Hi, my names Melanie.
I'm fifteen years old.
I love fashion, hanging out with my friends,
and drawing and writing along with a bunch of other stuff.
I used to have an old account here that was quite known for awhile,
but I sort of just lost touch with it,
so I decided to make a new one.
I'll try and help you the best I can,
just hopefully I didn't lose touch with my good advice, haha.
And feel free to IM me with your problem too.
I also put my myspace in a link down below,
if you ever want to add me & talk.
But incase you don't see it or something, it's:
www.myspace.com/themelinat0r
Website: my myspace!
E-mail: melledisko@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Pittsburgh
Occupation: student.
Age: 15
AIM: mel le disko
Member Since: July 2, 2006
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okay so..this is probably going to be long. sorry!. but anyways umm one day at school i was walking and then this guy was walking with his friend (btw were all in the same grade(10th) as far as i know) so i was walking by them and the guy pushed his friend into me..?( i dont know why) and then again today i was walking to my bus and this other friend of the guy just came up to me and like hugged me, his friend was like im cold then he hugged me.( came out of nowhere, theyre really random) i dont know why i dont even know the guy and his friends. it seems to me that theyre like picking on me =[ and i dont know why. i hate being picked on this has never happened to me or are they just kidding around? but why would they joke around i dont even know their names and who they are. do they seem like theyre picking on me or because one of the guys friend like me or the guy likes me? but i mean i dont know why they would like(crush on me) me im average looking im not pretty and tall. im just average an average looking girl, average height, im quiet, not TOO quiet, people say that im really nice =] i dont know why theyre doing this they dont know me. please help cause i dont know what random thing theyre going to do next. i dont wanna be embarassed i mean i dont wanna tell my parents or my counselor about this cuz it will cause drama and i hate being in dramas. please please help me!! theyre so immature cause were in 11th grade. (link)
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Haha, trust me, guys will be and always are going to be slightly immature no matter what age they are. Especially if they're still in High School. They were probably just joking around. Guys love to grab attention from girls and goof around and show that they're funny and daring infront of the guys.
It may be that one of their guy friends likes you, and just because you think you're "average" looking might not mean you really are! You may be very pretty, and the guys are catching onto it. Trust me, if they were picking on you, tehy'd be insulting you or something not hugging you and pushing guys into you ( which is normally signs of flirting anyways ).
I have this current situation somewhat. My brother whose now in college left a very popular uh, name back at the high school and now that I'm in it, all his friends who are still in high school call me "youthful ( my last name )" ALL THE TIME. No matter where I am, the mall, the movies, school, AT MY HOUSE, I always hear some of his friends if they're near me calling em that name and they'll talk to me and be like,"whats up, youthful? how're you doing? thats goooodd." in sort of a joking voice. They find it hysterical, so it seems to me sometimes like they're making fun of me too, but I just figure it's guys being guys, and they're finding it hilarious so whatever. I've learned to poke fun at it. And I start laughing whenver they call me it or I turn around and am like,"yessss? :]" so maybe start to hug them back or crack a joke every once in awhile. Get better accquainted with them so it doesn't seem as weird because you don't know them or anything.
Who knows? You might make some new friends out of the situation and maybe even a new boyfriend if you're interested in any of them. :)
I hope I helped.
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15/F
In the past I have had some huge fights and lost my best friends and never talked to them again. This recently happened for the 3rd time over a misunderstanding but when some really hurtful things were said to me, I decided not to talk to the person again. This person is Abby. It has been almost two weeks since our fight and I can tell she wants to be friends again.
She really hurt me and said she never liked me anyways, just after saying we were best friends. I know she could do this again and another conflict would start, but I really miss how much fun we had together. As it is right now I don't go out on weekends anymore because I'm excluded from everything.
Should I forgive her just so we can have fun together again? My other friend says I am crazy for even considering forgiving her.
Thanks (link)
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Well if you're thinking about forgiving her still, I would just seriously have a majorly serious talk with her about the whole situation and everything that was said and thought and felt and just try and resolve it and talk about what's going to happen with you guys in the future.
