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Hey, so today I was talking to what I thought was my girlfriend (B) who actually turned out to be her friend (D) who had feelings for her. Now he tried to step up to me, and try to steal my girlfriend, and he was sayin really bad things about her and myself. Now B is mad and won't talk to anyone. She says she isn't mad at me, just mad at D, but I think she is mad at me too, which I don't even know why! I didn't say anything about her to D, exept that I love B with all my heart. Look, I know I'm not perfect, and I do make mistakes, but I was standing up and letting her friend know that I will fight for B, because I really love her, I really do. I just need some help please, from a girl. I'm 14 so around my age too please if possible. I just need some advice on what to say to her, cause I never want to lose her, I love her to much :(. Sorry it's so long, I just really need help, please... (link)
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The first thing I think you should do is find out what exactly is wrong with her, and if she actually is upset with you, and then get into that whole process. But I think that you should tell her that she can talk to you about Anything and you won't judge her (if you actually won't) and that you are there for her. I suggest not pushing her too much with like questions and stuff, some girls just need space and time to think and such. So be there for her and try to maybe even cheer her up by doing something nice for her or something. See if there is anything you can do for her, but the main key is to let her know that you are there for her if she needs you.
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how much holes does she got there? (link)
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I'm guessing you may be referring "there" as a woman's lower area, and that would be three.
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I'm fourteen, soon to be fifteen. I feel attracted to both genders. I know that people may say "Oh it's just a phase or horomones", but hear me out.
As long as I can remember, probably even since I was eight, I've been attracted to the female body. Ever since, I've just been trying to push those feelings away or to avoid them. Those feelings never went away. I still feel an attraction to both men and women. I actually even had my first kiss with a girl, and also dated her. I don't know what my sexuality is. Bisexual?
Also, if I was bisexual, I need advice... I think my dad is homophobic. He denies it, but he thinks it's disgusting when he sees gays. He even said, "Bisexuals are even worse. How can you like both? It makes no sense". I didn't really say much. My mom would probably not care much, which is good, but my dad... I honestly don't even feel like telling them that I'm bisexual if I were to be because it's not their business and it would save drama and anxiety. (link)
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That definitely sounds like bisexual. Your dad may be denying it, and he may not. Some people just get grossed out by that stuff, but it doesn't mean they are against people like that. It's up to you whether you come out or not, you don't have to, either way just go on your own time.
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I swear I'm not bragging, or saying I'm better than her at all. I'm not being conceited at all!! I just need some help..
My friend.. Lets call her "B". She enjoys singing, drawing and playing the guitar. The problem is.. She's not very good. She can play guitar good, but she messes up a lot and she thinks she can write songs, but the chords don't mix together well. She can't sing low notes at all and she knows it, the thing is whenever I have the radio on, she likes to add her own high notes and they don't sound good. She doesn't sing very well and I know she's envious of our friend "R" and she does try to be like her.
Drawing.. I don't like being cocky or vain at all.. Honestly I don't understand how people can do that. I do draw better than "B" because I've been practicing longer. I draw realistic things, "B" draws anime type of things. She's not very good. "R" draws better than me.. But I just want to know what to do when she asks what I think.
I don't want to hurt her feelings. (link)
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I think the only thing you should do is tell her to be herself and do things for herself instead of like other people. It's not always best to point out flaws like that in someone, and I don't see why it's your place or job to do that, especially since you're not in a situation that you need to. So that's the only thing I think you could say, but anything else should just be kept unsaid. But that's just how I see it.
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Hello, I'm wondering whether or not to dye my hair blond, I'm 16, I've got (dark-)brown hair, and I've never dyed my hair before!
(This is me: http://imgur.com/Qa3EUl2 hair's more of a quiff currently!)
So, should I do it? I'd like to have it similar to the hair in these pictures:
-http://scontent-a.cdninstagram.com/hphotos-xfa1/t51.2885-15/e15/10952963_1554287254827426_1298352638_n.jpg
-http://scontent-b.cdninstagram.com/hphotos-xfa1/t51.2885-15/e15/10979654_261210280715848_1968894870_n.jpg
Any and all advice is appreciated! (link)
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Frankly, your hair colour looks fine how it is, but you could do that colour too. Honestly it's up to you, because it's your hair and your choice, and if you like it a certain way, I say go for it!
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Hi there..am Female,23...
