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Hi, I'm Emily. Call me Emily or Em, I prefer either. I have been a featured columnist 2 times now. After disabling my account I had about 3 years ago, a lot has happened which made me want to come back. I feel as though helping people with their problems, helps me solve mine, even if that doesn't make a lot of sense to any of you. Don't hesitate to ask me anything, I will answer fairly quickly depending on the question. If you want a hard-thought out answer, which is what I usually give, it may take a little longer- it benefits everyone in the long run.

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If you give head to a guy at a party while your boyfriend is not there does that mean you cheated on your boyfriend? Yeah, the guy was really hot but it's not like we had sex or anything. I didn't even let him finger me! My boyfriend is really pissed and won't talk to me now but I really can't see his reasoning or point of view. I've done this a few times before but I haven't told him about it and regret telling him this time. Do you think giving a blow job is REALLY cheating? I mean, come on...it's like...kissing...sort of...I don't see a problem.

Yes, it is absolutely cheating. You should not go around sucking another guys dick if you have a boyfriend. If he considers kissing cheating, then sucking some guys dick is by far cheating too. I don't blame him for being pissed at you. It's oral sex. Anything sex related with a person that you aren't dating or married too, is considered cheating. Your boyfriend has complete right to be mad and not talk to you. What you did was wrong, and you need to accept that. So what if the guy was hott? Use your judgement and say no.

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15F
ok so ive been with my girlfriend for a year now and i love her so much we really care about each other and i didnt want to hide my relationship with her from my parents anymore but my parents are christians so they were not happy and they dont want me to date her anymore they think i broke up with her but i didnt anyways i just want my parents to understand that i will always be attrackted to girls because i dont want to be isolated from my family because im bi i dont know what to do any suggestions would be great

Your family should accept you for who you are, and not who you date. My family always tells me, "If you're happy, I'm happy." There is nothing wrong with being a lesbian, it's completely natural and your family needs to learn to accept that. Tell them that. Did she do something to trigger your family to not being so fond of her? You shouldn't have to breakup with someone you love for your family. They need to learn to accept her.

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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.

I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?

Sorry if this is too long!

Well, it's bad for a couple to hide things from each other for sure. It's also wrong for him to let the whole world know what you guys do together- thats personl, and very private. Maybe he was embarressed to tell you what was on the website. Maybe his friends told him to do, which still does not make it right. Whatever it may be, you should tell him you know, even if you already think he knows you know. You can't imply things and hope for him to say something, because it wont get you anywhere. You should talk him about it, and tell him how you feel and what bothers you. If he still denies this and isn't being honest, dump him. He isn't worth it, and you can find a better guy.

Hope I Helped & Thanks for the Question!

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i shaved my eye brows and the top right corener has no hair and my left does what do i do

A similar thing happened with my friend, except a whole patch came off. Just fill it in with some eyeliner, but make sure its the same color as your brows. It will grow back eventually, no big deal!

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I have a boyfriend and I have a guy friend. I have been friends with this guy since we were in second grade and we talk about everything. I talk to my boyfriend about things too, but I talk to my friend about a lot and I feel more comfortable talking to him. My boyfriend said that its cheating because I talk to my guy friend when Im having problems with my bf or something else, I also hang out with him, but we have never done anything. I have never dated my friend and we have never liked eachother. We are like brother and sister and I love hanging out with him, but people say thats cheating. We talk, go out and play fight. We have never kissed or anything. One time my boyfriend got mad because I said I was worried about my friend and I kinda took care of him when he got into a fight, he got hit in the face with something and he had broken bones in his face and the doctors couldnt do anything for free, he was in pain so I stayed with him for a few days, to take care of him and then my bf accuses me of cheating. Is this cheating?

Nope. It is not cheating. If you aren't doing anything with him, theres no physical contact. He's a good friend, and your boyfriend needs to accept that. You have known your friend longer than your boyfriend. You'll probably always have your guy friend, but when (and if) your boyfriend break up, who knows if you'll still be friends with him. If your boyfriend can't trust you, he doesn't deserve you. Just like the person below me said.

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i have trouble concentrating, how do i fix this problem?

Usually people who can't concentrate have a form of ADD, or ADHD. Getting tested for it wouldn't hurt. If you do end up having it, they give you daily medicine that makes you concentrate.

If not, try to take away all distractions before you study. Such as phone, iPod, other gizmo's around you that could distract you.

