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drama crush
i have a crush on one of my friends named *steve*. one of my best girl-friends and him went out last year but they've been broken up for more than a year now and she says she doesnt like him. but being friends me and this boy will sit on each other at parties and flirt but just in a friendly way. but now i like him. now everytime i start flirting with him my friend will start giving me dirty looks but i had asked her the day before if she liked him and she said no but she gets mad when we flirt. i know that he doesnt like her anymore but my friend will never tell me the truth about her feeling for him. i dont want to hurt her if she still likes him but i feel like she could be holding us back. how am i supposed to deal with her and hint to my friend that my flirting is because i like him?
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Well first of all, I think that's really good you don't want to be hurting your friends feelings, and you don't want to do anything just yet. Most girls'd just be like,"Screw my friend, I want the guy!" Which screws themselves in the end when they wind up with neither.
I think you and your friend should have a serious talk. I would just be like,"Now, honestly, tell me the truth. Do you really like *steve*, or don't you? Please if you do, be honest with me." If she doesn't, then ask her why she gives you looks whenever you start flirting with him. And let her know, that the reason you flirt with him is because you've develop some slight feelings for *steve*. It's best just to say it now and get it out of the way instead of her finding out alot later and get upset that you kept it from her for so long. And see what she says.
If she doesn't like him anymore, then ask her if it's alright with her if the two of them go out possibly. You know it's been a year or so since they've broken up, but you'd still feel alot more comfortable with asking her and letting her know she's alright with it and has given you the "ok" to try and date him.
If she does still like him, talk to her about it and try and just resolve this issue and both of you just let your thoughts and feelings out to eachother. And just listen and understand. Try and help her get over him too. Don't TELL her you're going to help her, but just be there for her and talk to her whenever she needs someone and just try and introduce her to other guys and point some out to her and try and get her back into the game if she's not already. Show her there's plenty of other fish in the sea ; and meanwhile, go reel in the fish that caught on your hook. x]
I'm so corny,
but I hope I helped.
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Its great that you are respecting your friend, but if they broke up a year ago, and if she is telling you that she doesn't like him anymore, then there is no reason why you shouldn't be able to flirt with him. Tell your friend that you like *steve* a little bit, and if shes a good friend then she will understand. It is kind of hard to stop yourself from liking someone. Don't keep this from your friend... just tell her, she shouldn't mind it too much since they broke up a year ago. If she does still like him, then maybe try to help her get over him. She needs to find a new guy if she is spending her time worried about this one.
**BeLLe**
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