Well I had a serious relationship for a 4good years..n recently we broke up..till the end I have trusted him blindly n forgave him for his every mistakes as I loved him in worst n best..there were so many incidents that did shake my faith in him still I intentionally omitted them n behaved like a blind...i know I should not have trusted him so blindly..but I was scared of losing him..so anyhow at any cost I tried to keep him in the relationship..though I never got any evidence that he was cheating on me..but he did a lots of things that indicate he was upto some other girls...but just to keep the mental peace I sabotaged my way of thinking..within this four year duration we broke up for thousand times n everytime I begged him to patch up woth me..he never ever came back to me..every now n then he insulted me my friends n my family..even he n his mom mentally abused me n accused me for his alcohol addiction..he never trusted me so if anybody unknown to him ever comes to him n tell him that I go physical with any random guy, he would have believed that..he even had problems with my dresses n uploading my pics on Facebook...whereas his mom uploads odd pics of hers on fb n flirts around with unknown guyz..i didn't have any issues with her untill n unless she poked his son about my dressing sense and he abused me with slangs..the society I come from is a bit conservative and orthodox..women who have on of that age n husband alive,doing such nasty things are considered to be perverted..i completely felt disgusted by him n his mom..how hypocritical they can be!!
But I trusted n loved him so much..so got a irreparable wound..can't be healed...but now there is a guy younger than me..he admires me n wants to be committed with me...but my ex bf made me absolutely unable to trust any guy...
Please tell me what should I do? (link)
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I know it can be hard to trust someone else after bad experiences, and it may just take time. Eventually when the time is right, and the guy is right, you'll be able to open up again. It might be this guy, it might not. But you need to know that not every guy is like that, at all. There are some really good people out there, and the only way to know is if you give them a chance. So don't push yourself, but I suggest gradually trying to trust again, which may mean being friends with this guy (or any guy) for awhile and see how things go.
Hope this helps~
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24 year gal, doctor.I became frenz wid a guy in my class,7 years ago.it was good friendship, we usually talked less in class, more on the phone n that too mostly about studies.we both bein studious. years passed, we discussed families, bitched, n talking on phone almost everyday is a custom.he is bit immature n pampered guy,a lot f tym misunderstandings came,we fought in college n sometimes wudnt talk for months,bt somehow we wud sort out evrythng sooner or later.aftr collg we hv to clear a pg entrance, he's a brilliant student, he got thru n i dint. I thought this ws end f our frndshp as i cudnt face him or talk wid my failure.i left my city fr prepration, he joined his course,wich z hell busy.but to my surprise,he made evry effort to kp in contact wid me,evn wid high std call rates,once a while.i finished n came bk n he ws bk to calling me evryday, asking abt my prepration n wellbeing.evn i call him sometimes. He z a flirty person n we both do some healthy flirting sometimes.he manages to take out time frm his utterly busy schedule,almost evryday.now it hs got into me dt is it really frndshp between us or more than that.i hv lost contact wid almost al othr collg frnz n so hs he.i hd thought, he wil b d first one to find a girlfrnd aftr colleg bt dt dint happen.i hv no idea wt I feel truly or wt he does..i hd always thought before dt its jst gud frndshp. (link)
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It could be more considering he really is putting effort, and seems to care. If you have feelings for him, I suggest you talk to him about it or just tell him, because that's really the best way to go about it, instead of waiting for him or something. So I say go for it!
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My boyfriend's mother has become aggressive towards me and has falsely accused me of being the reason as to why he has been missing school but he has not missed a day of school since his Birthday and she doesn't want me around anymore... But I've been the one to help her since she has such a busy work schedule, I have been providing him with rides to and from work, and to and from school when he has missed the bus... But she's been trying to accuse me of making power moves but in reality I've asked for her permission every time I go to get him and she had acted like it was perfectly fine but wants to turn around and act as if I'm trying to act as his mother, which is why she had sent me a nasty text message saying "I'm his mother, I say what goes" but I haven't tried to disrespect her not once. Currently Will has made me stay with him at his house, and I'm not sure if I should just stay here and wait to see what the outcome is because he said he would stick up for me, or if I should flee before it's too late and she shows up... (link)
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stay and let him stick up for you. you cant let his mother control you and get in the way of you two. If, however, he does not end up sticking up for you, then there is a problem there. his mother clearly has issues, though, and you are doing nothing wrong.
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Hello.
I'm a 22 year old female with a past of unhealthy and shakey relationships,lasting between 2 to 6 months.
However, in this case.. I have been on and off with the same person for around two years. For some of you out there, you may not find this all too impressive. But to me, it's something that has been really hard for me to fathom.
