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I'm a nineteen year old girl whos dreams are to help the world. But for now, I'll start on Advicenators :)I can't say I can relate to every question that comes my way (probably most though!), but I guarantee I'll understand. And sometimes that's all you need...a little understanding :)
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I'm 22/M, average looking, and only had 1 real relationship in my life
I live in Centerville now but graduate college in 4 months, and move to Akron
Names and Towns have been changed.
Cora lives in Town B where I move to. She's kind of a player, but she likes me (has kissed me when I visited last time, I know she likes me) and talks to me online quite a bit. Kind of a drama queen and pretty wild. But I'm really attracted to her and her personality.
Kris lives in current town A. She's the exact opposite, really shy, kind of a different lifestyle than me, but just super sweet and nice (very similar to my personality). Much easier for me to talk to in person than Cora.
Basically I like to party a little too, but I fall right in the middle of Wild Cora and Boring Kris. I don't want to move and have something fall apart with Cora and never have tried anything with Kris. I also don't want to fall for Kris and then move, plus I'm pretty sure I'll hurt Cora's feelings if I get into a relationship.
I also don't want to sit here idly. I'm 22 and have had one hap-hazzard relationship while my friends are already getting married. So I want to try something. It's just weird because I have feelings for both girls. What should I do/Who should I go for?
I think you should go with the sweet shy girl. In the end, I bet she's the one you see yourself settling down with in a few years or so.
HI I am sophie I dated this guy for a year and it was thought he really liked me I mean we got along so well. And last week he dumped me and he said it was becouse I was mixed raced and that kind of would confuse things and that he cant get to serious. I dont know what he meant but I am really hurt I have always found white guys more attractive than black guys but my freind who is mixed 2 is dating a black guy and he is fine with her being mixed do white guys find mixed raced girls weird?
Well, some people like ketchup with their eggs, some don't. It's all a matter of preference. ANYONE who bases anything off of another person because of their skin color and what nationality runs through their blood is close minded and ignorant. Their pretty much putting you down for something you have absolutely no control over.
Be proud of who you are. If white boys is what you like, then find your self another white boy who knows what he has when he has you :)
Does it hurt to get tounge pierces?
Yes, it hurts.
when a guy tells me that he isnt glad he is diabetic because im so0 sweet hat does that mean.. does it mean he rlly likes me.. i mean i really think he likes me.. plz answer and i will rate U.. thanks
LOL! That's hilarious. Well, lucky for you, I'm diabetic! So I can tell you exactly what it means :)
Well, I'll just give you the basics. Diabetics can't have sugar (they can, just not a lot at once) So, when he says I'm glad I'm not diabetic, cause your so sweet...well I mean, the rest is obvious :)
It means if he was diabetic, he would have youu. So, yeahh he likes you :)
me n my boyfrend have been dating for 5 months. i am so in love with him and he is in love with me too. everything was going fine n we were having the same problems as usual but they never really got us down that much n we worked on them. our biggest problem was that he had alot of insecurities which made him have trouble believing me when i saidd that i love him. a few days ago he texted me that we needed to talk. i met him in the hallway and he sed that we needed a break. i was dumbfounded and didnt even know where this came from. he sed he wanted me to get with other guys and see if i still loved him after. he just never thought i was serious when i sed i was in love with him. so i ws like ok and i didnt know what to say. we didnt talk in two days which is definateely not like us since we text 24/7 and he didnt seem to care at all. finally i texted him that we needed to talk. we fought and said alot of mean things. he said he needed a break from me. i said ok but we kept texting. we just talked about our day and nothing about our relationship. then, he asked how i was and i told him how upset i was about the whole break thing. he was really rude about it and said for Gods sake im not divorcing u. i was really hurt but he didnt seem to care at all. he sed he needed a break from all the compliments and i loves yous. i was astounded and very hurt. this came out of nowhere. he said he needed a break of not talking at all. i was sad because we hang out everyday and i missed him. we started texting a little and then he just started giving me one word answers. i said do u even want to talk to me? he said no. so i said well ok? he said well ill let you go then. i said you mean ull let yourself go. n he said yep bye. we havnt talked since that conversation yesterday. I am so hurt that this is so easy for him not to talk to me and that i am so upset about it. he doesnt even seem to care at all. i dont know why all of a sudden he is saying he needs his space and we cant talk. i feel like he doesnt love me anymore but i guess i have to give him his space. he says we will be on this break till he has an epiphany. but what if he never has one and this turns into a permanent break? i dont know what to do , i love him so much and cant lose him. thank you for any help
He's trying to play hard to get, and that's not love. If he honestly didn't want to talk to you, he wouldn't of texted back saying "Well I'll let you go then"
The only reason he did was because he wants you to keep texting him. Show him how much it's killing you. He sadly enjoys it. Don't give him that satisfaction.
