I have hair on my breats... not on the nipples, but around them. What's a good way to remove it that isn't very painful?
If you really want it gone, you're better off trimming it than shaving/plucking/whatever else. Those things can cause ingrown hairs which, from what I've read, are especially common on your breasts.
But there's no need to unless it's really bothering you.
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Every time I want to talk to my friends, I have to go up to them myself and talk to them. They never go to me to talk. None of them!! Whenever I am on AIM, nobody ever IMs me unless I IM them first. Same thing goes with any situation and I am sick and tired of that, because I wish I didn't have to start the conversation all the time.
I do ask them why they don't talk to me first, but then they say, "I am sorry. I'll do it next time" but they never do!!
What's going on and what can I do??
Thanks
As one of those types of people, maybe I can add a different perspective.
I have trouble IMing people first. It's not because I don't like them, or they've offended me, it's simply a bad habit I've gotten into. I have a bit of an inferiority complex. When I first got MSN messenger, I would IM people often. Several of those people consistently told me they didn't want to talk to me. I quickly learned not to send the first message.
I'm trying to challenge that habit, and I'm getting a bit better at it, but it's still hard.
Don't assume your friends don't like you. Be gentle with them and tell them how you feel--that they don't like talking to you. See what they have to say.
It's not exactly RIGHT for you to have to start all the conversations, but it might not be as personal as it feels.
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i have a little situation...my best friend who i've know all my life, shes always been there i really can't remember my life without her in it. and recently we've been working out and trying to get in shape for s.b 07..and anyways i hateee that i'm saying this and thinking this, but like er i sometimes don't wanna go places with her because shes not really like pretty and i hate that i just said that. and i wanna give her a makeover because she could be soo pretty if she only wore cuter clothes for her body did some stuff with her hair, and other stuff. but i don't know what to do. i don't wanna tell her that or anything but i don't know what to do. and i just feel horrible for ever thinking. so ah i don't know what to do!
Maybe she likes the way she looks. Maybe she doesn't want to be bothered with makeup or fancy hair or clothes she doesn't like.
It's not a nice thought, no, but the fact that you recognise that is a GOOD thing. If you admit your feelings, you can begin to challenge them.
Why don't you want to be seen with her? I'm guessing it's not just because you think she doesn't look good, but because of how her appearance will reflect on you. What makes you so insecure, and how can you combat that to accept her for who she is and not care so much about what other people think? What would change if she was prettier? Would it really change the way you feel about yourself, or would you just find something else to be ashamed of?
Please don't take this as an attack. They're genuine questions that I think you should gently pose to yourself. Once you find the answers you'll be happier with yourself, or at least on the right path.
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What does the term 'Liberal' when used politically mean to you? I'm doing research for a paper and want to gather varying opinions on the subject. Any answer will be excellent.
To me, it means freedom for yourself, and freedom for others. So, you have the freedom of choice for yourself, and others have the same right--gays can marry, but you don't have to. Women can get abortions, but you don't have to. Citizens can go to church, but you don't have to. And so on.
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i have binge eating disorder.
i know i do, i've never been diagnosed,
but everything i read about it is things i do.
but i want to get help.
how do i tell my parents about this?
and what kind of doctor do i go to to get help?
is it expensive?
does insurance pay for it?
thanks in advance.
If you live in Canada, everything is covered. Otherwise, it depends on your insurance provider. If you have monetary problems, many therapists, should you go that route, will work on a sliding scale--they'll base their fees on what you can afford.
You should start out by talking to your GP (family doctor). If you're feeling brave, tell your parents that you're concerned about your lack of control over your eating habits and that you think talking to someone would help.
Chances are, your doctor will refer you to a psychologist or give you several names of people to check out. He or she might also recommend a support group that you could attend.
You might also be screened for depression, anxiety, or other mental illnesses. I'm not a doctor, obviously, but it seems to me that it would be a logical step. Mental illness can sometimes be at the route of these things.
Try and examine how you feel when you're eating, and if there are specific situations that make it difficult for you to stop. Anything like this that you can notice could give you, and your care providers, insight into how to help you.
I'm glad you're being proactive about this. Catching it earlier and dealing with it then is better--every day makes it harder. I wish you the best of luck, and I hope you find the answers you need.
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some people say its "gross" when guys havnt been circumsized.. but really is it that gross? its just a little piece of skin right? how much does it really effect things? thanks
It doesn't make a huge difference for the most part.
Although, it's interesting that you ask. They recently did a study that showed that circumcision can substantially cut the risk of developing HIV/AIDS because the foreskin easily absorbs the cells. That's not to say it will replace condoms, but I thought it might pertain to your question since that's one area that it DOES affect.