Our relationship started very quickly and passionately. We met in the mall through a mutual person and instantly hit it off. We could read each other's emotions pretty well (or so I thought), and I really fell for him fast. The thing that held us back the first time around was his drug usage.
After a few months of breaking up and getting back in touch, he really seemed to have changed. He was taking care of himself more, appeared more composed and thoughtful. So.. we gave it another round.
We really hit it off that time. We were very in tune.. always talking about our feelings and making plans for the future. Then he betrayed my trust and came to my house blazed out of his mind. I found out within a week that he not only had sex with me while he was high, but that he also lied about his father abusing him and that he used to be a coke addict. I get if someone lies about those things not happenings.. but why lie that they did? I get it was for attention, but that's some heavy things to lie about.
It took a huge toll on me. You see, I never truly trusted anyone until I met him. I always remained guarded and suspicious. But for him I completely let myself open. I told his parents about him using and what he did. He agreed to give up that life and to move back in with them so that he could live a more productive life.
I thought since he made that decision, that things could maybe be different.
We made it work for awhile, but I never truly healed from that initial heart break. He made it worse by inviting his old room mate over to our place and trying to hide it from me.
He would watch pornography while I was upstairs sleeping. I caught him on a hook up site (though he claims it was only for pictures). He admitted he lied that his ex girlfriend had an abortion and left him.
It seemed like everything was starting to repeat itself. He makes me feel like I'm crazy.. like I'm looking for mistakes. But he makes the same ones over and over again!
So, I decided I was moving out after he told me it's my fault he can't change. Even though I'm guarded and suspicious over the pain he has caused me. He instantly changed his tone and cried and begged for me to stay. Literally in a fetal position yelling that he would change. At that point, I had completely shut off emotionally. I couldn't connect to him because he put me through so much, and I felt the tears weren't even real.
I have a new place now.. and I have a few weeks until I move. But you see, I still am having a hard time thinking of him not being around. I do have a big problem with abandonment and I accept that. But I should know better by now that he will only cause me pain.
On top of this, he gave me herpes.. something that I can never get rid of and that people will judge me for. How can I trust that the next guy won't just push me away from that alone?
I feel broken, used, hurt and worthless. I know I'm strong enough to live on my own.. but damn, I wish my mind would catch up to my heart and be at rest.
So I ask.. what do I do to keep moving? Am I crazy? And is there even a small chance that he could ever change? (link)
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You are not crazy, there may be a small chance of him changing, but you cannot wait around for that. Moving on is the right thing to do, and you have to do it. That is an unstable relationship, and you deserve better. I suggest cutting off most contact with him, for it will only weigh you down to stay in touch, and definitely move away from him so that he doesnt know where you live or anything. as for the herpes thing, with the next person youre with, if you get serious with that person, (and especially b4 you have sex) you Have to tell that person what you have. You HAVE to, so that they know what they are getting into. it might scare away some people, but eventually you will find someone that loves you enough to be okay with it. But definitely stay away from the other guy.
Hope this helps~
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Well I am in relationship since 2011..i told him everything about my past life..he never used to pick ph calls in front of me..he didn't even tell me everything about his life..i tell him even about my family problems but he never tells me about his..he hangs around with gis friends but when I go with my friends everytime he creates an issue and spoils my plans..he keeps saying that he is very possessive about me but I don't understand where his possessiveness goes when we quarrel n part..he never calls me to settle up things..he has an ego problem but do I have to say sorry to patch up everytime!!he has a colleague in his office who likes him..hw likes her pics n gives comments on fb..whereas he blocked me on fb..not only that he blocked me from every social media n messengers..when I got to know about that girl I told him to unfriend her...he did unfriend her..but recently he again befriended her on fb n they both like each other's pics..they might chat also..n they talk to other over ph for hours...other staffs in his office even tease them as couple..is he cheating on me?he shows no special interest in me then what's the point to heat on me!!he could easily break it off with me n go in relationship with her..on the very first month of our relation he said it doesn't matter to him if I am in his life or not coz he needs none..he keeps breaking his oath on my life to drink alcohol n instantly makes issues for his alcohol consumption...i knew that he used to drink even before our relation started..all is friends support me..but now he n his mom are accusing me for his addiction..they are saying that I keep hurting him so he drinks..sometimes I wonder does he really love me? (link)
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no, that isnt love. you need to get out of that relationship, because he clearly is not boyfriend material right now.
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I don't know whether I'm being silly or over-reacting but I just need to hear what other people think. Been with my boyfriend for over a year, things have been good. He's everything you'd want in a man- intelligent, focused, funny, and he a always does his best in every situation. We have loads in common, we truly get on like a house on fire.
