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Well I have this "best friend"
I dont even no what she is really. we both have done so pretty fucked up stuff to one another, sutff that it acutlaly extremely interesting and fucked up beyond believe but that would take another paragraph to explain ( email me if you want the story, it is very unique) But all and all, I love her. latley tho, things have been the rockiest the ever have been. but i am still holding on. I dont even think I like her very much anymore, but I keep remeber our past and how good she was to me than, and I am hoping this is just a phase for her. I mean, she isnt mean to me at the moment, she just... lies around aloot. And her values are a bit fucked up. But with me, we are still best friends. Its just when we are in different places do I realize she may not be treating me right. Why i think this is a phase is because this all started when she started going out with this guy pete. ever since they have gone out, she like protiztizes him first and that sucks. So i am just trying to get people opinions what to do... should i keep around this girl who was amazinng to me before her bf , and although she still isnt BAD to me persay, she puts me 2nd...which is a super bad feeling. Idk. its just hard to place someone first in your life and than be placed second in theirs... but does that mean u take a break? or deal?
I left way to much out, so if you are turly interested in my story. shoot me an email. more than happy to share.
thanks! (link)
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People change, obviously. Right now, I don't believe that you need her as a friend.
When people get into relationships, their friends are usually put on the side. There are friends who try to keep their friends around though even if they are dating. But your friend doesn't seem interested in that so I'd just let it go.
Maybe eventually she'll realize that she pushed you away or just let you go. But for now, hang out with other friends and enjoy your life.
Be friendly with her, don't be mean and just move on.
People don't always stay the same. Their values, their friends, their attitude and their life changes. Just because they used to be a good friend to you, doesn't mean that they always will be.
You should pick good friends and stick with them.
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So I went to washington Dc with my mom for a political convention. It was three days. The first day we were there my phone fell in the toilet. I had no way of contacting my boyfriend because my mom doesn't have a phone and our schedule was packed tightly. The only thing I thought of was to email him or try using a computer texting app. I texted him to tell him what was going on that same day so he wouldn't freak out. He ignored all texts and emails. I got back and called him and he said he doesn't want us to be together anymore because he doesn't trust me because I ignored him for three days. I don't know how to feel about the situation. what do you guys think about the situation. (link)
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You did nothing wrong here. I'm sure you know that. He is overreacting and he has some trust issues. That's not your problem, that's his. Just because you didn't talk to him for 3 days doesn't mean that it's the end of the world. If he was a normal boyfriend, he probably would've came to some conclusions like, "She's busy, she'll talk to me when she can." or "Something must have happened to her phone."
He has his own issues to deal with. If he wants to leave, let him. You don't deserve a guy who doesn't trust you just because you didn't talk to him for a couple days.
My advice is not to beg him to keep you. If he talks to you again and tells you that he wants to break up, then don't fight it, don't argue, just say ok and move on.
His insecurity will ruin his future relationships. Don't stay with him and let him think that this is ok behavior.
