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Well I've Been Dating This Guy, I'm 13 He's 16, He Breaks Up With Me Constantly.. For The Dumbest Reasons.. He's Like My Twinn I Meann I've Only Known Him Like A Month.. The First Day I Met Him, We Really Hit It Off, Because We're So Alike.. After The Second Day Of Meeting Him, He Asks Me Out, I Say Yes.. Blah Blah Blah.. And I Had Never Met This Guy In Real Life, I Met Him Online Through My Friend Emily, Who I Had Also Met Online, But She Started Going 2 My School This Year... I Arranged To Meet Him In Real Life On Fridayy At The Moviess.. And He Was There,And I Was Just Thinking *OMFG He's Sooo HOTT, And He's Mine!* I Didn't Really Know This Guy, But I Talked To Him On The Phone And The Computer. He Kept Flirting With My other Friend Who Was There That Was Also His Friend.. And I Was Pissed Off.. After The Movie Was Over We All Went Our Seperate Wayss.. And My Friend Amber Comes Running Up To Me, She HATES This Guy Idk Why Tho.. And Me And The Guy Were Walkingg Down The Road, Because We Had About 40 Minutes Before I Had To Go Home. And I Have Never Kissed A Boy Beforee.. We Walked Down An Empty Alleyy And He Grabbs My Ass And Starts Making Out With Me.. Well Me Totally Confused, And I Had No Fuckingg Clue What I Was Supposed To Do.. And I Was Really Concerned That This Would Happen.. And He Had Like Slobered All Over Me And Soo I Was Thinking, He Would Be Mad If I Wiped His Kiss Off Wouldn't He?.. Now, I Need Advice What Are You Supposed To Do While Making Out With A Guy?, Especially A Hott, Experienced One.. Because I've Hung Out With Him 2 Times After That.. And He Says I'm A Good Kisser But I'm Not Sure If He's Just Saying That, Or What.. We're Broken Up For Now, But Not For Long, Because I Guess I'll Be Hanging Out With Him Tomorrow, Or Something, He Wrote Me A Really Long Note.. And He Won't Give It To Me Until I See Him Again.. Because He's Gayy.. I HATE That He Flirts With Every Single Girl He Talks Too.. It's Not Like I Wanna Be The Only Girl In His Life I Just Wanna Be The Only One That Matters.. I Know I'm Possesive But I Love Him Soo Muchh.. And It Hurts Soo Badd.. That He's Not Mine.. At The Moment.. What Do I Do? (link)
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please ignore the silly peron's comment below..."grab his dick"?!...she's thirteen...no offecnce honey, i know you are no longer a child - but you are JUST only a teen,and at this age, it really should be innocent (make out or wahtever) - rushing into things is bad. especialy if the guy brings it on...like he did - i mean - come on, you go into an alley, he grabs you , makes out with you, and GRABS YOUR ASS. what sort of a saine respectable 16 year old male would do that? obviously not him. i would break it off with him as soon as possible - he's only going to hurt you sweeetie. and if youre thinking " i love him, he wouldnt do that"...lets rewind. he flirts with your friends. end of. he doesnt care. i know i sound awful and plesase dont hate me, but if it wasnt true, he may say he cares, but it doestt mean that he actually means it. a guy can look you in the eye and say he loves you - believe me - they dont always mean it.
i was in a similar position to yours.my first boyfriend was like yours, always grabbing and shit. you dont want that.you want to be respected. next he'll be saying "put your hand down my pants" cuz thats what mine said to me. he made me do alot of things i didnt wanna do, and being stupid (even though we were the same age- he was VERY experienced tho :S), i couldnt say no as i didt want him to dump me. well thats the best thing thats ever happened to me. him dumping me made me realise what a creep he was. now im in love and happy with my respectable boyfriend.
i hope that you will see that if you end it with him, you wont be presured in any way any longer. and if he asks for you back, YOU SAY NO. because if you say yes, he'll get you where he wants. and that is the most dangerous thing he can do. to have power over you.
by the sounds of it, your friend Amber knows he's a jerk - which is WHY she hates him.
youre broken up at the moment - KEEP IT THAT WAY. by going back to him each time shows signs of weakness. tell him to screw the pathetic letters, if he wants to see you, it'll be out of choice, not balckmail, which is kind of what he's doing.
just say no to him. then he'll realise that he cant control you :)
a boy who constantly breaks up with you isnt worth it anyay, as there IS someone else out there for you somewhere.
if you dont break up with this guy, please promise me that you will NOT let him walk all over you, or pressure you into stuff and treat you like dirt. if he does, do NOT suffer alone. no matter how bad he may be to you, or what he may make you do, there will always be someone there for you. if you cant go to your friends about this, leave me a message if you want.
thats what im here for :)
you're only young, and id hate to see you get hurt by a boy at this age. have fun with your freinds. by all means have fun with guys, play spin the bottle to have carefree meaningless but fun kisses, enjoy life!! but for heavens sake dont do anything stupid with this guy. you dont want a relationship at 13...you'll get bored! lol
good luck hunny, and i hope it goes well.
