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Talking to a new girl?
15/m
I'm a freshmen this year at a new school. There is this girl in my English class i noticed today. This was the second day of school, and after lunch i noticed her while i was walking. I don't know her name or anything about her and i wanna get to know her, i wanna try being friends with her and see where that takes me. I have some friends that are girls i text them alot but in person i'm shy i've hung out with girls a couple times but i'm not really talkative with girls... im shy. So i was wondering if you guys have any ideas what i can do to help me out with this new girl and future girls and people.
Any help would be good!
Thanks! :)
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If you were a bit younger, I would recommend punching her in the arm and then running to the other side of the playground.
Strangely enough, it might not be such a bad idea for you now.
You don't need to worry about impressing girls. All you have to do to meet them is to engage them in any way you can. You will develop skill at it over time, and you will learn to make something up in the moment. In your case I would recommend using something like these:
"Hi I'm <insert your name here>" This one is simple and is very safe.
"Excuse me, aren't you in my English class?" "Yeah, I'm Sarah" "I'm <insert your name here>...so what do you think of the book we have to read?" This one is also pretty safe. Asking questions about something you have in common is often a good way to get started.
"Hi, I'm Tim" "Hi Tim, I'm Jenny" (rapidly)"I, uh...actually my name isn't Tim it's <insert your name here>, but I got this advice from my friend Tim about meeting girls and I rehearsed it my head because I'm so nervous and and now I'm embarrassed and I don't know what to say and I'm stammering on and babbling like a cretin and I uh..sorry"(start to turn to walk away) "Ha ha ha,... you're funny/cute/strange" This one has the added bonus of being openly honest and humorous, but it can blow up on you if she just says nothing at the end or "Ugh...What a loser". Thankfully, the girls that respond poorly to this are not the type you would want to spend any amount of time with much less date.
"Is this seat taken?" This one is direct, but is not as safe because of the caste system of seating arrangements that tends to develop in high school.
"That's a cool t-shirt/cellphone/backpack/etc, where did you get it?" This one combines a compliment with a question. People like to talk, and will almost always respond pleasantly to simple questions like this. However, it is very important that you be specific and ONLY compliment people (especially women) when you genuinely like what you're complimenting. Don't be an insincere jerk.
"Hey...we're getting together a group of people to go <insert some sport or activity here> do you want to join us?" This can be great way to meet girls and people in general, but some are antisocial, busy, or just don't want to do whatever it is you're doing.
(To a new girl)"Hi, I'm <insert your first name here> and I'm in charge of the <your full name here> Welcoming Committee, I'm here to see how you're settling in at our school" This sort of thing is great because it demonstrates confidence and humor which are the ultimate combination.
"Excuse me, you're in my seat" "Oh...sorry"(she scoots over) "You should be, I was looking forward to sitting here and eating my lunch in peace and now you've ruined it for me, if only there was some way you could make it up to me" "Do you want one of the cookies my mom made?" This is starting to get into some more advanced material. It's important to take something inconsequential and blow it way out of proportion in such a way that it takes her a second to realize you are joking. It can be difficult for people without a sense of humor.
Just remember that what you talk about isn't very important, just engage them and get to know them. It's important to be confident and interesting or unusual, it helps to be funny, and it's OK to be honest about being shy or thinking she's cute or something.
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You should just try to introduce yourself or while your next to her try to make a joke or something directed only to her. Then say oh btw my name is <insert name here> just be cool, stay optimistic, ask her if she wants to hang out sometime :3
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Try to gain a little more self-confidence.
Girls like confident, secure guys, not shy boys.
That's going to be hard for you at your age, but that doesn't mean you should give up hope.
Get some exercise and fresh air. Exercising or playing sports can make you feel and look your best. Try it.
When you're talking to a girl, don't be over the top.
Girls don't like to be showered with excessive compliments, sincere or not. Even if she has beautiful eyes, you don't need to remind her every three seconds.
If you must compliment a girl, keep things light. Don't use words like beautiful, or sexy. Save that for when you've been together for a while. You can say she's cute, or adorable. You can even use the word pretty.
However, don't do the opposite and talk to her from a friend perspective. That will get you stuck in the friend zone.
Keep things light and funny. Get a sense of humor, if you don't already have one. Girls LOVE funny guys.
Seriously.
It's scientifically proven.
Good luck, and don't wait too long to say hi or she'll just get creeped out.
If you don't even know what to say, talk about English class. Ask her if you had homework for that class (even if you know you do). If there's a test coming up, offer to help her study. If you're absent, ask for her phone number to text her and see what you missed in class. Be creative.
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Hey man! well i suggest getting to know her friends, start talking to them, or since your shy, find em on facebook and send em a message. Once you slowly get to know her friends then you can make a move to her, and her friends will put a good word in for you cause you have talked to them before, then your already approved by her friends! which is importand in any relationship you wanna get into, gettting along with thier friends. Well if this isnt the way you wanna go, you could always kinda creep her on fb, find out wat she is into, learn stuff about her before you start talking to her, see if you too have anything in common, maybe even start talking to her on fb. Or you could kinda stalk her lol just pay attention to where you see her, and find out were her other classes are other then english. Then you can soo happen be there too and maybe start conversation when you get the confidence to, maybe say, "oh hey, arent you in my english class?" then introduce your self and talk to her. Now just lettin ya know, your probably going to be nervous and may studder or blsuh while talking to her. this is perfectly normal, this just means that you really like her. And any girl is going to feel appreicated if she sees you trying to make a effort to keep the conversation going. Girls love a guy who can keep the covo going. Just do your homework on her find things out, ask your friends even if they know her. MAIN THING: be yourself, dont act like a guy YOU THINK SHELL LIKE and end up acting like a totally differnt person. Youll do perfeclty fine! dont worry. Everyone is different and girls like shy guys! Just treat her right and pay attention to what she is saying and respond back and youll do fine!
Hope this helped ya out! If you have anymore questions, feel free to ask em, id be glad to help ya out man!
Just make an effort, try and seem interested when you talk to girls. SInce you said you arent talkitive, dont worry, the girls arnt just gonna let you do all the talking, if they do, then maybe they arent really intereted in you. Just ask questions or topics that you both like,not just her, then you can connect.
Hope this helps! Youll get her...i can tell lol
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