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Should I forgive her?
15/F
In the past I have had some huge fights and lost my best friends and never talked to them again. This recently happened for the 3rd time over a misunderstanding but when some really hurtful things were said to me, I decided not to talk to the person again. This person is Abby. It has been almost two weeks since our fight and I can tell she wants to be friends again.
She really hurt me and said she never liked me anyways, just after saying we were best friends. I know she could do this again and another conflict would start, but I really miss how much fun we had together. As it is right now I don't go out on weekends anymore because I'm excluded from everything.
Should I forgive her just so we can have fun together again? My other friend says I am crazy for even considering forgiving her.
Thanks
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Well, it's hard I've had friends like that were forgiving them was disastrous. But there are other times when we became the best of friends all over again. Your other friend can't make your descions for you and neither can I, but I suggest you talk to her and then decide what to do.
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well . losing your best friend isint exaclty the greatest feeling in the world .. best friends are gonna get in arguments , & feelings will be hurt . bu maybe she said it outta anger im pretty sure she didnt mean what she said , just try to tell her how you feel & tell her how that comment she made to you it hurt your feelings . maybe she'll realize how bad it hurt you & get everything straight <33
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Well if you're thinking about forgiving her still, I would just seriously have a majorly serious talk with her about the whole situation and everything that was said and thought and felt and just try and resolve it and talk about what's going to happen with you guys in the future.
No matter what, she must apologize and be truely sorry. If I was you in this situation, I could never be friends with her until she apologized and I knew she really meant it and that she really misses me.
But also, ask her while you two are talking if this is probably ever going to happen again, because if it is, you don't know if you want to try and become friends again just to be disappointed and be argueing with her all over again, it's really not that worth it.
So talk to her, make sure this isn't going to repeat itself and that you two'll be good friends again and have a good time together.
I'm one of those people who forgive, but never forget. So if this girl does it again, then I wouldn't continue being friends with her and give her another shot. I also believe in second chances, but if she thinks she can do it ANOTHER time and STILL be your friend, she has another thing coming.
So like I said, talk to her, see where it goes from there.
I hope I helped.
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