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I had a bf and we broke up. he lives in canada and I live in the us. he has a new gf and she lives in north Carolina. he basically played us both at the same time but she's talking about killing herself and I tried my best to talk her out of it. I even said that she could keep my ex bf and I'll try and keep them together even though I want him back, just so she wouldn't do anything stupid. can i be held responsible for her if she does kill herself? I kept trying to talk her out of it over and over but she wasn't convinced. I don't want to be involven anymore. I don't want the police to try and find me or anything if she goes through with it. can anything bad happen to me? I've never met her before.

No, you will not be held accountable for it. You are trying to help her. You weren't the one causing the situation, your ex boyfriend is. But, if you don't want to be involved anymore, then stop giving her advice. She needs to do whats good for her, and it's not killing herself, but maybe see a counselor. Thats the most you can offer. You can tell her to go to a counselor to talk it out, but if she doesnt go, and doesnt listen to you, you can't be punished for that.

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so i forgot to take my pill at 7:30 last night and ended up taking it around 2 today, and i took my one for today at my regular time. Except I just got my period...I was wondering if it will last the whole week or if i keep taking my normal pills will it stop it? Also, should i still take the week of placebos next week or skip over to a new pack?

Your period will last the amount of days it usually does. One time i messed up really bad on my birth control and got my period 3 times in one month all lasting 5 days, the normal days of my cycle. Just keep taking your regular pack. Don't skip to the next one.

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Can you get in the ocean with you period?

Yes, your period stops in water, but happens as soon as you step out of the water. Tampons are the way to go.

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i had 4 guy bff. but three of them hate me for no reason. and so one of my friends is realy cool hes still my bff. but anyway i love him like a brother we have laughs together like sayin he looks like justin bieber did when he was younger. and when hes hurt i help him. but we fight but then i want him to be my bff again because boys are usually better friend then girls. right. because they dont gossip. so is it true boys are better friends than girls and were we ment to be friends

Everyone has a different prefrence on that subject.

I love my girls because we share the same interests, such as shopping and buying makeup and new clothes, and talk about boys, and u can share those passions with girl friends.

But, your right, boys dont't carry drama along with them, they are carefree and don't gossip, but you cant have quality talks with them like you could with your girls. Each gender has a pro and con, you shouldn't base your friends upon gender. Boys and Girls are great in their own way.

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I am a 14/m and I have been talking to this really hot girl this summer I met at a pool party of my friend's. We talk on the phone a lot. She even texts me. Last night she said she was really horny and we were talking and I got horny too. We thought to maybe have phone sex or something but then she said something I got confused about. She said, "You're making me so wet," and I didn't know what that meant so I asked her and she said her panties. What does that mean though? What comes out of a girl when she gets wet or whatever you call it? It must not be the same stuff that comes out of guys because I KNOW they don't have sperm and cum or whatever. Is it like egg something? What is it?

Natural Lubricant. Exactly what the person below me said. Also known as Discharge. It happens to all girls, nothing not normal.

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im 14/f and im going into 9th grade. i am embarrassed to go "number 2" in the bathroom. i know everyone does it and i shouldn't be embarrassed, but i can't help it. sometimes there are girls who just stand in the bathroom and talk so it's embarrassing. i asked my mom and she didn't really know what to say. what do i do? i guess you could say i'm regular haha so i have to go every morning :/ and people notice so ugh it's just embarrasing and annoying. sometimes i hold it all day and i know that's probably bad and then i feel bad about it. please be nice thank you for the answers :)

Theres no shame in pooping. See, I just said it, and didn't get embarresed. It's a natural thing in life and people at your school shouldn't judge you for it because, THEY DO IT TOO. Everyone does.

The girls who stand in the bathroom and talk (which is what i do) don't listen to the people who are going to the bathroom. They are usually just in there for a quick second fixing their hair or makeup. Knowing from experience, the girls who talk in there don't listen to the people who poop. And if you happen to be going "Number 2" while someone walks in, don't leave until they leave so they wont know who did it.

As what everyone else said, try going before you leave for school, it might make things easier for you.

There isn't any shame in having this insecurity either, because everyones insecure about lots of things.

Hope i could help!

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can anyone think of conversation tips when texting a guy i want back?

like i havent talked to him for a month and texted him last week bt it was awkward. what can i say to break the ice again?

or anything that can help the conversation gel more?

