im 18/f
im about to have sex with my best friend whom i have very strong feelings for. The thing is, im a virgin and hes not...and the last girls hes slept with have been extremely thin with models bodys. i weigh around 57kg and im not very tall so i feel so 'heavy' compared to them. My bestfriend says he has really deep feelings for me and says that he can feel something real between us and thinks im insanely beautiful. But i feel bad still, even knowing he thinks im beautiful. I hide my flaws very very well! so i feel very nervous about him seeing me naked now, considering he has the body of a sex god and i have a rather large stomach even though the rest of me is petite. im really terrified of him seeing all of me...especially when i like him so much and im scared it will turn him off :(
One thing you can do is be totally honest with him and let him know of how you feel. If he's a really great guy, he'll reassure you that everything will be fine. Most guys aren't as picky as you might think about girls being a little overweight. You're other option is to make sure the lights are all off and you duck under the covers when you get naked. You can also take all your clothes off except for a tank top or t-shirt. Not quite as romantic but it might help you feel better about yourself. I hope this helps and good luck.
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is it good for a thirteen year old to have a job?
More than likely, you won't be able to find a regular job, unless you have a family member that owns a business and can work on the weekends and after school. But having a job is a great start on learning all the little life skills that you need when you do grow up. You can try yard work, babysit, dog walk, clean peoples houses or anything else that you can do. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Alright so I was having sex with my boyfriend and he pulled out and then we did anal. But when we started doing anal he asked me if it was in. I don't know why he'd ask this because I'd think that it would be pretty easy for him to tell if it was in or not. Should I be worried that I'm oddly loose there or something? I don't have anal sex very often.
I guess a little back story is that I usually don't let him do anal because it hurts, but I was really wet this time so it didn't hurt... maybe he was surprised that it didn't hurt so thats why he asked? He wasn't wearing a condom (i'm on birth control and I know neither of us have std's so no comments on that please) so I really think he should have been able to feel it.
I don't know I'm probably reading too much into this but I have no idea how he wouldn't be able to tell if it was in :-/ I'm guessing that someone will suggest that I just talk to him about it but I'm really shy about that sort of thing (bad I know) and I feel like that would probably be awkward to randomly bring up. Thanks!
I have the strongest orgasms when I get anal and I never say no. If you were at a strange angle, he probably couldn't see if he was in the right hole. I'm sure he knew it was in a hole but not which one. Once your wet and ready for him, his penis will slide in a lot easier and since you didn't complain about any pain, I'm sure he wanted to make sure everything was fine. I hope this helps and good luck.
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I'm not the smartest kid in the world, but not I'm not dumb either. I'm pretty much useless, though, and I don't have anything that would jump out at people, except... I do write. It's about the only thing I do with myself and I'm not exaggerating in the least bit when I say that I write day and night, from the time I get home from school to the time I get home. I carry a notebook with me everywhere just in case I'm hit with inspiration.
Well, everyone knows that I like writing, but no one ever supports me. My friends always brag about my writing, but it makes me feel like crap because I know that not a single one of them has ever read my writing. My parents haven't even read my writing and they do the same thing. I have offered them to read it, but they say they don't want to, it's a waste of time, they just don't care. I used to brush it off and just post my stuff online and I loved making new friends who loved my work and talked to me, but recently, it's beginning to bother me and my writing has also begun to fall apart and it's really hurting me. I'm feeling absolutely miserable because no one will help me or encourage me... Maybe I'm asking too much or something? And people aren't used to me asking for something? I don't mean to sound like a drama queen or anything, but I would like at least one person to say good job...
I hate to say this but the world is not always pretty. There is a possible reason that people don't want to read your work or tell you that you're doing a good job, is because maybe it's not as good as you think. Look at all those people that go on american idol or america's got talent. How many of those people thought they were really good but only to find out they weren't. If you want some real honest advice about your writing, get some of your best work together(nothing to long), go to a local newspaper and talk to an editor or some writers and see what they think. You shouldn't give up on something you obviously love, even if you can't find someone who enjoys it as much as you do. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Hi, i am 21 years old with 1 child and currently 27 weeks pregnant i been continuesly sleeping with my partner before i concieved, however one time and only "once" i had a encounter with another man he ejaculated in his hand then touched me "down there" i quickly moved away as he did. I didnt want to sleep with him which is why i let him jack off! could it be possible I am pregnant by him. Although me and my partner were not officially together and he was seeing other woman i still feel guilty as can be because i never mess with more than 1 man. My boyfriend is 27 with no kids, he was never able to get his ex wife pregnant of 6+ years he says she had fertility problems but i still feel very scared for some reason.. what do you think the chances are that this is his baby?
