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My guy's friends
We're all in our early twenties. This is kind of a weird question...
My boyfriend has a few close friends (male), and they all have this really rapid-fire way of talking where there's never a break in conversation. They have all these inside jokes and stories they laugh about with each other constantly, and when I hang out with them, I just clam up because some of the stuff they talk about would never even cross my mind.
I'm a very introverted person. My boyfriend sees a side of me no one else does, and he knows this. He also knows that his friends make me uncomfortable, but he's expressed concern that he feels like they're ignoring me and I'm not even trying to contribute to the conversation. It upsets him.
Problem is, I don't know how to talk with them. It's like they have their own language - I've talked to him about all of this. I'm including his brother in this group, and his brother's not my biggest fan, to say the least. Needless to say, I get quiet around people I know don't like me.
So, I don't fit in. I can't converse with them. How do I get better at this?
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hmm. Going into a group of people who all share memories in common which clearly you can't participate in because you weren't there at the time! I'd feel out of my comfort zone, too. So, why don't you bring in a little bit of your own "life style" to the group of conversation. Ask your boyfriend (of you could ask if you want) if he'd ask his guy friends if they would all like to go bowling or something with you and a few of your girlfriends. Pick some place where you could all mingle. It would give them a chance to see how you really are when your in your comfort zone. And if you think about this and decide it's an ok idea, DON'T GO INTO IT WITH A NEGATIVE ATTITUDE! :) I hope this help!
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Alright, ask him when you are all hanging out to bring up a couple of subjects that you could easily talk about. Also, ask him if everyonce in a while you could just hang out with one or two of his friends rather then all so you can get to know them better and are able to hang out. Also, you could let him go hang out wiht the guys and you could have a girls night. If your b/f says well what do I say if they ask why your not there, just tell him to say that your having a girls night, and end at that. Good Luck!
Yes I do understand that..in that case I would do what I said above which is tell him to brin up certain subjects that are easy for you to join in. Good Luck!
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