Get with some other guy then let him text you with how much its killing him. Serves him right for playing games.
what is the cheapest and easiest way to tell if me or my fiance are sterile?
We've been having unprotected sex for 3 years, not trying to intentionally have a baby, but we want to eventually. we thinks its wierd that after 3 years im still not pregnant
Ask your doctor. The only way to find out are test run by doctors.
So, I live in NY and I have an interview for a summer job soon. I have NEVER been on any kind of interview, and I am SOOO the nervous type. What should i be prepared for? What are the do's and dont's? All kinds of tips are appreciated! And if it helps, the job I'm applying to is for a summer camp daycare type thing for toddlers. Thanks in advance!
Flirty :]
Dress nice! That includes wearing a smile! :) haha
Well, their going to ask questions like Why do you want this job? What are your grades? Probably if you'll have time during the summer. Since it's dealing with kids, probably questions about what kind of person you are. Dealing with kids means a lot of patience is needed. So ask your self "How would my teachers, friends, parents, describe me?" That might be a question they ask ;)
okay so my boyfriend of 5 months bought me a $250.00 necklace for christmas, but about 2 weeks later I broke it off. He told me to keep the necklace and said that it was mine. Except now hes asking for it back. I would give back because I really dont want it but I kinda lost it. :S So,I just ignore his myspace messages and his texts. I dont know what to do. I have no clue where the necklace is! Ive looked everywhere, and I dont want to tell him or talk to him or anything. I completely HATE him! I dont want anything to do with him! What do I do??
ugh What a jerk. Definitely NOT a gentleman. He gave it to you as a gift. Not your fault he didn't take into consideration you two weren't going to last forever. The only time I believe you should ever HAVE to give jewelry back is if it's an engagement ring and you two broke it off. Other than that, you don't have to give it back. Buttttt if you don't care about that, then just message him back and be like I've been looking all over for it, but I can't find it. When it shows up, I'll let you know.
We're all in our early twenties. This is kind of a weird question...
My boyfriend has a few close friends (male), and they all have this really rapid-fire way of talking where there's never a break in conversation. They have all these inside jokes and stories they laugh about with each other constantly, and when I hang out with them, I just clam up because some of the stuff they talk about would never even cross my mind.
I'm a very introverted person. My boyfriend sees a side of me no one else does, and he knows this. He also knows that his friends make me uncomfortable, but he's expressed concern that he feels like they're ignoring me and I'm not even trying to contribute to the conversation. It upsets him.
Problem is, I don't know how to talk with them. It's like they have their own language - I've talked to him about all of this. I'm including his brother in this group, and his brother's not my biggest fan, to say the least. Needless to say, I get quiet around people I know don't like me.
