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So as a child I masterbated all the time, though I didn't know really what I was doing, just that it felt good.
I am sixteen now and only very recently realized that I don't really have a clit... or it's small and hard and doesn't feel anything.
I'm wondering if I hurt myself when I was young? And is there a way to fix it?
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On the Internet you will find a lot of medical diagrams and actual images of what different parts of the female reproductive system are supposed to look like. That could help you determine that there's nothing wrong with the way your clitoris looks like and that you do in fact have one as does every female.
The only diagram I could find that wasn't an actual image or broke any rules of this site is here from Wikipedia. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Clitoris_outer_anatomy.gif
Also, you can't break, damage or make it permanently insensitive or non-functional. You couldn't permanently hurt yourself as a child either. It's likely a matter of always doing something the exact same way or too often that it no longer pleases you the same. In that case stop for awhile. You're fine, your anatomy is and works as it's supposed to. Nothing to fret over.
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So, I've been best friends with this girl ever since I can remember. She was my best friend in high school and has been my best friend ever since we started college. But, something happened along the road. She did a lot of things that I didn't agree with. For instance, she started cheating on her boyfriend, hooking up with girls, lying to her parents (not small lies) and using me as her escape (like, telling her parents she was with me), she got pregnant and had an abortion, she was seeing her ex boyfriend in secret while she was with her boyfriend (who works in the same office). Well, these things seemed to be her personal life and none of my business. But, it became my business when I started covering up for her. It also became my business when she started talking about me behind my back, ditched me at a club and left me by myself, and told my ex boyfriend terrible things about me that weren't true in order for us not to speak anymore. I decided that I wouldn't take action against her or this, because that's not me. But... I decided her to block her off my facebook wall. Not block her... but just so that she couldn't see my wall. I haven't even heard from her in like two months, after she ditched me at the nightclub.
I know that really, I have not done anything to her.I haven't ratted her out, I haven't said anything about her. I simply just chose not to associate with her anymore. She has not made an effort to contact me either. We can get along if she were to, I just couldn't let her into my personal life in the same way. But, her boyfriend gives me very nasty looks when he sees me at school. The dept where she works is at school, the school that we both go to. Her boyfriend already graduated but he works there now.
Well, I have an interview at the same office that she/they work. I may even see her tomorrow. I know I didn't really do anything. But, her bf's bad looks make me feel as if she thinks I did. I hope that tomorrow, if I see her at the office, it isn't awkward. Let alone, if I work there. I would really like to work there because I need the money and I need a job at school. It's very difficult to get a job at school and I"m lucky to have gotten this interview. By no means, should I let this stand in the way.
What can I do to make this more pleasant?
Thank you
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I would bet you a million dollars that whatever problem you have with her and with her boyfriend will be brought into that working environment and poison the atmosphere, create havoc on the gossip mill and make it difficult to work there or change employers perceptions of you unfairly. That said, you'll be hired based on your resume and if you have it you can do well but do you really want to put up with high school mentality and BS when you are trying to be serious about your job if you get it? You may need money but you don't need torment. Ask yourself if it's worth it and consider keep searching for something better. It will come. This to me doesn't sound like your rightful place.
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So my ex wanted to hang out with me next week and he asked me to pick a place to hamg. I want to pick somewhere that doesn't seem like a date. I want to avoid the movies because we did that a lot when we first started dating, and I don't want to end up getting "intimate" with him. I just want to hang with him as a friend, but I don't know what to suggest. I've got about a few hours in the day to spend with him. What should I do? (link)
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Have you tried indoor go-karting or even outdoor karting for that matter and competing against one another and friends? You could get a group together and then splinter off away from them once your race concludes. Indoor rock climbing might be fun too. If you're 16+ most comedy clubs would let you in if you don't drink.
