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ok I posted a question before on how to gain weight and muscles but at the same time to not grow too much fat and ppl told me to eat more protein/do bodybuilding exercises and lay off the fat

i have been consumed lots of pasta/bread/fish/cereal/water/chicken/beef/pizza over the last one month or so.The reason of me doing this is that I'm now skinny,and I want to grow more 'meat' so to be bigger.

1)The only place that seems to be growing bigger is my stomach,how do I get the meat or the food to go to my arms and body(I want to grow my whole body,as in bigger like sideways as well,and not just my stomach)

2)Once I get the meat to my entire body,I obviously exercise to get muscles,the problem now is that I'm skinny and need the meat,so if I exercise I'm going to lose the meat that structures my body.How do I build muscles through exercising while not losing the meat I have gained over my food consumption cause I want to have a bigger mass bod as well.

thanks for answering

1. You cannot by any means control wear you gain muscles or not gain muscles. Your body just chooses the places where you'll get muscles at random, doing more exercising and such on a specific area of your body won't help. You just have to exercise as a whole, and pretty soon the muscle will all even out.

2. Always remember that cardio exercises help you burn calories, not build muscles. You must do strength training in order to build muscles. Try lifting weights and such. If you're trying to build muscle in your legs, then just walk a few miles, increasing the miles that you walk each day. Walking tones your legs, running burns calories. Always remember that.

If you need anymore help, just ask. :)

-Mariah-

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did you ever get an account at friendster or youtube and then one day you get some email from them saying that some random person has talked to you and wanted to share videos with you? whats that about

It's just a scheme from them to get you to visit their website again.

It's like a reminder e-mail, you know?

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Where's the farthest you can part your hair but it looks normal and ok, not like a comb over. The end of your eye?

I would say where it's diagonal to the end of your eye. Otherwise it would just look plain weird, no offense.

To get the best part, I would brush all of your hair so that it's all smooth, over your eyes, and not tucked behind your ears.

Then, wherever you want to part your hair, take your hair and hold onto the portion of your hair where the part will be.

Next, take your brush and brush your hair over to one side, and the other side of your hair to the other side.

You will have a perfect part, wherever the part may be. :)

I know that the instructions may be confusing, but it was to the best that I could describe it.

If you need anymore help, just ask. :)

-Mariah-

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ever since my cousins and aunt came for the summer, i've been under a lot of stress. The little kids talk back and gives you attitude, not only that, they don't listen and they touch all my stuff!! then when i get pissed off, my mom criticizes me of being immature, not understanding and just the same level as them but my mom thinks they talk back and all because they're kids and i just have to understand them. i don't think so, they should have some disciplines. Anyways, my aunt always takes up the houesework that i was going to do while i go to the bathroom, and my mom sees her younger sister cleaning it, she'll yell at me for not offering to help!!!! i think i'm going nuts in this house, what should i do?!?!

Ask your mom if you can stay at a friend's house or another family member or relative's house.

Tell her that you just need some alone time and that you just need to get away from all of this chaos for awhile.

Don't whine or yell if she doesn't let you, but just find something else to do inside or outside of your house, away from all of that chaos. Don't get into any fights, or you'll be the one to blame.

If you need anymore help, just ask.

-Mariah-

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OK so i go to A LOT of pool parties.
and well the thing is, i usually look horrible after i get out of the pool!
I see other girls just get out and dry off and they look great but my hair is very thick and wavy and when it gets wet and dries on its own, it gets very dry and frizzy.

also my face gets really dry after i go in the water and at home i use a hydrating gel, but i cant at a pool party.

I also have some acne that i like to cover up with makeup but that usually washes off and i mean i try to bring coverup to touch up in the bathrooom but still.

I want to know what i can do to just have fun at a pool party and not have to worry about how i look??

To make your hair not get frizzy and dry after you get out of the pool, try this.

There's this nifty spray that you can get from Matrix called Matrix Essentials Preforma Hairspray, and it supposedly works wonders for "swimmer hair".

Here's a link to it:
http://www.stuff4beauty.com/page/matrix-essentials-proforma-hair-spray.html

There's also Nexus Aloe Rid Deep Clarifying Solution here: http://www.folica.com/Nexxus_Aloe_Rid_d3563.html

That's also to help hydrate swimmer's hair.

