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okayy .. so me and my boyfriend of five months broke up for a month. i havent gotten over him, but i tried gettin to know/dating some other guy. but all i coudl tink of was my ex. so me and him talk, come to find out he feels really bad for what happened and he regrets it and misses me. so we've been back togheter for like 4 days now. so my friend (COMPLETELY WITHOUT MY PREMISSION) talked to him last night about what went wrong last time and stuff. and my boyfriend said he just hates how commitment puts him on a leash, but hes gonna try like hell to make it work .. i love this kid. like i know everyones like teens dont fall in love .. but its pretty close .. so i dont know if i want to get involved just to have him decided that the comitments to much for him, cause it kills me when he decides he doesnt want it. but hes also not that type of person who talks about feelings like that, so if he came out to me and said it, there some truth ..
and if im counting when were dating, would it be stupid to just say weve been together with a break, but still 5 months. or would i have to start over with sundays date .. haha dorky i know. but im a date girl.
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hey, this is alex (aka dia on here lol). ive just been through the EXACT same situation with my boyfrind (who by the way...sounds veeery similar to yours)...who was of 10 months, and felt that at 17 yrs old, regardless of the words he's said to me in the past...being with someone who wants to be with you forever feels so smothering. i was distraught....as we loved eachother more than anything in the world less than 48 hours before. so... we broke up for 5 weeks,while he had a girlfriend 2 years and 5 moths YOUNGER than him for 3 weeks, which tore me apart. then he dumped her as she treated him badly...and we got back together. then 3 days later he dunmped me again claiming he hadnt thought it all through, and then, 2 days later, he'd thought about everything, and we're starting again :)
so in answer to you qustion, i understand how you feel completely- it was normal to have had him on your mind 24/7, as you love the guy (ignore adults when they tell you "at your age - you dont know what love is"...) its bullshit, of course we know what love is...otherwise we wouldnt feel it - right?
your boyfriend seems to have sorted his head out, and if he told you all of this stuff, and he finds it hard to be open with people, then what he says must be genuine :)...if he's lying, he's not worth the hassle (i know you probably disagree)...but your worth more than this.
i can tell you are a kind person...as you are considering your boyfriends feelings over your own...despite how you feel.
i'd say...do what you think is best...get back with him, if he treats you badly, or messes you around, or is plainly not serious about it, then i'd rethink about having him as a boyfrind!
by the way, its not stupid to say "5 months with a break"...it's what happened...and plus..its alot of hassle and effort to go the next however long dating (say another 5 months...) and have it 5 months instead of 10...if that makes sense! lol...im a date girl too...lol
i wish you the best of luck
message me if you have any more probs ok?
hop this helps you
alex xxxx
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