen. And you also need to tell him that what you tell him needs to be between ONLY yall two--and not his friends. I mean, why does he only have a nice personality in person? It seems like he can only make you mad over AIM. And why is he telling you what you didn't do perfectly when yall were going out? If he ever brings that up, let him know that NO ONE is perfect and you can't just do everything he expects you to do.
Trust me, if he doesn't listen, he isn't worth it. But all you need to do is talk to him and let him know EXACTLY how you feel. Maybe it'll be a little better if you told him in person than over AIM. But, you decide on that on whichever one you feel most comfortable.
I hope I helped!
xoxo
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well he might jsut be mean to you on AIM because he knows you cant do anything like slap him or something just next time he does somthing to you and you dont like it warn him or block him but like you said sometimes he can be nice and on aol he can be mean if that the case dont talk to him on aol
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block him.
No really, just block him. Like seriously, if he's really upsetting you that much, just tell him to take a hike and leave you alone because when you talk to him.
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Okay this is your friend who hurts you, makes fun of you, tells your secrets, insults people you like and care about, makes you feel bad and makes it all better with his charming personality.
Wow sounds great don't it
Now someone once told me this, if someone has the power to make you feel bad and uses it- then they really aren't worth hanging out with. That's rght anyone that makes you feel bad don't hang around them.
Also secrets are secrets for a reason to be kept that way. But then he lies continously about it by blowing it off to everyone, he's making everything about you seem pretty sucky and making you feel upset because he just made your life realy bad.
So why are you talking to him, honesly find someone else to talk to- someone you can trust who isn't a compete asshole. He's just using you and you're better then that, block n remove him from your list- you have better things to do then speak with an asshole
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Sounds like he rather impress his friends then keep a secret with you. Find someone you trust.
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if i were you...i would tell him to screw off...i mean if you cant trust him with what you tell him then he isnt a good friend at all and i would just not talk to him if hes gonna go around telling everyone everything you tell him...just tell him stright up that if you cant tell him things without him going and telling the world then hes gonna lose you as a friend...well thats my opinion...i hope i helped
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Personally, I would just stop talking to him online for good. Because I'm sure that you shouldn't be treated that way. Hell! No one should. Maybe you should just start ignoring him in person as well see if he does anything because that sounds to me that he can't say it to your face he has to say it online and bullshit like that because he knows its not true and/or is to (don't want to say pussy) but pussy (lol) to talk shit to your face. Don't take it from him no more. But be nice. Just talk to him about that and how you feel about it all. He should listen if he really is your *Friend* if he doesn't listen and won't stop then just forget him (until he finally wants to listen). If you need more advice ask me I'm sure I could give you some more advice or even better! :) Good Luck. Hope I Helped You In Some Way.
Shannon
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