If you need anymore help, just ask. :)

-Mariah-

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does anyone live in Winter Haven FL??
because im taking a vacation in Winter Haven and i want to get my hair done today (Tuesday 14th)
so i can go back looking good! so if anyone knows any super hair places in Winter Haven Fl that'd be great

Here is a link on Mapquest of some salons in Winter Haven that may work out for you: http://maps.google.com/maps?hl=en&um=1&q=salons&near=Winter+Haven,+FL&fb=1&view=text&sa=X&oi=local_group&resnum=1&ct=more-results&cd=1

If you need anymore help, just ask. :)

-Mariah-

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for those of you who used one a day pill and were successful with it, how much weight did you lose?
how extreme was your diet?
and did you gain the weight back after/if you went off the pill?

Whatever you do, do not fall into the diet traps of taking diet pills or going on diets like the Aitkins diet, Nutrasystem, .etc.

1. Sure, some of them work, but once you stop when you reach your goal, you will gain back every pound that you lost, if not more.

2. Diets like Aitkins, One A Day Weight Smart, Nutrasystem, .etc have been proven to be bad for various parts and organs of your body. For example, the Aitkins diet has been proven to be bad for your pancreas.

The best solution that also works the best is to just eat healthy and exercise. There is no miracle diet that will help you lose weight effectively without exercise. I'd just try going to the gym and lifting weights, or even take up jogging and job 1 mile a day, until you feel comfortable with that length, and then go to 2 miles a day, then 3, and so on. You gotta move it to lose it. :D

-Mariah-

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16/f

I am interested in taking a 60-hour program on make-up artistry. It is specifically held for teens and is a 60-hour progam. I was wondering, how much does this type of program typically cost? (Please specify if your estimate is in Canadian or US funds). I am going to be in the area and may stop in and ask tomorrow, but I was wondering what price range it could be in before I go. Thanks so much! =)

It would be anywhere from around $1800 to $2500.

That's in U.S. dollars, of course.

If you need anymore help, just ask. :)

-Mariah-

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Is there anyway I can delete my account on cruise critic?

THANKS SO MUCH!!

I would e-mail them here to cancel your account: boards@cruisecritic.com

If you need anymore help, just ask.

-Mariah-

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I have another topic/Post just like this somewere But I have had some changes to my health resontly and would like to ask a few question and get some good answers;)
Well Before in my other post I said that, No matter how long I sleep I am still tired all the time, Still true. Also, I said that I am always pale, Still true.
Well now, I have descovered I have a huge bruise under my armpit, and also I have been losing weight masivelly. I could just be over-exagerating but I would really like to know if anyone new what was wrong with me? Anemic has also been put in the picture.

My best advice would be to see a doctor ASAP. They will give you the right prognosis, and it seems to me that you're problem is serious, so it would be best to see a doctor right away before anything else happens.

If you need anymore help, just ask.

-Mariah-

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There is a girl who i think is agnoring me because one of my friends told her that i like her. I have gave more than enough hints that i like her but i have not received any hints back yet(that i cant tell) I am 14 and she is like 15(her name is Justine). We go to the same school, party together, talk sometimes at school and after hockey games. We get along just fine. Her friends are good friends of mine as well and i don't want to just go straight out and ask her if she likes me because she is at that age where if one guy askes her out and she rejects him then she has to go and tell everyone and she might not want to be just friends after because i like her so much. Is she just telling me that she just wants to be friends??

The best advice that I could give to you is to just talk to her. If you're worried about her telling everyone, ask her to please just keep what is said between you and her.

If she really cares about you and is a good person, she will respect your decision to keep your conversations and thoughts secret.

If she does end up telling the whole world that she rejected you and whatnot, then I wouldn't be worried about not being friends with her, because then she doesn't seem like a good friend. Don't fret about it if she does tell, just think of it as an opportunity to know that you are now free of her and can move on without her...

If you need anymore help, just ask. :)

-Mariah-

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um i need help my mom died and i dont want to talk to my dad and no way am i talking to my aunt!!!!

I think talking to your dad would be the best solution. He is going through the same hell as you probably are. I couldn't imagine losing my mom, but if I did, I'd talk to my dad about it. Your mom will always be with you in spirit. Talking to your dad would be good for both of you to help overcome the grief. If you still don't want to talk to your dad about this, then I'd talk to a sister or a brother, or even a counselor at school that could help you with your grief.

I wish you and your family the best during this time of grief.

-Mariah-

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Okay I'm 17/m,

Currently I'm living on the top floor of a 3 story building. I have an ingrown toenail and weak lungs (asthma). I'm looking for ways to toughen up my body, make it firmer than it is. I do a lot of cardio-activity but for the last 8-10 months I haven't seen any results in my midsection. I want to strengthen my biceps, chest and stomach so if anyone has any tips they're greatly appreciated.

Thank you and sorry about the length.