If you didn't have actual sex where his unprotected penis was inside of you, then chances are you didn't get any sperm inside of your vagina. If you don't want to ruin things with the long term guy, I would talk to the one time guy and see if he'll take a dna test just to ease your mind. I hope this helps and good luck.
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I am 15/f and like this guy...A LOT! Anyway, we joke , and poke fun like all the time. And in a way i think of him as my brother,but then again ilike him. So in a way a see him as a brother, but a boyfriend at the same time.Is it wierd to feel like that? Is there something wrong with that?
PS: There is absoloutly NO blood between us, no way are we related!
Thanks any advice is helpful.
He sounds like he's a good buddy that you enjoy hanging out with. If you don't mind risking losing him as a friend, then you can try dating him. If you start going out as bf/gf and things turn sour, you'll probably lose him as a friend. But there is nothing mentally or physically wrong with dating a "brother" figure as long as it's not really your brother. I hope this helps and good luck.
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I was wondering if it was at all possible to pop my own cherry. I really dislike blood and i don't want to take a chance in bleeding exuberantly when i lose my viginity. Can someone please tell em how to lose my viginity.
Note: i have tried a tampon and a banana and it doesn't really work. so any other ways would be great
It's very possible that your cherry has already been popped on it's own and you didn't even know it. If you can find a long thin candle around the house and the next time you masturbate, you can use that as a dildo and that should do the trick. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Well, i had a sleepover at mine once, and as girls do, as a joke we played dares, but not normal dares, you know, the kissing sort, and i had to kiss my friend (Lauren) and i really enjoyed it? then when everyone went to sleep, i decided to tell Lauren thati strangley enjoyed it, and she said 'yeah, me too' it was silent for a little bit, then i accidently tounch her genitals (Vagina to be exact) and i went to let go, then she touched mine, she slipped her hands down my pants and started rubbing my vagina. i really enjoyed it :S the we starting kissing. we went upstairs and we started having lesbian sex. we both really liked it. but we havnt told anyone. am i a lesbian or bisexual? (Sorry its very long)
There is no reason to label yourself as a lesbian this early in life. You definitely have bi-sexual tendencies right now, which is totally normal. Your friend seems as though she is bi-sexual but she needs to keep up a normal appearance at school for her friends and probably family. It's hard to want to spend time with someone and be with them sexually when you know that they're spending time with someone else and may be doing things with them. Let me know how things go with your friend. I hope this helps and good luck.
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f/13
i like this guy,adrian and he likes me too. well, he asked me out and i said "no" and he kept on asking me out and i still kept on saying "no". i really wanted to say "yes" but i couldnt because i heard that he is a player and he hurts girls and just plays around with them. so he said that he gave up on asking me out because me didnt want me to get hurt by him.
so then he started dating some other girl named lesly. and she seems nice i really dont know her and shes not my friend. so anyway, before school started i noticed that he was staring at me hile talking with friends. and at break he kept on yelling me name to get my attention, but i turned the other way pretending i didnt hear him. then at lunch he sent one of my friends to tell me that he still likes me and that he was willing to break up with lesly and go out with me. i really wanted to say "yes" but how will lesly take it? i dont want her to get hurt. but neither do i.
-darkangel31
Find someone that will treat you right and won't cheat on you. This guy is a player and he'll keep you around for a while, till the next girl that catches his eye, comes around. You can be friends with this guy and I'm sure if you hang around with him long enough, you'll see how many girls he ends up dating. I hope this helps and good luck.
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do guys like it if girls masturbate? like.....
guy: do you masturbate?
girl: no
or
girl:yes
do they find it attractive or they don't care or they don't like it?
