Dear Readers:
I think my life experience is what qualifies me to write this column. I made every mistake imaginable. But have learned from them. Most important I still remember what it was like to be 12, 13, 14, 15, and so on. Currently I am a single mom, I have two wonderful boys. One in college. We are all happy emotionally. We love life, and know that you can too. I try to be the kind of parent that understands. I know that I can help you to understand where you parents are coming from, and help you get over the difficulties of being young. You can even have your parents write to me and I will help them to get over their fears and at least respect you and your feelings. I have been married and divorced twice, so I have experience in that field also. But now I own my own home, and my own business and am successful. Lots of luck to you! Hope to hear from you.
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So, I recently joined a gym and started eating healthier, I cut out fizzy drinks and sugary snacks, however, I can't seem top stop snacking on other things.
I won't even be hungry, but I'll still end up eating something, and this is preventing weight loss.
Are there any tips to on how I can resist snacking, or something to distract me from it?
Oh, and don't just say "Drink water" because I do that anyway..
Thanks :) (link)
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I have been using Hoodia Gorini, and I really like it. It has not side effects, and does not make you nervous. Swanson's Vitamins is the best website I have found it for the best price. Some websites want to charge as much as $70.!!!. Swanson's has it for $14.99.
What the Hoodia does is give you the will power NOT to snack. That is what it is doing for me. And I lost 5 lbs in 2 weeks. I don't even think of food. I don't get those hunger pains in my stomache. And as long as I stay busy, I don't think of food. Of course I do eat because I want to stay health. Get a bottle and follow the directions. Since you are already working out at the gym, you'll see fast results.
Good luck.
- Michele
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ok so basically this is how it went.
I got off my period, a week later I was having sex with my fiance. He pulled out and came on my vagina, not in it but on it. I rubbed it a litle. Later on, during the week I believe I've been ovulating, I had sex with him and he pulled out and ejaculated on me and I rubbed it in me. I am 23 years old, have my own house and we're gettin married soon, so please don't lecture me (no offence). I just want to know, even though he didn't come in me but I still rubbed and fingered the sperm in me during my ovulation time, can I still get pregnant like if he did come in me? (link)
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Yes. I think you are saying that you had some of the sperm on your fingers, and you placed your fingers inside your vagina. Then yes, I believe that you could get pregnant that way.
So if you guys are smart enough that he ejaculates OUTSIDE of your vagina. (which is not foolproof, but it works most of the time) then don't be foolish and insert the sperm back inside with your fingers.
Unless of course, you want to get pregnant.
But sounds like your boyfriend does not, because it is infinitly more pleasurable for him to ejaculate inside you. So if he is taking precautions to ejaculate outside. You should respect that, and try not to get any sperm inside of you. Getting pregnant should be a mutual decision.
- Michele
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hey i cannot stop masturbating and i need help. I dont finger I just rub ... BUT i want 2 stop cause it is almost 24/7 now!.....also i want to know the risks of masturbating! like the effects.. BUT i am a virgin and i have never had Se x. So what are my odds and how can i stop doing it?? ANSWER A>S>A>P PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
F/15 (link)
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Masturbating is not unhealthy in itself, but doing it instead of socializing, being with friends, being with family, doing your school work, etc. THAT is not healthy. If you masturbate each night, after you have gone to bed and after you have taken care of all your responsibilities, then that is no problem.
So are you doing it instead of being involved in life?
I know it feels good, but so does the love and devotion of family and friends. If that is a problem in itself, then that is probably why you are masturbating so much.
Don't let other peoples problems ruin your life.
You know you cannot have a normal life which would involve love, working, play and enjoyment if you spend all your time doing that. You'll miss so much more. You'll miss things that will make you a complete person. A happy person. Well adjusted and involved with friends and loved ones and a career.
Look around at all the adults in your life. (Maybe not those closest to you) If they spent as much time as you do masturbating, they would not be doing things like being your teacher, being your doctor, being the person who fixes your mom's car, makes your dog well when he is sick. Those people took the time to learn and grow and sure maybe some of them also masturbate. And also liked it just as much as you do. But they got busy doing and learning things that gave them more opportunities for their total life. Their adult life. Yes, you'll be there some day. You need something to show for it.