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I have this issue with my step-brother and it's kinda complicated. Basically, when we met at the ages of 7 (me) and 9 (him) we hated each other. Then as we got older we became friends. Then when I was 14 and he was 16 our relationship changed as we became more touchy feely, so fights which used to be all about injuring each other just became about having fun Then we started cuddling during said fights, if we got tired. It's not like we grew up together since I only saw him every couple of weekends when I would visit my dad. So when I was 14 I had this huge crush on him and I thought that maybe he liked me back, since the way we would treat each other was definitely not one I would treat my siblings in and I'm certain he wouldn't treat them in the saw way either. However he got a girlfriend so I backed off. He later found out I liked him but he was totally cool with it. He said he'd still do anything for me and that it didn't change anything. Then in February this year, when I was 16 and was 18, he and his girlfriend of 1 1/2 years split and he and I got really close again. We'd talk on Facebook a lot but then he started making really suggestive comments and hinting about kissing me. In March whilst at my Dad's house he and I ended up hanging out together. He began teasing me that I wanted him, and then I went off on a rant about how I didn't. Mid-rant he kissed me. He was my first kiss and he knew that too. I know at 16 maybe that's kinda lame that I've never been kissed but I was waiting for the right guy and then he kissed me which is so messed up. At the time he said that it meant nothing and that it was only to prove a point, but then after that every Sunday when I would visit my dad, me and my step-brother would end up hooking up, each time going further and further (last weekend we go to third base). It was totally different to the other times as when he touched me face to bring me in to kiss him his hand was shaking, he told me he missed me, there was no fighting before hand when there usually is, he'd kiss my cheek while we would just be cuddling, after he'd 'gone down on me' he kept worrying about whether I was okay or not, he even started eskimo kissing me at one point... but now it's really complicated because feelings aren't supposed to be involved but I think maybe they are :/ which once again, is so messed up
because it was just supposed to be for fun. I wasn't supposed to end up having feelings for him. He's my step-brother, none of this was ever supposed to happen. My friends know about it and they're all encouraging of it. And my family on my mom's side know I used to have a crush on him and they were okay with it then. However I highly doubt he has feelings for me, and if he did it's not like it could go anyway. On the one hand I don't want this thing to stop because I enjoy it but on the other hand I know that if it continues my feelings will just get stronger, we'll end up having sex and ultimately I will be the one who ends up hurt. So my questions are; Is any of this okay? What do I do now? Do you think he has feelings for me? How do I go about doing whatever it is I'm supposed to do next? (link)
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I know in different cultures it's ok for these kinds of things when you guys aren't actually related but if you're in America or Europe, then hooking up with your step brother is inappropriate.
So to answer your questions, I don't really view this as okay. Like I said, it's actually inappropriate. I had a crush on my cousin once. He wasn't my cousin at the time, his mom married my uncle. Knowing he would be a part of the family, I didn't want it to go any farther, because that would be inappropriate.
What you do now is you stop all this and you move on.
Who knows if he has feelings for you, he hasn't told you and you've just been messing around with him. You guys skipped the relationship type of thing, you guys are just hooking up.
It will be hard to get over a guy you really like but I'm sure you can find a great guy who isn't related to you. So it's best to cut it off now before your feelings end up getting hurt worse and before you go too far with him. Be smart, I know you can get through it.
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F/high school age
my boyfriend lives in another country (4212 miles away). we've been together almost 3 months, we Skype everyday, and obviously we are an online relationship. i KNOW hes my soul mate.
..my mother is a strict christian lady and she has told me multiple times "no talking to strangers online" (as if i was 13!!) she always talks to me about molesters and men whom rape and hurt young woman and they draw them in through the internet,she asumes any guy on the internet is there to hurt girls (or something)
i know that if she met him she would love him,... but what do i say? how? shes a very loving person and she trusts me... but no guys on the internet... i know im in over my head, but if i didn't want to spend the rest of my life with this boy i wouldn't worry about telling her...
Well thank you for any help or advise you might have (link)
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Well this is a bit complicated.
I honestly don't think there is a way to change your mothers mind until she actually meets him, but you haven't even met him either so that can be a problem.
He could be the person he says he is, since you guys Skype, but if I had a daughter that was still in high school and she was talking to a boy she met through the internet, I wouldn't be ok with it. She has good reason to feel the way she does, which I know you realize.
I know some long distance relationships that last and I know some couples who met online and are now happy together but it's ten time harder when you don't really know him.
You don't really know a guy until you see him around his friends and his family. You only know what he tells you and how he acts towards you.
Anyways, if you do decide to continue this relationship, I don't think you can make your mother want to talk to him.
Since you haven't been with him for a very long time, I'm not sure if you guys are making plans for the future. I think by the time you guys are actually able to see each other, then maybe she'll come around.
In the end, respect your mother and her wishes. And be careful, obviously. I'm sure everything will be fine.
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is it illegal for a 15 year old girl to have sex with a 17 year old guy or an 18 year old guy? thanks (link)
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The age of consent varies from state to state. Most states, the age of consent is 16. It can sometimes be older so you'd need to find that out.
