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she wants to but shes scared.
13/m
So today i finally asked the girl i liked! She said she wanted to go out with me. But my class is really immature with relations, and so shes scared they will all be making fun of us, since we will be the only couple in the class... My question is what should i tell her or what should i tell her to forget what others think about us and care what i think about her? thnx for all the answers!
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I'm a girl,but had this when I was 14, and its awful!
If you do decide to ask her out, make sure you tell her the relationship can go slow as she likes.
Ignore peer pressure, and be sure to stand up for her if needed.
After about 3 months, it will settle down.
But overall, my advice is I'm afraid to put your studies first. You'll regret it in the future otherwise!
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You guys don't have to be a couple right away. Tell her that. Try hanging out with her outside of school and make her more comfortable with hanging around you.
You can't push her to not care what others think. You can be supportive though. Tell her you would like to hang out and do something like bowling, skating, any activity you could think of and see if she'd be up for that.
Then eventually when you think she is comfortable, ask her to be your girlfriend. At that point, if she really likes you, she won't care too much about what others say.
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At your age
25% of 12-year-old and 37% of 13-year-old males had been in a romantic relationship.
27% of 12-year-old and 34% of 13-year-old females had been in a romantic relationship. So I am surprised to hear that you would be the only one dating a girl.
Please also know that most romantic relationships among 12- to 14-year-olds last less than 5 months. So to push her and try to convince her, risking her being emotionally stressed all for such a short time of 'going out with each other' is not worth it.
Now let me explain what I see as 'going out'. A couple agrees on what they are going to do as they spend time together, going out to dinner, going to the theme park, going bike riding, swimming, cuddling while watching movies and can but not necessarily include starting a sexual relationship. This couple goes out alone.
At your age, is the time to learn more about girls and how they think and feel about things in life and so on. So it is a good idea for you to spend time with her...but it doesn't have to happen at school which is where I bet most so called "going together" occurs. Find out how open your parents and her parents are to having you invite a friend from school over. If your male friends already come to your house to hang, then it shouldn't be a big stretch for your parents to accept a friend who is a female. Just so the parents don't freak, call her a friend who is a girl but not a girlfriend like dating. Having parents who will include her on invites on the weekend to family events like a picnic, bar-b-que, a family bike ride is a good way to be spending time together with a girl and the parents are there to help be guidance and chaperones...which makes them feel more comfortable, and your lady friend will be more comfortable because the kids at school dont have to know. Once the kids in your grade level are into going together as couples, then the best way to do so is as a group. You shouldd wait until your a bit older for dating alone. It will vary from one parent to another because they know their childs maturity level. Some can be ready at 15, some not til 17. And even then it is still difficult because young adults brains don't fully mature until they reach their mid 20's. If your parents know you openly share everything with them, and you ask their opinion or advice like you are asking here, with the open communication, theres a chance they can learn to trust you at an earlier age. Good luck on spending time with your girl
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