Hope this helps.
- Michele
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Iam an graduate in B.Sc biotech doing MBA in a college in chennai(India). This is my second year of graduation and i have to opt any one as specialisation from HR, MARKETING, FINANCE & SYSTEMS. My field of interest is HR. But many of my friends and professors says there is not much scope for HR professionals and guided me to choose some others since it will decide my future career opportunities and growth and also says HR jobs will be monotonous and it will not have any challenging works. Iam in a confused state of mind whether to choose the subject on my field of interest or go for some other option. Kindly guide me to choose best option and also tell me about its carrer prospects and growth. (link)
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YOu don't say where you will be working. IN the US or in India. If you work in the US, HR could be interesting, because there are so many damn laws governing what people can and cannot do during work hours. With large, and I mean very large companies, HR is a very important position, BUT....you'll be dealing with humans when they are at their worst behavior. Or you'll be laying people off. Not a fun task. I have done both HR and accounting, (in the US.) And I'll take accounting any day. Sooner or later the numbers are going to come out right and you'll accomplish your task. SUCCESS. In HR, sometimes to be successful means you make other people unhappy. Some tasks are distasteful, and all you can wish for is that they will be over soon.
Hope this helps
Michele
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17/f
i need some tips for spicing up make out sessions with my boyfriend of six months.
i usually lightly bite his lip sometimes.
sometimes when things start heating up i sit backwards in his lap with my legs spread around his waist. then i softly grind against his parts. then the kissing heats up a whole lot.
i'd just like a few tips to turn both of us and make it more enjoyable instead of the same thing every time. i don't want him to get bored. anything? thanks. (link)
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You know that place where his neck meets his shoulder? Bite him lightly right there. On either or both sides. In between the clavical bone and the shoulder muscle.
- Michele
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hey
im 17 and i weigh 115 and im 5'1
yes i know im skinny just my tummy is not flat
i eat small and hralthy meals i run everymorning
can someone teach me how to get a flatt tight tummyy
i do situps and such doesnt work...
yhankss (link)
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You have to work on your "core" muscles to help flatten your stomach. I have been following this great work out CD by Ken Kihiu, called DanceXfitness. Two of the exercises have really helped me to pull in my stomache muscles ( and I'm over 50 yrs old!).
The hula hoop exercise and the dance called the twist. If you don't know how to do these, ask somone over 50. DO them right ,and you'll tighten your stomache.
- Michele
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last week, I found this stray kitten. I immediately fell in love with him. we took him home, and decided to give him to my best friend. the kitten loved my best friend, and adapted to his room quickly. unfortunately, they suddenly decided they can't keep him anymore. so the kitten is back at my house. my mother wants to give him away to her friend - but it was me who rescued him, and who lives in my room. nobody is his official owner, there are no papers signed, but I really need ownership over this cat - I have no idea how to do that though, or even if you can. I need ownership so he can be mine, and my mother can't just give him away to whoever she wants. I turn 15 in a few weeks. thanks. (link)
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There is not much you can do. The kitten will be living in your mother's house. The person who owns the house makes the decision. You can only keep the kitten if your mother agrees. But maybe if you lay low, keep the kitten out of her sight, maybe she won't get around to calling her friend and trying to get rid of it. If you work to make sure that you are the kitten's caretaker, and you mom does not have to get involved, then maybe she will agree. You change the litter box, and you brush the cat so she leaves less hair around and if there is any way you can help to pay for cat food. AND, most important, you tell your mom that you will save up the money to get the cat spayed or neutered when it is old enough. That shows that you are a responsible pet owner and do not want to end up with 6 - 8 more kittens that your mom and you will have to find homes for. And please for the sake of your kitten, please have her/him neutered or spayed.
- Michele
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Okay, I haven't done this for awhile, but here goes...
I am home schooled, have not gone to school, and have not graduated.
I need to get this taken care of...
So, I need to either get on a Website that let's me earn my Diploma, or go into Michigan Works and get my GED...
But, I guess what I'm getting at is: Do you or have done any of this. And if so, I would appreciate some input...
