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Me and my boyfriend are kinda nervous my friends and his friends have told us and we both really want to makeout with eachother, we are inseperable, but how do i "make the move?"

13/female

your only 13 I'm only 14 there is no reason to rush this kind of stuff. Let it happen. If you are nervous than its not time to do it yet. Like everyone always says when its time it will all come. Thats my answer. Let it happen

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whats to big

What is too big?.......Life, it can seem really great and perfect sometimes but most the time its overwhelming and I seem like a speck of sand on the beach. So yeah the answer for you is Life.

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Well, Ive liked this guy named Wesley for a while, and hes not supper popular but I stil like him and stuff. So, my friends asked him if he liked me because I was too much of a chicken. So then he was like "i want her to tell me" so i did, and he still isnt telling me anything. I kinda think he likes me and all his friends tell me that, so What should I do, why do u think he isnt telling me anything?

He may be sorting out his feelings. You know trying to understand exactly how he feels. What I would do since you have already told him how you feel is go up to him (when he is alone, NO friends) tell him you need to talk and ask him how he feels about you, whether he likes you or not. If he doesn't answer or trys to ignore you he may not be the best guy for you.
This may take a lot of courage on your behalf but then you would know. Do give him a chance he may really like but can't get it out. He may just have a hard time expressing his feelings but if he doesn't give you answer if you talk to him I really don't think he is worth your attention.
Good luck and I hope all works out in the long run.

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ok welll im for bush and this one group of my friends are completely anti-bush. and whenever they start talking about the election they totally bash bush in front of my face. they say mean things about him that arnt true. and it really bothers me.....and like i feel like there almost attacking me whenever i tell them that bush was a good leader...what do i do?

this is a serously touchy subject.
I will be honest I am for Bush but I don't want that to effect my advice. I do agree with storageanddisposal but I also think that you need to tell your friends in a calm voice that you feel overwhelmed and like they are attacking you. Let them know that you are for bush but they have their own opinion thats fine. tell them that it may be best to stay of the subject of politics for a while. If the subject does come again tell them how you feel and if you start to feel overwhelmed again than leave. There nothing stoping you from walking out that door.

I don't care if people vote for Kerry or Bush because I know who I beleive in and know who is right. Think of it that way. Good luck and please give them the bennifit of the doubt.

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Seeing that you wrote this to not just me I will be honest this is not a site to advertise. This is also not how the admin chooses L2's. If you read in the FAQ it says the requirments for a level 2. she has to stick around for a while and she is already a L1 so she has to go from there.
It is nice that you think of your friend like this.

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i'm 11 years old and their's a guy my school that i like and he likes me! but their is another girl that likes him too.he cannot choose between me or her.he dos'nt like her as much as he likes me.what should i do. i'm not too young for a relationships. am i?

Well yes you are too young for relatonships. look I'm 14 and teens my age are still too young.
I think when your really mature to have "real" relationship it isn't till your about 16+ maybe 15 but it depends how mature you are for your age. I think that you should just hold off o n any such reltionship with a guy. enjoy life and just learn to be friends with guys. You will be so sureprised at how much better of a relatioinship with a guy if you learn to be friends first and not just "BF and GF".
Good luck.

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i have a problem...i like this boy who just broke up with his girlfriend in michigan..and he knows i like him...and i have given him his space...i just dont know if he will ever make a move...he acts like he likes me but im not too sure...and we barely talk in person...i'll try to start a conversation but he never says anything....what should i do?

Well try again and see if he will talk. He may be still trying to understand his feelings. I don't know how long he has been single but he may still need time. I would say give him a chance, just be friends. after a while tell him you like him and that you would like to go out with him. If he still acts like he can't talk or what ever forget him. He wouldn't be a guy I would want if he still acts like that. Good luck

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my mother and her whole family are white. however my father is half & half..(black/white)
..everyone in his family is white, except for his father.(my grandad) so..what am i? half/half? or just white? and if any1 knows, what percentage of each would i be? :) ty!

Honestly I agree with MFS, I can tell that you want to know what you are but really you just have mixed blood. Me? I have Irish, Scottish, German, English, I have more but Thats all I can think of. My mother says I'm what you call a pure american. I have a bit of everything and personaly I'm proud of all of it. I respect you for wanting to know what you are but your you.

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Yo, MFS here...