tell me what happens
Dia (alex)
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Hey! On friday teh 13th, some of my freinds are coming over for a scary movie night. The thing is, I don't know some good halloween movies. Does anyone know any good HALLOWEEN movies? I want movies that take place during halloween... but scary ones that don't take place then are good too! PG-13 would help! (link)
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watch "Psycho" the Hitchcock version (1960)...i was too scared to take a shower afterwards..well..i still am - i watched it on friday :S
btw..i HAVE taken showers since then! lol
hope you all have fun...:D
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Alright this is major im in school right now so i havnt much time. My little cousin she is 11 years old and she is in 6th grade her first year in middle school. Her mother never taught her good higeane habbits so she smells a little bad but not to bad cause she does take showers and what not. Alright but the other day she came oiff from her bus crying because people were spraying perfume in her face well im in highschool and she came to me crying. Im more like her big sister than a cousin. I confronted the girls when they got off the bus they told me no they didnt spray perfume in her face. Well this morning i went to her house to pick up her brother for school and she told me she got jumped at the bus stop this morning so she wasnt going to school. I asked why she got jumped because the girls told her to meet them at a park near my house and they were going to bring there boyfriends and friends and stuff. So she got scared and didnt show up so thats why she got beat up this morning. My question is im really heated and i want to beat them up cause my cousin cant defend herself am i in theright am i justified or does this just mean im acoward? Please help ASAP because with your help soon or not i will beat them up.
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ok... i know youre looking out for your cousin..but believe me - beating up those people ISNT the way to go about it.even if they DO deserve it.i know you want to put them in their place - and you're damn right - they need to be sorted out, however, violence ISNT the answer, and it doesnt solve anything. Actually, it could make the situation worse,and besides you most likely getting into lots of trouble, you could find your little colusin getting bullied more because of what you did. i hope you realise that thi IS a form of bullying, and so you need to seek for help immdediatley. maybe collect her from school one day, and speak to the principal, or arrange an appointment with them or one of her teachers, as this is likely to slove your problem. do not hide this. she needs to tell her mum/guardian, and i think you need to tell your family. they need to know whats going on here as keeping it bottled up will only cause more pain for her, she may tell you not to tell anyone, and you need to reassure her that by confing in people she can trust, this wont be such a heavy weight on her shoulders, and the problem will eventually stop.
i was bullied alot on and off when i was younger. from the age of 9 or 10 up until i was about 13. it happened every year by the same people, however, when i moved to secondary school, and when i went into year 8 it started up again.
i kept it a secret for a while, and then i wrote a letter to the head of my year, and then bullying stopped. (maybe your cousin could do that, and include every detail).
now im 17, i havent been bullied for 4 years, however i have had those odd occasions where pathetic bitches pushed me unsuccessfuly down the stairs, and attempts to throw paper balls at my head, ...and at the end of the day i hadnt done anything to them. just like your cousin...i was the innocent one.
these girls are pathetic, and are so shallow as to try to indulge in the pleasure of making other peoples lives miseries.
they dont stand a chance in the real world when they're older...if they ever see it and arent caught up in their little dellusional minds.
however, getting back to the subject, i think you should use my advice as much as you can. please dont beat the up, as tempting as it may be...they arent worth it, and are most likely doing this to keep their "rep" up to scratch, and to get a reaction from others (i guess they got your reaction, which is another reason why they may be carrying on :S) and people like that just arent worth the hassle.
i hope all goes well. i wish you the best of luck. tell me how it goes.
and please tell your cousin everything is going to be alright. stand by her, as support is what she needs the most right now.
good luck, if you ever have a problem, dont hesitate to ask me :)
Dia (alex)
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ok to start i have an acoustic guitar and i love jack johnson at the moment i would love to write my own (first) song or somthing the thing is i have no idea how to start or go about about it i was thinkin get a tune up an runnin or sumin then put lyrics to it later but i cant quite get the tune i have been playin since i was 5 i am 15 now.
so keeping in mind i am an experirienced player but with limmited talent (welll ime not that bad but you get the picture, heh)
also how should the song be laid out it is somthing like
intro
verse
chorus
verse
chorus
verse
outro
that is right isnt it? if not please correct thanks. (link)
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hey its me (dia - alex..whatever)...the gal who helped you with the song sructuring...and showed you my band :D glad you liked us!!! thanks!...i told the shaun (our bass player), and he asked if you wanted to send us the song when ur done if you could record it!! we think it'll be cool!! lol..he just wants to hear it :D..if not then thats TOTALLY cool...
i wish you the best of luck :D
im always here to help :D
alex
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Does anyone know of any good bands/song I can put on my iPOD? I'm getting tired of all the bands I have. I'm mostly into indie/rock/acoustic/some ska/oldies.
