Hi, my names Melanie.
I'm fifteen years old.
I love fashion, hanging out with my friends,
and drawing and writing along with a bunch of other stuff.
I used to have an old account here that was quite known for awhile,
but I sort of just lost touch with it,
so I decided to make a new one.
I'll try and help you the best I can,
just hopefully I didn't lose touch with my good advice, haha.
And feel free to IM me with your problem too.
I also put my myspace in a link down below,
if you ever want to add me & talk.
But incase you don't see it or something, it's:
www.myspace.com/themelinat0r
Website: my myspace!
E-mail: melledisko@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Pittsburgh
Occupation: student.
Age: 15
AIM: mel le disko
Member Since: July 2, 2006
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Last Update: August 9, 2008
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ok i am really really pale. and no matter what i do i dont get tan i burn and get more freckles. i have the darkest freckles you will ever see and theyre EVERYWHERE!! on my legs, arms, face, etc. any advice on how to get more color? i dont want to use the summer glow crap cuz ive heard it makes you look orange. please help im like the palest person at my school!! (link)
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Hm, the only thing I can really suggest is too go to a tanning booth and start small, and gradually go in the tanning booth for a longer time each couple times you go. But don't just keep going and going and going and going all the time, cause you'll wind up getting real dark and then it looks fake. Just mantain a nice, even tan like the other advicenator said. But personally, I think nothing's wrong with being pale, I've seen alot of pale celebrities and their skins so pretty it looks like poreclain [sp] or something. I have pale skin myself and I can't tan either. [ I did go to tanning booths and it did work, but I just decided I liked pale skin better. ] But anyways, I hope I helped and I hope you get real nice and tan. :]
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Okay, there is this new guy at school. He just moved here. He isn't cute at all, and is weird. I talked to him once because he was just sitrting there, and I felt bad. Now, he always stares at me. How do I get him to stop? (link)
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The reason he's staring at you is probably because since you were the only person who talked to him, he likes you now.
I've had this happened to me before, too.
But what I did is I was just like,"Look, I've noticed you staring at me a couple of times. Could you stop please?" And hopefully, he'll stop.
Or what I've also done is ignore it and just whenever he talks to me, don't talk back too much and sooner or later he got the hint, and he backed off.
I hope I helped.
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hey I just started my period this month and I told my mom and everything but I am to embarrased to ask her when I can start using a tampon to go swimming so is it to soon to start useing tampons on your 2nd period? (link)
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Well, most girls wait awhile until they start using tampons, so you might want to use just pads during the day for awhile, and then use tampons for swimming. But, if you're embarassed, like that other girl said, whenever your moms shopping tell her you'll be right back and just go grab a box and stick them in the cart. I don't think it's too early to start, but [ I don't know if you're talking about swimming lessons for gym, or for swim team or what ] whenever I would have swimming lessons for gym, I'd jsut write a note to the teacher telling her I'm on it and I couldn't swim for a week, and she didn't mark me off. But if for swim team or just swimming or something, then yeah, use a tampon. I hope I helped.
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I recently asked my parents for a cell phone, but they aren't giving in. 15/m by the way...i get good grades like all almost all A's. My parents said that money isn't the important thing, so I need some advice in convincing them to get me a phone? what could I say or do? (link)
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I would just have a talk with them and ask them why they don't want you to have a cellphone. Is it because they don't think you're responsible? Tell them you have all A's and you're working very hard in school [ and if they still say no, start acting more responsibly around the house ]. Also let them know that cellphones are very good for emergency purposes or if you ever need them for something. You don't know how many times I've needed picked up from somewhere, and if I didn't have my cellphone, I would have probably just been left there or something. You can even suggest getting a certain amount of minutes if they're possibly worried you might get distracted from your schoolwork or something. Maybe pay for like, 200 minutes or so. Even though that might not be alot, I think it's better than nothing though. Even suggest working around the house for it. But just keep asking for it. I kept asking for one for a year and then on my birthday, I finally got it. I hope I helped.
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I have this best friend I've known for 6 years now. She has been with her boyfriend for over a year now and sometimes I start to think I am becoming less important to her since her boyfriend came in the picture.