The best thing that I can suggest is to just do crunches and sit-ups. It would also help if you do some weightlifting. I couldn't see how weightlifting would affect your asthma, so I think that might help. Just have your inhaler on the side whenever you are doing any form of exercise, just to be safe. Also, cardio exercising doesn't do anything for your midsection, it only affects your loss of calories and mostly your legs and your butt. That is why nothing is happening to your midsection. You have to do weightlifting, crunches, or sit-ups in order to see results in that area. To tone your legs, I'd walk a few miles. To burn calories, I'd run a few miles. Walking for toning, running for burning calories...

-Mariah-

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what types of humor are there? and can you help me define them?

dry - witty, sarcastic (i think) humor
slapstick - like practical jokes and pie-throwing

Here's a website that you can go to that lists and defines a bunch of different types of humor: http://library.thinkquest.org/J002267F/types_of_humor.htm

-Mariah-

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does anyone believe that there will not be another book after book 7? absolutely? j.k. rowling says shes not interested right now but its not impossible either. tv show anyone?

I think there will be another book. Because HP does NOT die in the last book. Unlike what most people thought, he actually lives. I won't tell you who dies, though, or what else happens, because that'd be spoiling it.

However, they said that Pirates of the Caribbean would only be a trilogy, but they are now making a 4th one that I think is about the Fountain of Youth.

So, you never know...

Besides, something else that is really unexpected happens in the last book at the end, that just leaves you wondering what happens next, as in, it can't end on this note.

-Mariah-

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what are your reviews on bedhead products?

I have only tried one of their products, and that is Control Freak Straightening Serum, which actually works very well. It smells like cotton candy, but it's not to potent.

I have looked on a couple review websites, such as www.makeupalley.com and such, and it turns out that Bedhead products have been getting some pretty good reviews.

I'd check out Makeup Alley and see for yourself.

-Mariah-

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At what age is it okay to get plastic surgery?

I wouldn't get plastic surgery unless you absolutely need it. For one thing, it's very expensive. There are also to many risks, such as infection, allergic reactions, in more serious cases death, .etc.

It all depends on what your parents say, your parents would know what is best for you, so it would be better to talk with them. Tell them what type of plastic surgery you want, and see what they have to say about it. That's your best bet.

But I wouldn't recommend plastic surgery to anyone unless it is absolutely required or needed.

-Mariah-

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i need some help on myspace pictures. ok so when you click on someones pictures and all of their pictures pop up, well how do you get a background and a song on that page? thanks in advance :]

I don't think that's possible...

You can only get a background and music for your main profile page. To find a cool layout, I'd go to www.doobix.com, they have some pretty cool background, layouts, and other cool stuff to add to your profile.

For music, on the menu at the top of the page on MySpace, click on Music. Then, type in one of your favorite bands or a keyword like Rock or Pop, then go to the band's profile and click on the songs on the right side to listen to them. If you like one of the songs, click the little Add button near the Play button of that particular song, follow the instructions, and you're ready to go. :)

-Mariah-

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are the store brands just as good as the leading brand/famous brand?

like acme soda or rite aid whitening strips

UPDATED ANSWER:

I would try either the Target store brand or the Equate brand. They both have good products that you can trust on basically any product. One cheap brand that I don't trust is Suave. I personally don't like their products because many of their shampoos, conditioners, stylers, and other products do more damage than good by drying your hair out and whatnot.

I trust store brand medicine as well, like the store brands of Ibuprofen, aspirin, benedryl, .etc. They do the same thing as the regular brand medicine, it's just that they're cheaper because you're not paying for the brand name.


Sometimes yes, but not always.

Usually when you buy a brand name item, you are mainly just paying for the name. However, sometimes the quality of a brand name item is greater than the store brand...

It all depends...

-Mariah-

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I just had unprotected sex a few days ago(twice)and yes i know that was stupid with having no condom(i'm a girl, 16). My first fear is of course pregnancy, my period was two days late but i just got it today, so that means i'm not pregnan, right?!? Thats my fist question, then my second is, should i get tested for any std's or something? i haven't noticed anythig weird but is it still neccisary to get the test?
And not to be a total sex newbie but the guy i was with the other day asked me if i was "on the pill?" I didn't know what he ment so i just said yes...what pill is he talking about? What does it do?
Thanks!

Not necessarily, I would go to a doctor ASAP. They should tell you the correct answer of whether you are pregnant or not. You should get tested as well, because most STDs don't have any signs, that's why it's best to get tested just to be sure. You'd rather get tested and no for sure that you do have STDs, as a warning and a precaution, rather than not getting tested and wondering whether you do or don't have STDs.

"The pill" is just another name for a form of birth control.

-Mariah-

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