Otherwise, there are mixed reports. It doesn't seem to matter one way or another, from what I, as a female, have heard.
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I always used to think I'd never be a person to get stuck under the effects of anorexia or bulimia...but here I am today. It's not like I've actually started doing anything, but a few times I've found myself getting more...diet obsessed. Like when I'm hungry, I'll stay clear of any food that's fattening or wait till the next meal.
I REALLY REALLY love gross food too, and it's hard that i want it but want to get away from it so badly. I'm always weighing myself. I drink sooo much water because I heard it helps you drop weight, I drink slim fasts any chance I get in place of meals, and when my mom takes me for fast food when we're out I eat barely any and give it to my dog when i get home.
Do you think I have a problem? Or am I just healthily concerned?
I'm not a doctor, so take this with many, many grains of salt.
I don't think you have an eating disorder. I do, however, think that you're on the fast track to developing one. You need to get a handle on this NOW, before it spirals out of control.
Can you tell someone exactly what you said here? Your mom, a teacher, your doctor . . .? They would be able to get you more help than I can offer.
It sounds like it's partly about control. You're afraid you won't be able to say yes in moderation and then no, so you say no instead. You're afraid of being out of control and gorging on everything in front of you. Sound familiar? I might be totally mis-reading the situation, but that's the impression I got.
When you do eat fast food, how do you feel? If you feel fat, why? What makes you scared of being fat--is it that you won't be valued?
When you don't eat, how do you feel? In control? Out of control? Superior?
Try and dig beyond the surface and find an answer to why you're doing what you are. Not wanting to get fat really isn't the underlying cause. I always thought it was the underlying cause of my eating problems, but it wasn't--it was exactly what I mentioned, that I'm scared I can't say no. That's my underlying cause.
Maybe not eating makes you feel special. Maybe it gets you attention. Despite what some people think, those aren't bad reasons. We all need to feel special and we all need attention. There are better ways to achieve it however.
When you find the underlying cause of the behaviours, you can learn to modify them. A therapist can be much more helpful than I can, but if you can examine those questions and come to answers, you might still be in the realm where you can stop this yourself.
The fact that you're concerned enough to post here, however, makes me think it's something you should be seeking real time help for.
Please, try and get a handle on this now.
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My dad is gay and married another man!! AHHHH!! I hate being around because he used to be straight!! AHHHHHHHHH!
I suspect he didn't actually "used to be straight." He might have been in denial, or he might have tried to change himself, but that's not something you suddenly choose or decide.
He's still the same person. He has a different taste in partners, but he's still the same dad he always was. I would bet he still loves you just as much as ever, and if anything, now that he's "out," he probably has less to worry about and even more chance to love you.
I bet it's a huge weight of his mind. Try and be happy for him, even if it's not easy. You'll get used to it, and you'll learn that he's still the same person he always was.
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I have been getting really bad anxiety lately, and its been keeping me from going to school. When I do go to school its like I'm just trying to get through it and get home...Its really bad, it makes it hard to do my work. I'm failing all my classes...I've never failed anything before. I'm a a-b student. But by the looks of it, I'm going to end up failing almost, if not all my classes. If I'm not there, I cant learn the stuff to do the papers and if I can't go...well then I'm screwed. I'm trying all I can to just squeek by but I don't see that happening with the percentages I have now.
My question is, if I fail my freshman year, will colleges not take me? I intend on doing online schooling next year and doing everything I can to catch up but...I'm really scared. I've always wanted to go to college and now its like...I'm ruining my life and its all going down the drain. So, will colleges not take me because of this?
I have to underline the point that Sabine made.
You don't have to live like this. In fact, the more you avoid things, the worse it will be.
I know from personal experience that it's hard as hell to push yourself to do something when your body is in panic mode. But I also know that if I didn't, I would be totally housebound at this point in my life, and possibly worse--confined to my room, even.
There are medications, and there are techniques. Focused breathing has helped me immensely. Concentrate on breathing in and out, slowly, and focus just on your breaths. It takes time to actually get it right, and I was doubtful at first too, but the more I practiced, the better it worked. Concentrating on the fact that I'm anxious also helps--I can rationally acknowledge the feeling and decide how I'm going to deal with it. When I acknowledge it, it automatically has less power over me.
That said, if you fail courses this year, you can do them over. Even if you squeak by, I believe you can repeat them if need be.
Colleges mostly look at your senior year marks. Coupled with SAT scores, and an essay, you should be okay.
But please, don't let this thing take over your life. If you can't get through school, how will you get through college?
Find the strongest part of you, and stand up to your anxiety. I guarantee that although it's hard, and sometimes even feels impossible, it's worth it.