I don't think I've ever been with a guy that didn't like to watch me masturbate. They really like it when I rub my clit while we're having sex and I mainly do it, to have a good orgasm but if turns them on to, then it's all good. If a guy tries to pressure you into doing it and you're not ready yet, just say no. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask. I hope this helps and good luck.
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okay i was over my friends house and we were watching t.v..... then she asked meh to kiss her so i did......so as we were making out she started sucking my boobs and then i went down and ate her out for like 20 secs. then she fingered me and i did it back....i felt nasty after i came..nd i never wanted to do it again...but she want to do it again should i do it.? ugh this is soooooooo immbarrasing.!
It's not unlikely to feel guilty after having an orgasm with someone you don't have strong feelings for. I just wonder if part of the guilt comes from what your family might think about you if they found out you fooled around with a girl or if your religion plays a little part in it also. I think you can have an honest talk with your friend and tell her you like her as a friend but you're not ready to fool around again. You can tell a little lie and say that maybe in the future you might want to try again, so that you don't hurt her feelings as much. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Okay i am almost 15 and i am now just getting into public school. (I was home schooled for most of my life) And my boyfriend of a couple months really wants me to go pretty far. I am ready. But i don't if i should shave down there or not? Or how to? Or risks? etc, etc.
Help!
If this is your first time trying to shave down there, you'll need to get rid of some of the longer hair before you use the razor. Try to get some barber clippers or some good scissors to trim it down as far as you can. Get a brand new razor and some good shaving cream. Get in the shower and soap the area around your vagina and put on the shaving cream. Prop one leg up and shave one side carefully and then do the same with the other side. You don't need to shave everything above the vagina but that's entirely up to you. I hope this helps and good luck.
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14/f
I was watching a video on YouTube (it wasn't porn) that really turned me on, and I had this feeling in you know where but inside that felt good in a weird way. I twitched a little then felt like I peed myself but when I ran to the bathroom nothing happened. Was this an orgasm? What was it? Thank you for reading this whole awkward question.
You probably had a small orgasm and that can happen if you rub your legs together tightly without touching your vagina. When women orgasm, nothing typically comes out but the inside can get very wet. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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So I almost feel guilty that I don't feel guilty about cheating... i've been in a relationship with a guy for like 8 months and i've had sex with two other guys. Why don't I feel guilty about this, and how can I make myself feel guilty about it. I really like the guy i've been seeing and he's a great guy but the sex is not as great. I'm not looking for your judgement, so if you're gonna post that I'm a heartless slut or something you can just save it. I know what I'm doing is wrong I just don't know how to be better. 19/f
Why do you need to feel guilty? You're obviously not in love with the guy your with or you would have guilty feelings. What you do need to do, is be honest with him and let him know what you've been doing and how you feel about your sex life. When I was younger, I dated a lot and was honest with most of them, that I wanted to play the field. If I did date someone for more than a few months and I hooked up with another, I let them know and let them decide if they still wanted to be with me. You're still young and will have plenty of opportunities to have a serious relationship. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Heey Babe, I Really Hope you Can Help Me x x
Im Kaay, 12yrs, F.
Now, beforei start, i dont want you to say its probably my hormones or just playing 'doctor' because im pretty sure its not.
Once i had a sleepover at my house, with a few girls and as a joke we played kissing dares. i had to kiss this girl called Lauren. i really enjoyed it. then, when we went to bed, i accidently touched her vagina. i went to pull away but she put her hand down my pants and started fingering me, it was gentle at first but then it got harder and violent (in a pleasant way), she told me she was getting horny and wet, and asked me to lick her vagina. so i did and i got sooooo horny. have i broke the law? am i a bad person?