There's been a few things which I felt the need to bring up over the year- mostly about not spending enough time together and also he wouldn't be overly emotive which I sometimes found hurtful. We've worked through these, mostly the spending time together, and everything was great. He's a reserved guy so I wasn't expecting him to be all lovey dovey all the time but it's very rare he is. Also in the bedroom, sex itself is good....but again he's reserved, and a bit selfish....he's never made me orgasm even though I've brought it up. It's like he doesn't want to change, and rarely wants to change up the moves in the bedroom- sorry if this is all TMI! I don't know if he realises how big of a deal this is for me because he usually does take things I say on board but I feel I shouldn't have to say this. He's not very experienced in this department so it could be that either.
He admits he doesn't love me yet, but has strong feelings for me....at this stage I would imagine he should feel stronger but am I just rushing him? I really really like him, he's the first person I've ever been with that I've had no doubts about, and I'm genuinely a much better and happier person when I'm with him, but just sometimes I feel we are more like friends. I've never felt that passion/fire from him...the feeling of 'having' to be with someone. Do you think because he is so reserved and not emotional I should just give him time or should I stop investing in this relationship? Thanks. (link)
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it may take time, he could have had a bad relationship experience in the past, or maybe a bad past in general. but I think you should talk to him about it if it doesnt change soon. do what will make you happy!
hope this helps~
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I'm 15 and I've never had a boyfriend or kissed a guy. Most guys won't even come near. I think its my religion (Muslim) most guys are probably scared by it. But I did have a couple if guy friends who felt comfortable around. No guy has ever called me pretty. I'm pretty approachable when I'm with friends but I'm shy and quiet alone. Am I ugly? Is it my religion? Or do guys just not like me at all? I don't know what to do. I feel like I'll never have a boyfriend. (link)
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You will have a boyfriend eventually, guys are just lame, and it could be many things. dont know what you look like, but you are not ugly. You are a beautiful human being, and dont let any guy change that image. be yourself, and some day some guy will love you for that.
hope this helps~
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My friend brags and lies about everything.she acts like I can't tell it's a lie. She also knows nothing about me our friendship is basically all about her. For examples: she tells that every boy in her classes keep staring at her. That 25 boys have asked her out but she rejected them all. She goes like I'm so pretty. She also makes me tell her she's pretty. I know a lot about Her but she barely knows a thing about me. When she has a problem let's talk but when its me no time. What do I do? I already confronted her once and it was only better for a week before she got worse than before. (link)
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ditch thr bitch. (AKA, she is a terrible friend and you dont need that in your life)
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I'm pregnant and 14 weeks gone. Where in michigan can I do an abortion for a cheap price. Thank you (link)
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m.yp.com › Detroit, MI
not sure where you are in there, but here is some things for detroit
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My dog is obsessed with my room and barely leaves. obsessed is an understatement! anyways, tonight as i got into bed she got onto my bed as well like the usual. she began walking towards the center of my bed and started sniffing so much. she then kept jumping backwards and remained on my pillows as i could tell she was super scared.. as i tried to push her back to that spot she used every muscle she has to fight me and remain away from the blanket. she still couldn't stop sniffing even while on my pillows. she wouldn't even relax when i held her. she's a tiny little yorkshire terrier and always cuddles me like a baby. she would not lay down. she kept sitting up with her ears up and alert. she ran off my bed crying as well. i miss being able to cuddle my baby. i want to know whats wrong with my bed or room. i am very catholic and believe in demons and such and I'm terrified that it could be one harassing my dog or in my room. how do i get rid of it? if i sleep with a bible next to me should that keep it away?? also, i have a cleaning lady and idk if she washed my bedding in anything unusual.. i don't have mites or bed bugs. someone please help. (link)
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Try changing your sheets or move your bed and see if that does anything. It's possibly that your cleaning lady did do something, but I think if it was a demon, your dog wouldn't even get on the bed, but who knows. I think praying would work better than having a bible near by, but you could do both. So try different things like that, and see what happens.
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I hurt my best friend. I was drunk and he was drunk , we had sex but apparently I raped him. I didn't know I swear and for months he pretended to be fine. He even dated me at one point, but he was depressed the whole time and he wanted hurt himself. He skipped classes and just couldn't get out of bed. Then he told me the truth, I raped him. Because of me he has suffered. I told him to hurt me punish me or must be done, but he doesn't want to. He just wants to forget. He keeps talking to me because he feels like I'm the only person he can count on since all his other friends gossip, but I can't help him and I can't live this way. I'm a monster and I just wanna die I can't leave this way knowing I've hurt him (link)
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Does he have any proof that you did that? Or do you remember any of that from that night? Because he could just be making it up to get attention. (It happens) Don't do anything serious like killing yourself if you don't know that actually happened. (Don't do it at all, actually) if you really think it's true, then I suggest you enroll in therapy, and get some help with this, but please don't end anything. If you ever want to talk, I'm here for you.
