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ok me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months and weve knnown eachother for a year and we havent really done anything yet...i go to his house every wednesday and we are home all alone..and we just havent done anything...hes not the innocent boy i mean hes not a virgin and neither am i (only once) lol....but i dont knw...weve done handjobs, fingering etc..but not oral or intercourse....he says he doesnt want to rush me into anything because he loves and respects me and my body...im really ready though too and i think he is too...we are only 16...the only fear im having is PREGNANCY! what is the best type of condom, how can you prevent it to break, etc? (link)
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Sometimes when you have these questions in your head is a question whether or not your ready. It's cool that he doesn't want to rush you. But even using a condom doesn't guarantee anything. I know you've already heard your too young but even hormones don't have age limits. If you are going to be careful and if you need to decide, start researching different types of condoms. A lot of people just use certain kinds but may not know the percentage of risks in each kind. It is your job to look this up since it is your sex life.
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Well, me and my boyfriend have been dating for a long bit now. and everytime i see him i get mad at him, im bipolar so i think that might be the reason. and then again my parents are divorsing soon and ive been really upset about it, and really everything makes me mad lately. what should i do, no medicine..just i take it out on everyone lately (link)
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Well let's start with the issue with your parents. The burden your carrying inside along with the anger probably causes you to lash out at those around you. Look to your boyfriend and friends as a support system. It will be an easier process otherwise you will be dating misery and be surrounded by more anger as your friend.
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ok i have been on a diet for 2 weeks now and i've been doin real good but now its realyl hard..like i have been eating some thinks i know i shouldnt but i cant help it. does anyone have any suggestions that will help me stick to my diet? thanks:) (link)
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Maybe you should put a picture of someone with the type of body you want to have in the mirror so when you wake up in the morning, it will motivate you to want to look like that.
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Almost exactly a year ago i made a BIG mistake. I was going through a depression and I felt horrible about myself, and my best friend's boyfriend was also one of my best friends. We talked all the time but before he started dating my best friend he liked me but I just didn't see him that way. Well while i was goign through my depression he was really there for me and he made me feel really good about myself. And somehow he managed to talk my way into having sex with him... while he was still with my best friend. Now i know that it sounds horrible but honestly i am NOT that type of girl i am like an awesome friend and i'd do anything for anyone because i'm just like that. After i did it i cried for like weeks. It took about 3 months until my best friend found out and she was crushed. This just through me into a deeper depression. But eventually she forgave me and now we will still talk and such but we are nothing like we use to be, and nor do i expect us to be. But the thing is is i still can't get over it, even though she forgave me its like i can't forgive myself. I drive myself crazy thinking about what a horrible thing i did and how horrible of a person i am. I honestly feel like shit everyday because it doesn't get out of my head, everytime i see her i think to myself how couldi have done that to her i am jsut a bitch. And like i just put myself down so much. I've only had sex with 2 guys in my whole life but i feel like a total slut. And i should i think. I'm starting to fall back into my depression and it is driving me crazy. I got over it for a few months but now its just all starting to bother me again. I don't know how to deal with it. Does anyone have any ideas on how i can rid myself of this uncontrollable guilt? i mean i know i should feel guilty but i honestly feel likei am driving myself crazy. Thanks so much (link)
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First of all, you are lucky to have a great friend that does forgive you. Depression and guilt are like a couple of competitors..they like to see which one will hit you first. You need to start forgiving yourself like your friend has. Realize that even though you were wrong in the matter you also helped your friend from being with someone that would do that to her. I'm sure she thought about it that way. The only way you can be a true friend to her is to forgive yourself and live for the future to help her find someone good for her. And if you ever feel depressed again talk to your friends first. You'll find that they are understanding and they don't want to take advantage of the state your in. Be happy and positive and know your life is worth living and live it to the fullest. You will find happiness only when you are happy with yourself.
