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He is willing to break up with her to go out with me... should I?
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i like this guy,adrian and he likes me too. well, he asked me out and i said "no" and he kept on asking me out and i still kept on saying "no". i really wanted to say "yes" but i couldnt because i heard that he is a player and he hurts girls and just plays around with them. so he said that he gave up on asking me out because me didnt want me to get hurt by him.
so then he started dating some other girl named lesly. and she seems nice i really dont know her and shes not my friend. so anyway, before school started i noticed that he was staring at me hile talking with friends. and at break he kept on yelling me name to get my attention, but i turned the other way pretending i didnt hear him. then at lunch he sent one of my friends to tell me that he still likes me and that he was willing to break up with lesly and go out with me. i really wanted to say "yes" but how will lesly take it? i dont want her to get hurt. but neither do i.
-darkangel31
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A guy who holds on to one relationship, until he has another (you) waiting in the wings, is not loyal or respectful.
Your first reaction to this guy was the correct one: He is a player and he hurts people. He selfishly tries to negotiate what he wants in the moment, regardless of what is honest or respectful of the relationships he has or the feelings of others. He doesn’t want to be with her, but won’t break up with her until he knows he has a shot with you. That is the very definition of scumbag.
And if he'll do it to her, he'll do it you. You aren't different or special. He'll treat you exactly as he treated her, especially if you encourage him to treat her that way: He'll think its okay and one day he’ll dump you, and the next day he’ll have a new girl by his side.
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What the dude is doing is right out of Playa 101. Sounds like you're about to fall for it. Women are so competitive with each other and he knows that deep down you want to take him from Leslie due to that. Dude is smooth.
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Find someone that will treat you right and won't cheat on you. This guy is a player and he'll keep you around for a while, till the next girl that catches his eye, comes around. You can be friends with this guy and I'm sure if you hang around with him long enough, you'll see how many girls he ends up dating. I hope this helps and good luck.
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if you want to date him, tell him you want to wait a week or two after he stops dating lesly to start going out with him. that way lesly won't feel like he broke up with her for you. just be careful, what if this guy does the same thing to you as he did to lesly? do you really want to be with a guy like that?
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