I like Death Cab, The Postal Service, The Audition, The Higher, Panic!, Further Seems Forever, Dashboard Confessional, Hidden in Plain View, Taking Back Sunday etc. Preferably bands that you know and that aren't on the radio. (link)
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ok - this mite be a little bit late to answer - but if youre a person who lives for music - you'll never get sick of listening to it - and wont get tired of diggin new bands right??!!
i reccomend this unsigned rock band from the UK called "Forbidden Lust".
theyre not your usual band you see or hear everyday. for starters, they have a female frontman, who (for once,)doesnt sing like a pathetic Lindsay Lohan "rock-chick-wannabe" lol.
their music is well structured, and carefully and thoughtfully peiced together.
they definitley vary in the rock category, as some of their songs can be really rocky and fairly heavy (especially live!), and they have other songs which are slower, more ballady and well...more mellow.
however - if you're looking for a tune or 2 to rock out to- they have the exact song you need called "what tyou're throwing away"!! this song can be found on both their website and their myspace!...its veeeery catchy!
FALL FOR A HEARTBREAKERR is another good one they have, and so is their more slower, mellower song "need you around".
they also have a song called "anything" which has a deeper meaning of love...but that has yet to be posted on their site and myspace :(
i think you'll like this band...theyve had good write-ups in papers and have been told they have potential!
i'd check em out...they're prety cool!
www.myspace.com/forbiddenlust
www.forbiddenlust.co.uk
they have a selection of songs on both their website and myspace, varying the "rockiness" - you'll know what i mean when you listen to it.
its good stuff!
go on...give em a try :P
www.myspace.com/forbiddenlust
www.forbiddenlust.co.uk
...and who knows, you may realy dig their stuff :)
if you use this advice, please tell me what you thought :)
dia (alex)
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anyone know any good bands or songs that sing songs about love? (link)
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ok - this mite be a little bit late to answer - but if youre a person who lives for music - you'll never get sick of listening to it - and wont get tired of diggin new bands right??!!
i reccomend this unsigned rock band from the UK called "Forbidden Lust".
as you can tell from their name...its about love (and spmetimes not being allowed to have it)...so they do have songs about it :)
theyre not your usual band you see or hear everyday. for starters, they have a female frontman, who (for once,)doesnt sing like a pathetic Lindsay Lohan "rock-chick-wannabe" lol.
their music is well structured, and carefully and thoughtfully peiced together.
they definitley vary in the rock category, as some of their songs can be really rocky and fairly heavy (especially live!), and they have other songs which are slower, more ballady and well...more mellow.
however - if you're looking for a tune or 2 to remind you of your boyfriend, and how much he means to you,- they have the exact song you need called "need you around"!! this song can be found on both their website and their myspace!
they also have a song called "anything" which has a deeper meaning of love...but that has yet to be posted on their site and myspace :(
i think you'll like this band...theyve had good write-ups in papers and have been told they have potential!
i'd check em out...they're prety cool!
www.myspace.com/forbiddenlust
www.forbiddenlust.co.uk
they have a selection of songs on both their website and myspace, varying the "rockiness" - you'll know what i mean when you listen to it.
its good stuff!
go on...give em a try :P
www.myspace.com/forbiddenlust
www.forbiddenlust.co.uk
...and who knows, you may realy dig their stuff :)
if you use this advice, please tell me what you thought :)
dia (alex)
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Okay, so I want a song to put on myspace. I want somthing cute and somthing about my relationship with my boyfriend. We have somthing great here so anything that has to do with love would be good. Make sure you tell me who sings it and what it`s called. Thank you! (link)
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ok - this mite be a little bit late to answer - but if youre a person who lives for music - you'll never get sick of listening to it - and wont get tired of diggin new bands right??!!
i reccomend this unsigned rock band from the UK called "Forbidden Lust".
theyre not your usual band you see or hear everyday. for starters, they have a female frontman, who (for once,)doesnt sing like a pathetic Lindsay Lohan "rock-chick-wannabe" lol.
their music is well structured, and carefully and thoughtfully peiced together.
they definitley vary in the rock category, as some of their songs can be really rocky and fairly heavy (especially live!), and they have other songs which are slower, more ballady and well...more mellow.
however - if you're looking for a tune or 2 to remind you of your boyfriend, and how much he means to you,- they have the exact song you need called "need you around"!! this song can be found on both their website and their myspace!
they also have a song called "anything" which has a deeper meaning of love...but that has yet to be posted on their site and myspace :(
i think you'll like this band...theyve had good write-ups in papers and have been told they have potential!
i'd check em out...they're prety cool!
www.myspace.com/forbiddenlust
www.forbiddenlust.co.uk
they have a selection of songs on both their website and myspace, varying the "rockiness" - you'll know what i mean when you listen to it.
its good stuff!
go on...give em a try :P
www.myspace.com/forbiddenlust
www.forbiddenlust.co.uk
...and who knows, you may realy dig their stuff :)
if you use this advice, please tell me what you thought :)
dia (alex)
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Does anyone have any good love songs? You know how couples have 'songs'? I'd really like a list of some, please. I like being reminded of my boyfriend. Nothing to well known please. You know? (link)
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ok - this mite be a little bit late to answer - but if youre a person who lives for music - you'll never get sick of listening to it - and wont get tired of diggin new bands right??!!
i reccomend this unsigned rock band from the UK called "Forbidden Lust".
theyre not your usual band you see or hear everyday. for starters, they have a female frontman, who (for once,)doesnt sing like a pathetic Lindsay Lohan "rock-chick-wannabe" lol.
their music is well structured, and carefully and thoughtfully peiced together.
