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ok so i am f/17 and i want to become closer to God i mean ive been baptizted before bt i really want to become closer to the lord i guess i just got baptized because i felt i had to at the moment i was close to the lord before i got baptized though.bt after that everything went down hill =[ i just want to be closer to the lord because he is my confort bt im scared to talk to him for some odd reason
soo how can i become closer to the lord like i was before?
what can i do ?
and will god be angry at me because ive changed? (link)
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The god that the Christians believe in is omnipresent. He is everywhere and is with you at all times. If you want to feel that you have more interaction with him, I would recommend meditation, prayer, scriptural study, and self-denial of worldly pleasures. These are the traditional actions taken by monastics (monks and nuns) who arguably care about being close to God more than anyone else.
Furthermore, the Christian god is generally believed to be very benevolent and forgiving so I am sure that he will not be angry because you've changed.
As the Danish philosopher Soren Kierkegaard said, being a Christian is a personal and individual choice that you take when you make the leap of faith to believe in him. It has nothing to do with the family or culture you were raised in.
If you are having a crisis of faith, perhaps you should take some time to examine and understand what you personally choose to believe in.
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Hi, im taking a year out, and going to university once this year finishes. Im just wondering if people have any ideas as to what i can do? I want to do some charity work, but wondering how to go about that.
I also want to volunteer at lawyers' offices, or at the office of my local newspaper, how would i go about contacting them and asking them?
Any other idea's as to what i can do will be useful also :)
thanks in advance :) (link)
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It's difficult to give advice for this sort of thing without knowing much more about you.
Why are you taking a year out of college?
What is your major?
What do you want to do with your life?
What interests you?
When I was trying to decide what to do, I took a semester off from college and got a job as a waiter. I also spent a lot of time pondering my life and trying to relax.
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So i need some freaking sweet music. I listen to pretty much anything, so any suggestions? Thanks guys! (link)
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Have you ever listened to the Dire Straits album Love Over Gold. It's great.
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We were learning in school about Native American Indians and what they believed before we took over the land and everything. I know from childhood they used to show Indians doing rain dances for their crops. My teacher was answering a question and said they really did do raindances to bring on the rain from the rain god or something. Maybe this is stupid and maybe it's not but do rain dances really cause it to rain? I don't get it. (link)
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The Native American Indians believed (and some still do) that their dances could make it rain, but it is important to understand two things:
Belief that something is true does not mean that it is true.
Something being true does not mean that people will believe it is true.
We can test dancing a rain dance and not dancing a rain dance many times to figure out if this belief is true, but I do not know of anyone that has done this test. If rain dancing does cause rain, we definitely do not understand why it would cause it.
In science and logical evaluation, we choose to reject all beliefs if we do not need to believe based on the evidence we have. Since we have no evidence of rain dancing causing rain or any human movement causing any weather of any kind, we reject this belief.
Most peoples' beliefs are not evaluated in this way. Some Native American Indians believed in Rain gods in the same way that people all over the world and from all the times in history believe in other gods or spirits. None of these beliefs are true because they are/were believed to be true.
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Hi, im thinking about starting a political organisation? My aim is to increase political participation i.e. posting leaflets around election time to give people a view of candidates without the interference of party or media bias.
I also want to let people know about what their local representative or politician is doing for them. I would also like to hold meetings with local people about what they want their politicians to do for them.
Im sure you get the general idea of what i want to start. My question is, how do i go about starting something like this? Do i need government permission? Do i need to do anything else to ensure im working within the law. Of course i may need donations...do these need to be declared? Im hoping someone on advicenators will have answers for me, so thanks in advance :) (link)
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No, you don't need government permission to do this sort of thing.
If you wish to be a non-profit corporation then yes, you have some significant legal hurdles to handle. This is necessary if you want people's donations to be tax deductible. For this sort of thing, you will want to consult a lawyer.
Furthermore, the US federal government and most state and city governments have passed laws requiring disclosure of contributions and expenditures related to campaigning for office, and in many cases have imposed limits on the size of contributions.
If you are interested starting a political organization, I would highly recommend that you research other similar organizations and copy whichever of their aspects you find most useful.
Unfortunately, I think that without a political agenda that you wish to support, you will find it hard to find people interested in supporting you.
Lastly, if your aim is to increase political participation, I must ask you this:
Would the World/Country/State/County/City be better or worse if the people that don't vote started to?