Thanks! (link)
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You say you are home schooled, then if you were home schooled properly then you should have a high school diploma, but if your parents did not follow thru, then I don't think it is too late. You are 18 and an adult. You should contact the adult education department in your State. The one closest to you. All the big cities have them. You may be able to go in and just take the test to get your high school diploma. If you haven't had enough home schooling then you may have to take more classes. They will be able to tell you what you are eligible for after they get all of your information. And the first advicinator is correct, you can still go to college once you have either the diploma or the GED certificate. If you did not take your SAT's perhaps you should do that also, if you want to go to a private college, You won't need to take SAT;s if you go to a community college. Which I highly recommend because you'll save money onthe first two years of a four year degree if you attend a community college first. Good grades will get you into a private university or state college, after you complete two years in community college.
Hope this helps.
- Michele
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15/f
this is a VERY long story, but im gonna try to lay this out as short as possible and please, im desperate here, you have NO clue what i've been through these past few months, and i need all the help i can get..
last year i met a REALLY sensative guy. he was 16, about to be 17, and i was 14.. he was soooo shy, hes VERY insecure. when we first started dating, all he said to me was how i saved him and pulled him out of his misery because he has had no luck with relationships and was treated like shit by girls his whole life. hes not even that cute and popular, and i have a waaay higher social status in my grade/ school then he does in his grade.. but ive been known to have wierd taste and i can look beyond looks and things like that very easily. i think when we first started dating him i was just excited over the fact that he had a car and he was a junior and i was only a freshmen.. but i actually did end up falling in love with him. and he was COMPLETELY in love with me. we lost our virginities to eachother and ill tell you, im smart, and not at all a bit naiive.. i knew this kid loved me. & we did NOT have a sex based relationship whatsoever.. we became eachothers best friends. both of us lost all of our other friends because we were only with eachother 24-7. he called my mom 'mom' and i did the same with his mom.. we were incredibly close.. and sense he was older, i felt so comftorbal and secure with him, and i went to him with all my problems, and he would help me.. ive been suffering from depression for years and me and my mother never had a good relationship, and my father left me, and i was molested as a baby.. but when i was with him, he made me feel so comftorbal. we told eachother EVERYTHING. and i was postive he was there to stay. he promised me forever every single day. we dated for a year. i messed it up, biggest mistake of my entire life.. he started getting very annoying and up my ass. you know when youre in a bad mood and you just want to be left alone? well he would never leave me alone. he'd be like 'its okay babe i love you' bla bla. all mushy, when i just want to be mad!. i tried talking to him about this many times and all he could say was im sorry i just love you soooo much i cant help it.. all my friends called him whipped cream and everything.. it was BAD. but anyways, one night i was out with my friends the day before a cheer competition, and my ex was there.. and somewhere along the lines, we kissed.. my boyfriends friend was there and told him that if i didnt tell him, he was going to.. i knew he wasnt going to break up with me or anything.. so i told him.. but the thing is.. i think i was looking for a fight with him because our relationship was so boring. when i told him, it pissed me off how he was crying instead of being mad, yelling at me. so i started saying things to make him mad.. i said TERRIBLE things. like i was gonna keep cheating on him because he basically lets me, and how i know i take advantage of him because he trusts me so much but i shouldnt.. and he was like well maybe i have to break up with you then.. and he was like i really dont want to. and i was like fine just do it idont care! yelling at him and stuff.. and then he did. i was thinking we would get back together in a couple weeks.. so after we broke up, we still talked because we obv. still loved eachother and everything. we acted like we were going out, and we even 'hooked up' a few times.. but when he asked me back out, i kept saying no, i wasnt ready.. because the relationship was SOOO akward after we broke up.. he was acting so different. and i knew why. it was because i broke his heart. and i did, bad. so one day after we hooked up, my friend told me that her brother saw my 'boyfriend, x-boyfriend, whatever u wanna call him' at a store.. and he was saying how he was done with me and he was trying to get with this new girl 'leesh'.. i was FURIOUS. i called him up screaming at him asking for all my stuff back and it was over for good and