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First of all I know it isn't busted capillaries because its really high up on my arm and I haven't done anything lately that could cause that. It's these weir little purple dots on the upper part of my arm and they don't itch or hurt or anything they are just...there. I do have a skin condition called eczema but that usually itches and is red. What I'm wondering is if it could be just another part of my eczema or is it something else? (link)
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We aren't doctors and even if we could diagnose your condition we couldn't because we cannot see the actual arm. I would contact the doctor that you have for your skin condition and tell him/her about the bumps and have them figure it out. Be sure to note if they change color or appearance. Once you see the doctor you'll know for sure what it is.
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me and my bf really really liked eachother befor we started dating, his fb relationship stadus said "in a relationship" . Now we started dating and now it says "single" ???? (link)
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It's quie possibly that he hasn't changed it since the breakup with her and simply forgot about it. If it bothers you ask him to change it. I'm sure he will and that it means nothing beyond an oversight.
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Okay well I am extremely, deathly afraid of turkeys and it gets annoying because my neighbors just got some and I'm afraid to go outside. I got attacked by one when I was little and I never really got over it. I need some tips on how to get over this fear. This is serious I am not joking! (link)
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Try eating one ;) Seriously, if the neighbors have them on their property go and talk to them and explain the irrational fear. Have them let you meet with one in a controlled setting and then you should be fine. It's all psychological. If that doesn't work mention it to a doctor as the fear is a mental blockage.
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I'm going to try and make this as short as possible..
There is this guy. He thinks I have big boobs, but I only have B's. The reason he thinks this is because I wear the miraculous bra from Victoria's Secret that's supposed to make you look 2 cup sizes bigger.
Now I'm afraid to ever take off my bra. It's not that I'm insecure of a guy seeing me naked, it's just that he's gonna be disappointed i feel. Every time he says something about my boobs I'm like "you're crazy, there not even big" and stuff like that.
What should I do? I am way to embarrassed to be like "yeah I wear a push up bra with ALOT of padding in it" And the thing is he's not experienced when it comes to being physical with a girl so I'm thinking maybe he would just be happy to see me topless but I don't know. What do you think I should do?? (link)
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The guy sounds like a boob himself if you want an honest opinion. If all he cares about is your physical stature and bust size than there's a problem. Also, start loving yourself for who you are and don't be embarrassed of your body. It's not something you can control.
If he doesn't like them than tough on him. Find someone who likes you inside and out and keep him. if I were you I would work and worry more about your view of your body than anyone else's and learn to be confident enough to throw that thing away and not wear it. He should be happy to be with you and supportive and if bra size which you cannot choose nor control is a sticking point with him tell him where the door is and to use it. Guys like that were never genuinely into you in the first place.
He shouldn't even be seeing your body if he has adopted and seems to hold to this immature view of what you should look like. It seems that it's more of an issue with him than you. Don't worry about disappointing this guy. He sounds like he's a bit of a big boob himself ;) That may sound harsh but that's an honest assessment.
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Sorry if this is in the wrong category for Sexual Health and Reproduction.
So I am 15, and a male, thinking about having sexual intercourse for my first time.
I don't really have a private place to do anything sexual, and my girlfriend suggested a movie theater but I am not sure what could happen if we were to get caught. What would happen if we got caught? I told her i wasn't to sure about being in a movie theater. She said she would atleast give me head, but i still am not sure if we should even do that there because it is still a public place. What would happen if we were caught while she was giving me head? What are your thoughts about this? (link)
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You would be ejected by the theater management and barred from the property. You would also have the police involved and likely charged with a lewd act and indecent exposure and have a sexual offense listed on record. That's what would happen. Not worth it.
Also, put yourself in the mind of other theater goers and what they're there for and anyone else who has to sit in the same cinema. It's a very bad idea. Find a private not public place as when you get caught no matter where in public you can wind up in legal trouble and a reputation that can't be erased.
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well at school my friends have all fell out with my other friend and i feel sorry formy friend but the others aare my bestfriends i am not taking sides but i just want us all to be back to normal because we cnt all be together at the same time because it wouldntbe fair, what should i do??
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Stick to your guns and what you know is right. Continue being a friend to this girl as she has never done you wrong. Let the others do what they will and sort out their issues with her but never mind that. It's not your business nor problem. Just go on being a friend to the other person and if they don't like it who cares? Don't ditch a true friend and follow the crowd. Lead by example it will make them smarten up or move on. It'll all sort out eventually.