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My best friend and I dont ever hang out anymore. Her and I got in this really big fight back in November and we didnt speak to eachother for a few weeks. We both kind of brought our parents into our fight so now my mom doesnt like her and she never lets me go over to her house. Its like her and I are only friends in school and not outside of school. And sometimes in school she'll be with her other best friend who is a guy(my ex) and when she is with him, its like I dont exist to her. What do I do? It just seems like her and I have completly drifted apart. What can I do to make our friendship stornger.I havent really hung out with her or had a decent converstion with her in well over 3 months. When we talk on the phone she is always on her computer and I am wathing TV or listening to music and we dont even talk on the phone, we just sit there and it bothers the fuck out of me. We honestly can be on the phone for like 2 hrs and we will only have said maybe 5 mins of a conversation. PLease help me! (link)
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Maybe you should plan a get together with her and do something that you both enjoy. Communication is a main key to any type of relationship. Stop using outside sources to fix your distance when it is yours and her frienship that is on the line. You two have a problem, work it out and squash the matter. The bond between you two should be strong enough to overcome anything. Be the bigger person and resolve the issue and get together and have fun again. It seems that you two have to put the issue to rest so do it. Don't let an argument end what could be a lifetime of friendship. Misery loves company so don't be its friend. Get your friend back.
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i have to make a business card for school..my business is sensual scents its selling perfume..i have a logo and all that..but i need a catchy slogan..if any1 has any ideas please let me know!! thanx.. (link)
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1)"How sweet that smell"
2) "Fantastic fragrance"
3) "The smell of victory"
4) "What's that smell?"
5) " Feel sensual"
6) "The scent that makes sense"
7) "You look sensual, why not smell sensual"
8) "Fragrance that creates Fantasies
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Ok one of my best friends is cool in all but shes kinda of a really big flirt..and i mean i dont think she means to do it but she flirts with like every guy..and i mean she flirted with this one guy that i liked and she knew i liked him n then he stoped liking me and started to like her..it got me really upset and im over it now but now i think its happening again with a differnt guy ...shes supposively talked to him about me and he said that he liked me and that he wanted to ask me out.. but the last couple of days i have seen her go and flirt with him and she will come into our class and talk to him as if she liked him..and im like wtf i dont know what to do! PLEASE HELP ME! (link)
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Being that she is one of your best friends, you need to communicate with her how you feel. Maybe she doesn't know what she is doing or maybe that's her way of not being insecure..by talking to as many guys as she can. Anyway. talk to her and see what a real friend she is. Instead of thinking just do it because you will know if she cares or not.
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ok.. well.. heres my little situation! im about 5'6 and i weigh 106. yeah i don't like my thighs very much.. i mean they're small.. but big. yeah that makes sense right? haha i know it doesn't. anywaysss well im going to california in march and i want to maybe loose 2 or 3 pounds to weigh 104 or 103. i don't want to be anorexic about it or anything even though i act kind of anorexic sometimes. yeah i don't know if i should try lose a couple pounds or not.. i mean i know im skinny.. i guess but w/e. do you think i need too? and i dont eat that much already so what would a healthy (atleast somewhat) way to do this?
thanks.. srry its long-ish (link)
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Your weight and size are fine. It's your self-confidence you need to work on. When your insecure you'll do anything drastic to change with thinking it through. Enjoy the beach, I'm sure guys will enjoy looking at you. Be proud of what you've got.
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I starting going out with this one guy from my school at a ski lodge. He called me at midnight and kept saying how much he loved me, and he only knew me for 12 hours? I dumped him the next morning becuase i found out he was going out with TWO other girls that i didn't know about, at the same time We were going out. he also told those two girls that he "never went out with me" and "NEVER would" I completly freaked out on him at lunch and even slapped him. He denyed everythingg! I also heard of all these gurls he apparently screwed. What can i say tomorrow to him at lunch to make him spit out the truth??
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Let him know how you feel and that tell him to promise that it will never hapeen again. So when he apologizes, you'll know it happened.
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Okay. I went out with this one guy, like 3 times. And every single time, I thought he changed, but he hasn't. I used to think that I loved him.. But then everytime we go out, he acts like a jerk. At first he would just completly ignore me.. Then he would go on to throwing rocks at me and other stuff like that.
