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love/friendship
i just got out of a bad relationship with my ex. and i met this amazing guy. hes really sweet. but come to find out, his sister is my best friend. and i wonder what our friendship would be like if her brother (elliot) and i were together. i dont want to lose our friendship or have it be ackward. any ideas?
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First of all she shouldn't care that much and she should be happy that you found someone NEW.
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If she is a real best friend she will accept the relationship.
If not it's her loss.
I know my best friend would let me date her brother if I wanted to (Ew) lol but...it wouldn't mess up REAL friendship.
Talk to her about it...be like "Hey so...I really like your brother and if anything were to happen with us would you be okay with it?"
If she says "Yeah" you know that you have a great friend.
If not you get to make the choice. It'll be hard but that's part of life.
XOXO
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Well what I suggest you should do is just talk to his sister about it. See her thoughts and feelings on the situation and everything and get her input.
I mean even though she really can't stop you or anything from dating her brother, I'm sure she'll be happy to know you cared about her and her feelings enough to talk to her about it before hand and everything.
If she's your best friend, then I'm sure she'll want you to be happy and since she already know's her brother so well, if she thinks he'll make you happy and that you'll make him happy, I'm sure she'll have no problem with the two of you guys dating.
Just remember not to forget one or the other - learn to balance your time with teh both of them. Whenever you're over her house if she invited you to hang out, you hang out with her ; don't ditch her to hang out with him instead. If he invites you, you hang out with him ; don't ditch him for her. Sometimes, maybe even all hang out together so you guys can all have fun and they both can hang out with you at once.
I hope I helped.
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Ok I think the first thing you should do it talk to the sister. Tell her how you feel (both about Elliot, and the friendship thing) see how she feels and if shes okay with it talk to him. It is to be expected that at first it will be awkward, but if you push past it, it will prbably turn out okay.
She will have to deal with girls dating her brothe rin the future, so she might as well get used to his girlfriends possibly being her friends. The only thing that I would worry about is if things are rocky in the relationship, and the two of you break up. Because then the two of you may also have some conflict, and you could lose your bf and your bff in the same week or whatever. So there are some pros and cons about dating a relative of a friend. But if the pros outweigh the cons then I say go for it! Good luck, I hope I helped.
Lots of love,
Angie91
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