Hope this helps~
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Me and my boyfriend (both 22 years old) have been together for a little over 2 years and we have a great relationship there's just one thing that's bothering us. We get absolutely no privacy to be intimate, EVER! We are both still living home with our parents and someone is always home at each of our houses. We both work and saving money to get our own place but the state we live in is very expensive to do so and will take a decent amount of time. We maybe have sex twice a month and it's driving us crazy! Of course we thought of the idea of getting a hotel but how many times can we really do that? I'm just scared it will become a big problem in our relationship. Advice please ! (link)
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You could always move to a different state, or to a cheaper part of that state? That's always a option. If not, keep saving for that area, and try to work things out so that when you know one of your guys' parents will be out, plan to have one of you come over to the other. The parents have to leave sometime, so when they do, you can be ready.
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I was introduced to my boyfriend by my best friend who is a guy, my best friend and my boyfriend aren't so close though, just hi hi friends. My ex boyfriend and I had relationship issues, we barely used to talk or call.. when I told him lets fix it he said he wanted to do so as well... even after we decided to do so, he didn't call or text me for 3days, Three days ago, I asked him if he wanted it or not in a yes or no answer, he didn't reply, I kept texting him to give me an answer... I told him that I need an answer so dat if this no contact continues and I decide to indulge in another relationship, it wouldn't seem like I am cheating. then he replied "you can indulge Deedee" so since then I decided to move on...its been three days since we broke up, just this morning he text me Hi, I didn't reply.... I was talking with my best friend about it and he told me that he saw him with a girl a day before he text.... so I am wondering if his hanging out with some other girl a night before why would he text me the next morning to say "hi" (link)
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He's probably just playing you, I say move on and find better. It sounds complicated, and he doesn't seem like boyfriend material. So find someone else, I say.
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I am a 16 year old girl. My boyfriend is 15. We have not had sexual intercourse but we do engage in oral and sex play from time to time. Two weeks ago we were doing what many hormonal teen couples do and he ejaculated outside ( he never went in) and some semen accidentally got on my vulva. We stopped immediately and I cleaned up as best as I could. I've searched all over the internet but I can't seem to find an answer. I understand that there's a low chance but I can't seem to get the possibility out of my head. My boyfriend is also very worried and is providing support and reassurance. My period is extremely irregular (I once spent 6 months without menstration) so I can't just wait to see if I missed it. I haven't taken any taken any pregnancy tests yet but my boyfriends bringing me some this Sunday. If I am pregnant I don't want to have an abortion but I'm not in the position to raise a child. I take the SAT in two months and I'm six credits away from graduation. I want to still be able to see my son or daughter if I choose adoption and one day be able to take custody but I have a feeling it won't be that easy. I'm so ashamed I've disappointed myself and I'm probably going to disappoint every one around me. I have plans and they're all gonna go to ruins if I am pregnant all because I felt as though I had to make him come. What should I do? I'm so scared.... (link)
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It's very unlikely that you're pregnant. However, it's good to take those tests, but make sure they're not cheapy ones. If you're still uncertain after those, then I suggest you get it checked out by a doctor. (Even if the odds are against it) it doesn't have to be for that specific reason, just get a physical that includes the vagina area and such) I will say, though, that you really should get the fact that you can go six months without your period, checked out. That is extremely abnormal for your age.
Hope this helps~
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I got glasses today and I'm kinda scared to wear them. Not because of how I look (because I look fabulous) but because normally I see pretty well. I can see when we take note (even if I sit kinda far in the back. But something's that are REALLY small I can't see. In my opinion I don't think glasses are super necessary. And I don't want people to be like "you don't need glasses" "your faking it" "you see better than I do" because it's honestly not even to the point where I can't see what's in front of me like most of my friends. What should I do? (link)
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If you went to an eye doctor, and they proscribed you glasses, then you have every right to wear them, and clearly there's a reason to. If you did not, then I suggest you do so and see if it is needed. Your friends have no idea what your sight is like, because they don't have your particular eyes, so don't pay attention to them if they make stupid comments like such.
Hope this helps~
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