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Old feelings die hard...
19/m
I started talking to one of my old friends, who I used to have a huge crush on. He was so sweet and amazing, but nothing ever came out of it. And he has told me that he has absolutely no feelings for me, but I just can not get over him. I am still so attracted to him that it is not even funny. I want so bad to go out with him, I have for the longest time. But he has no interest. What should I do?
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I would just say-let go and move on. But I realize that you want to do anything but.
If you want ANY chance of getting into a relationship with him, you have to make him miss you. So if you're constantly contacting him all the time, he wont miss you.
It's a well known saying "We want what we cannot have"
So by not contacting this man, he thinks your suddenly 'unavailable', and this makes him what to have you more. Follow?
The next thing to do is to go out with some mates and have a great time. Word will get back that you are doing well. He will take interest in you all over again.
Eventually, when he reopens the lines of communication, he'll ask to meet up somewhere. And thats where you can woo him with how amazing your life is-he'll want to be a part of it.
Guys often say the opposite of what they mean. The last person that said they did not fancy me, asked me out two months later!
Stick at it and you'll get results. Good luck :)
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Life is what it is sometimes and not everybody is going to feel the same about things as you do. Kids your age sometimes get a little overinvested in one person and the insecurity inherent in a teenager also makes rejection especially painful. But part of being an adult is learning to cope with disappointment.
Also, you are going to meet loads of other people during your journey through life and like them as much as you like the guy in question now. So relax, take the long view, learn to roll with it and look forward to tomorrow.
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act like you don't like him anymore. basically play hard to get. every guy wants what he can't have
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