everything. but really, i wanted an appology from him, not my stuff back. btw, i was very remorsful for cheating on him and saying what i said to him, i mustve appologized a million times.. but he didnt say anything, he justgave me all my stuff back and acted like it was nothing.. and then i kept trying to get him back, but he kept rejecting me. i was litterally down on my knees for this kid. until one day i found out he had a girlfriend. not just some girl.. the girl who dates ALL the boys that i date after me.. but thats a whole nother story.. anyways, i was devistated. i couldnt eat, i couldnt talk, i couldnt sleep, i couldnt go to school,, nothing. all i did was cry and cry and cry and cry. i tried talking to him seeing if we could be friends and stuff, but he hates me now. if i send him one text, he shuts his phone off. he goes all different ways in the halls so i dont have to see him in school, he wont even look my way. he saw me practically drown in my own tears and he didnt even care. i wrote him long long letters, i tried everything i could just to be able to talk to him when i need to, so i wouldnt be so hurt about the situation.. now, i have two weeks left of school and im failing 4 classes.. and im an honors student. i DONT fail. its not me. and im grounded because of it, so i cant even go out and try to forget it. its been sense thhe end of february... and still,all i can think about is killing myself.. people say they are heart broken.. but this gives heart broken a new definition. there is litterally a hole in my chest. and i keep getting maaaassive anxiety attacks in class, and i do go to counceling wich is sort of helpful but we mostly talk about my parents.. three days ago, she broke up with him. and he was very upset from what i heard.. he hasnt tried talking to me or anything but i dont know what to do, i want to talk to him but he'll just ignore me.. i love this kid and care about him with my life. today i thought i was going to DIE. it was the last day of school for the seniors. the last time ill EVER see him again. the last time ill ever get to look for him i the halls so i can walk by him.. that was the only time i ever got to see him, and today was my last day. and when i walked by him for the very last time of my life today, he didnt even look at me. it was so painful. he couldnt even have the heart to say bye to me considering im his first love and helll never see me again. i havent been able to stop crying sense i last saw him. i dont even know what to do with my life any more. someone PLEEEEEASE tell me what to do to get him back. ANNYTHING. I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP. we had such a good relationship till i cheated and we Never ever had one fight. but you dont even understand. this kid wouldnt even look at any other girls, deleted all the girls in his phone book, couldnt go an hour without texting me just saying he loved me, couldnt go a day withouth seeing me, brought me flowers randomly, did EVERYTHING for me. how can you love someone so much and go through everything we've been through together, and then just completely shut them out of your life? (link)
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Dear 15F
There is no quick fix for this, but if you can be patient. My advice is to stay away, and do NOT try to contact him, to not text him or go to his face book page, or try to run in to him.(believe me, he will be wondering why you haven't been trying to see him.) Then in about 6 months or so, make plans to some how run into him. Make sure you arrange to be SEEN by him. Look your absolute best. And be like..."oh Hi, how are you." And just get a conversation going. Act confident, and more mature. Like that person who was all busted up over the break up is long gone and you are more mature and less emotional. Believe me he will ONLY remember the good times and not the bad times. And he'll have had more experience with girls and know that at your ages, it is hard to know exactly what you want, and sometimes you/we/he get confused and do and say things that we are sorry for later. You'll both be older and more mature and more experienced in affairs of the heart, and maybe ready to try again. And this time be NICE.
Hope this helps.
- Michele
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soo im perfectly find with my weight, i just have hips that i would prefer to be a bit smaller. i do work out regularly, but i dont know how to target them.
are there any exercises that specifically target the hips ?
thanks (link)
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Yoga lengthens the muscles rather than bulk them up, and there are specific yoga exercises for the hip area. Look into that. Pilates may work too.
You can find some yoga exercises on youtube.
- Michele
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why do guys give us the silent treatment? It has happened once I told him its a pet peeve of mine that he didnt mean to do it just had a lot on his mind, but its been 3 days since ive heard from him. whats the deal? (link)
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They do that because it is awkward for them to tell you their real feelings. They are afraid that their real feelings will show if they have a conversation with you.