I tried to tell her how happy I am of her and her boyfriend but sometimes i feel left out of most things her and I used to do. Sometimes I feel like I'm the one crawling to her cause it's ALWAYS me asking her to come over to hang out or to go to the mall.
What bugs me the most is that when she's over my house to spend the night, she's talking to her boyfriend 9 pm til 2 in the morning. I've noticed that whenever I tried to make plans with her she pretty much says "Oh, I can't do anything today" then the next hour later, she's off at the mall with her boyfriend.
I don't mean to sound jealous at all, though I do get easily jealous but since I've started a new school year and a totaly different school, I don't want to get jealous of the stupidest things anymore.
I've also noticed that she's a totaly different person when she's around her boyfriend compared to me. When she's with me she's all crazy and wild and herself, but whenever we're (her boyfriend, her and I) are at the mall, her boyfriend would crack a joke about something and she'll end up laughing at me.
Another thing is that she tells her boyfriend EVERYTHING. I even have to tell her that I don't want anyone knowing in order to keep something between her and I private. I don't mean to sound rude or dis-respectful but I think her boyfriend should give her some space sometimes, he calls every minute when she's over my house and she tells him what we're doing, where we're going, blah, blah, blah.
Whenever I mention to her about "She pays more attention to her boyfriend than her other friends" and that "She never hangs out with me or other friends as often anymore" it's weird cause whenever I mention those things THEN that's where she'll start making plans.
Ah, I don't know what to do. It seems like she could care less about what I think of this whole thing, she wouldn't understand, trust me I tried telling her couple of times, she thinks it's no biggie.
It seems like she's kicking me out of the picture.
My closet friend is now someone I knew for 2 years and My friend who has the boyfriend I've known for 6 years.
What do you think I should do about this?
My friends told me I should talk to her about her forgetting about me and barely ever inviting me to places anymore. But I've tried that already.
I'm terribly sorry that this is extremely long but it's been bothering me for the past week.
Thanks bunches :) (link)
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I agree with the girl below. Try talking to the boyfriend about this situation. Just let him know you're not trying to make them spend less time together or anything, and you're really happy that they are together and all, it's just she's been your best friend for so long and you two hardly get to hang out anymore. So just ask him if maybe whenever they do get to hang out, he just call a couple times for a little bit. Maybe even try becoming better friends with her boyfriend so you guys could all possibly hang out together so everyone gets to hang with who they want to hang with. :]
And if that doesn't work, I also agree that you should let go for a little bit, and see what happens. She should start to realize after ahwile that your friendship is slipping, and hopefully she'll come back and try to fix the friendship. But if she doesn't, I just might want to move on from her, because then she must obviously find her boyfriend more important then her longer friendships. I hope I helped.
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OK, i started school and i have all my classes with this guy. Let's call him Joe. well Joe looks at me some, but i dont know if it's enough that he really likes me. Sometimes i catch himn looking at me but not a LOT. I really like him but i'm scared to ask him out. Cuz if we break up hardly, then i have all my classes with this guy that i hate. Soooo...i dont know what to do!! I like him and i really dont want him to say no because that will be really really embarrasing. What do i do? (link)
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Well, you don't have to ask him out right away, just maybe talk to him first and get to know him better, so maybe if he doesn't like you.. he could possibly develop feelings, and if he already does.. he can just get to know you and like you more. And then after awhile if you feel comfortable enough to, start lightly flirting a little bit and see if he flirts back. And I know that every girl did this in elementary school and all, but it still works sometimes. Do the 'have a friend ask him who he likes/have a friend ask his friend who he likes' and see if he's crushing on anybody then. Yeah, I can see why you'd be scared too, I would be too. Because I agree, that'd be really awkward going to all your classes with him if he rejected you and all. But hopefully, he won't! I hope everything goes well, and I hope I helped.
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is it bad if a guy thinks you're sappy? (link)
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Well, like all the other advicenators said, it basically depends on how he said it. Did he say it meanly like,"Jeez, you're so sappy"? Because then yeah, it's sort of bad because he might be saying you're too emotional or something. But if he was just saying it in a goofy way like "Haha, you're so sappy. It's cute." He just might be joking around with you.
I think it's alright to be a little sappy, because lots of girls are real emotional anyways, but I see why it's also considered kind of mean and all.