they definitley vary in the rock category, as some of their songs can be really rocky and fairly heavy (especially live!), and they have other songs which are slower, more ballady and well...more mellow.
however - if you're looking for a tune or 2 to remind you of your boyfriend, and how much he means to you,- they have the exact song you need called "need you around"!! this song can be found on both their website and their myspace!
they also have a song called "anything" which has a deeper meaning of love...but that has yet to be posted on their site and myspace :(
i think you'll like this band...theyve had good write-ups in papers and have been told they have potential!
i'd check em out...they're prety cool!
www.myspace.com/forbiddenlust
www.forbiddenlust.co.uk
they have a selection of songs on both their website and myspace, varying the "rockiness" - you'll know what i mean when you listen to it.
its good stuff!
go on...give em a try :P
www.myspace.com/forbiddenlust
www.forbiddenlust.co.uk
...and who knows, you may realy dig their stuff :)
if you use this advice, please tell me what you thought :)
dia (alex)
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I'm tired of listening to the same things already.
I need new songs.
Genres: Techno; Indie; Electronica(the type that's mixed with like Indie or Rock).; Rock/Punk. Also I wouldn't mind girl bands. (link)
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ok - this mite be a little bit late to answer - but if youre a person who lives for music - you'll never get sick of listening to it - and wont get tired of diggin new bands right??!!
i reccomend this unsigned rock band from the UK called "Forbidden Lust".
theyre not your usual band you see or hear everyday. for starters, they have a female frontman, who (for once,)doesnt sing like a pathetic Lindsay Lohan "rock-chick-wannabe" lol.
their music is well structured, and carefully and thoughtfully peiced together.
they definitley vary in the rock category, as some of their songs can be really rocky and fairly heavy (especially live!), and they have other songs which are slower, more ballady and well...more mellow.
however - if you're looking for a rocky tune...and by the sounds of it - you like to rock- they have the exact song you need called "fall for a heartbreaker"!!
i think you'll like this band...theyve had good write-ups in papers and have been told they have potential!
i'd check em out...they're prety cool!
www.myspace.com/forbiddenlust
www.forbiddenlust.co.uk
they have a selection of songs on both their website and myspace, varying the "rockiness" - you'll know what i mean when you listen to it.
its good stuff!
go on...give em a try :P
www.myspace.com/forbiddenlust
www.forbiddenlust.co.uk
...and who knows, you may realy dig their stuff :)
if you use this advice, please tell me what you thought :)
dia (alex)
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Hey, my boyfriend and I just broke up after 2 years. He doesn't really care anymore, yet i'm still torn after the whole thing, so i need songs to make me feel better.
What are good break-up songs (that aren't slow) that'll make me feel better? (link)
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ok - this mite be a little bit late to answer - but if youre a person who lives for music - you'll never get sick of listening to it - and wont get tired of diggin new bands right??!!
i reccomend this unsigned rock band from the UK called "Forbidden Lust".
theyre not your usual band you see or hear everyday. for starters, they have a female frontman, who (for once,)doesnt sing like a pathetic Lindsay Lohan "rock-chick-wannabe" lol.
their music is well structured, and carefully and thoughtfully peiced together.
they definitley vary in the rock category, as some of their songs can be really rocky and fairly heavy (especially live!), and they have other songs which are slower, more ballady and well...more mellow.
however - if you're looking for a rocky tune...and by the sounds of it - you want an angry song- they have the exact song you needcalled "fall for a heartbreaker"!! - listen to the lyrics -you may find a resembelence! lol
i think you'll like this band...theyve had good write-ups in papers and have been told they have potential!
i'd check em out...they're prety cool!
www.myspace.com/forbiddenlust
www.forbiddenlust.co.uk
they have a selection of songs on both their website and myspace, varying the "rockiness" - you'll know what i mean when you listen to it.
its good stuff!
go on...give em a try :P
www.myspace.com/forbiddenlust
www.forbiddenlust.co.uk
...and who knows, you may realy dig their stuff :)
if you use this advice, please tell me what you thought :)
dia (alex)
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im getting kind of bored of listening to the same songs on my computer, so i need to find new music. i listen to basically everything except country [i just dont prefer it] i like listening to hellogoodbye, evanescence, the academy is, the postal service, basically rock is what i like the most. could anyone recommend some bands or songs i should download?
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ok - this mite be a little bit late to answer - but if youre a person who lives for music - you'll never get sick of listening to it - and wont get tired of diggin new bands right??!!
i reccomend this unsigned rock band from the UK called "Forbidden Lust".
theyre not your usual band you see or hear everyday. for starters, they have a female frontman, who (for once,)doesnt sing like a pathetic Lindsay Lohan "rock-chick-wannabe" lol.
their music is well structured, and carefully and thoughtfully peiced together.
they definitley vary in the rock category, as some of their songs can be really rocky and fairly heavy (especially live!), and they have other songs which are slower, more ballady and well...more mellow.
i think you'll like this band...theyve had good write-ups in papers and have been told they have potential!
i'd check em out...they're prety cool!