Perhaps he liked you more a week or so ago, and now his feelings have changed. But he gave you the impression that he liked you more, and you welcomed the attention. Maybe now his feelings have changed, but it is awkward to talk about. Think if the tables were turned, and you and a boy were close, but now you only wanted him as a friend. How would you act. Because you don't want to lead him on, or give him the impression that the relationship can ever be more than friendship, you may find it easier just to ignore the guy.
Let's face it, it is the easy way out.
If you just want to be friends, and want him to get over worrying about how you'll react to his suddend coldness towards you. The I suggest you just be friendly whenever you see him. Don't act like his coldness really matters at all to you, because you didn't want more than friendship in the first place.
Even is you did, you can't make anyone do or feel anything they don't want to. But friendships can turn into more. So remaining friends should be your goal. Then be patient. The more comfortable he is around you, the more less he will ignore you.
Hope this helps.
- Michele
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I live in Ontario, Canada. Any regulations I bring up are specific to my location.
I'm working for a very small telecommunications company, and I really like my employers. I signed on as a part time employee, but asked for full time hours. They managed to find full time, plus some! I'm really grateful for what they've done. Not only did they find more hours for me, but they've also got me working from home during the week.
Sounds great, right? Here's the problem...I've been looking into the labour regulations for my province and there are a few issues:
1. I should be paid about $0.50 per hour more than what I'm getting now, according to the homeworker's minimum wage(as long as I'm working from home). No biggie, right? So I'm not too worried about it.
2. I should be entitled to overtime pay. So far over the last 5 days, I've worked over 50 hours already, and it'll probably be 60 hours by the time I'm done for this week. That's a lot of money I'm missing out on (not to mention sleep!)
I really like my employers, and they are paying me out of their own pockets. Thing is, I don't want to be taken advantage of. I also don't want to lose the overtime hours I'm getting because they don't have overtime pay budgeted in. I feel sort of stuck here. I know that they can't fire me for bringing it up, but it would still be really awkward to demand more of them after all they've done for me.
Does anyone have any advice for how to bring legal regulations up to a small employer?
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Well I am not from Canada, so I must assume that the laws are similar. And yes you are right, they should be complying with minimum wage laws and with overtime pay laws. And you do have rights. You could get them in trouble. And while they may not be able to fire you, because of whistle blower laws, they can cut back your hours again. You did mention that overtime is NOT in the budget, and if you know that it must be because they wanted you to know this information. YOu also mentioned that you NEED these extra hours.
But let me me ask this. If you knew FOR SURE, that your hours would be cut back to part time, if they were forced to pay you at minimum wage and at the overtime rate.......would you still insist that you be paid according to the labor laws? If you answer is "a hesitant" no. Then maybe what needs to happen is that all the cards be put on the table.
I think you would want #1. for them to know that you are aware that the laws require a different rate of pay.
#2, that you are really happy that they gave you the extra hours (that you asked for)
#3. That you are looking forward to the day when they can pay you in accordance with the laws, which will be fair to you, and decreases their chances of getting in trouble.
Make it clear that you are not the person who will be filing a claim. But they still run the risk of getting caught.
This way, the whole issue is out in the open, and while you are helping them out now, but working all these hours at a rate that works for them, you expect that when things are better, that they will bring your wages into compliance with the laws in your area.
The sooner the better. Maybe they will even be agreeable to setting a time frame that you can live with.
Hope this helps.
- Michele
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i woke up on sunday morning and my foot was really hurting. i couldnt even walk on them without severe pain shooting up my leg. i looked at it later and my last two toes are waaaaay swollen. they are still swollen now, and i dont think the swelling is going down at all.
does anyone know whats going on with me? (link)
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Well you don't say how old you are. If you are young and eat healthy, most of the time, it could be a spider bite. But if you are say over 21 and eat a diet high in fat and alcohol, beer especially, it could be gout.
You'll have to look up the symptoms of gout, and see if they match. Gout can cause swelling, it often shows up in the toes and it is very painful.
If you think it is gout, then you should change your diet.
- Michele
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Im pregnant, and my boyfriend doesn't want the baby, neither do I, but he would like me to get an abortion, and I don't believe in that. What should I do?