What should i do? Every time i try to talk to him..He says he will change, but he doesnt.How can i help? And he told me that IM the reason HE chews. Im about to go cut myself! Plez help! (link)
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Have you ever hear the saying..."Never wrestle with a pig, because you both get dirty... the only thing is that the pig likes it. If you keep making the same decision then you are going to get the same results. Don't settle because your cheating yourself out of a fum life with someone who would be more to your liking
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Okay well I am a 17 female and i will be 18 on Saturday. Lately i've had really low self esteem which is really strange for me. I'm a good athlete and I have no problem with my looks or my body, and I have lots of friends. But for some reason lately I just get this vibe from EVERYONE that i'm just not wanted. And it is for no particular reason, nothing has changed and i haven't gotten into any fights with my friends or anything. Its so weird, like for example, if one of my friends calls one of my other friends when i am with her i will feel hurt becuase she didn't call me, which i know is really silly and i've never been like this in my life. One of my teachers didn't agree with an opinion i gave in school today and she agreed with one of my friends and i just automatically thought that she hates me and doesn't like me which i know is obsurd. In my head i know i'm acting ridiculous but I'm still hurt everytime something small like this happens. I'm starting to feel really bad about myself and I can't figure out why, but it's driving me crazy. I won't even go to partys anymore becuase I feel like no one wants me there, but I have no reason to think this. I'm becoming very antisocial and this definitly isn't me. I'm desperate for some help! (link)
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Insecurity about yourself will only put you in a box that no one will open. First you have to feel comfortable for who you are. You are a young woman with her whole life ahead of her. Be positive with yourseldf and the people who hang around with. They will feed off your energy and want to be around you more.
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Hey ok well theres this dance comeing up and i really want to ask a friend of mine if he wants to go to it with me but, i cant dance, and i mean i dunno if he is a good dancer but even if he isnt i dotn want to make a fool out of myself. Also, i dunno, maybe it would be awkward if i asked him toit and he said no...cuz we are really good friends, i just want to go with him lol as friends.
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Well there's nothing wrong with being friends with someone and asking them to a dance. Let him know that you need someone cool to go with so you won't be bored. Now if it's more than friends you need to handle that issue as well, but if it's just friends than make him clear of that so there is no tension between you two.
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So I havent had a boyfriend in a long time and i am thinking of giving up but im not sure what i shood do....Im not shy and im outgoing and most people would call me pretty but its like no guy ever asks me out or nething....they just see me as a piece of ass but i want to be seen as more then that....Please help...any suggestions would be great! (link)
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If your going out to look for a guy than your wasting time. Bars and clubs are for meeting people but not getting to know them. If you meet a guy out and you feel there is interest, invite him to do something like coffee or going out to eat. Don't settle for the first person that comes along and don't give up on yourself either. If you know how good you are and what you have to offer then be proud of that and know that the person who lands you will be the lucky one.
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I am 41 year old male, at 18 I married my best friends sister who had been date raped at 16 (not by me) and was pregnant. I married her and raised the child as my own. We took in 2 foster children that we later adopted because she could not have any more. Although I was never in romantic love with her we had a good life and wonderful family. 5 years ago she had to have a hysterectomy and died for several minuets they revived her but she has never came back to "herself" I am now more of her caretaker. There is no sex, romance or even adult discussion. I can't leave her nor want to for the fact it wouldnt be right to leave her because of an illness that is not her fault.
I try to release my stress in the gym and other ways and have developed a very good physical appearance and have many friends, but Im so very lonley. I am afraid to have an affair, it wouldnt be right to either woman, but I so long for the touch, caress and conversation with a woman. I dont know where to turn. Whats your Advice?
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The hardest thing to cope with is whether or not by being with her is this the end for you in an intimate matter. The question is do you still love her? Because if you do then to be able to capture that passion and intimacy back you need to help her overcome the obstacles that have gotter her to this point. What I meanis that this woman has been through a lot in her life yet she has not been able to cope with the situations that have happened. For instance, when she was raped you might have been there for her and maybe her family too, but where there anyone there who really understood what she had gone through? Also with this hysterectomy and nearly took her life, how well do you know about someone coping with death. You don't because these are things that didn't happen to any of us who are trying to understand this. You need to find people that this has happened to and have been able to overcome the obstacles so she can heal herself and want to have you as a husband as well as a lover. If this woman is worth it all, then help her heal herself at the same time healing yourself.