But most likely since the girl is 15, it's most likely illegal.
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Hey :)
So i dated this guy for 8 months, it was an unhealthy relationship and he yelled at me alot so i broke up with him. I have been dating my current boyfriend now for 9 and a half months and we have a good relationship. My problem is, i was bored one day so i went in facebook and on my ex boyfriends wall there are all these cute pictures of him and his girlfriend and lovey dovey posts they post on each others walls and all that stuff. It has been really bothering me because i feel like was i not good enough or what because he never posted sweet things like that when i was dating him but yet he always claimed he loved me so much. Help me please, thanks (link)
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You guys just weren't right for each other. You and him didn't have what he and his now girlfriend have. Just because he's happy with another girl doesn't mean you weren't good enough. It means that you guys just didn't have that kind of chemistry.
You need to move on, you have your boyfriend right now, focus on him because he wouldn't be with you if he didn't think you were good enough. This guy is in the past and you don't need to go look at his facebook page every once in awhile.
Anyways, let this go and focus on your present.
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Ok i am 12 and this guy asked me to be his girlfriend but i told him i cant because i am not allowed to but i REALLY like him. I dont know if he still likes me though. I told him i would be his gurlfrind but.... i dont know if he still likes me!!! Help!!!!! (link)
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I think Dragonflymagics advice would work really well for you.
It's good for you to respect your parents rules right now because when you're older, you'll have more freedom and it proves that you are trustworthy.
Dating at 12 isn't really dating. You don't normally hang out outside of school and go on actual dates. All the couples I knew when I was your age were just at school and that's the only time they'd see their boyfriend or girlfriend.
It's definitely ok to like him but it's better to just hang out as friends rather than call him your boyfriend.
At least talk to your parents about it. Tell them that you really like him but you still want to follow their rules. Maybe they'll let him hang out every once in awhile.
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Don't get me wrong, I don't care. Sex is sex, I like it, I like being with multiple guys, and if you don't include my gangbang fantasies, I'm really not that much of a slut, ya know? I've always been really sexual though, I watch porn when I'm bored, and whatnot. I lost my virginity at a whopping 14(with a couple), and have slept with 13 people since then. I've always been known to make really fucking bad decisions, hence why I got raped. It wouldn't bother me that much, if it weren't for the fact I'm like 2 people. My main brain being like, normal, and my pussys brain being like... stupid. I have a boyfriend I love very much, but the urges to watch porn(and 80% of his friends wanting to bang me) makes it hard. I cheated on my last bf and I hated myself for it. I'm 17, I love my boyfriend, and unless I'm single, I want this to stop. I just want to shut my pussy off. I don't mind being like that if I don't have a bf, but otherwise, its bothersome. If he had sex with me more, maybe it would be different... but he doesn't, Heh. My brain wants a relationship, but everything else want sex. I... honestly don't know what to do, Heh. (link)
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I think that you can be addicted to sex. Having sex and enjoying all of it is great, even with different partners but when it gets to the point where it's affecting your life and you can't control it, it becomes a problem.
So the best advice is to go to counseling or therapy. They'll be able to help you get to the root of the problem and fix it. Then you'll be able to have a better relationship with your boyfriend.
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Well ever since my best friend asked me out and I shot him down things have been extremely awkward between us.And he took another girl to prom and things were even more awkward. Tonight we webcammed for maybe 5 minutes. We went from sending each other over 400 messages a day to maybe 20-50. I don't know what to do! Please help! (link)
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You guys were friends during the time he liked you and was interested in dating you. That's why things changed. It's not weird that it's awkward now because he had to move on from you and the friendship you both had before had to do with his feelings towards you, which could be why you both used to talk so much.
So now you guys will have a normal friendship, a new friendship, that will be different.
Eventually, it'll feel normal and it won't be as awkward. This happens to a lot of friendships. Once you turn a guy down, he'll feel embarrassed and it'll be awkward. He's going to be talking to other girls too.
Friendships always change when people have feelings involved.
It won't feel as awkward eventually.