So, I don't fit in. I can't converse with them. How do I get better at this?
hmm. Going into a group of people who all share memories in common which clearly you can't participate in because you weren't there at the time! I'd feel out of my comfort zone, too. So, why don't you bring in a little bit of your own "life style" to the group of conversation. Ask your boyfriend (of you could ask if you want) if he'd ask his guy friends if they would all like to go bowling or something with you and a few of your girlfriends. Pick some place where you could all mingle. It would give them a chance to see how you really are when your in your comfort zone. And if you think about this and decide it's an ok idea, DON'T GO INTO IT WITH A NEGATIVE ATTITUDE! :) I hope this help!
well so im 14, turning 15 really soon. i do not look my age at all. i look atleast 17. anyways theres this guy. i met him and he said he was 19, and i really started liking him and stuff, but later on i did find out that he really is 27, he has his reasons to lie about his age but i dont want to get into it. and i just found out his real age the other day, it shocked me to death the first day, second day pretty weird, but today im totally over it and still really like him. and we had a talk last night about us being together and me soon moving in with him when im able to move out. he still doesnt know that i know hes 27, he cant know i know, long story. but is it wrong to be in love with a 27 year old when your only 14 years old? =/
Honey, when it comes to men, live by these 3 rules, if any. NEVER date a liar, cheater, or a thief.
He falls into one of those categories. The liar one. And that's the worse one because he would very well fall under all three!
I'm 16 years old , Female . Well I fell in love at the age of 14 [ don't care if anyone thinks it's too young ] . Me and my first love Dated for a year and 3 months . We broke up summer of O8' June 1st , and best believe it was the hardest thing I thinkk i've had to go through . Well In November I started dating this guy named Jason , treats me better than any guy ever has ... Well I do love him and believe I am in love with him. Problem though , It's so hard getting over Justin [ first love ] & it sucks because i'm the first girl Jason [ current bf ] has ever been " in " love with . Y'all it's almost been a year since the break up with Justin & I really need to get over him but I know it takes time ... But I feel horrible bc I can't give my whole heart to Jason when I still feel as if Justin has some of it but I have all of Jason's heart ... It would'nt be that hard if Justin did'nt go to the same school abd I see him everyday . But Jason said he'd wait because i'm worth it but honestly no guy wants to stick around when ur stuck on someone else .. Help me get over Justin , I need to give my all , 100% to Jason , he's the greatest boyfriend i've had .
Think of it this way. You know the biotch that ran into you in the hall way and didn't say excuse me but instead said excuse YOU like it's your fault and for some odd reason the first thing that comes out of your mouth is "sorry" or "excuse me" even though it was clearly her fault, your taking the rap. But then after you think about it your like "ugh that girl is such a biotch!"
She didn't take you into consideration. She doesn't careee about your feelings. She's not thinking about you.
Neither is Justin. He's that biotch in the hall way that isn't thinking about how your feeling.
Now, ask your self. Why would you care for someone who doesn't care about you? You didn't when it came to the biotch in the hall way. So, every time you see him at school, call him a biotch in your head. That will (hoefully!) not only make you laugh, but make him look less appealing :) No girl wants to date a biotch.
Hi :) 16/F
So I'm in my first relationship ever, and it's going great.
There's just one problem, and it's becoming more and more of an issue.
Before I go on, my boyfriend loves me, and I know he does. He doesn't mean to offend me and I'm sure he doesn't realise what he's doing, and that's part of the problem.
He seems to talk about other girls, a lot. Now, I really don't care if he talks to other girls, or befriends them. It's his life, he can do whatever he likes. HOWEVER, he talks about them in a very...explicit manner.
He will constantly tell me about girls he wants to have sex with, girls he wanted to have sex with in the past, and girls he regretted he didn't have sex with.
It makes me feel pretty insecure, am I not good enough? Firstly, I know guys have these sorts of thoughts naturally, and I have no problem with that. Really, I don't. Just because he's going out with me, doesn't mean they will go away. I just find it disrespectful he will tell this to ME out of all people. I don't care if he says this stuff to his friends, I just don't want to hear it.
He also rang me up today to complain about his porn collection being lost. It wasn't even a "Hahaha my porn collection got lost :P" it was a full on bitch session.
I know, I know, why am I telling you guys how much this bothers me instead of him.
Well, I have 2 questions.
