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Question: "I like someone, but I don't know if they like me, how can I tell?"
Answer: Everybody is different, I have no way of knowing how your crush expresses him/herself. The best way is to just ask them, you'll never get anywhere if you don't.

I'm sorry to be rude, but these are the only questions I have been seeing in my inbox, and I am tired of them. I won't be answering them anymore.
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from the same person about the blind person...

can deaf people be schizophrenic??

Yes.

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all in the same category::

1- if the farthest my boyfriend and i have gone is the fingerin/hand job stuff, would that be considered "sexually active"?

2- when we do have sex, if he uses a condom and i get the morning after pill, what are the chances of becoming pregnant? (NOT happening any time soon by the way so dont preach to me about how if i was ready i wouldnt be asking, because thats why i am asking)

3- if i go to a planned parenthood to get the morning after pill, do they just give it to me or what?

thanks!

1. Yep. It's still a form sex, so you're sexually active. But you won't get any STDs. Just make sure your hands are clean.

2. http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/morningafterpill.htm has a lot of information on the morning after pill.

3. See above. :D

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If someone says "I lost my virginity to that band" Its called like music virginity. But what does it mean?!?

I have NEVER heard anyone say that, but I have an idea as to what it means.

You know that the first time a person has sex, they lose their virginity, right? Well, the first time my friend peeled out with her car, I told her that she'd lost her peeling out virginity. If it's the first time you've owned a frog, you've lost your owning-a-frog virginity, same for the first time you wear gray pants, the first time you read Jane Austen, etc.

So my guess is that the first time someone listens to a certain band, they've lost their Insert-Band's-Name-Here virginity. Or, if that band got them into a certain type of music, they've lost their Punk/Jazz/Classical/Oldies/J-Rock/whatever virginity.

Either that, or they love that band so much that they have fantasies about them, and like to joke that they are in a relationship with said band.

That's my best guess, anyway. :D

-Lili

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The other night me and my friends did a weejee board (not sure how spelt) and it really worked. It was sooo scary. We want to do it again, because these are people like my friends dads and uncles and stuff and they just wanna keep talking to them. Does anyone know if there are any risks of playing this game...or any important things i should know about it?

Ouija boards can't do anything to you. They are toys...good fun for playing pretend, but that's all they are. Look closely. They have a logo on them. They are mass-produced and made by machines. There are no spirits in them.

People tend to freak themselves out. If you start thinking, "There's a ghost in my house." you will start to hear noises and see things move. It's just your mind playing tricks on you. The only risks are in your head.

So just tell yourself that it isn't real. One of your friends is probably a trickster and moved it.

-Lili :D

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Do all girls like chocolate. And if they do do the like Dark or Milk better?

Nope.

I generally hate it, except for hot cocoa.

It depends on the person. :D

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well my boyfriend said he wanted the pc game 'black & white' for christmas. but i cant find it anywhere. everything is 'black & white 2'. is that it?

Black and White was released a few years ago. Black and White 2 is the sequel, just released recently. You might be able to find a used copy of the original at GameStop, but you should probably just get him the new one. It's probably better. =D

-Lili

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Hey its etnies40210 I wanted to know how would i become a level two moderator on Advicenators? Would i have to be on like 24/7 and get a strait 5 or is it just being a level one for a long time? In advance, thanks for the answere
Nathan

http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?f=69

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how do you upload a song on media movie maker.
thanks.
i need it for my video.
& i don`t have any music thing on my computer please help me.
except sometimes i look up a song on imeem.com

Uploading songs is exactly like uploading a picture! Just go to Import to Collections and import the file. Also, if you have Movie Maker, chances are you have Windows Media Player. Open up Explorer, go to Search, and type Windows Media Player. Make sure you look under "My Computer" and select "All Files and Folders".

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My parents are so weird. Every Christmas, they say "we don't have a lot of money to give out to you, we can't even pay our bills." But then they go and spend hundreds of dollars on presents for us and themselves or each other. It's weird. They don't have money to hand out to me and my brother, but money to spend for other unncessary things?

Also, 2 things I asked for this year was a digital camera [$119, because I checked the site for the store they could buy it at], and a PSP which was $200 at the same store. Now, according to my mother, she didn't buy me the PSP because it was $50 more than what the site had listed, and it was "expensive." I have a big gift under the tree. It's HUGE. It looks like a computer or tv is inside of the box. My mom said it's not a tv..but she didn't say it wasn't a computer. I don't get it. My 2 things only cost $169 together. A computer is like $500. So, if they can get me a computer, and 2 other things, why can't they get me the PSP or the digital camera? I told my mom the PSP was no big deal, but the camera was, and she's yet to buy that becaue I can tell by the shape of the other gift, it's not a camera. I told her I wanted the camera more than anything else I asked for, and I hope she gets it. But why would she spend a lot of money on that huge gift, and then complain that my other two presents [that I probably am NOT getting] were expensive? I don't get it.

Is it just me, or are my parents really, really odd?