www.myspace.com/forbiddenlust
www.forbiddenlust.co.uk
they have a selection of songs on both their website and myspace, varying the "rockiness" - you'll know what i mean when you listen to it.
its good stuff!
go on...give em a try :P
www.myspace.com/forbiddenlust
www.forbiddenlust.co.uk
...and who knows, you may realy dig their stuff :)
if you use this advice, please tell me what you thought :)
dia (alex)
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what are some good songs about like teen love & fallin fast & someone meanin so much to you.. preferably rock/alternative kinda songs. thx so much! (link)
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hey, i am reccomending to you an unsigned rock band from the UK,called "FORBIDDEN LUST" as i think you might like their stuff! they have a song called "need you around", which is about how much their love for someone means to them. its kind of a slow, but kinda rocky song, definitley one of their lighter songs. they also have a song called "anything" which has a deeper meaning which falls under your requested categories.
"Need You Around" can be found on both their myspace and website, however, "Anythihng" has yet to be posted!
in contrast, they have a song, about how they thought they were in love with someone, but who turned out to be an asshole...it's called "fall for a heartbreaker". i think (to me anyways) that this is one of their most powerful and rocky songs they have :)
i'd check em out...they're prety cool!
www.myspace.com/forbiddenlust
www.forbiddenlust.co.uk
go on...give em a try :P
www.myspace.com/forbiddenlust
www.forbiddenlust.co.uk
...and who knows, you may realy dig their stuff :)
if you use this advice, please tell me what you thought :)
dia (alex)
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how do you flirt with a guy and not make it obvious that you like him? (link)
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ok...dont be clingy. guys hate that, and he'll consider yoou more of a stalker than a girl who's fun and cool..just casually chat, and ask him what his interests are...dont lie...if he says "i love rock music" and you hate it...dont say "*GASP* meeee tooooo!!". tell him what you really think...guys like to hear your own opinions, and what you have to say. and plus...lies are always revealed in the end! lol
when you talk to him, and if you have a laugh, just gently touch his arm or somewhere whilst laughing, and if HE made you laugh, tell him!!say soething like "oohh...you make me laugh, you do!!", also, when speaking, if you're brave enough, make eye contact in whilst you speak as by doing that,giving subtle compliments and using brief physical contact, sends off signals...which is a discrete way of saying "me likeies you!!"
try it, it should work :D
i wish you all the best..and if you turn on your charm by SMILING ALOT ...then he will be putty in your hands!!!
go girl!!!
alex (dia)
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how do I fight my porn addiction. I hate it but it's everywhere. Please help me. (link)
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hey...this is alex (dia)...did you message me the other day coming out with what your addiction is...cuz if its you (the girl) heres some more advice for you now i know what the addiction is!!! if youre not that person.....here you go anyway!!
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ok, thats really unncanny....i watched a film last night about a guy who had a sex addiction, based on a true story...and he got over it in the end! anyway...back to you...
do not worry about this...we all watch porn, maybe for our own enjoyment,or amusement or because we have sex on our minds at the time, and by watching it it gets it out of our system. if you read it (like in magazines), its just a way of seeijng how sex is seen nationally, what people do and dont like sexualy and if tips work or not...and plus, its like a sex tip lesson which may come in handy one day!! hehehe
you arent abnormal, i can say that most of my friends, boys and girls watch porn. it is a way of expressing sexuality, if your sraight, gay or bi, we find it arousing in some form. and if someone tells you they dont like porn( it doeesnt have to be hardcore porn)...they are most probably lying (just for your info!!)
watching porn is healthy, and we may watch it as it helps us to be sexually imaginative....people dont get their sexual fantasies from just thinking about them, they've either seen it happen, read about it, or heard about it.
can i ask you a question, how is the subject of sex seen upon in your home? is it a subject which stays quiet, or are your parents/guardians quite happy to discuss it with you? because depending on how sex is seen in your home, that may be the reason why you feel this way. dont beat yourself up about it, youre curious, and at the end of the day, we all have sex (or have had or will have) in some form...its natural...and its natural to think about it, and porn only helps you to undestand different sexual situations, and answer your questions, and fulfil your curiosity.
you may watch porn a fair amount, its not a bad thing. However, if you feel you watch it too much, try to watch something different. so if you have the urge to watch it, try to cut down by watching a film, which may have referenes to it, so you wont feel fustrated that you cant see it at all, and then next time, watch a film with a little less references in it, and keep trying to vary what you watch so it wont seem as neccesary to watch it as much. im not saying STOP WATCHING PORN!! cuz that would be like going cold turkey...just try to cut down the amount of time you watch it.
..ok...maybe going to your parents or guardians about this isnt such a good idea at this point...but i would suggest telling someone, like a real close friend. just ask them what they think of porn, and if they watch it..(maybe just say to get it out of them "do you watch it for a laugh?") i can guarabntee that they have watched it a couple of times in their lifetime!!