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I am a coward to start it off, and i like this girl, as a person like this i wanted to get closer with her. So "i" asked her out... well i didn't, but i told a friend of mine to ask her(i know im stupid and a coward for doing this, please dont insult me). She said she wants to...but... as a immature class we have, she feels pretty uncomfortable, so i asked her in person when shes free, and she said not this weekend(because of a family reunion) but probably next weekend. Its really awkward in class cause we just stare at each other. Her friends told me that she really likes me, but its kinda awkward. On monday, im going to ask her if she wants to go to a restaurant(nothing fancy.). Is there anything else i should try say, or am i doing something wrong? (link)
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It's usually always awkward in the beginning. I think asking her out would be a good idea and a nice way to get to know her better.
I don't think you're doing anything wrong so just be brave and I'm sure she likes you so you're good.
About the awkwardness, don't sweat it. It's really not a big deal and once you get to know her better, the awkwardness will go away. So don't think too into that.
Just enjoy her company and have fun!
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If you tricked the cops into thinking that there was a murder or something like that by using ketchup as blood, or something like that, I don't know, and you time the cops on how long it takes them to get there, and somehow get the news reporters on your side, to teach the cops to do their job correctly, could they arrest you? Would they stick you in jail for a few years? How would they react to that? Has anyone ever done something like that?
I am sick and tired of hearing stories of people like the three women found this week, and Jaycee Lee Dugard. It makes me so angry. I want to see the cops embarrassed into doing a PERFECT job, or getting fired. Their job is too fucking important for them to be lazy. Way too fucking important... (link)
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Of course they could arrest you. That's a false report. Kids can get in trouble for just calling 911 for fun.
You can't get reporters on your side because..it's a lie and they could get fired.
I don't know if you realize this, but nobody is perfect, and not all cops are lazy.
There are cops who do a good job and try their hardest and stay within the rules they have and there are cops who don't.
But you can't do something stupid to "teach them a lesson" because cops aren't perfect. You'd be taking time away from something that's actually real and you'd be wasting money. And on top of that getting arrested.
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I always get bullied for being one f the "fat" girls. And i just don't know how to make them stop. I have starved myself for 3 days and i only lost 6 pounds. I am just sick of this, Everyday i know there is going to be a person who is going to be calling me fat or fatty. I have stayed home for like a week in a half (in total) Just because i didn't want to go to school. But now i am being forced to go because i got a letter from my school saying that if i miss one more day then i will go to Juvenal court. So now every day i have no choice but to go though hell for 8 hours.
So can someone help me and tell me what i can do to loose some weight? (link)
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Firstly, don't starve yourself.
Honestly, you should first work on how you feel about yourself. You should talk to your counselor on being bullied because it's not ok at all.
Instead of striving to lose weight, strive to be healthy. Because most girls who are bullied just want to starve to be skinny and skinny isn't necessarily healthy.
So while you start working on your self confidence, you can work out. So start working out maybe 3 days out of the week and eat healthy. Cut out soda, chips, candy, ect.
And just take care of yourself and do this for yourself, not for the losers who like to make fun of girls.
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I'm not sure if I can fully express how much I want to hide under a rock and never come out. I attend college & have 2 classes together with a guy I might be interested in (first & last classes). I can see it in his eyes and actions that he is interested in me, I always catch him looking & he tries to initiate conversations, sadly I am not a very good conversationalist and don't give more than a couple of short word answers(however I can write a whole story online easily, so sorry this may be long). We don't talk that much with each other because of this, just occasional casual talk, being schoolwork or how we're doing.