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Honey,
If you don't believe in abortion, then you should not let anyone pressure you into having one. You'll feel worse later. But please consider adoption. That would be the best thing for the child, and for you. Because if you are not ready, taking care of a little baby is a lot of work, and it sound like you'll be on your own. Doing all that work, and you life as you know it will be over.
There are families looking for unborn babies that will help and support you throughout the pregnancy. Please consider adoption.
Then please take precautions to prevent pregnancy again. And if your boyfriend is not on board with that, then it would be in your best interest to dump him.
Good luck to you and the baby
- Michele
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So yea.. my last period was on march 26th.
Ive been taking birthcontrol since thursday april 9th..
I still havent gotten my period.. its already april 29th.. is there something wrong?
Im not pregnant..I took a pregnancy test yesterday.. its negative (:
...and when i do get my period.. so i take the brown pills? or do i keep taking the white pills? (link)
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If you don't start taking the brown pills you won't get your period. If you started the pills correctly, by starting with the white pill, on the last day of your period, then in 28 days you should be out of white pills, then you start taking the brown. Then you should get your period.
The brown pills have really no use except to keep you in the habit of taking a pill every day.
But you must stop the white to get your period.
So, now you should stop the white, and once you get your period, start the white again on the 5th day, then take 28 white pills, then start the brown, you'll get your period, then on the 5th day, or when the brown pills are gone, start the white again.
I hope this is clear.
- Michele
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I'm 19 and my older brother killed himself back a year ago and since then everything has been going down hill in my life. Ive lost my car, haven't been able to find any type of work and recently had to leave the college I was attending due to financial problems. Besides the fact that my mom has been a violent alcoholic my entire life and my father doesn't exist,Ive always managed to be a person who sees things from a positive point of view, but over the past few months I've been feeling alone and like my life isn't worth living anymore and like things will never get better I just don't see the point in living at all. Each day is more stressful and painful and im not sure if I can take another day. I don't want to kill myself because I know it isn't right but I'd rather not feel this pain any longer. What can I do? (link)
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The answers the other advice givers gave were great. They gave good advice. I just want to add, that maybe you could find some volunteer work to do. Working with kids or with animals. That is about all there is out there now. I know there are not jobs. And a job would be a great help. But sometimes volunteer work can lead to a paying job.
Search on volunteer work in your area on google.
Check out the animal shelters. Sometimes the state governments hire kids to work at the national parks in the summers. Keep looking and hand in there. It does get better.
Good luck to you
- Michele
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Hey everyone. 19/male here.
My girlfriend (18) and I have been going out for almost 8 months, and so far we have mostly had fun. This has been my first serious relationship and I am completely in love with her. We do fight somewhat often, but we usually manage to work it out and make up. Unfortunately, we both have different goals for both the summer and for the future... she wants to move out by the end of the summer because she can't stand her family and needs to get her own space and be her own person. She says this is a necessity and she has to do it with or without me. I originally told her I was on board, but after really thinking about that I don't know if i'm ready, or if I can take a semester off of college to work to make the money to move out. I've already told her this and she became extremely upset, and we both don't know what to do. We both love each other very much and are extremely attached but have different goals. I know if we broke up we both would be devastated severely. While I have considered it I feel like I could never do it because I care and love her so much. I guess my question is basically, what should I do....? (link)
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You are in a tough position. But it could get worse if you let your anxiety over upsetting her, control you actions. I have been where she is. When I was 18, I left home too, and I did not have the support of a nice guy like you. My home life was horrible, and I needed to get out. But it was my problem. I had to resolve it myself, or I wouldn't have overcome the negativeness of my up bringing. Oh I would have jumped at the chance to move in with a young man like you, but it would have ended in disaster. Whenever something went wrong I would have expected him to fix it. You are only 19, you don't have the experience or the funds to fix every problem that will come up. And there will be problems. I completely understand her wishes to be free of her family. And I agree, and you probably agree too. But for her to expect you to fix it by moving in with her and providing financial support, that is not fair to you. And too much to expect at this time. You have plans for college, you need to keep those plans. That way you'll have financial security in your future. You are not the cause of her problems at home. She has to find a better way to deal with her family, or move out on her own and support herself. (Accomplishing this will give her a lot of confidence in herself and her abilities. )
She may not be able to afford to move out without your help. And that is too bad, but she will just have to be patient. Maybe she could find some girls to share a place with. That would be a good option.
