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Family doesnt accept us
15F
ok so ive been with my girlfriend for a year now and i love her so much we really care about each other and i didnt want to hide my relationship with her from my parents anymore but my parents are christians so they were not happy and they dont want me to date her anymore they think i broke up with her but i didnt anyways i just want my parents to understand that i will always be attrackted to girls because i dont want to be isolated from my family because im bi i dont know what to do any suggestions would be great
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Your parents love you no matter what. I say don't try to hide your love for her, your parents would probably rather have you be honest then to keep something like this from them. They will warm up to it and have to accept it. Hope I helped somewhat. :)
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The reality is that you may have to "hide" your relationship with your girlfriend - and others you may have over the next few years - to some degree until you're in college, and maybe even then if you need their financial support and they'd withdraw it. I don't necessarily mean hide them entirely, but kind of downplay them and let your parents think you're just friends.
It really depends on how opposed your parents are to lesbian relationships. It may be that they'll warm up over time to the idea; you've got to ease them into it. They also may think it's just a "phase" you're going through. The important thing is that they should support you in ALL your relationships, gay or straight (provided they don't have some specific, rational objection to the person you're dating - like he/she is a criminal or something). But you have to give them time, and - if they're not too freaked out by the subject - frequent, gentle reminders that gay & lesbian relationships are OK. If it doesn't work, remember, it's only a few years 'til you're out of the house. You can make it.
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Your family should accept you for who you are, and not who you date. My family always tells me, "If you're happy, I'm happy." There is nothing wrong with being a lesbian, it's completely natural and your family needs to learn to accept that. Tell them that. Did she do something to trigger your family to not being so fond of her? You shouldn't have to breakup with someone you love for your family. They need to learn to accept her.
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