Do you have a boyfriend? because, watching porn is a way of seeing what we would like to do sexually, or what we would like done to us , or what we would like to do to to others. and if you do have a boyfriend, maybe you watch it because you dont feel its "spicy" enough...i dunno...maybe im going too far but have a think to why you may watch it.
i dont think you have an addiction...maybe just a curiosity :)
I think you should do what you think is best, whether you tell someone or not, and if you ask someone to help you get through it , or if you want to do this on your own, either way im here for you if you need help ok?
good luck, try what i said if you want to ok?
hope all goes well, tell me how things go.
take care,
alex (dia)
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i wrote to you before .. about my boyfriend and me breaking up .. haha the 'date girl' ..
well the kid i dated to try and get over cody ended up in jail .. and this kid keeps writing me letters and sending me on guilt trips, since ive 'deserted' him. and i havent told the kid in jail about cody. so i wanted to talk to cody adn see if maybe i could write to jp sayin that im with cody and that i dont want him to make me feel guilty. but i dont know if codys mad now .. he said he did care kinda .. so im just sacred i screwed stuff up again. (link)
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listen....that kid in jail is being out of line...i dont know how or why your relationship ended....i dont know how long ago that ended...but you need to make your feelings clear to him, and tell him you DONT want him guilt tripping you - that wont be any use to anyone.(and if he wants to get closer to you...its probably only driving you away!) you left him for a reason. ok, obviously, he has a hard time accepting it was over I(as anyone who gets dumped does!) and went to such an extent that he wound up in jail...which ment that he probably did care about you still.
dont ask for your boyfriends permission to write a letter to your ex, its nothing to do with him, all that he can do is support you in this. however, you have to see this from cody's point of view. your ex is in jail. your ex may seem as a threat to him, and that is why he may act a little "off" with you. after all, your boyfrioend must care about you, so no wonder he said it (writing the letter), however...when you do write that letter, dont drop a bombshell, try to put it as subtly as you can. dont write:
"deal with it...its over...i have a new boyfrind now, fucking stop guit tripping me you psycho!!"
if anything, you shouldnt be mean in your letter, as this may cause him to be more hurt, or even angry and encourage him to write more letters to you and they may be worse.and you definitetly DONT want that!
say something like:
" i know you find all of this hard to take in, i would too in your position, but ive moved on, and you will too eventually. it looks bad at the moment, but one day things will get better,. i promise. but i really dont find the need for you to make me feel bad about what i did...its my life too and i did what i did for a reason. i didnt do this to make you feel bad."
and then just explain how he is making you feel, why you dislike the guilt tripping, and that you want him to stop. dont lead him on, make sure he KNOWS its over, as in his head, he may be thinking there is still a chance for him...and by the sounds of it- you dont want that . you must let him know the truth ...dont lie...youll just be diggling yourself a huuuge hole.tell him if you want the letters to stop or not...and tell him about cody.
Cody shouldnt be mad with you, a little worried yeah, i mean what kind of a boyfriend would he be if he wasnt concerned about this situation at all? dont go behind his back though...tell him what you are going to do...and if you want, maybe even ask him to help you write the letter if youre struggling with things to write. if he has a horrible attitide towards that, then dont be offeded, but just ask him to stand behind you if hes being a little bit of an asshole about it! you cant blame cody though, even if he IS being a little wierd, itll all blow over :)
you havent screwd anything up at all..and you havent done anything wrong (just in case you think you have). what once happened and what you thought was over seems to have unfinifshed buisiness, but once its all sorted, you can get yourself back on track, and you needent worry :)
i wish you the best of luck with writing the letter, tell me how it goes.
you know im here for you ok...so if you have a problem, you know who to mesage!
hope all goes well
take care,
alex (dia)
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ok so i had glasses for 3 years now and i REALLY want to get contacts. i went to the eye person and then he tried to put the contact in my eye but i didnt let him. this was a while ago. people tell me it takes hours for them to put them in.
idk if i still want them cause i hate that feeling of putting them in your eye and idk if its worth it.
is it ??? help me (link)
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hey, ive had to wear glasses since the age of 2 and a half...however, for the past 2 years and 5 months, ive been wearing contact lenses.
all i can say is WOW!
WHAT A DIFERENCE IT MAKES.
when i wore glasses, no one ever took a second look at me as i wasnt attractive...but now..its like on myspace...picture comments are great! and people are like...oooh...you have a nice face (ignore the nose :))
not only do i feel more confident in my looks, but knowing that has actually made me more confident as a person., it sounds lame but contacts have fucking saved and changed my life!! i cant leave the house with out them...im that insecure about wearing glasses! :S
however, its not just about looking great, it feeling great too...and i do...put it this way, i have the kind of contacts which take a month or so to get used to because my prescription is so complex, and that means that i have to take them out every night and clean them thoroughly. mine cost £100 a pair (soft lenses are a lot cheaper)...(if you’re amaerican, thats about $160), which is expensive, and so i have to be extra careful not to lose one, as they can pop out if you play and pull around with your eyes!! And replacing them could take up to a week or longer.
i was determined to have contacts, and when i went for a session to see if my eyes were suitable for them or not, i was told “no”, then they told me to come back as they may be a chance i could handle it. i was so motivated, and look at me now... a whole different person!!
When they first put them on my eyes, it felt like i had 3 eyelashes floating around in there! When you are first wearing them your eyes will water, and you will blink more too. contacts are really uncomfortable at first, (but over time, your eyes adapt and they become normal once again, I sometimes forget I’m wearing mine!)