Keep in mind that these people either don't care about the outcome, or aren't willing to put in the effort necessary to make an informed decision.
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Ive been thinking about this for so long, and im just having so much trouble actually processing that im gay/bi.
Heck, it took a lot out of me just to go here.
I keep on doubting myself and my identity. (link)
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It's important to understand that your identity is determined by your actions and not the other way around.
If you meet a cute girl and you want to go on a date, ask her out. If you meet a cute guy and you want to go on a date, ask him out.
You don't need to worry about who/what you are, it's enough to just worry about about who you want to spend time with, and whose butt you want to squeeze.
And remember that however you're feeling, a lot of other people are feeling it too.
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Mk, I am in the marching band at my school. We have football games every Friday night. Tonight, this boy was being rude to my friend. So I told this boy I wasn't to happy with him and he said if he had a gun with him, he wouldn't be alive. Then a few minutes on the bus drive home, I saw that his bus buddy wasn't sitting in his seat so, I looked back at this boy and he looked so upset, he was sitting alone, his knees up, his arms wrapped around his legs and his head on his knees. So, I went to sit with him and I asked him what was wrong and he asked why I was mad at him, that he was upset because I was mad. He doesn't like when people are mad. So, we talked back in his seat for a good ten minutes, having a nice heart to heart, it was really great. The boy sitting in front of us turned around and made kissy noises at us. But when we pulled up at the school, I noticed inside that this boy was still really upset, so I tried talking to him but he kept saying he was fine, he was okay. So, I tried to get my best guy friend to talk to him but he didn't push it because he said he was fine. So, when I walked by him in the hall, he looked at me really sad like and then looked at the floor. So, I told him we're talking when we get back to school next week and he said that's okay with him. Then I started talking to my girl best friend and she was like "well why would he get so upset that you were mad. he didn't just put on the sad act in front of you, he was sad the whole time."
What do you think about it all? Does he maybe kinda sorta like me? (link)
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Yes, it sounds like he maybe kinda sorta likes you.
However, if he continues to be upset often, there may also be something else going on.
I recommend that you spend some more time talking to him. Don't ask if he's upset or why he's upset, just spend some more time with him. He may just need a friend.
Perhaps a friend who maybe kinda sorta likes him back?
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what's the difference between the droid x and android? (link)
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Android is the name of the operating system (basic programming) that was written by the people at Google which (in addition to the phone carrier and the app programmers) makes the phone work. Other operating systems include the BlackBerry OS, Apple's iPhone OS, Microsoft Windows, Apple's MAC OS X, and Linux.
The issue gets confusing because android is often used to refer to specific phone hardware made by Motorola in addition to the programming running on the phone. You can find out more about these phones at the Motorola site.
So the apps made by many different people run on the android operating system made by Google which runs on the phone hardware made by Motorola which connects to the AT&T or Verizon or ... network.
I hope this answers your question.
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I was applying to some jobs and this lady at one place was helping me out. She asked me what my social security number was so she could write it down on the application. I told her I didn't know and she told me I really needed to find out and that it's important. What is a social security number and where do I get one? Why is it important and why don't I already have one if it's so important? (link)
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A social security number is a nine digit number assigned by the Social Security Administration which is a division of the United States federal government. You generally get one when you are born. Your parents should have it or know where to find it.
The Social Security Administration was created to collect money from working people during their careers and pay people after they retire. It is a sort of limited retirement plan mandated by the federal government. The Social Security Administration gets it's name from the collective pooling of money to support everyone which is a form of Socialism and the financial security it is supposed to provide.
Because a social security number is assigned to everyone at birth, it is used by the IRS as the primary tax identification number for individual people. When you get a job and money is withheld from your paycheck for income tax, medicare, and social security, they need a number to identify who you are and how much you are paying in taxes.
When the social security administration assigns you a number, they send a card with that number printed on it with your name. In special circumstances you or your parents can claim an objection to collective pooling of money to support people (it generally has to be religious) and the IRS will assign you a TIN (tax identification number) instead. The IRS will not assign a TIN to you if you qualify for a SSN.
In the very rare chance that your parents didn't get you one, you can apply for one with a valid US birth certificate or certificate of US birth abroad.
If you are a foreigner you just give your visa number in place of the SSN.
Good luck getting a job and joining the rest of the taxpayers here.