Today we had a sub, we could leave whenever we were finished writing our essay. So I finished up early but for some reason thought I would wait for him to finish as well to leave, we both usually finish our work early. So I pretended I was still writing. Shortly after he finished up handed it in I gave mine in and we both packed up and left. I think he knew that I did that on purpose. We started walking together and had small talk (I think I stuttered!) and as we left the building I pushed the door open on a woman on the other side of it, appologized sheepishly. Out of nowhere I felt to just offer him a ride but was nervous, he said I have my car but its parked a little far away you can drop me off, and I said something stupid like yeah if you dont mind! He playishly asked how is your driving should I go and smiled. I chucked and said no its good you can trust me with it its alright. I look nothing like a so called "nerd" but guess I act like one. Well we got in and he remarked wow how do drive such big cars and I just cheesily said I like them better its easier(no its not everyone knows that its not) and he said lets see how you drive and I started going. He said my car is that way pointing beyond the barriers saying I guess you cant go that way. I told him I actually jump the curb if theres no campus security around when I'm late and could do it again now. He said no way how? So I did and he was amused thinking I was being sly but out of nowhere the security saw and pulled me over. He said uh-oh this is not going to be good. I told the security that I was in a rush appologizing and wouldnt do it again, and I stuttered! They said they would confiscate my tag if I did. Embarrassment! He said oh now theyre following you out. I said its ok I dont care. He said I hate these security, if it was me they wouldnt let me go. Then asked how do you get to park in here and I instead of playfully saying I have my ways I just bluntly told him how I got a note from the doctor saying "I have asthma" and to use something they can't prove.. (even though I do). He said oh interesting. Well meanwhile I passed the parking lot outside and asked him where is the enterance, he said we passed it. I said "oh you didn't tell me, I never entered it before so I dont know", he said "sorry about that I should have told you, I was just umm admiring your driving", but I was driving shabbily because I was nervous, and I smiled and said oh thanks its ok and made a sloppy U-turn, he said you can just drop me off here and I did, I was already so shocked at what had happened and my brain shut down, I wanted to tell him to have a nice weekend but was thinking of what other things to say and ended up saying have a nice time! And then tried cleaning it up with "and weekend" and stuttered again!He laughed and said you too thanks for the ride. I said no problem and then a take care as he was closing the door but he walked away and so I drove away :( I would never go back if I wasn't obligated to.. What should do/say, if anything? Anything to help me feel less horrible? Thanks in advance :( (link)
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It's understandable to be embarrassed but honestly, if he liked you, I don't think that would make him stop. He would most likely think it was cute and goofy.
Trust me, you're fine so don't worry about it.
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guess a lot of people feel that way for these reasons
1. Because she committed a criem she is now a bad influence
2. since she committed a crime and got punished, her telling her child what to do would be "hypocritical"
what do you think of these reasons? (link)
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They have good reasoning but it's not a good enough reason for her daughter to disrespect her and her authority.
There are a lot of people who do dumb things, if they learn from it and decide to be a better person for it, why should they lose their family? They shouldn't. As long as they get back on the right path, she still deserves to be a part of her daughters life and be able to raise her child.
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First my brother is 18 and im 13 i just noticed today that i wont be seeing him that often and i cant stop crying
.I can see all of the memories flash in my head what do i do? (link)
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It's ok to feel that way but it's not like you're losing him forever. You'll still be able to see him and talk to him.
Be proud of him and be happy for him. Cherish the times you do have with him and also cherish the memories. See this as a good thing for him.
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I an 13 and I want a baby but, I don't know what to do what should I do (link)
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A lot of young girls want to have a child but are smart enough to wait because they still want to have a future.
Babies are really expensive. Not only that, but once you have one, it's not all about you anymore, it's about your kid and your life will revolve around that child.
You're going to have to buy formula, clothes, have medical care, and diapers. You know like 500 diapers will run out in a month.
Babies cry at night, sometimes there could be something wrong with the child and you'll have to take them to the hospital. And it's crazy expensive.
Do you have a job? Also, what will you do once the baby comes? Quit your job for the child or have someone else raise your kid?
You're also still in school.
I'm not saying that it would be impossible to have a child. Lots of young girls accidentally get pregnant and they can do it but it's ten times harder and it's really not giving the child what it deserves. The baby deserves loving parents who can take care of it and buy it everything it needs but since you're still young and still going through school and finding your way in your life, it wouldn't be fair to the kid.
Anyways, focus on your life right now and enjoy it.