My parents are like that too. We don't have a lot of money, but they both grew up extremely poor, and have always had a hard time saying no to me. I pretty much feel, and I tell this to them, that I don't want them to buy me the punching bag or the laptop or the expensive art supplies that I very much want. I can work and eventually get those things for myself, and all I want is socks and underwear...you know, things I NEED. But I know I'm getting something. I should've told her that all I wanted was a thousand socks and pairs of underwear ;D

Anyway, I got a computer last year. It wasn't five hundred dollars. My dad built it himself :D Maybe, if your parents don't build computers, they have a friend who can build them and then sell them for less? Or it's a used one.

Then again, don't judge by the package. It's entirely possible to put a camera in a huge box. :D

Anyway, my policy is to just be happy with what you get. Christmas really shouldn't be about getting stuff. People get depressed during the holiday season, and it's because of expectations. They feel like they don't get the right gift for somebody, or they put a lot of energy into one thing that they want, and they're always let down. Learn to let go of those expectations, and just be thankful. :D

-B

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Why isnt chat speak allowed on advicenators? can i speak in 1337?

Chat speak isn't allowed because a lot of people find it frustrating to read. No, 1337 isn't allowed either. But neither are French, Binary, Russian, Ancient Egyptian, Morse Code, and Chinese. All questions have to be in plain English.

You could make your own advice site where everything is in whatever language or code you like, though. :D

-Beulah

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You know how on facebook there are those like "2nd networks" you can join?
such as a lot of my friends are in the Washington D.C. network (because thats my area)
I would like to join the "Portugal" network (because I'm Portuguese) but I don't know how.. does anyone else know though?

Go to My Account, Networks. From what I can tell, you can't be in two regions at once. You can be in a region network, a school network, and a work network.

You can, however, make friends in the Portugal network, and put in your profile that you're Protugese and want to connect with people in Portugal.

I'm afraid that's about all you can do.

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I have had sex with girls before and I like it when I am doing it except I want to stop and when my friends that I do it with come over we say we wont but it seems we always do no matter what. HELP PLEASE I am a Christian and I dont know why I am doing it I feel bad after but then lust comes in my life please help me get rid of it. HELP me give ideas or anything cause right now I feel my lust coming back and my friends in the other room waiting for me I said I was checkin my mail help what do I do.....!!!!!!!!!! :(

Society, and your religion, tells you you should feel guilty about this. Don't. People are sexual beings, and it's nothing to be ashamed of. Feeling lust for someone isn't going to destroy you, and you're not going to Hell. It's NOT a good idea to have sex whenever you want, only do it with someone you love and USE PROTECTION. Find a healthy outlet for the lust. Write erotic stories, or just fantasize.

No matter what, don't blame yourself for the natural feelings that you have. That is unhealthy and will lead to bad decisions.

-B

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18/male.so i want to make a video like on onetruemedia or on youtube. but i need help i want to make one for my girlfriend & sent it to her for one of her christmas presents.
but im a guy & i have trouble.
i don't know what im doing at all except knowing how to upload pictures on onetruemedia & thats it. i want a song to play & everything i know she'll love it.so i need to know how to do stuff like step by step basically sorry if i'm being a pain. so if you can help i will greatly appreciate it.
i hope one person don't jus answer this unless its like a great answer.

If you have Windows, you can use Windows Movie Maker. It's very easy.

1. Open up Movie Maker.

2. Go to File>>New Project.

3. Go to File>>Import to Collections

4. Find the picture you want to use and press Import. Repeat for all the pictures.

5. On the bottom, there is either a Timeline or a Storyboard. If it's set to Storyboard, change it to Timeline (there's a button that says Show Timeline). Or you could do it in Storyboard. It doesn't really matter.

6. Click on a picture and drag it into the VIDEO section. Repeat.

7. Go to Import to Collections, and find the song file that you want. Import it, and drag it into the AUDIO section on the bottom.

8. Now for effects. Click on the first image in the timeline. On the left, click on Video Effects. You can preview all of them, and then make a decision. For slideshows, I like to use Ease In and Ease Out. That's just me, though.

9. You can also experiment with Video Transitions.

10. Now, go to Tools, and select Titles and Credits.

11. The first option is "Add title to the beginning of the movie" Click that. Type in your title.

12. Now, go to file. Select "Save Movie File", NOT "Save Project As", though it is a good idea to do that too.

13. Go to YouTube and log in, and click Upload Videos.

14. Follow the instructions.

It won't instantly be there, you will probably have to wait a few hours.

As for songs, you could use "All I Want for Christmas is You" by Mariah Carey, or "Not Like the Other Girls" by The Rasmus, or...some song that she likes? This part is hard for me, because it has to be something that you think fits. You'll find the right song, just look for it. ;-)