Anyways, I hope I helped.
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I can't stand my parents! I'm 15 and have only 3 years left of high school but I don't think I can wait that long. My parents continuously call me nicknames I've explained to them I don't like being called, and they never listen to me. They always say I do things that I don't and I'm always the first one blamed for everything, regardless of the situation. They do not support any of the things I want to do- particularly with music and sports- but I love doing what I do and I'm actually good at it. My twin sister is never treated like I am- they act like she's the Perfect Child. Plus, my dad has a serious anger problem and my mom is an in-denial alcoholic, so they always over react to the littlest things lots of the time. I feel like I may end up hurting or even killing myself because of them because they're the reason I used to cut! Though I've gotten a lot better with my best friend's help the problem started with my parents and it's because of them I may start again. Please help me. (link)
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Well, since you're 15, I don't really know what to tell you except just try and rough it out the best you can. Ignore the nicknames your parents call you, and just try and go through the 3 years the best you can. And if you ever feel like you can't be in that house another second, just take a walk maybe outside to cool off or just go up in your room and listen to some music.
The only other suggestion I can really offer you if you want to leave that house real badly, is is there anybody else in your area that you can live with maybe? A grandparent? Aunt or uncle? Or maybe you can even try asking a friend if you can stay with them and their family or something. That's what my friend did. She was having problems with her family and what not, so she just spent some times at her friends house for awhile.
I'm sorry your in that kind of situation, and I hope everything gets better and I hope I helped.
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14/f
ive only had cavities like, once before but i was really little so i dont remember anything
anyway i have 2cavities in the back of my mouth, on both sides, and i have to get them fixed in a couple weeks
im freaking out! im like really scared cause i dont know what to expect...
if someone could like, walk me thru what happens, or like how much it hurts?...i would appreciate it ALOT, ill rate all advice
thanks so much (link)
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Well first of all, he'll swab your mouth with novacaine [ at least he did with me i had him do it twice because i have a fear of needles and wanted to make sure it didn't hurt ] and whenever they gave me a shot of novacaine in my mouth, I hardly felt anything. Just a little pinch kinda feeling and pressure. And then he waits a little before he starts working. Then I'm not sure exaclty what they do cause I obviously can't look, haha, but they put this thing in your mouth so your tongue doesn't get in the way of what they're doing, and then they put this little vaccum thingy in my mouth so all my saliva gets dried up and then he just began drilling and working on my mouth and i felt nothing at all, really. And then he puts the filling in, and then he'll probably put water in your mouth and ask you to vaccum it all up so your mouths all cleaned up and good. And that's basically it. There's nothing to it. I hope I helped.
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does anyone know where i can buy really cheap clothing (thats still cute), jewlery and handbags. i want to buy a wholeeee lot of stuff...so i am looking for really cheap things...maybe buying things in bulk kind of things
thanks in advance. (link)
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It's depending on where you live, but you could go to Platos Closet. They sell stuff for real cheap there, or just try going to K-Mart or Target and checking out everything they have there. Wet Seal is always a good place too. I once bought sunglasses, a shirt, and this braclect thing all for $10 once. It was a really good sale in my opinion. I'm not sure what kind of fashion you're into, but I try and go to alot of thrift stores and places. So if there's a Value Village anywhere near you, you can check that out too.
Just go to their sites and check out their store locators.
I hope I helped.
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me and my bf still haven't kissed yet and I don't know why, but for some reason...I want him to do it first. Do you think he'll kiss me anytime soon?
Also, how could you tell if your bf really loves you? (link)
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I'm not sure. I think he might be afraid to kiss you, but that's normal because alot of guys are afraid they might be bad, or do it wrong, or just afraid of getting rejected. And it's totally understandable that you want to do it first. That's how I am. I think the guys should make the first move, ask the girl out and everything. You're just old-fashioned, like alot of girls. :] Just wait awhile longer, and maybe sometime whenever you guys are sitting together just look up at him and smile and kinda 'hint' to him that you want him to kiss you [ so he knows he won't get rejected ], and see if he leans in. If he doesn't do anything after awhile, I might want to talk to him about it. See what's up.