1. am I just being jealous, or is he doing something wrong? As I said, he can talk to girls for all I care. I just find it disrespectful he tells me how much he wants to do stuff with certain girls to me. How would you feel if you're cuddling with your boyfriend and then he suddenly goes on about how much he wish he had sex with his ex's sister? :S I'm pretty sure I'm not being ridiculous, I just want an opinion before I do anything else
2. It's being going on for too long, and I'm stupid for not saying anything sooner. I know. But because it's bothered me for so long, it's embarrassing to say anything now. At first I thought he was joking, and it wasn't very often. But as our relationship went on and we saw each other more often, it happened more often...anyway, I'm just letting it slide because
a) I don't want to sound jealous and insecure to him. I'm not jealous, it just makes me feel...weird.
b) Because it's been going on for so long he'll make a big deal out of it and ask why I didn't tell him sooner. I don't want it to be a big deal, all I want from him is to stop
c) I've been thinking about dumping him over it, that's how much it upsets me. But I can't dump him before I tell him the reason, and give him a chance to fix it.
So in short? How can I let my boyfriend know how much this bothers me without sounding jealous, and not sounding ridiculous I've let him do it for so long even though it really upsets me?
All my friends want me to dump him because he does it and doesn't even realise, but I have to let him know so he has the chance to fix it.
So, I totally love your story first off. I take that back. Not your story. The way you introduced it for us to answer. You pretty much answered your own question. The people here on Advicenators are not here to give you answers, but to guide you to get to your own answer. The KEY to a good relationship is NOT trust, honestly, blah, blah, blah. It's communication. And with that, trust is built. TALKING about your issues and THEN getting through them is what builds relationships. Confront your man with the problem, and if he really does love you, he'll work on it. If he doesn't, then you need to get rid of him. It just proves he's not ready for a relationship. When you love someone, you do not think about "doing other girls."
I am having trouble making friends, so i invited someone over for later this week. the problem is my house is pretty boring and i dont know what we should do. i dont want to come off boring and lose the possibility of friendship. what should i do?
Well, I could probably come up with some good ideas. It all depends on your age, how many people are coming, boys and girls?, anddd the rules at your house haha. So message me if you wanna talk about this! :)
17/f
Is it possible to build a worthwhile relationship with a "ladies' man?" What typically goes wrong with this type of guy? He seems to know all of the right things to say and do but sometimes doesn't seem genuine. Thanks!
Fake things AREN'T genuine. Ladies men aren't on the same page as ladies. While your trying to have a relationship, they are too. With you and three other girls. Those kind of people are afraid of commitment. Not saying it will always be that way, but at our age, it is. I'm 17/f, too :) haha
I'm 21, he's 23. He still lives with his mom and dad and brother, who's my age. We've recently gotten back together after like two years of fighting and pretending not to love each other. We're head over heels for each other, we treat each other well - I mean, we're still trying to get past some of the stuff that we had trouble with before, but we joke around with each other, we laugh together, we cry together...We'd have a perfect relationship now if it weren't for his family.
His family hates me - absolutely HATES me - I've done nothing to warrant this behavior. If anything, I've been a saint as far as they should be concerned. I've spent hours taking care of him while he was drugged out of his mind on painkillers after surgery, I've stayed on the phone with him at four in the morning when he couldn't sleep...Even so, his family just despises me.
I've spoken to them about this - they think we're "too much alike." His mother is "Afraid we're going to get married." They want him to "Stand on his own two feet."
I don't baby him. I don't think it's too much to make sure he knows he's loved. He does the same thing for me.
He actually had a conversation with his dad where he explicitly said that he loved me, and his dad said, "You can't control your heart. If you love her, then you love her," which my guy took as kind of a declaration of acceptance of his choice and of me.
I called their house the other day to get a hold of him because he wasn't answering his cell phone, and after we hung up, his dad bitched at him. They can't accept the fact that we love each other - they make every excuse in the world for it and try to say my guy's at fault, or something. His mother - I'm pretty sure - is certifiably insane. With a few psych books, I'm pretty sure I could diagnose her with more than one mental disorder, including bipolar. His father agrees with his mother about me.