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Her official release is next April. Some say because she is a criminal now she forfeits rights to be a parental figure to her daughter. Even my daughter, who hasn't said anything, im wondering if she is thinking "mom went to jail she no longer has the right to tell me what to do" . Are these thoughts not fair? (link)
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Yeah, your daughter shouldn't be thinking that.
So her mom made a mistake, ended up in jail and so now she has to forfeit her rights on being a parental figure?
It's not like she's a bad influence right? She's not hooked on drugs or an alcoholic?
Those people still get to tell their kids what to do, why can't her mom?
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So today i finally asked the girl i liked! She said she wanted to go out with me. But my class is really immature with relations, and so shes scared they will all be making fun of us, since we will be the only couple in the class... My question is what should i tell her or what should i tell her to forget what others think about us and care what i think about her? thnx for all the answers! (link)
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You guys don't have to be a couple right away. Tell her that. Try hanging out with her outside of school and make her more comfortable with hanging around you.
You can't push her to not care what others think. You can be supportive though. Tell her you would like to hang out and do something like bowling, skating, any activity you could think of and see if she'd be up for that.
Then eventually when you think she is comfortable, ask her to be your girlfriend. At that point, if she really likes you, she won't care too much about what others say.
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I dated my ex off and on for a year! Every time we broke up we would come back to each other after a week or two. I love him so much and we used to sneak out and yes we did have sex a few times but that wasn't why we loved each other. Iv know him for 5 years he is so amazing! He makes me so happy!!but idk if he actually loves me ok when we dated I heard he still flirted with other girls and touched their butts. And he broke up with me for my best friend and had sex with her. But the while time he was dating her he was theathing to beat my new bf up and he was still telling me he loved me but didnt want to hurt her. He finally broke up with her and I made him wait for months till I'd be with him again. My parents found out me and him had sex and then they wouldn't let us be together they put me in home school and took everything it's been almost a year since I seen him we've been talking and he still loves me and we talk bt getting back together when I'm 18 but it's so hard to wait that long I think bt him all the time. I love him!!! But how am I going to wait that long knowing he's goin to date other ppl? I probably will to but ik for a fact I won't feel anything with any other guy iv already tryed but I love him to much. I need help what do I do and do you think he really loves me to? Btw I'm 16 and he's like a few months younger but he's really mature for his age and when we had sex there was no puresser it just happened (link)
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Well you're going to have to respect your parents decision because I'm sure they have your best interest in mind.
I believe you love him, but from just reading this and not knowing the guy, I can't see the love from his side. Guys do confuse lust and love, especially at 16.
Guys that love their girlfriends don't flirt with other girls or touch other girls. They don't leave you for your best friend.
Two years is a long time to wait for someone that you're unsure loves you. Now, if you were 100% certain that he loved you then maybe that wait would be worth it. But if you wait around and by the time you're 18 and he's seeing some other girl, that would have been a big waste of your time.
So your options are..
Go around and disrespect your parents rules and risk getting in more trouble just to get with a guy who you don't know loves you
Wait around for this boy in hopes that he feels the same and it isn't just words and that he'll wait for you too.
Or, move on and find someone you know will love you.
My advice is to move on. You said you have tried but it's not impossible. Getting over someone is hard. It can take weeks, it can take months or even years. Most people who take years are the ones that just wouldn't let go. So don't be that.
If you truly want to start feeling something for someone else, then try harder.
Go out with your friends, don't talk to him anymore, and start doing new things. Break ups are the best time to start finding more things about yourself. It will be really hard to cut contact with him but you're 16, you deserve to be happy and not wait years for a boy who you don't trust.
Everything will get better, just work at it. It will be worth it.
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Main thing I hear is how can you expect my wife to
Be a parent to her kid anymore because she has committed a crime and went to jail. Because of this she has no "right" to tell anyone what to do. How do you feel about this? Does she still have the " right" to be a parent to my daughter now? (link)
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Of course she has the right to be a parent. She messed up, it doesn't mean she resigns all her duties as a parent.
She will be out of there eventually right? Her daughter should still be thinking of her as her authority. It won't be right for her daughter to start disrespecting her and acting like she isn't her parent.
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