No matter what, she must apologize and be truely sorry. If I was you in this situation, I could never be friends with her until she apologized and I knew she really meant it and that she really misses me.
But also, ask her while you two are talking if this is probably ever going to happen again, because if it is, you don't know if you want to try and become friends again just to be disappointed and be argueing with her all over again, it's really not that worth it.
So talk to her, make sure this isn't going to repeat itself and that you two'll be good friends again and have a good time together.
I'm one of those people who forgive, but never forget. So if this girl does it again, then I wouldn't continue being friends with her and give her another shot. I also believe in second chances, but if she thinks she can do it ANOTHER time and STILL be your friend, she has another thing coming.
So like I said, talk to her, see where it goes from there.
I hope I helped.
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I am 25 years old, i am currently on birth control (iud) is it possible that i can be pregnant, my last menstrual was 11/03/2006 (link)
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No matter what form of protection you take, there's always a slight chance of becoming pregnant ( unless you got your tubes tied or something which I don't think you want to do haha ).
But I really wouldn't worry all too much. The pill is 99.9% effective, and where the pill won't help, if you just use a condom, it'll help protect you even more. Double-protection is always the best way to go to prevent pregnancy.
Also, there may be multiple reasons why your periods late. Sometimes they can just tend to be irregular, one time I didn't get my period all month, it just skipped a month ( know I WOULD'VE been worried I was pregnant but I knew I wasn't cause I haven't had sex yet, lol ). So just wait a little while longer. Also, are you getting worried and majorly stressed about this? Stress can actually also cause your period to become somewhat late. THis happened to my friend she thought she was pregnant because her period became late and she got even MORE worried and stressed out and it made it even later. So like the others suggested, just wait it out a little longer, and then if you still don't have your period, you can always go p urchase a pregnancy test at the drugstore or wherever or go to the clinic and get it done there if you feel more comfortable with that.
And always buy a couple tests ; just to make sure they all come out the same. Sometimes one pregnancy test can turn out wrong, so you don't want to be buying just one and thinking you're pregnant or something when you're really not.
I hope I helped.
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I see this phrase on mostly all of my friends AIM profile. (link)
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Usually whenever their profiles say "Via Hiptop" tht means that they're signed onto AIM on their sidekick. You know how whenever people are on their phone, it says in their profile "this person is using a mobile device" or whatever? Well that's just what it says for sidekicks.
But if you know someone whose profile says that, and they don't have a sidekick, they might've just typed it in their profile as a joke or something, but usually, it just means they're on a sidekick. So like I said if they're not, ask them why it says that then and find out cause that's the only reason I know if why it could say that ( unless like I said before, they're doing it as a joke or something ).
I hope I helped.
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okay.. so my friend always talks about this kid.. and my friend told me that she thinks she likes him and she knows i like him too.. and now i just feel so weird having us like the same person and were like bestfriends.. im not sure what to do. stop talking to her? or idk. (link)
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don't stop talking to her. she's your best friend!
now, if i were you, there's two things i would do. i would talk to her about it, definetely, no matter what. it needs to be talked about and you guys need to release your feelings and thoughts to eachother you can't keep it all bottled up and hidden from eachother.
but then you two need to decide what's going to go on from here. are you two going to let some boy who you two'll probably never continue dating throughout school ( i dont want to sound negative, but teenage relationships do tend to end sooner or later ), and then have no shoulder to cry on? no best friend? i don't think so.
or do you two want to be like,"may the best man win". this can somewhat be agood thing cause it shows maturity and that you're not gonna let your friendship get ruined ; but then there's the pain of seeing your friend with the guy you like, which usually results in jealousy and hate and a ruined friendship.
so if you REALLY want my true, true advice, here... i say like i said before, you and your friend talk about it and just get your thoughts and feelings all out there in the open and everything nad let eachother know, and then i would both suggest neither of you go after this guy. if anything, just be friends. like i said, would you both really choose one guy over a best friend?
"guys come and go, but friends are forever".
"chicks before dicks".
i hope i helped.