Hm, you can tell your boyfriend really loves you if he just loves hanging around with you and being with you, and he is just really sweet and kind and compliments you and makes you feel special. And of course, if he tells you! :] Haha, I hope I helped.
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Lately I haven't been able to fall asleep til like 6 oclock in the morning.
I don't mind staying up till 12:00 or 1:30 but this has gotten ridiculous. I can't sleep, and when I do sleep I sleep til all hours of the day.
It seems like I can't get enough sleep when I do fall asleep, and I'm very groggy.
HELP? I need advice on how to make me tired, or what is causing this. (link)
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This is has been happening to me all summer. The reason for me is because I'm just plain bored and I also drink pepsi alot, so of course the caffine's always keeping me up.
If you're going to drink Pepsi or coffee or anything, I suggest doing it early in the morning to one: wake you up, and two: keep you up most of the day because I've heard that caffine can last up to 10 hours, so if you're drinking it at like, 6 in the afternoon, you're going to be up for a good while.
What I've been trying lately is to set a really loud alarm clock, and if that doesn't wake me up, surely someone in the house will and want to turn it off, so whenever they come in my room to turn it off, I just asked them to wake me up also while they're doing it. Before the alarm clock idea, I'd just have my mother wake me up. [ but sometimes she forgets haha ].
To make yourself tired, maybe run around your neighborhood a couple times before you go to bed and exercise a little, or just hang out with your friends during the day [ that always wipes me out haha ].
Another thing I've read is do you take naps? Because if you do, you can only take them for 30 mintues or less, because if you take them for an hour or more, your brain will think you're going into an all-night sleep, so it will just let you go off into dreamland, so whenever you wake up, you'll be all tired and what-not.
And hopefully, after awhile, your body'll just get adjusted to being tired earlier at night, and you'll want to go to bed sooner. I hope I helped.
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im 14 years old and a few months ago (maybe like 2) i got my period and i dont have boobs. I thought that you get them before your period? im only like a 32 A and i feel werid wearing certain shits .. when do you think ill get bigger? (link)
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I can't tell you really when they're going to get bigger, because every girls body is different. They might grow in a year, two years, or they might just stay 32 A. I've had my period for about two years now, and my boobs have grown very little, I'm still an A. But I've had friends who've had their periods for a year or so, maybe even less, and their boobs have grown alot. I've even had friends who haven't had their periods yet at all, and their boobs are plenty big.
You'll just have to wait and see what happens. You're only 14, anyways. Your body doesn't stop growing until your 18, so you have a good four years ahead of you. And you shouldn't feel weird about wearing certain shirts with small boobs. I, for one, always prayed my boobs would grow, and now it doesn't really matter to me anymore. Because a good perk to have small boobs is some certain clothes can be worn better and whenever guys like me, I know it's def. not for my chest, lol. I hope I helped.
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well my "friends" Audrey and Emily got involved with a teacher harrasing them and he only said he wants to have sex with me. Well this guy Nelson told everyone about the harasing thing and some a couple of people came up to me and asked me if I got harrased and i said "He just said some things to me but it was mostly Audrey and Emily" but the people are telling my friends that i spread the thing about the teacher and they are saying i said I was the one mostly involved but i didnt say that. so now all my friends think i am a liar and stuff but i didnt lie. and they wont believe me, and they dont want to talk to me..
How can i make them believe me? i basically have no one to hang out with at lunch now because theyre accusing me of something i didnt do. i even told them that if they were my true friends they would believe me and theyre like "We just dont believe you"
please help me... (link)
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Well, first of all, you need to report this teacher to somebody, anybody. He needs to be fired for doing what he's doing. What kind of teacher tells his students he wants to have sex with them? I mean, I know he didn't act upon any of it, but it's still very wrong on so many different levels. I would tell your parents or maybe even another teacher, whoever you feel comfortable with telling, and maybe [ if you don't want to be known ] write an anonymus letter to the principal and let them know what's going on.
With your friends, I would just tell them,"Look guys, you're my friends. I would never spread stuff around about you guys, including myself. And I would never say something like I was mostly involved, because I wasn't and I would never want to be involved in anything like this. It was that guy Nelson who told everyone. I know you guys might be angry or whatever with me, but I just want to let you know I wouldn't do that to you guys and I hope you'll believe me sooner or later because I would never want our friendship ruined." [ or something like that ] just let them know you care a great deal for them, and would never do anything to hurt them, especially spreading bad stuff like that around the school.