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i went out with my boyfriend for 9 months, and he was my 'first person', but things happend and we broke up :( . This was about 3.5 months ago, and he has a new girlfriend now. So i dicided to move on to and now i have this guy who i like and he likes me a lot too. But i have a problem because every time i'm with him i think about my ex! i can't do it :( ... it hurts inside to think of being with any1 else. THe problem is, my ex boyfriend doesnt want to talk to me, but somtimes i know that he misses me to, but doesnt want to be with me again. What do i do? I'm so lost :( please help, ill rate. (link)
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First of all you are experiencing what a lot of girls experience in their lives..."their First Time Syndrome". You feel this is the guy your meant to be with. Well it's not always the case. This is a lesson you need to learn. If you consume yourself with your past your putting a wall up on your future. You need to see what's out there for you before you make any conclusions. You don't want to miss opportunites that can past you by because you are afraid or feel that the same thing will keep happening. Meet new people and see. You never know what will happen unless you experience life to the fullest.
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OK-- I have a few midterms coming up. I already did one (English) and that's out of the way. I'll specifically focus on SS- since that's the next one to come up. Well, Im really nervous on how my grade will turn out on my Midterm. What are good study tips that will help me be prepared? What are ways to make myself crack down and actually study?? How can I make myself go in feeling confident?? There is a website that the teacher made with several 'midterm' quizzes, and I use that sometimes but it doesn't always help.
P.S. I really don't care for the teacher!!
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If I had a dollar for everytime someone said they disliked their teachers, I would be as rich as Bill Gates. Anyway, you need to look at the big picture. Look at why you are in school and waht you are looking to accomplish. Look at these exams as your obstacles you have to go over to get to the big prize. Your future is what is important. These exams will be hard only if you make them hard. Go in there and take the bull by the horns and ace it so you can say to yourself you defeated the obstacle and the teacher that put the obstacle in front of you.
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or maybe me just typing this all out will help me come to a conclusion of some sort..well here i go.......About 12 months ago I was going out with my bf at the time who i had been going on and off with for about 9 mths..but i never go to see him much like 3 times a month becuase he lived farther away..but the time we spent was fun yet our relationship was mostly physical(no sex tho) Anyway i wasnt happy and I cheated on him a couple times becuase i was so unhappy i needed sumone to be there with me more..So i desperately was looking for a reason to dump him besides the lame I need sumone i can see more thing...Anywho meanwhile this chad who i was good friends with and had been hanging out with and such had an older brother that i never really had met before until one day i was over to his house and heard crying...his brother jake and his gf of 2 years had broken up for good and he was a wreck..it was the first relationship he had been in and they even lived together for a while and the whole 9 yards...anyway I am a very sympathetic person and I tried to help him out..and I told him my problem of never seeing my bf and how i wanted sumone more sensitive and etc..well Jake and I started talking more and being I was friends with his brother I was over to the house alot...anyway to cut to the chase jake and i after 1 month of totally crushing on each other and late night calls and stuff he shly asked me out ( i was soo happy! this was my reason to dump chad and I had found someone who was cute and i could see alot and I had soo much fun with and he is into music and woow i was soo happy) so ofcourse i said yes.......now 11 months later jake and I are still going out but stuff to me is horrible..let me explain the first 6 mnths of our relationship was amazing, we spent all of spring and summer togther and made soo many memories and i could never get him off my mind... when school started that was when halo came out and he started be absessed with it..well know he doesnt come to school much anymore and stays up til 5am playing Halo and forgets to call me..But the thing is when we do hang out its still soo amazing, but thats only on weekends becuase i no longer see him in school now..and lately on the phone when we talk we often get arguing over stupid stuff and sumtimes i think its becuase i get aggravated with him for not getting his license and skipping school and not gettign a job..but the thing is i love him..and sumtimes i think about dumping him.. but then it seems like my life wouldnt be the same without him as my hunni..b/c we have soo many memories together and everything..But my concern is that the only thing that is stopping me from dumping him is i have grown in the past year of being used to having the comfort of him there, and that maybe i dont love him anymore, im just so used to that being the way it is.. me with Jake..and i still think about him all the time too. But wow i just wrote thatand i still didnt find a solution..so what do you think do i stil truley love him and do i stay with himn and hope the problems go away? I really think i love him but the whole just being with him now for comfort and becuase im used to that and i dont want to deal with change and throw away a whole year of wonderful memories...its just stuff inst the same and it hasnt been for a couple months now.. PLEASE ANYone see throught all this babblin and Help me!!! (link)