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I'm 16 and female. I am super tight. I havent ever truely been fingered. I have had plenty of guys play with me but never really finger me. I want to have sex but I am nervous becaus I can't even get a tampon in and i do it properly. I relax and push the applicater all the way in and then it just pushes itself back out. I have have guys try and finger me but they have only gotten in 2 centimeters before it got extreamly painful and anymore than that I start crying. Any tips on what ius wrong with my bodyy if its my body and what can I do to loosen up??? (link)
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Have you tried using an articifal lubricant such as Ky Jelly to insert the tampon in nice and easy? Here's a link. http://womenshealth.about.com/cs/azhealthtopics/ht/How_Insert_Tamp.htm
It also says what I wanted to point out that unless you are calm, don't anticipate pain and clench muscles up you won't be able to get a tampon or anything else in. Also re: intercourse it's one size fits all and again artifical lubrication can help.
As for fingering if you don't produce enough of your own lubrication from self-stimulation artificial lubricant again will help with insertion.
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A cretic came to my school for career day. And i wasnt really payin attension but now im curious. those jobs seem like the easiest and the coolest jobs ever! Are they rich? (link)
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It's NOT an easy job by any means. Movie critics are almost always journalists first and do film reviews second. They are often hired as reporters and then wind up in the role later.
Critics must know grammar, be able to write clear and professional copy and be well-researched and up on the entertainment scene. They almost all have degrees from major institutions. If you can't write you won't make it as a critic as an interest in movies is only one part of it.
Are critics rich? Well, journalism of any variety is not a great paying job. You'll make a decent living, be known by your byline and opinion but unless you can write like Ebert and also have his kind of luck becoming a multi-millionare as a critic likely won't happen. I'm a writer so I know it's not something that will make you rich but will make you known and accomplished.
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Hello, I'm 15
The way my face looks really makes me self conscious. It's red, and when I try to take a good picture of myself my face is all blotchy not clear.
I have enough facial products, and the ones I'm using work alright. I use Cetaphil in the morning,and I use Deep Clean by Neutrogina at night..I try to avoid wearing make up but I do use this compact that's suppose to clear up your complexion. It's by Elf..nothing really works..I'd just like some advice for this. I have pretty fair looking skin..
Does anyone have this problem also? I just want some solutions.
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It's actually a medical condition believe it or and not something any of the creams etc. etc. you have tried will handle for you. It's called Rosesca (sp?) and it produces the constant blush, redness, and hat you describe. It's quite common and one of the more famous cases is Bill Clinton. It's nothing at all to be ashamed of.
What you need to do is see your family doctor and describe the embarassment you feel and how it affects you and get a referal to a dermatologist who will know the proper way to treat it and will likely give you medication--which is what you need to control it.
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My best friend recently made friends with this girl I cAn't stand. She is always trying to takeover all her time. She's basically an annoying disgusting skanky brat. I haven't told my friend I don't like her because I don't want her to get mad. This girl is so jealous of me she won't even hang out with me. I've done nothing to he r. I've told no one of my opinion
of her.
What do I do?! She is making me and my friend drift apart. (link)
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Nobody can make your friend not like you for any reason. The only person who can decide whether to maintain a friendship is her.
For what I can see you're awfully insecure about your place being taken or you being cast aside. The real issue here is ANGER on your part because you think she's replaced you.
All that has happened here is that this is a ne friendship so they'll be in to doing things togehter a lot for awhile and then it'll die down. It's best for you to keep your mouth shut and tag along for awhile.
Also, both of them can see you're insecure and or pissed and that may be why the new girl doesn't want to hang around with you. What makes her a brat or a skank? Try to get to know her as your friend must have seen something in her in order to be friends.
When people behave badly it's hen they need the most support and believe it or not love. she may be doing thsi to get attention or could be socially inept. Perhaps kindly telling her that she's coming across wrong with everyone will help you and everyone else. Either that or use tolerance when she's around your friend. That way you don't miss out. Your friend must like you or you wouldn't be around. Relax, don't take this too serious. It'll iron out.