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I haven't been drinking enough water lately and I feel like I'm really dehydrated and my skin feels dry even. I was wondering if there was anything I could drink or do that would get me hydrated fast? When I asked my mom she looked at me like I was crazy so maybe water is the only thing but I wanted to ask you guys first. Thankyou (link)
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If you are dehydrated, water is about the best thing for you. Gatorade, Pedialyte, or other electrolyte (read: salt) containing drinks are useful too.
If you prefer a more direct approach, you could get some IV saline (salt water pumped into your blood stream), but I wouldn't recommend it unless you are severely dehydrated and have medical training.
I'm more concerned with how you know you're dehydrated. In general, if you're thirsty or sick, you should drink more (assuming normal kidney function). Beyond that, you're probably not dehydrated.
If your skin feels dry, I recommend lotion.
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I'm a freshmen this year at a new school. There is this girl in my English class i noticed today. This was the second day of school, and after lunch i noticed her while i was walking. I don't know her name or anything about her and i wanna get to know her, i wanna try being friends with her and see where that takes me. I have some friends that are girls i text them alot but in person i'm shy i've hung out with girls a couple times but i'm not really talkative with girls... im shy. So i was wondering if you guys have any ideas what i can do to help me out with this new girl and future girls and people.
Any help would be good!
Thanks! :) (link)
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If you were a bit younger, I would recommend punching her in the arm and then running to the other side of the playground.
Strangely enough, it might not be such a bad idea for you now.
You don't need to worry about impressing girls. All you have to do to meet them is to engage them in any way you can. You will develop skill at it over time, and you will learn to make something up in the moment. In your case I would recommend using something like these:
"Hi I'm " This one is simple and is very safe.
"Excuse me, aren't you in my English class?" "Yeah, I'm Sarah" "I'm ...so what do you think of the book we have to read?" This one is also pretty safe. Asking questions about something you have in common is often a good way to get started.
"Hi, I'm Tim" "Hi Tim, I'm Jenny" (rapidly)"I, uh...actually my name isn't Tim it's , but I got this advice from my friend Tim about meeting girls and I rehearsed it my head because I'm so nervous and and now I'm embarrassed and I don't know what to say and I'm stammering on and babbling like a cretin and I uh..sorry"(start to turn to walk away) "Ha ha ha,... you're funny/cute/strange" This one has the added bonus of being openly honest and humorous, but it can blow up on you if she just says nothing at the end or "Ugh...What a loser". Thankfully, the girls that respond poorly to this are not the type you would want to spend any amount of time with much less date.
"Is this seat taken?" This one is direct, but is not as safe because of the caste system of seating arrangements that tends to develop in high school.
"That's a cool t-shirt/cellphone/backpack/etc, where did you get it?" This one combines a compliment with a question. People like to talk, and will almost always respond pleasantly to simple questions like this. However, it is very important that you be specific and ONLY compliment people (especially women) when you genuinely like what you're complimenting. Don't be an insincere jerk.
"Hey...we're getting together a group of people to go do you want to join us?" This can be great way to meet girls and people in general, but some are antisocial, busy, or just don't want to do whatever it is you're doing.
(To a new girl)"Hi, I'm and I'm in charge of the Welcoming Committee, I'm here to see how you're settling in at our school" This sort of thing is great because it demonstrates confidence and humor which are the ultimate combination.
"Excuse me, you're in my seat" "Oh...sorry"(she scoots over) "You should be, I was looking forward to sitting here and eating my lunch in peace and now you've ruined it for me, if only there was some way you could make it up to me" "Do you want one of the cookies my mom made?" This is starting to get into some more advanced material. It's important to take something inconsequential and blow it way out of proportion in such a way that it takes her a second to realize you are joking. It can be difficult for people without a sense of humor.
Just remember that what you talk about isn't very important, just engage them and get to know them. It's important to be confident and interesting or unusual, it helps to be funny, and it's OK to be honest about being shy or thinking she's cute or something.
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my bf touches bites on and kisses my ears..and i reallllllly like it. normal or weird? anyone else have like it too? (link)
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It's completely normal.