In the mean time, you can be supportive emotionally and generous with your time. That is all that she should expect from you at this time.
If she cannot understand this, then she may have a controlling type of personality, and will want to control more and more of your actions in the future. If she needs to control your behavior in order to be happy.....then neither one of you will be happy.
Bottom line....while she may be upset when you tell her no, that you will not be moving out and in with her, she should come around and be understanding. If she gives you an ultimatum and threatens to break it off with you....then let it go. In time you will see that you made the right decision.
Good luck to you.
- Michele
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ok, so people get STD's when they have sex with someone who is STD positive. But, like, where does thaat person get the STD? You can say that if they were sexually active with someone in the past, that they could have contracted the disease from them. But what I'm saying is, everyone who has an STD couldn't have gotten it from having sex; there has to be a beginning to this. I was thinking that possibly a person can be a carrier of an STD, and not be affected by it. Hence my question, can one get an STD from having sex with a virgin? (link)
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There are three types of STD's. Bacterial, Viral and well, the live ones, like crabs, or lice.
Bacterial, STD's, if caught in time, can be cured easily with anti=biotics. When not caught in time, like syphilus, can cause brain damage and even death. Viral STD's like herpes, and HIV-AIDS, once you get them, you have them for life. The herpes virus lives in your system and can rear it's ugly head in times of stress, or as an alergic reaction to something you are eating, or taking. People can be carriers of any of these STD's and NOT have any symptoms, and yet still pass it on. Bacterial STD's like gonnoreah, and syphillus, will cause pain and inflammation. You'll know eventually for sure that something is wrong and you'll need to see a doctor to get anti-biotics. With Viral STD's, you could have caught one, but it may not appear right away.
When it comes to STD's (all of them) they are living organisms, they know what they like. They go where they will best survive. For example, you won't get gonnoreah in your chest or nasal cavities. Cause gonnoreah won't prosper there. They like the reproductive organs of both men and women. And you won't get a cold in your reproductive organs, because cold viruses are happier in your nose or chest.
Bacteria and viruses have been on this earth longer that humans, they always find a way to survive. Hope this helps and is not too confusing.
- Michele
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does anyone know any FREEEEEE antivirus softwares that i can download? window's keeps telling me that i've been struck by a virus and i've been getting a tonnn of popups. pleasee help, thank you! :) (link)
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Try AVG, they have a free and a pay for one.
I use the free one. Just go to google and type in AVG free anti-virus software.
For that matter, you can go to google and just type in free anti-virus software and you'll see a few of them. There are more than one. Spy-bot is another one, and you can find one at lavasoft.com
Hope this helps
=Michele
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I am thinking about majoring in accounting soon. Can experieced Accounting majors or people that are in accounting now give me some insight on what to expect? Is it hard? Is it time consuming? etc, thing like that. Thanks (link)
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I am an accountant. And I do love it. I love working with money, with numbers. Getting everything to balance. Listen I am not good at math,(some people always think so) Because I just add and subtract, and I always use a calculator.
I also learned to do tax returns. I started by doing tax returns for all my friends. Then I started my own business. bookkeeping and taxes. I do tax returns on the side, because I have a full time job as a controller for a manufacturing company. The extra money comes in handy. People think I am so smart because so many people don't want to take the time to understand money and finance. I have made smart decisions in my life about money. I own my own home, and I raised two boys by myself. With an accounting degree you could become a CPA, or you could work as a controller for a private company. Some companies have one person who is the financial officer, while others have dozens and dozens. You also have to be good with computers because all accounting is done on computers today, but when I started, I did it all by hand in ledger books. That is still the way they teach it in college.
I like computerized accounting software much better. Accountants, once they have experience and are established can make fro $60K to $85K annually. Starting out from collge you should be able to get a job paying $28 to 30K.
Hope this helps.
- Michele
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