Because of this whole teacher situation, they probably feel very uncomfortable, and maybe they feel like they can't trust anybody [ because you should be able to trust your teachers ] and they should. It's a really messed up situation and I don't know how I would be able to handle it. But hopefully, they'll realize you're not lying to them and they'll make amends.
I really hope I helped you, and I'm sorry this messed up situation has happened to you and your friends and I hope it all works out for you guys, and that teacher gets fired or something.
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I am an 18-year-old female and I feel as though my boyfriend controls me. He limits the girls I can talk to and talking to guys is definitely out of the question. In turn I feel as though I should do the same to him, so I do. Except I won't simply tell him to not go out at all. I will tell him to not go out 5 times a week, get drunk with his friends and pick up underage girls. Yet, I still feel guilty for telling him not to do this because I feel as though I have stooped down to his level and that I am now controlling him. He makes me feel this way as well. I love him, we are very close and have been dating for a long while, but what should I do? (link)
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You should just have a serious talk with him sometime soon. Ask him why he feels he needs to tell you who you can't and can talk to and such, because being controlling in a relationship is not very healthy. Ask him if it's because he's afraid maybe he'll lose you? Or he doesn't trust you, and he might think you'll cheat on him or something? Let him know that you care for him and love him and you'd never cheat on him or anything, but the controlling has got to stop because you have to be able to talk to your friends and do stuff, just like he should be able to talk to his and everything, and I'm sure he's not too happy being controlled by you too. I hope I helped, and if you need to talk more, you can always IM me or leave another message thing on here!
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My best friend (he's a guy) is goin to a differnet high school then me, and my otha best friend (she is a gurl) is goin to the same school as him. I am best friends wit both of them...and are closer to them individually then they are to each other. We usually talk everyday....but this week he started school and I didnt talk to him wednesday, thursday and Friday..i saw him on Friday...and we talked forr a while...makin me secure that we were still #1s...I asked him y he didnt call me ..and he said he was shoveled wit homework ( which is true becuz, he wasnt the only one who said that from that school), but today...i was talkin the same gurl best freind...and while I was on tthe phone wit her...my guy best friend called her.....does that mean I am not his #1 anymore....am I now his second pic....he didnt call me at all on Friday either....We are sooo close....it was so apparnet when we talkin afta I saw him on Friday...but now I have second thoughts...becuz he called my friend...and neva called me...I dont want to think we are growin apart...and I dont want to think in the matter of tree days...he is not interested anymroe....but I dont know what to think...PLZ HELP!!! (link)
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This could mean anything. He could be calling her for homework help, to just talk to her, asking uh, if there's a test tommorrow. But, I'm not saying you're not #1 anymore, but they could just be getting more close with them being at the same school and all. I would just call him one night and be like,"Hey, I miss you. We really gotta hang out soon it sucks that we don't get to talk as much. Anything happening lately?" And just talk to him. You'll still be #1, but she could be too. You can both be his bestfriend. And you can think of this in a positive way, also. You guys could all hang out together and just have a good time and have fun. Just keep talking to him and make sure to keep the friendship going and everything. Maybe even suggest helping him with his homework or help him study for a test. [ Instead of doing it over the phone, you could go over his house after school and hang out for a bit and have fun and then later help him study ]. I hope I helped. IM me or leave another message if you ever need more help! I hope I helped though!
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I'm 13 and jsut starting cheerleading this year and I was wondering: What type of clothing is good for cheerleading practice? I know definitely soffe shorts, and I also have nike sneakers. What are good brands or types of tank tops/ t-shirts are good for practice but aren't extremely expensive. Also if you have any other kinds of shorts that would help too. THanks! (link)
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I would just go to K-Mart or Target or maybe even the dollar store or something and see if they're selling any tank tops or just shirts. Tank tops or those beater things would probably be the best. And the best kind of tank top in my opinion to get is to look for the kind that already have the built-in-bra. Now, I already wear a bra underneath it, but I just do it so my chest isn't jiggling all over the place or whatever, haha. But soffe shorts would be the best shorts to cheerlead in in my opinion. I hope I helped.