You all probalby noted that the site was down for a while. We had to switch to a new server/host, and it took longer than anticipated.

Currently, it looks like our avatars / user pictures are screwed up. I don't have time to look into it much right now, but it looks like a matter of a folder not being transferred or something on those lines. I'll make sure the Admin is aware, and hopefully it'll get fixed soon.

If you find other issues with things not working, just know that it might be part of the whole move that just took place. Things only came back on-line over the weekend, and all bugs aren't worked out just yet.

Yeah I noticed that, I just thought that everyone needed to refresh their pics. Guess I was wrong.
I answered a question I think before the change of servers/hosts but when I came back to advicenators it was in my inbox as a new question.I haven't answered it again. I'm thinking of rejecting it. This is probably irrelevant to what you said but hey I decided to say what what was on my mind. heh... Thats me.

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There this girl that i like she a senior and im a sophmore but im 16 gona be 17 she 17 gona be 18 we use to be friends when we were little. As time passed i didn't talk to her for awhile and now im best friends with her brothers now i have a crush on her.I've never been the type of guy to be shy to talk to a girl. but with her its different i don't want to sound dum and i don't know if she would even want to talk to me. I really like her tho. Every time i see her i just go crazy. I need some advice on how to break the ice??

My suggestion would be to just ask her out. You like her so tell her and ask her you would like to start dating her. It really shouldn't be problem. Good luck
advice~gurl

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hi what is your name and how old are you


can i kidnapped you lateron ?
please?

Loser

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13/m OH. well there this gurl and i like her and
she willing to cheat on her b/f with me buti rather let us going out be open and not a secret but her b/f is my best freind she i try to be a relationship recker or not

big G

Just let it be. Do you really want to lose your best friend? you would be stealing his girl friend and losing you best friend. Don't do it. Its not worth it. You two need to ignore your feelings not matter how you want to follow them. I'm sorry your in this kind of bind but good luck and I hoped I helped.

sincerely
advice~gurl
Kat

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I've been dating this boy online for 2months now and i aint really know him all that good so i gave him false information about me..now that im in love with him i feel awful bad..Its hurts me to even think that i lied to him and havent told him yet within these 2months i've been with him..I'm kinda scared to talk with him about this sisuation becus im scared that we might end up breaking up..and i love him too much with all of my heart to even let him go...hes 17 and im 15 right now I'll b 16 in 6more days i havent even told him my real name or birthday...i gave him my cousin phone number because i was soo shy to talk with him...what can i do? how can i tell him tha truth without messing things up?

In my total honesty I don't think that you or anyone should be "dating online" I did this a year or two ago and he happened to be a 50 year old man and was sending me picures of his adorable 12 year old son.

Now to the advice. Do your parents know? They really should know incase it happens to be a guy like mine. This is really hard for me because I have some real problems with this but its not my place. If this is a true relationship then when your older tell him. But if you haven't told him your real name have you done a nickname? or did you use a totally fake name? In any case maybe if you write him a email and tell him. just tell him the complete TRUTH no lies. Tell him what you said to me, that you were too shy to talk to him, and all that. and if he goes crazy over that then forget him.

I beg you though, DO TELL YOUR PARENTS if they don't already know.

Good luck, and ask anytime for advice.
sincerely
advice~gurl
kat

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Ok I am in 8th grade and started a new school this year. I know a lot of kids there it is just that I dont know them well enough to ask if I can sit with them at lunch. So what I do every day at lunch is sit by myself. And all the friends I do know very well have a different hour of lunch than I do. And I am trying to to get my schedule changed but what if I cant get it changed and iam stuck in 3rd hour lunch. PLEASE HELP ME I AM STRESSING!!!!!!!!

In my opinion your not doing anything to get new friends. If you know them just ask if you can sit with them. Tell them you don't know anyone really and you don't want to sit alone again. Put your self out and just be confident. When you sit down with them don't just eat and not say a word because then your probaly not going to make any friends. You have to be just as friendly and open to making a new friend than the other person. You can't just wait for them to invite you over and do all the talking. Sometimes it happens that way but in your case i don't think it will.

Another thing stop stressing. You will be fine there is no reason to stop breathing.