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I feel really weird asking this lol but I need help. See I never know exactly when I'm going to get my period, but I briefly know around which time it comes. I was wondering, if it was okay to put a tampon in when you think it's coming soon, but you don't have your period. I dont want to get that toxic shock syndrome or anything like that, so if anyone could help me out that would be great =]
From all I've read, the answer is no.
http://www.hc-sc.gc.ca/iyh-vsv/prod/tampons_e.html
That link says so. It also gives information about tampon use in general. It's a government site, so you can be pretty confident that it's correct.
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My Winzip is "expired" so I want another program that's good so I heard of 7zip? Can it replace WinZip when it's downloaded and does anyone have it on their computer so I can be rest assured that it's safe? What about the files that need Winzip to open? Will they not work anymore?
7zip is amazing. Safe, free, and it does everything Winzip does. I've never had any problems with it, nor have I found anything it can't open.
I definitely recommend it. You don't necessarily have to delete WinZip, but I doubt you'll want to use it anymore once you use 7zip.
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how do i get them copyrighted?
As nice as Hector's answer is, it doesn't work. See the site here:
http://www.copyrightauthority.com/poor-mans-copyright/
As mentioned, anything that is yours remains yours. You keep the copyright.
HOWEVER, if you're looking to get published, you have to consider further things. Copyright is important, but if you want to get paid for your work, most companies will want first rights--in other words, you can't have published it anywhere else, the internet included. So keep that in mind as well.
Unfortunately, there's no fool-proof way to prove you own something. At this point in your life, if you're that concerned, you might want to keep your work to yourself. Otherwise, don't worry about it too much, and trust that people will respect your copyright.
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my kodak digital camera is being weird. when i turn it on the screen says the kodak logo thing like normal, and then the screen turns black and it shuts off..but the batteries arent dead because ive changed them so many times to make sure that wasnt the problem. help?
I dearly hope this doesn't sound condescending because it's not intended to.
I have a Kodak digital camera and to see picture, I need to press the "okay" button that's on it. You might have to do something similar.
If you have, and it doesn't work, definitely get it looked at. Depending on when you got it, it might be under warranty.
You might also try taking a look at the website; there might be a recall, or something under frequently asked questions.
Hope you get it working!
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So my family is kind of divided into two when it comes to eating I guess. My dad and my sister cannot. ABSOLUTELY cannot go on for more than a day without eating meat. My mom and I, we could really care less. But nowadays my mom is getting swept into the whole "Need meat everyday" scene.
Well, I'm 14/f and I want to be a vegetarian because I find eating meat so often is disgusting and I just want a healthier lifestyle.
The problem is that my mom will not let me be a vegetarian saying that it is unhealthy [I know, ironic, right?] She always prepares meals containing meat so I have nothing else to eat and she literally shoves meat down my throat lol
So my question is how should I bring up the topic of me becoming a vegetarian again? How can I convince her that me being a vegetarian is not unhealthy and that it's not a sin or a bad thing? What are some food she can cook without meat in there and is still healty (try to avoid eggs please)? Just overall how can I get my mom to let me be a vegetarian?
The first thing I see is that you ask what kind of foods SHE can cook without meat. Hate to say it, but if you want different meals than the rest of the family, you'd probably have a lot more success if you at the very least offered to help out with them.
Find out more about sources of protein and how much you need daily. Write out a plan of how you'll get enough protein, and show it to her. If she goes for it, stick to the plan. Show her you're serious about doing this, and about being healthy. Take on the responsibility of making different choices than the rest of your family.
Also keep in mind that vegan/vegetarian food tends to be more costly than "regular" meals. If your family struggles with money at all, that might be part of your mother's reluctance, even if she's never said so.
If you're willing to step up, help out, and map out a meal plan, you'll be demonstrating a willingness and responsibility to eat vegetarian food without much hassle, and without endangering your health. In my experience, that can go a long way to convincing someone. Basically--how can you accomplish this so that both you and your mom are happy with the situation? Work on that, and the rest will come.
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what should i take in 10th grade...french or spanish? whaterver i choose i want to take all 3 yrs cause its what a colleg will look for. so i want to have an impressive resame. what will look better 3 yrs of french or spanish? thanks
If you live in Canada or plan to go to a Canadian university, French is probably the way to go. Otherwise, you're likely better off with Spanish.
But if you have even a slight preference, choose that one. It'll be a lot easier to stick it out.
Besides, universities generally don't look that closely at your specific classes, just that you've graduated and taken a second language, maths, sciences, etc. If it's not specific to your planned career, there's not a huge reason to pursue one over the other.
