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are my friends trying to ignore me?
Every time I want to talk to my friends, I have to go up to them myself and talk to them. They never go to me to talk. None of them!! Whenever I am on AIM, nobody ever IMs me unless I IM them first. Same thing goes with any situation and I am sick and tired of that, because I wish I didn't have to start the conversation all the time.
I do ask them why they don't talk to me first, but then they say, "I am sorry. I'll do it next time" but they never do!!
What's going on and what can I do??
Thanks
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Ok. One of my friends does what you do. It may be mean, but when someone is all worried about that kind of stuff, it is soo easy to tease them and it makes you not want to talk to that person. So, I would defidently stop telling them that they don't talk to you first. If you want to talk to them, talk to them! If you want people to talk to YOU more, make them WANT to. Always IM them or whatever. It will make them feel good and they'll want to be around you more. The point is, don't worry about it.
If you want to be talked to and they aren't doing it, just talk to them! It doesn't mean they don't like you or something. :]
~BRiANA
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confront them one last time...tell them how you feel.Tell them that if they really like you to treat you the way you treat them and if they dont like you to tell you straight to your face and stop being hippocritical!If you do confront them this last time and they change then thats great for you!if they dont...dont even think about telling them again or even consider talking to them!You wont let your pride and dignity go down like that for people that arent worth it!Why waste your time with people that dont apreciate you when you can find ppl that would love to have a freind like you!
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As one of those types of people, maybe I can add a different perspective.
I have trouble IMing people first. It's not because I don't like them, or they've offended me, it's simply a bad habit I've gotten into. I have a bit of an inferiority complex. When I first got MSN messenger, I would IM people often. Several of those people consistently told me they didn't want to talk to me. I quickly learned not to send the first message.
I'm trying to challenge that habit, and I'm getting a bit better at it, but it's still hard.
Don't assume your friends don't like you. Be gentle with them and tell them how you feel--that they don't like talking to you. See what they have to say.
It's not exactly RIGHT for you to have to start all the conversations, but it might not be as personal as it feels.
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Ask them if you did something that may have offended them. Maybe there's rumors around that you said something untrue???
Here's what I would do:
Don't IM them on AIM anymore. Just wait for them. And in public, start hanging out with some other people & see if they start talking to you. You know...just to see how they react?
Did they ever USED to IM you?
Ever USED to call you?
Ever USED to start talking to you first?
If so, there's something wrong here. Something is weakening your friendship with these people & you need to talk to them & see what it is. Do they gang up on you or whatever?
Because, if they have no problem going up to each other but they never talk to you...
do you like annoy them or something?
Do you always talk about the SAME THING OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN?
I'm sure you didn't do much (if anything!) but I advise you to spend some time with other people. Hope I helped
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they aren't real friends
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