But remember, it's the same with a guy as it is with a dog, cat, or anything:
When someone bites you, bite them back
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I've had a headache for 7 days now and it really sucks. At first it was like a migraine and it calmed down to just a hurting headache pain and now it's back to a migraine and I'm so sick. I don't know why I get headaches but having one for a whole week seems excessive to me. Is this normal to have a headache for more than just 1 day or 2 days? Should I just keep taking aspirin and hope it goes away soon enough? (link)
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Disclaimer: I am not a doctor, and nothing I say here should be construed as traditional medical advice as defined by the appropriate governing body of wherever you live.
If you have had significant persistent pain in your head for more than a few days, you should definitely go see a physician.
It is NEVER 'normal' to have headaches. They are always evidence of physical problems like these:
Sleep deprivation (including poor quality of sleep)
Dehydration
Eye strain (low blink rate, fatigued ciliary muscle)
Aural strain (unusually loud or annoying sounds)
Emotional strain
Trauma or exterior pressure on the head
Allergic reaction
Ear, nose, or throat infection
Hypertension (systemic or locally caused by vasoconstriction in the head and neck)
Muscular strain in the head, neck, and shoulders
Hormonal imbalances
Malnutrition
Autoimmune disorders
Tumors
Et Cetera
You need consider the amount and type of pain, any other symptoms, how often this occurs, and what it might be related to in your environment.
If the pain is significant enough for it to cause problems with your daily life and/or you believe it could be an indication of something serious you should seek medical care.
You should never accept headaches as normal. If something in your actions or your environment is causing them (this is generally the case for headaches) then you need to correct it.
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Im 18 male she is 21 female. So basically over the summer I fell in love with a girl i met in early july and finally asked her to be my girlfriend in august. We live 2 hours away and neither of us can drive. I spent 3 weeks in August at her house (she lives alone) and we had an amazing time. Although we argued a bit and stuff cause we dont know eachother that well. She just broke up with her boyfriend of a few years and I guess still has feelings for him or whatever. I only asked her out while I was there because I didnt know when we would see eachother again due to school for us. I told her multiple times i understand if she wants to say no right now because she still has feelings for her ex. I asked her out and a few days later she said yes. I truly love her with all my heart and give 100% into our relationship and I feel like she doesnt. She tells me she loves me and cares about me alot I know she does but sometimes it doesnt seem like it. While I was with her she hurt me a few times minorly but I told her right away. Anyways Im back home now and we are 2 hours away and I miss her like crazy. All I do is think about her and want to talk to her. I think I might come off to strong towards her its just I really deeply love her but I deffinally know she is not crying herself to sleep like I am. So My questions are. 1. How can I make our relationship better. 2. How can I stop missing her as much and calming myself down?. (link)
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It sounds like you have fallen in love with a girl that you have only known for a short time. This is wonderful.
It also sounds like you are being overly affectionate, needy, insecure, and demonstrating a lack of confidence. This is a recipe for disaster.
Here are some things you should know:
1. Being overly affectionate and intimate too early in a relationship is one of the biggest causes of breakups
2. There is a double standard here: men are expected to be more confident and stoic in a relationship (right or wrong it's part of our social background)
3. Women at her age are much more likely to avoid relationship problems than to try to fix them.
I think you should get out and do more with your free time if you want to stop missing her so much and calm down. Take music lessons, join a club, or hang out with friends. If you live in a part of the country where cars are the standard mode of transportation (read: not in a big city) then you need to go get your driver's license and a job so you can buy a car.
Lastly, I recommend that you get on David DeAngelo's mailing list (google him). He helped me with this sort of problem, he can help you.
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Ok well here's the problem first I don't have any friends I don't hang out and my dog is my best friend .and you are probably thinking what the hell .but I think I am antisocial .I don't have nothing in comon with people .actualy people eritate me its like what people do doesn't make any since. So I just keep to myself I can't say that I'm happy but its just the way that I am so does this make me antisocial ? No clue !! (link)
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You are not antisocial. Antisocial people have an abnormally low desire for social interaction. Your question appears to be clear evidence that while you may not have many friends right now, you do want to have them.
If you are interested in developing more fulfilling friendships with other people, I would recommend that you find people that share common interests or problems.
As to people being irritating and not making sense, I would recommend that you study some psychology. People are not logical creatures; they are driven by needs, fears, desires, insecurities, love, hate, and a host of other complicated emotions that can be difficult to understand.
Lastly, I must say that I would be horribly disappointed if your dog was not your best friend. That's what they're for. Please give 'em a treat for me.
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