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Met a really cute guy. We went out couple times. He is smart, cute and nice to me. However, I felt that I'm not into him as much he's into me........I don't want to hurt his feeling if somehow he asks me "the question" one day, but I don't want to pull apart either. What should I do to keep just friend with him? (link)
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If "the question" ever does arise, don't make up something or distract him from the question ; it's better just to say it then then keep him lingering around thinking he still has a chance.
Just in a nice tone, just be like,"I'm sorry, but I really only feel friend vibes between us. Do you think we can be friends?" And see what he says. Seeing as he likes you, and he'd probably rather be friends then nothing, everything'll work out fine.
It may be awkward after if he's all quiet or something around you cause he may feel embrassed or stupid, but it's only going to be awkward if you guys let it be awkward. So try starting conversations with him ; ask him about his day or crack a joke, just make conversation like you guys used to before "the question" came.
And like I said, everything'll work out fine.
I hope I helped.
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im male
16 years old
ok well me and my girlfriend have been together for like a few weeks now and we started out going really fast like making out in my bed and stuff and like all of a sudden she wont let me kiss her goodbye or ne thing ans she sais she wants to slow down is this like a sign she wants to break up with me or sumthin yea i know im a guy and this is prob a stupid question but yea (link)
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This doesn't sound to me like she wants to break up at all. If she wanted to break up with you, she would've broken up with you already.
She really probably does just means what she says. She just wants to slow down. Since you two went off right away with making out and everything, she might feel like this is going way too fast and she doesn't want you thinking she's easy or something and that you two are going to have sex really soon or something. She probably just feels she's giving the wrong impression and wants to give you the right one.
Also she maybe thinking she wants to get to know you better. I don't know about this part, seeing as I don't know you and hers history if you've known eachother along time or just met recently or what, but if you two don't know eachohter ALL that well, she may be feeling instead of making out all the time, she just wants to talk and have a good time and just cuddle maybe and hold hands and whatnot.
But anyways, if it's not the second option, I'm pretty postivie it's the first. But I really think if you want to know the true answer, it's better to ask the source than a stranger. Just ask her what's going on, if she's having second thoughts on being together, or what? And just let her know that she can alwyas talk to you about things if she needs to, and just see what she says and what you two talk about. And see where it goes from there.
I hope I helped.
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the convo between me and my friend in IM
friend: does it matter if i look at his myspace?
friend: NO.
me:iono its your choice
friend: yeah i know
friend: but yer like so surprised
me: wtf im not
friend: yer like REALLY?
friend: WTF?
me: (laughing out loud)
friend: and stop saying WTF
me: noooooooo
friend: say WtH or something
me: wht
me: why*
friend: cuz its not a good habit
me: i like wtf better
friend: just dont use it when yer talking to me
friend: you give me the wrong idea
friend: lke your mad
friend: haha
friend: iono
me: why do you think im mad
friend: cause you say
friend: WTF
me: so?
friend: nvm
what is she trying to say? whats wrong with saying wtf? i mean why does she cares if i say wtf? but is she trying to be a good friend for saying this?
WTF=what the f*ck (link)
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There's nothing really WRONG with saying what the fuck, well I guess there, it's just some peopel find it a bad word and they don't say it, nor do they want to hear it. Your friend just may be one of these people, and you should repsect her wishes and try your best and refrain from using those words around her, and use what the heck instead. If it's not working out all too well at first, its' alright, just let her know you're trying, at least.
I guess she's trying to be a good friend, if you want to call it that. She's not being a bad friend, that's not what I mean, but I guess she might be trying to instill some nicer words for you to use so you don't have such a "dirty mouth". I'm sure she's not trying to be mean by this, so take nothing offensively ; its just those words to her may be bad and she doesn't want to hear them.
I hope I helped.
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Hey
I have this hom work assingment where i have to write a tragdey, meaning it has to have a tragic hero.
I was just wondering what exactly all the elements of a tragdey are so that i can have a through story.
I ave to write it tonight
so any help would be great. (link)
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Here are some sites I found that might help you out:
http://web.cocc.edu/lisal/literaryterms/elements_of_literature.htm
http://faculty.gvsu.edu/websterm/Tragedy.htm
I couldn't really find any other sites,
but I hope those helped you out some.