Hey sweetie, sorry I couldn't answer right away but I'm in Las Vegas right now. You definitely did not break any laws unless your friend was over the age of 18, which I'm guessing she wasn't. And are you a bad person....uhhh no. Just a good girl with normal horny feelings. I didn't play with a girl till I was 16 but I think if I had the opportunity to play at your age, I would have. As long as you both agree to what you're doing, I would keep having fun. So, do you think you were able to make her have an orgasm? If you did, good for you because it took me a few times before I was able to make a girl cum. Don't be afraid to ask her to go down on you and just lay back and enjoy yourself. If she can finger you while she's licking you, you'll probably be able to have a good orgasm. If you need any other help, just ask. Hugz, Julie
If you need to ask me another question, go ahead and send another one through my inbox. I understand why you tried to break up with her but if you don't mind if she has a boyfriend and you want to be with her, I would keep seeing her whenever you get the chance. It might get a little harder to see her if you start having stonger feelings for her and she still has the boyfriend but you can talk to her about how you feel about her when it gets that far. Glad to hear you were able to make her orgasm, that means you're doing something right ;) Let me know how things are going and hope to hear from you soon. If you want to send a message to my e-mail, it's julie19751975@yahoo.com. hugz, Julie
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hi i just want to know whats a crazy place to have sex...
Near a train track when a train rolls by is a little crazy. In the dressing room of a department store can be pretty fun. At a park on the swing after dark is nice too. Just let your imagination go but be prepared for the consequences if you get caught outdoors. You can be charged with indecent exposure or a few other misdemeanors if caught. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Ok....so im a 13 year old girl, and i went over my friends house a few days ago(she's a girl). Anway while we were on the floor watching tv about to go to sleep she reaches over and puts herhands down my shorts and starts fingering me... i sort of liked it, then she takes my hand and tells me to do it to her, so i did and the nxt day she said that she wants to do it again... what should i do?
ps:im not bi-sexual or lesbian
Almost every teen goes through a little experimental phase and playing "doctor" is quite normal. There's no way you can or should label yourself at such a young age. If she starts to pressure you into doing something you're not quite ready to do yet, you can have an honest talk with her about how you feel and I'm sure she'll respect your wishes. As long as you keep things between the two of you, I would do whatever makes you happy. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask. I hope this helps and good luck.
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im 16 and i had only done it once but when i did it i just bleed a little. my friends and i were tlakin about this today and they said that they bleed a lot? is it true? and they were saying that i might be still a virgin. so wait i dont get it!. em i still a virgin? or wat?.. and my boyfriend and i feel is time for to have sex. em i gonna bleed a lot this time or wat?... helpp me plizz!! ;)
Every girl is a little different. Some bleed a lot or a little or not at all. If you had a boys penis inside of you, even a little and you didn't bleed at all, you would no longer be a virgin. So, the chances are that your next time, you won't bleed at all. I hope this helps and good luck.
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I go on a diet every week and I cheat. I weigh 146 pounds.
My problem is I'm always craving food. It's not like I can just get rid of all the junk food in my house because other people in my family eat it too. What can I do to stop craving food so much and stop binge eating whenever I want chocolate or salt?
Thanks.
You really should talk to your family about cutting down on the junk food. If they can't control themselves, have them hide it in their room, so it isn't as accessible to you. It is very hard to have self control when it's so easy to access. My suggestion is to eat 5 or 6 smaller meals, as your body will be able to burn it off easier. Don't skip any meals as you will want to overeat the next meal. Allow yourself 1 day a week for a cheat meal because if you deprive yourself of any goodies, you will never stick with a good diet. Try to stay away from breads and sugars as much as possible. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Well im a girl...and i was over my friends house, who is also a girl, and the whole night she was trying to finger me. Now i liked it and im really tickelish so i was laughing...then later on that night we were in the basement and she fingered me,like she put her vingers in my vagina sooo... i did it back to her and we both liked it. Now i really just don't know what to do because we both want to do it again :/.
This is sooo embarressing.
Don't be embarrassed sweetie, most people have played a little "doctor" when they were younger. I played with one of my friends a few times when I was about 13 but we ended up going to different schools after that summer, so I'm not sure how far I would've gone with her. I think your ticklish feeling was probably mostly nervousness and after a few more times, it'll more than likely go away. I wouldn't worry about only liking girls at this point as you will find a boy that you'd like to go out with and when you get a little older and your body will know what it wants. You might want to talk to your friend about how she feels about you and if you want to keep this a secret (which is probably a good idea, in case you break the friendship). Either one of you may want to take things further and you'll need to be ready for when that happens. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask or check out my advice column. I hope this helps and good luck.
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