But, in the first 3 weeks they feel irritating, which is why you build up the amount of time you wear them daily, so you allow your eyes to adapt to them.
i started off at 30 mins a day, and then then an hour the next day and so on, and now i wear them on average of 16 - 18 hours a day!
i have the awful "gas- permeable" (hard) lenses, you will probability have the soft lenses, which means that if you do, they wont take long to get used to, they will be alot more comfortable, and you wont have to limit yourself as much.
by limiting i mean, in case of losing them, or causing damage to your eyes. For example, if you go swimming, i think you’re allowed to wear soft lenses in the water depending on which type they are, but hard lenses in water is a no- no as they wash out of your eyes!! Certain sports may not be wise, eg: football/rugby, soccer, lacrosse, basketball…depending on how rough they are…(good for me…im a lazy ass who doesn’t exercise …I hate sports hahaha)
also, to avoid getting an eye infection, you must be extremely hygienic whist handling and storing them...that means washing your hands alot!!
you were worried about the time it takes to insert the lenses? Well..yeah..at first it takes a long time, I can remember within the first week it took me as long as 45 mins (maybe longer) to do it. Partly because I was shit scared, and in the end I just thought “ooohhh…what the hell” and stuck them in! :). The more I wore them, the less time consuming they were, now it takes m no longer that 30 seconds to put them in!! no joke, its that simple!
im sure you’ll be fine, and remember, they’re not going to kill you or harm you so don’t let that stop the eye person inserting them into your eyes...they know what they are doing as they are professionals!!
i hope this has helped as i know exactly how you feel, and im giving you my personal advice to tell you how they’ve worked out for me!!
It may seem scary in the first stages, but I can promise you , and I swear on my life that it is worth it 110% !!
any more probs, message me! good luck, and I hope all goes well for you!
Take care,
alex (dia)
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ok i am in a long distance relationship but he is more experienced then me both of us are virgins but i've never even kissed a guy what can i do to get more experience before i meet him??? please help me (link)
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i didnt have my first proper kiss until i was 15 and a half...the first guy i ever kissed wasnt a virgin...had beeen with loads of girls and to him all i was ,was just "another one" and i regret him sooo much (the guys an asshole)!!!
Anyway.. just like you, i was worried about this guy's expectations ..i hadn't done ANYTHIHG with a guy before him ...and i was worried about what he'd say.
we went to the movies, and that moment came, and he knew id never made out before...and after we kissed he said
"are you sure you've never done that before?" and i said
"yeah...ooohh...was it bad?" and he was like
"NO...it WAS NOT bad" :)
he he he. i read that kissing comes naturally,and i can say that it is 100% true!! it does!
and so when the time comes for you to kiss him, you should forget about your worries and enjoy the moment!! :D
i promise you it's worth it!!
hope this helps!!
alex (dia)
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I have an addiction. I don't how to stop. I'm a girl if that helps. (link)
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OK...SCROLL DOWN....I'VE GIVEN YOU MORE ADVICE OK......
hey...you have an addiction for what exactly?
how serious is this addiction, is it a mild addiction, like a few cravings for it here and there, or is it relly serious, maybe so serious you can do nithing BUT think about this adiction?
have you told anybody about this addiction?
if not, i think you should tell someone who's very close to you, for example :a best friend/boyfriend/parent/close relative- to see what they have to say...because if they really care for you, they'll understand and do their best to help you :)
in the meantime, i know its hard to do and easier said than done, but try not to focus on this addiction. an addiction is like a craving, i once read that a craving lasts up to 15 mins, sometimes a little longer, and all you have to do is think "this will be over soon", and do something to take your mind off it until it stops, like watching tv, listening to music, or reading a magazine...
i hope this has helped you, this is the best i could come up with...as i dont KNOW what the addiction is...if you want to confide in me by telling me what your addiction IS, thats cool, and im here for you 100%, if not and you'd rather keep it to yourself, or tell someone else about it....thats fine as well :)
youve taken the first step by seeking for help, if you keep this up, with some hope, and self motovation, youre addiction will no longer be a problem!
good luck, hope all goes well...message me if you have any more problems!!
take care
alex (dia)
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ok, thats really unncanny....i watched a film last night about a guy who had a sex addiction, based on a true story...and he got over it in the end! anyway...back to you...
do not worry about this...we all watch porn, maybe for our own enjoyment,or amusement or because we have sex on our minds at the time, and by watching it it gets it out of our system. if you read it (like in magazines), its just a way of seeijng how sex is seen nationally, what people do and dont like sexualy and if tips work or not...and plus, its like a sex tip lesson which may come in handy one day!! hehehe
you arent abnormal, i can say that most of my friends, boys and girls watch porn. it is a way of expressing sexuality, if your sraight, gay or bi, we find it arousing in some form. and if someone tells you they dont like porn( it doeesnt have to be hardcore porn)...they are most probably lying (just for your info!!)
watching porn is healthy, and we may watch it as it helps us to be sexually imaginative....people dont get their sexual fantasies from just thinking about them, they've either seen it happen, read about it, or heard about it.