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I'm 15 in 10th grade and My girlfriend says that she doesn't wanna go out right we should wait a while, she wants to be single, she's not ready for a boy friend, ect. does ths mean she doesnt like me or what i just want kwon because i love her i wanna be with her and i just dont understand could some one pleas help me. (link)
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This doesn't mean she doesn't like you, it means literally what she said. She just doesn't feel like being in a relationship right now at the moment, which actually makes her quite a smart girl. It wouldn't be fair towards you or for her if you guys're dating and she feels she doesn't want to be in a relationship at that moment. You wouldn't want to be dating her, with her feeling that way, would you? I think not.
Trust me, whenever she's ready to date, it'll be great. You just have to wait awhile, if she's worth the wait, that is.
Just don't keep asking her if she's ready to date yet, or try and guilt-trip her into it or push her into it. This is only going to make her upset and feel pressured to do something she's just not ready to do. And this might ruin your chances of dating her in the future.
So like I said, she likes you, and if she's worth the wait, then wait for her. Just keep talking to her, and just flirt with her maybe to just remind her you're still interested and you haven't lost those feelings for her ; but don't lay it on too heavy.
I hope I helped.
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Theres this boy right
and like he used to hate me
Then I guess he got over it becuase He Imed me ONE time
then at school , he talks to me if im around
but he doesnt talk to me online anymore.
Does he still hate me?
ps. before he Imed me ONCE when he hated me, he didnt talk to me in school. (link)
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Well, if this boy is talking to you in school, then I don't think he hates you. If anything, he'd be avoiding you more in school then he would be on the internet.
Guys just aren't into AIM as much as girls can be. We all love to talk on the phone and text all the time and gossip over the internet and whatnot, where as guys usually just hang around on the internet for whenever they're bored and are wanting to play online video games or something. Some guys aren't the biggest conversationalists online, haha. I have a few guys friends who'll just say two things to me and that's it, they're done.
Just continue talking to him in school whenever you can, and just talk to him then. If it's really bugging you that he doesn't talk to you on instant message, then ask him about it and talk to him about it.
I hope I helped.
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ohkay well i was in a clique last year but now the rest of the clique has grown apart from me because i joined a new clique but now i miss the old clique. i mean i still sit at the same lunch table with them, and i talk to them but im never invited to hang out. once i asked if i could go with them but they got kinda pissed because they said "i was inviting myself." i wanna have the same relationship with them as last year. and dont tell me to find new friends because i have a ton of friends besides them and i hang out with my other friends a whole lot, but ive known this crew my whole life since kindergarten and i love them to death. they are NOT bitchy and they arent leaving me out on purpose, ive just kinda grown apart from them since i joined a new clique and they said i betrayed them. i wanna be a member of the clique again and you know how hard it is to get back into it. i wanna be invited to the mall or for a sleepover. i want to be in their aim profile again and see my name in it. i miss the old times and i still wanna hang with my other friends but im truly sure i want my old clique back. what can i do so they will include me again? (link)
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Well like you've been doing, just keep trying to talk to them whenever you're sitting at the lunch table with them. Maybe bring up some past memories and share some laughs with them ; remind them of how much fun everyone all had together before you joined with the other clique. And as you guys are talking, make casual conversation about the mall, or a concert, or just some local get together place, wherever you guys like to hang out. As they make conversation back, instead of inviting yourself somewhere with them, invite them somewhere to hang out with you. Just be like,"Hey, we should all hang out together at the mall sometime. We haven't in so long, and I miss that." And just let them decide how they want to handle this.
You just need to give them time to let you in again and trust you again. You probably really hurt them whenever you left them, and they felt like they got dumped, so to say. Just give them all teh time they need to slowly let you back into all their lives again and just hopefully it goes well and see where it all goes from there. I'm sure once they realize how much you miss them and want to be friends again, they'll be forgiving.
I hope I helped, and I hope everything works out!
