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ive been seeing this guy for about 2 months now and i think our relationship is just based on sexuality and looks... i mean when we first started our relationship we were like awesome friends and we loved to talk all the time and now i feel as if we never talk anymore and he isnt the person i once thougtht he was.. like we never talk anymore and i feel all we do is like make out... i try to read books and see if he is interested in what they have to say and sometimes they have poetry and i leave him sweet notes in his locker but we still like never talk anymore... help!
how do i tell him how to change without looking like im tryin to make him the person i want him to be?
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You can't try to change someone. That is up to them. If this is not the person your meant to be with then it's not. As you said the relationship is based on sexuality and looks. Well that just spells one thing....FLING. But it's not something to get you down. You need to extract a lesson here. Of course you want to be attracted to the person, but also you want to share things with that person that can share them back with you. This is not telling you to be the same. There is no fun in that. You need to be with someone that can still enjoy what you have to offer even if it's not their main interest and vice versa.
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awww. you kinda sound like me. but i've been goin out with my boyfriend for almost a year now. I thought at one point that our relationship began to become about sex to so i told him that we should stop for a little while and he was fine with it. that's when i knew that our relationship was more because i told him i didnt want to and he respeted my decision and didnt try to talk me out of it. Just tell your boyfriend that you want to stop for a little while, if he's okay with it then your good, but if he doesnt then ask him why it's so improtant to him b/c use to he didnt really seem to mind, but now thats all he thinks about. i hope everything turns out!
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you jus ask him y things between you changed. ask him y he doesnt ever wanna talk to you about stuff or have like a romantic relationship instead of jus a physical one. you should honest but be nice about it too. dont let it turn into an arguement.
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Well, this is a perfect example of how realtionships corrode.
Physical stuff can really mess things up. Not that kissing or anything is bad, but sometimes it means you stop talking.
If you keep trying all the great things you are right now and he's not interested in it, you might need to break up and move on.
It might be hard, but you will definitely learn a thing or two about communication. You gotta keep talking...and make your boyfriend not just your boyfriend, but your best friend too.
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I think you should break up with him. Most relationships eventually loose the feelings that were there when it began. I know it might be hard to break-up with him, but you WILL FIND SOMEONE who has more qualities that you want, than this guy did.
Of course you could always invite him to your house and just talk. Like if he tries to kiss you then just turn away. Eventually he'll get it and ask what's wrong. Then you can tell him that you miss actually talking to him and hopefully he'll make an effort to talk with you more :o)
Good Luck!
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