If you don't think your awkward, he wont. Don't assume you are, because he will never know. As the person below me said, don't be afraid to liven things up a bit, he will enjoy it, and do it in return.

All it takes is confidence :)

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i'm going to get the pantech link, but i wanted to make sure it was a good phone before i buy it.
the only think i ever do on my phone is text and call, and take pictures. that's it. i don't do internet or anything like that. would it be a good phone for me? and i was also wondering if it had threaded texting? just give me your review on it, if you have it. :)

Hi There.

I'm sorry to say, I don't have that phone, so I can't give you a great review on it, but I can tell you some things that I know.

I have had 2 Pantech phones. One being the Pantech Duo, and the one I have now, the Pantech Impact. The brand Pantech SUCKS. The Duo I had, I had 7 of those in just 3 months. And my phone now, I dropped it the other day and the screen cracked, I had to pay $50 for a new one. Although the Pantech I have now is much better than the Duo. If I were you, I would stay away from Pantech all together, but if you really want the phone, I say go for it. And as for the threaded texting, I am pretty sure it does have it.

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I am figuring out in advance what I'm going to write in everybody's yearbook this year, or at least trying to get a start on it, and so far the thing I like best are funny superlatives.

The problem is I don't know very many, and I guess I'm not very creative which is why I am getting a head start on yearbook signing LOL!

Could you give me a list of some of your favorite superlatives? I can't tell you how much I would appreciate it!

I promise to rate every answer I receive.

well, for my yearbook last year, heres the ones we used:

-Best Hair
-Best Smile
-Grade Gossipers (that was me!)
-Cutest Couple
-Best Eyes
-Most Likely to Suceed
-Best Driver
-Worst Driver

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I've always dreaded the first day of school just because I don't deal with change very well. I know that it's not as bad as I think it'll be, it's always fine. But I still get panic attacks and get really sick the night before and that morning. Any advice on how I can overcome this?

there is nothing to be scared of. school is school, and after the first day is over, its fine. change is a good thing, and every year, it will be easier. just think of the kids that have to adjust to a whole new school, like me. thats even harder than starting a school with people youve known your whole life. you'll be fine, and you still have a lot of time to adjust to it, school isnt even over yet! let me know if you need anymore help.

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ok i am a teenager and i really need help! so i just got my period and there is one problem...when i tried to put in a tampon>>>i couldn't find the hole it goes in :-*( please dont laugh at me...it is extremely embarassing and i dont know what to do... i know it is there though HELP.

get a towel, and a mirror. its easier to find it when u can put a mirror below you and search, dont hesitate to think that its weird. i had to do it the first couple times i put a tampon in, and sooner or later, you'll end up getting it.

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I just recently bought an iPod Touch, and I need to know how to buy/add apps to it. I am connected to the Internet on it, and everytime I click on 'App Store' it says, "Cannot connect to iTunes Store Invalid argument." I don't understand how to do it, can anyone tell me how?

its probably your connection. when im in my house, a few connections come up for me, but only one will connect to the app store. play around ith the different connects available in or near your house. if worst comes to worst, use iTunes.

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the teacher suposly asled me to spit my gum out and i did but she wrote me up and she said that she had asked me more than twice and that i still refused to spit my gum out

theres no question here. anywho, if your teacher has rules, you need to follow them.

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Dramatic, I know I'm there, though. One more moment of being in this life may be the final straw. I really want to end this before anyone gets hurt, or I waste anyone Else's time. I'm quite literally, a waste of space and would truly love to allow the world some more psychic energy to do something good with, rather than continuing to sit here and waste valuable resources.
I know that it is considered by many to be selfish, but I truly believe this case is an acception to that rule.

this is no acception to the rule. in fact, anyone acting like this is no acception. its never an acception. its wrong, and it not only destroys you, but everyone around you and involved with your life. you aren't wasting valuable resources, you're asking us for help. help we love to give, thats not taking us for granted. you ask for help, we help you. we wouldn't be on this site if we didn't want to help.

you're right, it's very selfish. you're only thinking of yourself, and no one else around you. you aren't thinking of how everyone else around you is going to feel.

dont end your life like this. you can do things to help you regain what you think you've lost. get closer to friends, and even make new ones. join a club or group you enjoy doing. and i recomend you seeing a therapist, they could really help you with the way you are feeling.

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