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cliques
ohkay well i was in a clique last year but now the rest of the clique has grown apart from me because i joined a new clique but now i miss the old clique. i mean i still sit at the same lunch table with them, and i talk to them but im never invited to hang out. once i asked if i could go with them but they got kinda pissed because they said "i was inviting myself." i wanna have the same relationship with them as last year. and dont tell me to find new friends because i have a ton of friends besides them and i hang out with my other friends a whole lot, but ive known this crew my whole life since kindergarten and i love them to death. they are NOT bitchy and they arent leaving me out on purpose, ive just kinda grown apart from them since i joined a new clique and they said i betrayed them. i wanna be a member of the clique again and you know how hard it is to get back into it. i wanna be invited to the mall or for a sleepover. i want to be in their aim profile again and see my name in it. i miss the old times and i still wanna hang with my other friends but im truly sure i want my old clique back. what can i do so they will include me again?
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Well like you've been doing, just keep trying to talk to them whenever you're sitting at the lunch table with them. Maybe bring up some past memories and share some laughs with them ; remind them of how much fun everyone all had together before you joined with the other clique. And as you guys are talking, make casual conversation about the mall, or a concert, or just some local get together place, wherever you guys like to hang out. As they make conversation back, instead of inviting yourself somewhere with them, invite them somewhere to hang out with you. Just be like,"Hey, we should all hang out together at the mall sometime. We haven't in so long, and I miss that." And just let them decide how they want to handle this.
You just need to give them time to let you in again and trust you again. You probably really hurt them whenever you left them, and they felt like they got dumped, so to say. Just give them all teh time they need to slowly let you back into all their lives again and just hopefully it goes well and see where it all goes from there. I'm sure once they realize how much you miss them and want to be friends again, they'll be forgiving.
I hope I helped, and I hope everything works out!
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Dear Reader,
If you really want to be back in the old clique again, do things you used to do when they had your loyalty. Make yourself their friend again. Do things you used to do when you were apart of them. Why dont you have a sleepover and invite them instead? and then do the things you all used to do? The key is old happy memories and in no time you'll be apart of them again! Let me know how things go. Good Luck!
Sincerly,
Lisa xox
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