can i ask you a question, how is the subject of sex seen upon in your home? is it a subject which stays quiet, or are your parents/guardians quite happy to discuss it with you? because depending on how sex is seen in your home, that may be the reason why you feel this way. dont beat yourself up about it, youre curious, and at the end of the day, we all have sex (or have had or will have) in some form...its natural...and its natural to think about it, and porn only helps you to undestand different sexual situations, and answer your questions, and fulfil your curiosity.
you may watch porn a fair amount, its not a bad thing. However, if you feel you watch it too much, try to watch something different. so if you have the urge to watch it, try to cut down by watching a film, which may have referenes to it, so you wont feel fustrated that you cant see it at all, and then next time, watch a film with a little less references in it, and keep trying to vary what you watch so it wont seem as neccesary to watch it as much. im not saying STOP WATCHING PORN!! cuz that would be like going cold turkey...just try to cut down the amount of time you watch it.
..ok...maybe going to your parents or guardians about this isnt such a good idea at this point...but i would suggest telling someone, like a real close friend. just ask them what they think of porn, and if they watch it..(maybe just say to get it out of them "do you watch it for a laugh?") i can guarabntee that they have watched it a couple of times in their lifetime!!
Do you have a boyfriend? because, watching porn is a way of seeing what we would like to do sexually, or what we would like done to us , or what we would like to do to to others. and if you do have a boyfriend, maybe you watch it because you dont feel its "spicy" enough...i dunno...maybe im going too far but have a think to why you may watch it.
i dont think you have an addiction...maybe just a curiosity :)
I think you should do what you think is best, whether you tell someone or not, and if you ask someone to help you get through it , or if you want to do this on your own, either way im here for you if you need help ok?
good luck, try what i said if you want to ok?
hope all goes well, tell me how things go.
take care,
alex (dia)
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I was wondering if anyone knew any good cheap, or at home recepies to use to get rid of your acne.. My acne isn't that bad really.. I would just really love to get rid of those few zits I have. Thank You! (link)
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drink lots of water..it flushes out all of the bad toxins in your skin, leaving you glowing!! he he he...but drink throughout the day, ya know - 1 glass here, 1 glass there, dont drink 8 pints at once cuz youre deperate for amazing zit-free skin, keep it up every day, and give it time to work...your skin should be great in no time!
however, there are always pro's and con's....
pro: its cheap (basically free), and healthy !!
(not just for skin...the rest of you is recieving an advantage!)
con: you may need to pee alooooot more! :)
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okayy .. so me and my boyfriend of five months broke up for a month. i havent gotten over him, but i tried gettin to know/dating some other guy. but all i coudl tink of was my ex. so me and him talk, come to find out he feels really bad for what happened and he regrets it and misses me. so we've been back togheter for like 4 days now. so my friend (COMPLETELY WITHOUT MY PREMISSION) talked to him last night about what went wrong last time and stuff. and my boyfriend said he just hates how commitment puts him on a leash, but hes gonna try like hell to make it work .. i love this kid. like i know everyones like teens dont fall in love .. but its pretty close .. so i dont know if i want to get involved just to have him decided that the comitments to much for him, cause it kills me when he decides he doesnt want it. but hes also not that type of person who talks about feelings like that, so if he came out to me and said it, there some truth ..
and if im counting when were dating, would it be stupid to just say weve been together with a break, but still 5 months. or would i have to start over with sundays date .. haha dorky i know. but im a date girl. (link)
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hey, this is alex (aka dia on here lol). ive just been through the EXACT same situation with my boyfrind (who by the way...sounds veeery similar to yours)...who was of 10 months, and felt that at 17 yrs old, regardless of the words he's said to me in the past...being with someone who wants to be with you forever feels so smothering. i was distraught....as we loved eachother more than anything in the world less than 48 hours before. so... we broke up for 5 weeks,while he had a girlfriend 2 years and 5 moths YOUNGER than him for 3 weeks, which tore me apart. then he dumped her as she treated him badly...and we got back together. then 3 days later he dunmped me again claiming he hadnt thought it all through, and then, 2 days later, he'd thought about everything, and we're starting again :)
so in answer to you qustion, i understand how you feel completely- it was normal to have had him on your mind 24/7, as you love the guy (ignore adults when they tell you "at your age - you dont know what love is"...) its bullshit, of course we know what love is...otherwise we wouldnt feel it - right?
your boyfriend seems to have sorted his head out, and if he told you all of this stuff, and he finds it hard to be open with people, then what he says must be genuine :)...if he's lying, he's not worth the hassle (i know you probably disagree)...but your worth more than this.
i can tell you are a kind person...as you are considering your boyfriends feelings over your own...despite how you feel.
i'd say...do what you think is best...get back with him, if he treats you badly, or messes you around, or is plainly not serious about it, then i'd rethink about having him as a boyfrind!
by the way, its not stupid to say "5 months with a break"...it's what happened...and plus..its alot of hassle and effort to go the next however long dating (say another 5 months...) and have it 5 months instead of 10...if that makes sense! lol...im a date girl too...lol
i wish you the best of luck
message me if you have any more probs ok?
hop this helps you
alex xxxx
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