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Okay, I'm wanting to write an emotional song. I want it to have a lot of the stuff I went through in my life put into it, I just don't know how to start it or anything. And I've already been to the Robyn Kendrick website, so that didn't help either. I was sexually abused by my cousin from the time I was 5 to the time I was 11. Then, my mom and dad got divorced, and that's been really hard for me. Lastly, I have like an eating disorder now. My mom thinks I'm anorexic because I won't eat and I'm throwing up now. Now because of this, I've wanted to cut myself and express my feelings and emotions, but I'm thinking it'd be better to express it into a song instead of harming myself. So If anyone can help me on my song, it'd be highly appreciated! Thanks!
Eden, XxSeetherxAddictxX (link)
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First of all, I want to just apologize for all that stuff happening to you. Nobody deserves all of that, and that shows you're really strong for standing through all of that and smart for realizing writing is so much better than infliciting pain onto yourself.
But, to write, it doesn't have to be written from the first time. What I might want to do is keep possibly a diary and just write and write and let your feelings out [ or a notebook ] and any time you see a part that would be good for a song, just mark it or something adn then once you think you have enough, just try and put it altogether. That's what Christinia Aguleria [sp] told MTV on television the other day that she does now.
Or just freewrite. Whenever you're feeling angry or sad, or even happy just write whatever's coming out of your mind and hand. And just keep it going. And the good thing about songs lately is that most of them [ at least the bands I listen to ] don't even do that rhyming thing anymore so you can just say anything you want and make it your own.
I hope I helped.
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There is a guy that have known for a while, but he has been dating a not-so-close friend of mine for most of that time. Over the times that we have spent together, or just chatted online, I've begun to fall deeper and deeper in love with him. I have known that I loved him for a while now, but did not want to ruin our friendship if he didn't feel the same way. A few days ago, he said that he liked me a lot, and wanted me as more than a friend. He was STILL dating the other girl, when he asks me to be his girlfriend. I want to explain why I rejected him, but I'm not sure how. And I also want to know what I should do about my feelings for the highlight of my life. Who just happens to be taken by someone else. I've already tried to forget about him, but I can't do it.
Always,
Lysistrata (link)
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I would first explain to him that you rejected him because he still had a girlfriend and that just wouldn't be right as much as you'd love to date him and everything. And tell him he shouldn't take it as like, you don't like him or something because you do. But if I were you, I would go for it. Sometimes, like the person below me said, love is a risk. I mean, I've had times where me and my friend really both liked the same guy alot and I wound up going out with him and it crushed her, yeah, but I figured "I could possibly lose a friend, but gain a friend and something greater." If you really love this guy, you should go for it. Besides, not too sound too harsh or anything, if you and the person aren't that close of friends, it's not like it's your best friend or something, right? Cause if it was your best friend, that'd be a whole nother ballgame, but luckily it's not haha. But the only thing I'd talk to him about if you two DO go out, ask him,"Are you going to do what you did to your last girlfriend to me? Just wind up liking another girl and dumping me for her cause I really don't want that to happen." Cause if he's just going to do the same thing, I wouldn't bother going out with him then. I hope I helped.
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my boyfreind recently told me he still kindof liked his ex..
and i asked him but do you like her like that?
and he said kindof
what do i do?
im balling.
i seriously think we could get married.
and hes like my soulmate..
PLEASE HELP ME! (link)
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Well, I would need to have a REAL serious talk right there. I find it kind of rude that he just tells to he still likes his ex, but at least he was being honest. Anyways. Just ask him,"Do you like her more than you like me?" And like that other girl said, it'd have to be a straight out no. No sort of's or a little's, because to be in a good relationship [ like the girl below said ] you gotta like eachother on the same level, if not more. You can't just go liking another girl more while dating another. It's not right to the girlfriend [you]. So if he says yes or anything other than no, I would seriously get rid of him cause you deserve someone who likes you, and only you. And if he says no, I think you guys should spend more time together so he realizes why you're so wonderful and how he's lucky to have you and hopefully he'll start liking that other girl less. I hope I helped, and I hope everything works out between you guys!
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