Question Posted Wednesday December 6 2006, 5:14 pm
okay.. so my friend always talks about this kid.. and my friend told me that she thinks she likes him and she knows i like him too.. and now i just feel so weird having us like the same person and were like bestfriends.. im not sure what to do. stop talking to her? or idk.
MelLeDisko answered Wednesday December 6 2006, 8:45 pm: don't stop talking to her. she's your best friend!
now, if i were you, there's two things i would do. i would talk to her about it, definetely, no matter what. it needs to be talked about and you guys need to release your feelings and thoughts to eachother you can't keep it all bottled up and hidden from eachother.
but then you two need to decide what's going to go on from here. are you two going to let some boy who you two'll probably never continue dating throughout school ( i dont want to sound negative, but teenage relationships do tend to end sooner or later ), and then have no shoulder to cry on? no best friend? i don't think so.
or do you two want to be like,"may the best man win". this can somewhat be agood thing cause it shows maturity and that you're not gonna let your friendship get ruined ; but then there's the pain of seeing your friend with the guy you like, which usually results in jealousy and hate and a ruined friendship.
so if you REALLY want my true, true advice, here... i say like i said before, you and your friend talk about it and just get your thoughts and feelings all out there in the open and everything nad let eachother know, and then i would both suggest neither of you go after this guy. if anything, just be friends. like i said, would you both really choose one guy over a best friend?
"guys come and go, but friends are forever".
"chicks before dicks".
lexusm answered Wednesday December 6 2006, 7:49 pm: if you like the same boy then talk to her and say hey (blabla) i think that you like the boy that i do and if so i like him to so what do you think we should do. but if she takes it the wrong way and she says that i am in love with him or whatever then you let her have it tell het how you feel say i like him and you are supose to be my best friend you would really understand but i see that you no nothig about friendship and if that doesent work then hit me back and ill tell you more fro your friend lexus [ lexusm's advice column | Ask lexusm A Question ]
brianna_shay answered Wednesday December 6 2006, 6:46 pm: No, don't stop talking to your friend! Liking the same guy is totally normal, because being friends, you guys probably hang out with a lot of the same guys. Just talk to your friend about it, and tell her that you don't want this guy to affect your friendship. Then say that if the guy happens to like one of you, then you guys will still be friends.
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daisysmiles answered Wednesday December 6 2006, 6:38 pm: Give up your friendship over a crush? No guy is worth that. Just this week I saw a friendship fall apart because two girls who liked the same guy. One finally got asked out by him but then he dumped her for the other girl, now they won't talk to eachother. There are billions of guys in this world but best friends are hard to come by. [ daisysmiles's advice column | Ask daisysmiles A Question ]
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