-Beulah

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15/M My locker is next to someone who has some bisexual friends. There are 2 of them. The other day when school was over, one of them was like, hitting on me and saying that I'm cute and sexy and stuff like that. I'm straight, so I got a little freaked out. I am used to getting that from girls, but I'd never had someone who's gay do that before. The kid is pretty proud of be bi, too. He wears shirts that say stuff like "Don't hate, celebrate," and "Gay pride." He also wears rainbow-colored shirts and he wears make-up and acts and sounds very feminine. So it's not like he's trying to hide anything. Anyway, the other day when he did that, I got all mad and called him a fag, queerbag, and other derogatory words and yelled at him. And then, yesterday, he was standing in front of my locker, but instead of politely saying excuse me, I said, "get out of my way, you faggot," and then I grabbed him and pushed him out of my way. Then I said, "did you like that when I grabbed you, gay boy." Some of my friends said to go beat him up, but I would never do anything like that. My mom thinks that bisexuality is wrong because she thinks that people should pick to like one or the other. She doesn't hate anyone, and neither am I. I'm not against gay people. But what should I do to deal with this and what should I say to the kid to apologize? When those 2 incidents occured, everyone around was laughing at him and teasing him. I feel bad for him and I felt guilty. The rate of suicide among gay teenagers is high, and I don't want him to commit suicide and then blame me for it. What can I do to get rid of my anger? Is there counseling or anything?

You keep saying you don't hate anybody. I think you're just reassuring yourself of that to make yourself feel better. The things you said were hateful things, and you need to accept that, on some level, you have some hateful feelings toward them. If you accept it, you can overcome it. Hatred is natural--people hate what they don't understand, and you seem confused about it.

I think you can learn to get rid of anger on your own, but counseling might be a good idea, if you feel you need it.

All you can say to this guy is what you really mean. Hopefully, he will accept your apology. As a bisexual, I feel sorry for anyone who feels so much hatred toward people, for any reason. I think the only way to eliminate hatred is by talking about it.

Unfortunately, he might never forgive you. He may be very deeply scarred by this event. But you can still make a difference. Learn from your mistake, and make an effort to teach others. The next time you hear someone say "faggot", tell them to stop. That's all it takes.

Also, just to enlighten you a bit about bisexuality: it's not a choice. Nobody chooses who they fall in love with. You don't get to pick their race, looks, background, income, or GENDER. I'd like it if you passed that onto your mom, but you don't have to.

Here are some things I think you should check out:

http://www.gsanetwork.org/
http://www.dayofsilence.org/

-Beulah

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How much drugs and alcohol can you drink and take before your sperm starts to become weaker or get a lower sperm count? And do you always get morning sickness when you're pregnant? Thank you :)

Well, it depends. Women can drink as much alcohol as they want and nothing will ever happen to their sperm. And men pretty much never get morning sickness when they're pregnant.

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ok, i'll get right to the point, what the heck is a gyno???? i'm 15/f and have a very sheltered life. does going to one hurt? what do they do to you exactally? i'm not sexually active, do i still have to go to one? no, i'm not that regular yet, but i don't seem to be having problems. but i'm nervous. so please help!

Gynecologist. ^__^

They do...anything that pertains to women's health! Checking for STDs, including cervical cancer, taking care of your pregnancy, performing surgery to prevent pregnancy, breast cancer...those kinds of things.

http://www.pamf.org/teen/health/femalehealth/gynecologist.html has more info.

You don't have to go to one right now, but it is very important in the future!

-B

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Okay so the guyy I like wants to mess around okay...and he like is going to be back online uber soon and he's gonna talk to me...like expected if you know what I mean...WHAT DO I SAY TO HIM?

First, practice on SmarterChild.

Then you can copy and paste the things that SmarterChild says to you into your conversation with the guy you like.

But only the really funny things, like "I know about evil. It's a force.

By the way, I've been told that evil is my brother. Is this true?"

Then, the two of you will laugh a lot, and think of other funny stories to tell each other. Soon, you'll be talking about your childhood, and your personal feelings on things like the state of the world today. Eventually it will come to your future and what you want to do with your lives. Before you know it, you'll be very close.

Hope I helped.

-Beulah =)

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This in regard to my mom and the jewelry and the purses. I feel if she asks me "how many necks to I have" or "You know they will have different styles next year" that she is criticizing me for buying as many as I do. And she only does this when I bring up the subject of the jewelry, or purses. All my friends tell me I am reading into her remarks and all she is doing is either teasing me or making conversation. What do you think - do you agree with my friends?

Yes.

Moms are like that.

Mine critiscizes me because I like anime, and because I often say silly things. She also has her own special way of making me feel like the fattest, ugliest, most stupid girl on the planet.

Just talk to her about it. I know it's hard, but it's something you've gotta go. A lot of times people don't realize what they say is hurtful. I got my mom to stop saying certain things.

There are still some things she says that really bother me, though, and I've learned to put up with that. Really, that's how moms are...


-Beulah

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ive been haveing sex with my boy for about 6 months and i dont think ive ever orgasmed..what could be wrong with me? we have tried different things but it hasnt worked...any suggestions? thanks

Nothing is wrong with you! Different things turn on different people. It's probably the way that you're having sex. Try a new position. Try fantasizing. Try masturbating before hand.

http://www.the-clitoris.com/n_html/n_orgasm.htm has a lot more info. Read it, you won't be sorry.

-B.

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whats the name of the firebird from pokemon?

Moltres.

In the red/blue/yellow version, it's in Victory Road, but I don't know about other versions.

http://www.pokemondungeon.com/pokedex.htm has a list of all the Pokemon, for future reference.

-Beulah

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