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im insecure and worried about the weight difference.
im 18/f
im about to have sex with my best friend whom i have very strong feelings for. The thing is, im a virgin and hes not...and the last girls hes slept with have been extremely thin with models bodys. i weigh around 57kg and im not very tall so i feel so 'heavy' compared to them. My bestfriend says he has really deep feelings for me and says that he can feel something real between us and thinks im insanely beautiful. But i feel bad still, even knowing he thinks im beautiful. I hide my flaws very very well! so i feel very nervous about him seeing me naked now, considering he has the body of a sex god and i have a rather large stomach even though the rest of me is petite. im really terrified of him seeing all of me...especially when i like him so much and im scared it will turn him off :(
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125 pounds is not heavy, even if you're only 5 feet tall. You're fine. Just remember to use birth control and condoms. Hugging a soft body is much more sensuous than one where that feels like a barely concealed skeleton.
And models bodies mostly suck. Too thin and stringy with no boobs, hips or butts. Totally uninteresting to look at and they usually have the personalities of cardboard boxes.
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57 kilos for an 18 year old girl? Girl, thats totally normal. IM a 17 yearold guy and i only weigh 64 kilos, and i always felt small to some girls who i were really attracted to, who were all taller than i am.
As a girl, i understand that you are sometimes insecure. But i bet if i saw you right now, (especially from a guy's POV) i would think you are attractive. Alot of guys dont like super skinny girls, a little meat is good, especially in the right places ;)
And nobody is perfect. YOu may think your boyfriend has the body of a god, but there could be alot of things that HE is insecure about as well. For ex: the size of his penis, his muscles arent big enough, his chest is small, his hair is dirty, or something about his face.
So dont worry and be happy that you are even IN a relationship, becuase that usually hard to find these days :)
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If he thinks you are beautiful, you have nothing to worry about! Women are especially prone to feel down about what size they are. I myself have suffered with weight issues and all my life, and I was petrified to have my husband see me naked the first time. He was always with skinny women before me. He thinks I am sexy, and that makes me feel amazing. Your friend sounds like an amazing man. He find you attractive and I think you should just go for it and savor it all in!
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One thing you can do is be totally honest with him and let him know of how you feel. If he's a really great guy, he'll reassure you that everything will be fine. Most guys aren't as picky as you might think about girls being a little overweight. You're other option is to make sure the lights are all off and you duck under the covers when you get naked. You can also take all your clothes off except for a tank top or t-shirt. Not quite as romantic but it might help you feel better about yourself. I hope this helps and good luck.
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