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I am currently I a relationship with a girl which has been going on for about a year and a half. She is from Norway and is currently at her home for Christmas. She will be back in January.

I have recently started thinking about breaking up with her and I can't seem to understand why. She is probably the cutest girl I've ever met and nice but for some reason she's not what I want.

The only thing that's stopping me from ending it right now is that I don't want to hurt her. I could easily stay with her and keep it going and I'd be content with that but that is not the right choice.

I really don't know why I feel like this and I just want some advice on how I should deal with the situation. (link)
Don't feel like you have to wait or you will give away a lot of your life. You will have missed opportunities. I mean maybe take a break and if she comes back and you still want her great, but its not fair to you or her to have to wait, what if she found someone out there is it fair for her to feel guilty ? try flipping the situation around and think about how you would feel and you would just want her to be happy right?


i don't want to do sex with my boy friend because i am always so scare about sex. (link)
Just make sure he knows you don't want it. If he cares he should respect your decision.



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My boy friend and I have been dating for around 4 months now.. And we are in a long distance relationship. Things have been good between us since then.
I had some important exams last week, and my schedule was pretty crazy and I couldn't talk to him much... The communication was minimal.
After my exams ended,I feel things are not the same with us.
He has an exam on the 5th so I decided to give him some space like how he did when I had my exams.
Then we had this conversation :
Him : why do we hardly text these days?
Me : you have your exams coming up and I wanted to make sure that I give you space like how you did when I had my exams.
Him : I find it extremely odd that you are giving me space when I haven't even asked for it.
Me : I will not unless you ask for it.


After this conversation, things were okay with us and we spoke like how we used to previously..
But today, he didn't text me unless I did it first and asked him how his preparations were.. He said they were okay and I asked him if he had a busy day.. He said no... I was wondering why would wouldn't he text me if he wanted more communication?
Im confused .. Am I over reacting here??
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Maybe its just the stress but I know how you feel with the distancing it hurts but sometimes guys just need a minute for them. And texting isn't a great way of communicating ina relationship if you feel like you have a problem with him just be straight up and tell him .


So I am in my late 20s, i'm a little overweight, partly due to some medication I am on. My doctor says this is normal. I am able to run, walk long distances without puking, passing out etc. Every year when I get my physical and bloodwork done, everything comes back perfect.

My mother treats me like I weigh 600 pounds. She is constantly judging what I eat and making comments about it. I am at the point where I feel extremely uncomfortable eating around her or going out with her. I am comfortable in my own skin but she obviously despises how I look, and has made some pretty nasty comments. I've told her that I'm happy with how I am but she constantly tries to make me see nutritionists or try fad diets.

How can I make her understand that what she is doing is hurtful and depressing? (link)
You can never force someone to change I hate to say this but some people are just jerks. And yes some people even FAMILY can be the bullies but don't let her get you down. She may be projecting her anger on you. She sees what she hates in herself and is pushing it on you. Or maybe she blames herself for you not being the image she wants. But honestly she isn't worth listening to you know? You do you ...Be happy because somewhere out there someone has it worse cancer, death of friends and family, and im not saying that just to say it im saying it because your biggest critic is yourself and something like this shouldn't even phase you :) be strong




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