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hopeless in love
I'm 15 and I've never had a boyfriend or kissed a guy. Most guys won't even come near. I think its my religion (Muslim) most guys are probably scared by it. But I did have a couple if guy friends who felt comfortable around. No guy has ever called me pretty. I'm pretty approachable when I'm with friends but I'm shy and quiet alone. Am I ugly? Is it my religion? Or do guys just not like me at all? I don't know what to do. I feel like I'll never have a boyfriend.
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I don't think the issue is how pretty you are because people are as pretty on the inside...
However before actually thinking that you want a boyfriend ask yourself are you suppose to or is it going to be disobeying your religion.
Maybe you can be there friend treat them normally but I would strongly suggest to not start dating....
However the problem might be you confidence, instead of waiting for them to come to you go and talk to them...
I hope you make the right choice..
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If few know your religion, it may not even be that which scares them off. It may be more the general feeling among society. When I was your age, "the bad guys" were considered to be Russia/Soviet Union and any people of that origin living in the U.S. were avoided, not trusted, ostracized. But we have learned and grown and that is no longer an issue.
Unfortunately there will always be some group of people others won't trust or approach because of what the media hypes about or un informed people talk about. Right now, I'd have to say with all the talk in the US of terrorists, that anyone with darker skin or originating from the middle east in heritage are now the untrusted outsiders. Also still left out and misunderstood are people of any different sexual orientation than heterosexual but they are slowly gaining ground and my opinion, is they're in a better position depending on the state they live in. Also depending on what state they live in, next come the people with any black in their heritage.
There will always be biased people. And there are others who are not. Of those who are not, you will eventually find a boyfriend. As long as your own parents have no issue what the race of religion of your friends or boyfriend are, there shouldn't be a problem. Just hang in there. Looks are never the real issue. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. That means for example,that some guy my daughter finds cute, I may not think so, or if I were her age again, I wouldn't be attracted and all that matters is that she be attracted to him. There is never someone too ugly or unattractive to every male on the planet. It doesnt exist. If someone tells you that, it's a lie. So hold your head up, enjoy being you and don't change anything about you. Someday the right guy will notice. In high school most guys don't know what they want yet. Neither myself nor my 3 daughters ever had a boyfriend in school, we all had some male friends but not boyfriends. And we all did okay. We weren't lacking anything and actually avoided a lot of the immature drama of highschool dating. Good luck.
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You will have a boyfriend eventually, guys are just lame, and it could be many things. dont know what you look like, but you are not ugly. You are a beautiful human being, and dont let any guy change that image. be yourself, and some day some guy will love you for that.
hope this helps~
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