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14/f
120/5'3
i have no self controll at all. i seriously try to run daily but i think i have some kind of OCD because i can't go into my basement without doing weird things and being scared to look be hind me. i try to eat healthy but then i just go off and eat a whole shit load of chips or something. what can i do to controll myself, geting eathy and running daily
Change your routine a bit every day. If you get stuck doing something a certain way, every time you do it, you'll get even more stuck.
Don't restrict yourself to running. Decide that you're going to do something fun that just happens to involve physical activity--volleyball, soccer, badminton, hockey, jumping rope, juggling . . . the possibilities are endless. If you can do something you enjoy and it gets you up and moving around, you're halfway there.
Set time aside every day that you'll use for exercise. Make an appointment with yourself, just as you would with the doctor--it's your time, and you exercise during it. Be strict, although don't be entirely rigid.
As for the eating, that's a tough one. Make sure you're getting balanced meals and that you're not hungry--if you want to munch, get some carrots or cucumbers and light dip, or even some dry cereal. Watch your portion sizes. Eat salad--leafy greens have virtually no calories and fill you up. Get enough protein and it will keep you feeling full. Don't gorge on carbs, but don't rule them out entirely. No food should be forbidden.
Again, structure might help. Set aside one day per weel when you have one treat, such as a chocolate bar or a bowl of chips. Be aware of how many calories are in these things, but don't obsess.
Eat several small meals throughout the day. Whole grains are good when it comes to carbs--they have more nutritional value and they fill you up. Chicken is very low-fat protein as long as you don't load it up with dressings or sauces. Look for lower calorie alternatives--instead of fast food pizza, put tomato sauce, low-fat cheese, and veggies on a pita or sub bun. Cook hamburgers at home. And don't forget milk! It helps you lose weight--1% or skim is best, and you really will grow to like them if you don't already.
Good luck.
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I will not say what I believe in for abortion because that may influence your answer..but someone brought this to my attention...
do you consider this an exception for abortion..if an 11 year old girl got pregnant(raped) and her hips couldn't support the baby. Do you believe that when a girl has her period she is ready to give child birth even though her age may not be? Any insight would be greatly appreciated! Thank you.
I'm pro-choice and while I don't entirely agree with having an abortion if you have irresponsible, promiscuous sex, I absolutely agree with it in the case of rape, or if the mother's life would be in danger. At 11, if she couldn't support the baby, I would be even more firmly in favour of abortion.
That said, if the girl doesn't want the abortion, she should have some control over that decision, but perhaps not full control, if she IS in danger . . .
It wasn't her fault and she had nothing to do with it. She shouldn't have to deal with any more pain than has already occurred.
I strongly hope this is a hypothetical situation.
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is it possible for your feet to shrink lol? because im in 10th grade 16/f and my feet have not grown since i was in 5th in fact they have apparently shrunk seeing as i used to wear an 8.5 and now i wear an 8...? but ive grown like 3-4 inches taller since then so the growth spirt is already over and done. haha idk is that just weird?
If you've lost a substantial amount of weight, your feet might slightly change their size, although it would more likely be width than length.
Chances are it's just a difference in the shoe. There's no standard shoe sizing--all shoes vary.
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I have a disease called Lupus and it feels like no one has it or knows about it...if you know anything about it or anyonyone that has it, can u plz tell me...
xoxoAmber
I know a fair bit about Lupus, because some of its symptoms are similar to what I have, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. Lupus tends to make you tired, and causes you major problems in the sun (the "butterfly" rash). There is no cure, only management, but it's still possible to live a good life with it.
I haven't read details lately, but I do know that much.
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Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and Fibromyalgia Syndrome, that sounds pretty heavy lol...
So are you doing better now?
Hmm, this technically isn't advice. So, I'll use it to . . . educate.
Currently I'm doing okay. My Chronic Fatigue is fairly under control, and the Fibromyalgia is a lot better than it has been, too. I'm walking almost every day, which is a huge help. Last year at this time I was too sick to even try to get out of the house, yet this year I'm walking almost 3km per day, so I'm just grateful for that. I sometimes take days off because I can feel my body breaking down, but I've learned to listen to it. That's been the biggest challenge (and it often still is)--learning to listen and respect my limits.
I do know, however, that I could flare up at any time. That's the fun part of the illness--it's unpredictable. No matter how hard you try, you can't predict what will happen, nor can you fully manage it.
I'm hoping I'm in remission for good. The typical recovery time for youth is about five years. If I am in recovery, I'd be thrilled. But if I'm not, I think I'm at the point where I can tolerate it. Hopefully, I'd even be able to handle it if it gets worse again.
Thanks for the concern!
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