Good luck!
ask anytime for advice.
sincerely
advice~gurl
kat

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well im goin out with a guy i kind of like but i dont know and i like some one else a lot ( his friend ) and my friend asked me if i liked him and i said yes and he told a lot of people he likes me and some how him and my friend wound up going out but he had a girl frind and is now sort of going out with 2 people and im really mad and she expeced me not too care that they were goin out whut do i do


im 13
and im a girl



from. . .
stupid

Hmmm.... Intresting question.

In my honest opinion he doesn't seem like he would be a very great guy to go out with if he is cheating on his girl friend now. What would stop him if he does go with out you?
With your friend I would say she is not that great of a friend if she did that. I would still be friends with her just don't tell her your secrets again.

I will tell you that guys that say they like you to other people and then go out with another when he has a girl friend just doesn't seem like a guy that is very trust worthy.

I would just let life take course don't make any big moves to him unless your sure. He sounds like he needs to grow up a litle bit.

sorry if thisn't what you wanted to hear but its my honest advice.

advice~gurl

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Just so everyone knows, putting this in the subject of your question not only does not affect our decision to delete it, but it only serves to point out to us that you have already asked the same question before and it was deleted.

Asking the same exact question two or three times, only putting "MODERATORS, DON'T DELETE THIS QUESTION", does nothing but serve to annoy us more.

Thankyou, I know who you are and I think all needed to here this. I'm gettinf so sick of reading questions with that, it makes me want to delete the question but I restrain myself normaly.

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How can i become a more confident person?

Well I will be honest that I am a pretty confident and I do understand where you are coming from.

How do you feel about yourself? Do you feel you are pretty enough to have a guy like you? Do you think that your smart? Is there something about yourself that you just love?
If you say yes to more than 2 are you being COMPLETELY honest. not for me or anyone but you. In my opinion to have more confidence you need to except who you are. all of you. To be honest with yourself and to think more positive.
I have had some really hard times that no one has ever known about and when I was going through those hard times I hated myself and who I was. I thought I was ugly, totally stupid (which I still think) just a complete freak. I started thinking that if I wasn't good enough for myself than how am I ever going to be liked? I started out with the one thing that I loved about myself, My smile. I know corny but I focused on that and and some how inside myself I found that it doesn't matter what other people think this is who I am and no one can change that. It made me so happy thinking that I was me someone different than everyone else and I was special.
So the moral is just take something that you love about yourself no matter what it is and just think positive and be proud of who you are and I am completly sure that you have more confidenc. Good Luck and I hope my advice was of-use.

Always
advice~gurl
kat

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Hi my names Jess and i have this friend thats really annoying she thinks were the best of friends i dont want to be friends with her but i dont want to make it sound mean how do i let her down easy?

Hey I totally understand what your going through beCause I have a friend that thinks too and she is driving me insane!

Okay first of all do not do what I did. Don't just ignore her and not speak to her because trust me that is not a good idea. I did that adn I still haven't called her back... I think I will when I get done here.... Anyways TO the advice.

I think you should tell her, Its not very nice to her or you to pretend. Just tell her that she is a great friend but you don't think its fair to her to have a friend that doesn't really like her. tell her that maybe she can find a better friend than you and that your really sorry to hurt her feelings but you had to tell her.

No matter what I write its going to sound a bit mean. Sorry I couldn't be of more help.'

Advice~gurl

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Hey! I was wondering if anyone new any "Inspirational" Friendship type songs. The songs I have so far are; Wind Beneath My Wings, I Believe I Can Fly, I Turn To You, Live Like You Were Dying, Ask Me, Coming Out Of The Dark, Hero, Angel, Angels Among Us, Angels In Waiting, I'll Be (By Reba). I know not all of those are Inspirational songs. But if you know any that someone can realate to because of a hard time. Like Ask Me is about sexual abuse, or songs about anxiety or depression post them too! Thanks!

Concrete Angel by Martina Mcbride, More to Life (Its not really inspritional but it works) by Stacie Orrico, Dare you to move by Switchfoot, I'm with you by Avril Lavgne. Those are just some I like the kind of music your asking for but There are so many going through my head that I can't think of the names but i think I gave you enough.

advice~gurl

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What is tss? Just Wondering...

Toxic Shock Symdrome. Its when you leave a tampon in for too long. There is a very slim chance of you getting TSS because if follow the instuctions right then you should be fine. If you want a real detailed answer about how you can get TSS and how to prevent it I would use www.ask.com or Google

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