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I had sex with my female friend and I don't want to again, but she does! Help!
okay i was over my friends house and we were watching t.v..... then she asked meh to kiss her so i did......so as we were making out she started sucking my boobs and then i went down and ate her out for like 20 secs. then she fingered me and i did it back....i felt nasty after i came..nd i never wanted to do it again...but she want to do it again should i do it.? ugh this is soooooooo immbarrasing.!
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point blank ...... do not do it again just tell her no you arent into that and you didnt feel good aftet you did it . let it be known and if it gets weird distance yourself fromt his friend and move on
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There is nothing nasty or dirty about sex. No need to feel disgusted or embarrassed.
The question then becomes do you write this off as a one time experiment? You could, but you have to explain that to your friend in clear terms. Your life is your own so if you don't want to do anything sexual with her again just say "no more" and tell her you didn't mean to lead her on.
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It's not unlikely to feel guilty after having an orgasm with someone you don't have strong feelings for. I just wonder if part of the guilt comes from what your family might think about you if they found out you fooled around with a girl or if your religion plays a little part in it also. I think you can have an honest talk with your friend and tell her you like her as a friend but you're not ready to fool around again. You can tell a little lie and say that maybe in the future you might want to try again, so that you don't hurt her feelings as much. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask. I hope this helps and good luck.
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You said you never wanted to do it again so I think you answered your own question there. If you feel uncomfortable doing this again then this is obviously not for you and you definitely shouldn't do it again just to please this girl as it would lead her on. Don't let somebody force you to do something that you don't want to do especially if it's something sexual. If she tries to pester you to do it again try to let her down gently. Say that you don't want to do it again and it was just a one time thing and it wasn't for you. And if you still want to be friends with the girl then say that this isn't going to affect your friendship with her because that's all you want to stay, Friends. It's a perfectly normal thing to explore your sexuality to see what you like and what you don't like. And from what you wrote you didn't really enjoy the experience all too much. Let her down gently.
Hope this helps, good luck xx
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Hi, I'm old enough to be your grandfather. I hope the wisdom that comes with age and life experience will be helpful to you.
First lets answer your question, there is also somewhat of a life lesson in the answer. In order for sex to be enjoyable both parties have to consent to whatever is going to happen. If one partner is not comfortable with doing something say NO then you don't do it. NO means NO and stop means STOP. It maters not who you are having sex with or if you are just experimenting with your sexuality.
In this instance you tried something, you don't like it and don't want to do it again. That is a NO. That is all your friend needs to know. She needs to know the rules of sex which I stated above.
I happen to have some very liberal views when it comes to talking about sex. I believe you and your friend are most likely young teenage girls. What happened between you does not make you or her a lesbian or Bi.
At your probable age what happened is more sexual experimentation, which is something we have all done as teenagers. It is part of figuring out what sex is all about and who we are sexually. This is not the time to put labels on yourself. I have known girls and guys who have gone all through college seeking sexual relief with the same sex only to become devote heterosexuals after college. For girls the main reasons for doing this were two, it was safer and easier. For guys it was more readily available. Masturbation and same sex, sex is how most found sexual relief in college. My point is you really have nothing to be embarrassed about.
It happened, you don't like it so you don't have to do it again. As you explore sex and your sexuality you will be asked to try different things. I have always used the rule that I needed to try something before I know if I will like it or not. Kind of the same thing about trying new foods. But this is up to you. If something totally grosses you out say NO. If you decide to try it and at any point you want to stop say STOP. These are the rules of sex and make sure your partner(s) understands them.
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well if you dont feel comfortable doing something then you shouldnt do it.
theres no point in going along the ride if your not going to enjoy it. if you feel that you dont want to then you should try and explain to your friend that you felt wierd after doing so but that you want to stay friends with them.
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