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i have a crush on one of my friends named *steve*. one of my best girl-friends and him went out last year but they've been broken up for more than a year now and she says she doesnt like him. but being friends me and this boy will sit on each other at parties and flirt but just in a friendly way. but now i like him. now everytime i start flirting with him my friend will start giving me dirty looks but i had asked her the day before if she liked him and she said no but she gets mad when we flirt. i know that he doesnt like her anymore but my friend will never tell me the truth about her feeling for him. i dont want to hurt her if she still likes him but i feel like she could be holding us back. how am i supposed to deal with her and hint to my friend that my flirting is because i like him? (link)
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Well first of all, I think that's really good you don't want to be hurting your friends feelings, and you don't want to do anything just yet. Most girls'd just be like,"Screw my friend, I want the guy!" Which screws themselves in the end when they wind up with neither.
I think you and your friend should have a serious talk. I would just be like,"Now, honestly, tell me the truth. Do you really like *steve*, or don't you? Please if you do, be honest with me." If she doesn't, then ask her why she gives you looks whenever you start flirting with him. And let her know, that the reason you flirt with him is because you've develop some slight feelings for *steve*. It's best just to say it now and get it out of the way instead of her finding out alot later and get upset that you kept it from her for so long. And see what she says.
If she doesn't like him anymore, then ask her if it's alright with her if the two of them go out possibly. You know it's been a year or so since they've broken up, but you'd still feel alot more comfortable with asking her and letting her know she's alright with it and has given you the "ok" to try and date him.
If she does still like him, talk to her about it and try and just resolve this issue and both of you just let your thoughts and feelings out to eachother. And just listen and understand. Try and help her get over him too. Don't TELL her you're going to help her, but just be there for her and talk to her whenever she needs someone and just try and introduce her to other guys and point some out to her and try and get her back into the game if she's not already. Show her there's plenty of other fish in the sea ; and meanwhile, go reel in the fish that caught on your hook. x]
I'm so corny,
but I hope I helped.
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Well there is this guy and I am totally starting to crush on him and I was just wondering if there is a for sure way to tell if he likes me back!! He is in two of my classes and i am a freshman in high school. Well anyways it seems like he is flirting with me, for instance he usually takes something from me and then he expects me to chase him around to get it back so i dont know if that is a sign because he does it in a sort of flirtacous. Sometimes when i glance over during class to check the clock or something and i will see him quickly glance away when i make eye contact with him when i see him looking my way. In our english class he was also mad because we have to change seats every six weeks and we use to sit next to eachother so he was mad because we werent by eachother anymore. I just really need to know if we have a chance even though we dont really talk outside of english and biology because we dont really see eachother. I really want him to be the one to ask me out or to just hang out so what should I do for him to know I like him back besides just flirting? I am also kind of shy unless u know me pretty well then i am extremly outgoing!haha! Last year I wasnt outgoing around guys but this year i am more chill around them and myself so I really hope that is a good thing. Well anyways i would really appreciate it if u could help me out because i am at a major loss! (link)
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It sounds to me like he likes you. Whenever guys take items from girls, they want the girl giving all her attention to him, and trying to reach over him and grab it or slightly brush against him or something. Also, if he was getting mad you all got moved, that's great ( and adorable )! :]
It sounds to me like you guys have a very good chance together.
Even if you guys don't see eachother after class and everything, doesn't mean you guys can't talk after. Someday while you two are talking during class, you should just ask him for his screename. Be like,"Hey, since we don't get to sit next to eachother anymore which totally sucks, by the way, then do you have a screename or something? Cause then I can just talk to you later. :)" Or something like that.
Other ways to show you're interested instead of flirting are to just make alot of direct eye contact at him and send alot of smiles his way. And just during class show him a tad more attention the you do other people. Don't be like, all over him cause then that'll be obvious, but just talk to him a little more maybe or look at hm a little more ; it'll make him feel special that he's getting more attention then everyone else.
Then as you two keep talking online and get to know eachother even better and you feel more comfortable around him and possibly hanging out with him ; suggest a get together. If you're still too nervous for it to be a one-on-one thing, invite some friends along of a group get together sort of thing, but like I said, still give him the extra attention so he feels wanted and liked and everything, you know?