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What does it mean when a guy says maybe when you ask him to a Dance?
I just asked my crush and he said maybe. Is it a No? Please answer honestly. I am 11 and so is he. (link)
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11-year-old boys are hard to read maturity wise. He may be interested in girls and then at other times more interested in action figures and childhood games that a relationship or in this case a dance.
As you know girls mature faster and he may feel awkward about dancing, being asked by a girl or just not ready or interested in the dance at all.
There's a few things that could be happening 1) He doesn't know if he wants to go 2) He feels intimidated by you and 3) He's just not into you right now and doesn't want to hurt your feelings or 4) The dance means little or nothing to him but a whole lot to you.
If I were you I would go to the dance with your girlfriends and stick with them and wait to see who asks you first and gve him no mind unless he does. If he's there and genuinely likes you he'll come to you. Don't go to him and make sure to dance with multiple partners as that's standard for most dances.
BTW, it's actually pretty much outdated to try and go with a guy to a school dance unless sadie hawkins or prom. Most teens go with friends and wait and see who approaches. Your request obviously caught him off guard so if he doesn't come to you assume he's not interested.
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I am a seventeen year old girl and just started fingerin myself after being with my boyfriend for two months. The other day when i was fingering myself, i had popped my own cherry. My mom doesn't know i finger myself let alone that i popped my cherry the other day. I've always been a good girl and its not myself to do there type of things. i think that when i tell her its going to hurt her feeling and she'll be ashame of me. How do i tell her that i popped my cherry and started fingering myself just because of this boyfriend i have now. (link)
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Good girls do. In fact, what you are doing is a form of masturbation which is healthy and natural. There's nothing to be ashamed of as it's pretty much universal with teens with 90% of males and 78% of females engaging it at all age ranges.
Your friends, classmates and other females you know are or have done so in the past but females are more discreet in talking about it than guys. The fact you do it doesn't make you dirty or a "bad" person.
Your mother knows that this activity is normal (you don't have to mention a boyfriend even) and pretty much knows and or suspects what you are doing that and likely would be more concerned you feel embarassed over it than anything else.
The hymen doesn't need to have anything sexual happen or masturbation to stretch and can happen through rigorous sports, tampon usage etc. If you need to tell your mom about it you don't necessarily have to link it to anything else. at either rate you're doing what almost everyone does and it's okay as long as you feel okay with it.
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I am a terrible procrastinator. I generally start papers a day or two before they're due, and I usually don't have too much of a problem with that. This semester, I'm taking a class in an unfamiliar subject and I'm finding it really hard to write. I'm currently in the middle of writing a paper that was due yesterday, but I am so stressed about the fact that I'm having trouble writing it, and on top of that, the fact that it's late and not even half-done. Every time I think about it, it triggers an anxiety attack. How can I calm down and get through this? (link)
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Try drawing what looks like a web of thought balloons on a piece of paper. Yes, I'm going somewhere with this. Put the thesis statement at the top and in the other balloons put arguments and or ideas that back it up.
Pick 2-3 and begin your paragraphs with them as the lead (topic sentence) and argue that fact and then tie back to the original thesis. That's one way of doing it.
You have to pick a strong thesis and blocks to build from and tie it all back so it's irrefutable. Take your time and spend a a day or two on each paragraph, editing and making it well ahead of deadline.
I'm not a salesman but I tell anyone who asks me about writing papers the same thing get the book that has saved my rear for years called The Lively Art Of Writing by Lucille Vaughan Payne. You may have to special order it but by the time you finish it you'll have no trouble ever writing anything again. It's the bible to me at least on how to write.
Anxiety is stress and health related and while it creeps up more often than not when you are in this situation it needs to be seen to medically as it may hide a greater issue you need to nip in the bud before it's a bigger part of life.