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Girls have this sickness in them that they can't get over when they have a boyfriend for a period of more than 6 months. It's called the "GET USE TO" Syndrome. This is brought by when a girl has gone out with a guy for a while and that was she is use to. It seems in your story that you two started dating all of a sudden with both of you coming off of relationships. Problems are always going to come up in a relationship. If they were perfect, everyone would have one. The only thing is that is this person adding and multiplying to your life. Because if they are not then the cloud of misery will hover over your head. Memories are great but they are also learning lessons in what we are really looking for....Happiness. If you lie in your "comfort zone" then there is no more room for growth. Know who you are and what you can give to someone. Don't keep building a wall of sadness in your life. Rememeber someone out there can give you what you need if that person is not willing to give it to you. Don't settle for what you have if it's not taking you anywhere.
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NEED HELP NOW!!
Ok so the other night me and my boyfriend had a talk about about porn and I asked him all these questions... and he told me that he'd only looked at it/watched it three times on kazaa... so I made him swear on us and on my life and he did, but then today me and his friend were joking and he said my b/f just had porn on his computer so i was joking around and I said I was gonna check his computer and see and he got all defensive and wouldn't let me, but then when I did... I found like 10 different websites on his computer... They're all from a long time ago, but still he lied to me! Do I have a right to be mad at him? especially since he swore on us and my life!?!?
WHAT SHOULD I DO???
PS: he appologize a LOT and said he was sorry and he loved me "so much" but I feel like an idiot now for believing him... I need help please give me advice!! (link)
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Sometimes guys don't want to say anything that makes them look bad. Your boyfriend was probably ashamed that you would look at him differently if you knew that he had watched those sites. Fear is somtimes overwhelming in a realtionship. I think we are afraid to talk about our pasts because we are afraid of what that person may think of us. If you really love and care for him, communicate to him to be honset with you and that you will not judge him on his past mistakes. Let him know that he can trust you and that you can trust him. Open the doors to yourself as he does to himself.
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ive been seeing this guy for about 2 months now and i think our relationship is just based on sexuality and looks... i mean when we first started our relationship we were like awesome friends and we loved to talk all the time and now i feel as if we never talk anymore and he isnt the person i once thougtht he was.. like we never talk anymore and i feel all we do is like make out... i try to read books and see if he is interested in what they have to say and sometimes they have poetry and i leave him sweet notes in his locker but we still like never talk anymore... help!
how do i tell him how to change without looking like im tryin to make him the person i want him to be? (link)
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You can't try to change someone. That is up to them. If this is not the person your meant to be with then it's not. As you said the relationship is based on sexuality and looks. Well that just spells one thing....FLING. But it's not something to get you down. You need to extract a lesson here. Of course you want to be attracted to the person, but also you want to share things with that person that can share them back with you. This is not telling you to be the same. There is no fun in that. You need to be with someone that can still enjoy what you have to offer even if it's not their main interest and vice versa.
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I like this guy that goes to another school and he's older, but really cute and nice and everything else there is to be. I see him at church and if I smiled at him or something, would he get a hint or anything? I look at him a lot and sometimes he looks back but would it be better if I smiled? And sometimes to attract attention, my friends act dumb and stuff but would it be better to act normal and not mess up and stuff? Is there any other tips to flirting or anything else I should know besides all this other stuff? Thanks (link)
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If you know this guy well enough to go tslk to him then what could it hurt. Some people just think about it but not enough do anything about it. Talking to him would give you a chance to know him. What if you end up not liking him because of who he is. But it's better to know now so then you can see if it's worth it or not and maybe someone else will treat you better.
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