If you two are talking some day, make conversation about movies or the mall or something or wherever it is you want the two of you to possibly hang out in the future, and whenever he makes a comment about whatever such place, then just chime in,"Hey, you and me ( and some other people? ) should hang out there together sometime. I think it'd be alot of fun. :)" And just see what he says. I'm positive he'll say yes!
:D
I hope I helped, and good luck!
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i wear an Avenged sevenfold hoodie and i've put a coulpe buttons on the pockets i have a Grr and Gaz buttons,some geeky World of warcraft buttons, some Halo buttons and some Suburban legend buttons is that ok or should i take the buttons off? (link)
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I don't know if you mean buttons or pins, but it doesn't really matter. Whatever you want to put on your hoodie, you should put on your hoodie. Who cares if some people think it's out there or don't like it. That's their problem, and they don't HAVE to look at your hoodie.
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i am 15 and for the past 3 weeks i've been straightening my hair and i've got mixed responses
to it and i just wanted to know should i keep straightening my hair? (link)
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I don't think anything's wrong with a guy straightening their hair. Sometimes their hair even looks better straightened then all over the place and whatever it usually is, and it makes them look cuter.
Yeah, I've heard mixed responses cause sometimes people think it's girly of guys to straighten their hair, but really, who cares? Guys can do whatever girls do, and girls can do whatever guys do.
I hope I helped.
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i just got out of a bad relationship with my ex. and i met this amazing guy. hes really sweet. but come to find out, his sister is my best friend. and i wonder what our friendship would be like if her brother (elliot) and i were together. i dont want to lose our friendship or have it be ackward. any ideas? (link)
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Well what I suggest you should do is just talk to his sister about it. See her thoughts and feelings on the situation and everything and get her input.
I mean even though she really can't stop you or anything from dating her brother, I'm sure she'll be happy to know you cared about her and her feelings enough to talk to her about it before hand and everything.
If she's your best friend, then I'm sure she'll want you to be happy and since she already know's her brother so well, if she thinks he'll make you happy and that you'll make him happy, I'm sure she'll have no problem with the two of you guys dating.
Just remember not to forget one or the other - learn to balance your time with teh both of them. Whenever you're over her house if she invited you to hang out, you hang out with her ; don't ditch her to hang out with him instead. If he invites you, you hang out with him ; don't ditch him for her. Sometimes, maybe even all hang out together so you guys can all have fun and they both can hang out with you at once.
I hope I helped.
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I really love my dog Scooter. He is my everything. I've had him since before 1st grade, and he is 10 years old. My stepsister got a stupid border collie that ruins Scooter's face and his toys, and gets on my nerves. Scooter has been through alot. He had neutering problems, got hit by a car, had to have lumps removed from his body, alot for a poor little Shih Tzu dog. I'm afraid of what might happen when he dies. Everyone calls him old, and it pisses me off. I don't want him to die, but he's been around a long time. Then I'd be stuck with dumbass Riley. He is my life, and my everything. I wouldn't be able to function without him. I love him too much. He is my first pet that I actually remember. :/
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I know how you feel. I love my dogs with all my heart and they're like my best friends, and I never want them to die either. But I realized, it's all a part of life ( and I'm not trying to sound harsh here ) but it's something we all have to deal with and accept.
I just realized instead of sitting here thinking of him dying until literally the day he dies, isn't going to do ANYTHING but give more pain and more grief. I realized you just have to take loads of pictures, have fun together, and just cherish and spend the time you guys have together while you sitll can, and push the thoughts of death and him going out the window.
Just keep him healthy, give him good amount of healthy foods, and just give him love and play with him and let him exercise. That'll keep him around long enough cause I'm sure he doesn't want to leave you either, so I'm sure he's fighting to stay with you for a very long time.
I hope I helped.