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For my boyfriend's and mine anniversary, I want to get him something special. I was thinking an autograph from his favorite celebrity? But I have no clue how to contact a celebrity.. I've tried fan pages but they don't really provide much. How should I go about this? post-mail? email?
what if I wanted them to sign something specific like a t-shirt, would i have to supply the t-shirt or would the celebrity get one? (link)
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Ebay is not the best place to get signed items as it's a big place for frauds. What you need to do is go onto a site like fanmail.biz get an address for the celebrity and send them an SASE for a picture or item.
Thing is you may lose your item altogether as it comes separated from your note. Quite often photos are pre-signed and a secretary sends them out. At other times the celebs actually answer them themselves with Amanda Seyfried being one example of that. If you just want a photo it's usually something they'll send in a 3 month period.
Also look for shops that sell memrobilia like this as you might find a signed item that way but be prepared to pay $ for it.
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I live with pain everyday and the doctor dont know what is wrong with me.I have diabetes,nuropthy,rumartard arthristis.But i feel different types of pain everyday,Like a squezzeing pain anround my chest and back,a piercing pain in my side,my whole back has a extreme throbbing pain going from my kneck to my hips,Sore spots all over my body where the lightes touch takes me to my knees,i cant stand,or walk long.sitting and lying down hurts i pee constantly like every 15 minutes.I had pacraritise twice,and my appendix taken out and all this pain came on me all at once during october 2008 and has not stopped since.I do take tramadol for pain.I have lost even more whaight since 2008 went from 260 to 215 before around 2004 i went from 360 to 260 in about a year.Does anyone have any ideas the doc might think i have fybermialgya to but who knows and the latest syptom has been exreme pain in my eyes and eylids along with blury vision. (link)
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If your doctor can't figure it out find one that can. Visit any emergency room and tell them you can't function straight and all of the above things and let them diagnose you properly.
And yes, if you can't sit, stand etc. etc. and are in constant pain than you've got an emergency worthy of hospital help. I would walk into an emergency room and tell them this plus the fact you can't see well and let them piece it together. By waiting on this other doctor you may be making your health worse. Sounds like this is for a specialist not a fmaily doctor to figure out.
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Hello
so I was looking at pictures of my friend and noticed that she does some modeling. She has a lot of professional pictures of her and when I asked her about it, she said she does some modeling. I told my boyfriend this and he suggest that I do some modeling too. He think i'm really pretty and have a great body. I'm not that confident in myself, so i don't really think I would actually get a gig.. But my boyfriend also said If i were to get one, it would boost my self esteem and make myself feel better about myself. So I agreed to him that I would at least try to get a modeling gig and test it out. Well i've been doing some research but now I feel like its nearly impossible.. I mean, out of the thousands of pretty girls.. why would anyone want to have me as a model? I'm also a little scared. What if I apply for a modeling job but its a scam and something bad happens to me? I'm 18 girl by the way.
Does anyone have any modeling experience or advice? any reliable companies or websites to apply? tips? thanks! (link)
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Why couldn't you ask her more about it? there's nothing wrong with expressing an interest in what she does, who with and how to try it. Nothing at all!
What you need to know is that you cannot sign with any agent without an adult present or if they insist on a portfolio of photos, lessons etc through them. You also need to know that for acting or anything else that nobody in the industry goes online looking for talent so it's a scam if they mention that.
Do not see any agent that isn't on ACTRA (Canada) or SAG (America) lists of reputable agents for film, stage, tv, modeling.
While it may be hard to score a modelling gig the easiest job to attain in the industry is that of an extra or background talent agent. You'll be on set and making a guarenteed amount per hour.
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Whenever my mum sees me she points out everything that is bad about me. For example, I have just had my hair cut, and when I got home, she said she hated it. She said it was too thin, not long enough etc. I just feel so upset about my life and I want to die. (link)
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There are bigger issues to worry about than mom's opinion of your haircut if you want to die over her comments. Perhaps she is too critical of you though.
If that is the case either talk to her about your feelings or enlist a teacher or trusted adult to mention how critical they think she is and its effect on you. Adults hate being called out by their peers but it will lead to changes.
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