His brother just hates me for no reason - well that, and I know he doesn't like me so I've never really let him get to know me. I'm kind of a closed off person. He has a girlfriend, so it can't be a jealousy issue.
I don't know, I'm at my wit's end, here. I've tried everything - talking to them, purposely not talking to them, pretending nothing's wrong, being bitchy to them, being sweet to them (I've even done their dishes (of my own accord, because I just couldn't stand the mess anymore))...
I feel at this point like he'd more likely walk out of their house than lose me, so I'm not concerned about him leaving me. This is, however, unnecessary strain on an already difficult relationship - all second chances are hard. We're handling it as well as we can, though.
Still, this sucks. If we were ever to decide to get married or anything, they would probably disown him...and I could really like his family if they didn't hate me so much...Does anyone have any ideas? =(
I'm sorry =( I've never been in that kind of situation before. They probably "hate" you because of all the issues you and him have had. While you two were fighting, he probably went to his family and told them everything, making you look like a crazy bitch. That's just how relationships work. You probably went to your family and did the same thing. But that doesn't matter. You two forgave each other, and so should his family. If they cared about him, they would accept you. But your not dating his family. Your dating him. It's nice when families get along, but sometimes, that's not the case. If you honestly feel like you've tried everything and are at your wits end, then stop trying. Don't let them bother you. If your happy with him, then that really is all that matters.
This question has been bothering me for the last week. If you didn't know Katelyn was a transgender, would you suspect?
She has masculine features...but does her voice give her away?
Some people just have a knack for that sort of thing. ( Like me! :] ) haha Others just aren't as observant or are ignorant when it comes to what to look for in a transgender.
So I've got a crush on a girl who lives in a different town but I'm moving there soon. She likes me back, but about 50% chance we can get something to work.
The second girl I just met and we have very similar personalities. Chances of making something work with her are about 95% (but I'm moving soon :(.
I just can't decide who I like, and I end up thinking about both of them all the time now which makes me feel so confused. Should I try something with 95% girl and hurt my crush's feelings? What if my crush and I never work anything out between us, I'll regret not trying something with 95% girl for the rest of my life. Help!
Well, if you and 95% girl can see each other a lot, then yeah, go for her!
hi! i am making my slideshow presentation recently.. can u suggest what free software can i get to have the intros effect i like for my 18th? like before starting the slideshow there's an animation or something that's so eye-catching suitable for my 18th.. thanks a lot!
umm a slide show? Like on a computer? Like a powerpoint? If that's what your talking about, go here:
http://download.openoffice.org/
When you get there click the green one, Download Open Office.org and keep doing the steps that follow after that. The powerpoint slide one is called Impress after you download it.
My sister just moved out. Her room was in the basement, and used to be a kitchen so there are cabinets and a sink and a stove. the owner refuses to take it down. I want to make this MY AREA! i plan to put in a futon, tv, maybe my computer and just have it be my "extra" room. The walls are white and the bottom half is light wood. I am not renovating, just redecorating/painting. I want some tips on what color I should paint the top half, the bottom is light stained wood. i want a relaxing but bright tone. It is in the basement with no window! What color do you suggest. Remember warm, inviting color that still brightens up the room?
I like the color in this picture :)
http://www.pointclickhome.com/files/web/u15/0707_DivineDesign_article.jpg
I need to find a way to space out my text. i have pictures on my page and my text are right up against my picture. when i press enter it doesnt enter my text i know i need codes so if you could please give me all the codes you can that would be great.
I need to
space and
it enter it
like this
but other codes would be great to thank you very much
To add on to what BOTH the people put below me haha you can also change the color of your text with this code:
Then write what you want colored here
If you want to change your font size use this code:
Write what you want here
I have a list of color codes if you need any. I'm pretty good with a lot of codes.
Hope this helped! :)