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there is this guy that i think i like (he treats me how i wanted to be treated).but i also heard rumors in school about him that he cheated on his ex girlfriend in the past. I asked him about it and he told me that he did and that was because he hated his girlfriend. He says he likes me and always wants to hang out but i always tell him he cant come over and i cant leave my house. I tell him that because im the kind of girl who gets attached to easy to everything. i wanna hang out with him and be with him but im scared because of the rumors. we talk all the time on the phone and he tells me all kinds of sweet things that makes me smile thats what makes me like him. What if we do go out and he leaves for Oklahoma n January? What am i going to do without him? and no i hate long distance relationships.
well my questions are..
1)should i believe the rumors?
2)how can i hang out with him without getting attached?
3)if he leaves and we are together how could i handle that? or should i even go out with him? (link)
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[Edit: Trust me, I have plenty of long-distance friendships and and they've been lasting for a year or more. They're only going to fade if you and your friend LET it fade. And I don't think you guys'd want it to fade, would you?]
1) Well usually rumors are just a bunch of rumors that people made up just to get some gossip started, but at least he told you the truth and he admitted to you that the rumors were indeed true. Which even though cheating is a bad thing obviously, it's good he told you the truth and was so honest with you about it and owned up to his faults. I also don't think you'd have to worry about him cheating on you or anything, because it seems to me like he really really likes you and wouldn't want to ruin things and hurt you like that. Remember, he HATED his ex-girlfriend.
2) Well there's really no way of hanging out with him without getting attached ; he's your boyfriend, you're supposed to get attached to him. Don't hide your feelings and remain distant from him ; that'll give him signs you're no longer intersted in him and that's just unhealthy to the relationship between you guys. The most I can just suggest to you is to keep most of your conversation time and everything either over the phone then or on instant message and whenever you guys are going to hang out, hang out with your friends so it's not just you two alone whereas you guys could kiss more and flirt more and whatnot and develop more & stronger feelings.
3) My friend's going through the same thing right now. Her and her boyfriend just started dating like, a month ago and he's going to be moving all the way out to California in a month. And she's all worried also about what's going to happen, but they talked about it and they just want to enjoy eachother's company and cherish the time together they have now instead of just sitting here with the time they have left liking eachother, but not dating eachother. Just enjoy the time left you guys have together and then you can look back on him later in life as a great time and a great boyfriend. You never know what he might teach you.
It's going to hurt, yes, whenever he leaves but like I said, just think of all the great times you had with him, and all the things he taught you, adn all the things you taught him, and just keep that with you until the next boyfriend comes along. Believe me, there's plenty of other fish in teh sea, and even though you two won't be dating any longer and don't want to do the long-distance thing, you guys could still communicate and be friends, so it's not like you guys'd be totally losing eachother. Cause don't you think it'd hurt more to be liking this guy all this time, knowing he likes you back and nothing ever happening, and then he moves, and you'll always be wondering the big "what if?" and you'll never ever get to find out? I think it would.
I hope I helped.
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why is it wrong to date a friend's ex? i just dont get why i wouldnt do it but i still dont know why but also my friend was asking why. because she liked a this one guy and her friend knew that she likes him and she even said"im not gonna go out with him hes like my brother i wouldnt do that to her" but next thing you know she's going out with him, and i think shes mad at her about this she said she would go out with him if he asked her out but i said " i think its wrong" but she said "well i had a right to get mad at her too" what do you think about this situation? (link)
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Well it's not exactly WRONG, but it can put a tamper on the friendship. Sometimes after a girl stops dating a guy, he's still somewhat marked as her territory and some girls take it as sort of a sign of "betrayl" if one of their really good friends goes out with him. And they may take it as their friends not considering them and their feelings, which can come off as mean.
Now I can see it as wrong if for example, a girl went out with this guy and he dumped her, and she and she still loved him and had feelings for him and her best friend just went and started dating him behind her back or something. That's just downright mean, but that's not the case here.
I just think that if a friend is going to date their friend's ex, they should just talk to her about it and give her the heads up so she has more time to get used to it and accept it, and plus it wouldn't be considered "betrayl" because you're not doing it behind her back, and you considered her feelings and thoughts by letting her in on it beforehand.
I hope I helped.
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