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Breasts DO NOT grow 2 years after you get your first period because there are little girls out there who have BREASTS and no period. I have had my period for MORE THAN TWO YEARS and my breasts haven't grown. They are SMALL, POINTY AND HARD! NIPPLES POKE OUT 24/7 (link)
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i did not mean that they are supposed to start growing once you get it. i meant that they CONTINUE to develop for two years afterwards. however, everyone is different and it is not true for everyone. they can still develop well into your 20s. just remember that everyone is different. i'm sorry to have angered you it seems, i should be more careful of the way i phrase things.
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This has been plauging me for about a year or so. I have really small breasts, and the area around my nipples balloon out. Why is this? Is there something wrong? It's really annoying. I wish it would go away. I just got my period a little while ago.
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don't worry. everyone's different. they say that your breasts are supposed to grow for 2 more years after you get your period, so you still have a lot of time.
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I know you're going to hear this question come up a lot very soon, but I decided to ask mine earlier.
Christmas is soon and I need some helpful hints on what to get my boyfriend. He's really into druming, like drumline and D.C.I stuff. He's into death cab for cutie, polyphonic spree, ben kweller.
I had an idea to do something with buttons like these http://www.cinderblock.com/wc.dll?WebStore~RViewItem~DFC~DCB-BUT1~SID=05111516115258312562 but I'm not sure what to do with them. If I get a bunch of them from his favorite bands, what is a CREATIVE thing I can make him along with another present? [I don't want an answer saying make a collage.]
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what if you made him like a creative board thing? like a poster. get a canvas or something and cover it with a material that would go with his room or you just like. put pictures of you together and if you have any tickets from things you've gone to together (unless you want to keep them, you could always make copies haha) and stuff that means something on it..along with the buttons. i know you said not to say a collage..but this isn't quite a collage... it was the best i could come up with to use the buttons for. unless he would be into you putting them on a hat or something.
or it could be nice if you wanted to get him a shirt..stick the buttons on the shirt. maybe even get him a dcfc (or whoever) shirt.
don't hesitate to drop one in my inbox for anything else! i check all the time. =).
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15/f Try n make this quick:
Last year this guy Rich and I were friends and he likes me but i had a boyfriend. And he openly said how mad he was and that he liked me (jokingly he wasn't like ARRRG mad) and well i saw him once over the summer n it was awesome. but he switched school so i never saw/talked to him. now he's back and im single. problem is he wears eyeliner im kewl with that but a lot of my friends will bitch about that but w/e. but he also smokes pot n cigs. like i dont care n i will never its just it makes me unhappy he does that. but like now i make sure i see him and like he is always like Give me a hug! like old times. and i really think i like him. but my mom said i couldnt date him. should i just like "date" him at school and ease my mom into it, or stay friends with this guy? how can i see if he likes me too w/o saying yo dude ya like me still? ... sorry that wasn't very quick :( thanks so much to people who answer it though! (link)
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okay.
1. who cares what your friends say? just because he wears eyeliner doesn't mean he won't make you happy and he isn't a good person.
2. i like the fact that you say you will never smoke. make sure if you date him you stick to it. make sure he knows that you aren't into that and not to do it around you.
3. just talk to your mom. tell her the truth about everything and your feelings and stuff. the more you tell her, the more she'll trust you and will know you aren't hiding anything. if she still doesn't let you, don't do anything behind her back. you can always find someone new.
if you need any more advice, drop one in my inbox. i check all the time. =).
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Alright. Now I don't know how I got into this whole mess, but if you've answered my questions before, you know that I rate fives for any answers. Because I'm cool like that..
Anyways. Alright, I'm dating this guy, and we've been dating for 3 months now. I've also been dating this other guy for 1 month. The 1 month guy knew about the 3 month guy. I was going to try to break up with the 3 month guy, but I couldn't because I really care for him. The 1 month guy and I have wanted to go out for a year and a half, but couldn't until now because of age difference.
Now there is this other guy that likes me. He's all affectionate towards me, but the trouble is, I like it and want to return it. He knows that I have a boyfriend also...
AND if that isn't enough....there is this ABSOLUTLEY wonderful girl named "Katie" who we decided we want to go out. Now she knows about 1 month guy, 3 month guy, and the new guy...
What in the hell should I do..
and don't say "pick one".
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break up with both guys and just tell everyone that you are confused right now and you'll go on dates..but your aren't ready to be anyone's girlfriend. that will give you time to figure things out. =).
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What style of sunglasses are in style right now? I've googled and nothing came up. Are big square frames or aviators better for a petite brunetter? Black or white? Thanks so much!! (link)
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try on a bunch. whatever looks good. big is in right now. any color you like is fine. get creative if you want!
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Im 15 female
A lot of my friends like to drink and smoke pot. I don't like it. I had my fun with that already, I smoked pot when i was in 6th grade and stoped when i saw my brother get locked up for it. Yeah and i had my experience with alcohol i drank and i puked my guts up and now i wont ever drink again. well at least not til im old enough. But anyway my friends are always drink like on the weekends and they always ask me to go but i just go to my boyfriends house and hang out and what not. I always find my self thinking that im better than that and i don't want to ruin my life with that stuff.
Is this normal because i always thought that teenagers will like to drink and get in trouble and just do bad stuff just to make a laugh? Am i abnormal? (link)
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no. i'm exactly the sam as you. i see no point in it. what good comes out of any of that but a good feeling for a little while? alcohol does nothing but get you in trouble. drugs can do the same. and they both mess you up. be smart and stick to your beliefs. respect your friends' decisions too..but also look out for them. maybe also make some friends that have the same belief as you. that doesn't mean that you have to lose the friends you have though.
if you would like any other advice or you have further questions..drop one in my inbox! i'll be happy to hear from you. =).
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a girl in my grade named anne, whom i know (I am friendly with her, but not really friends) told a friend of mine (elle) about these pants, and then elle told me about them. i went to the store & i really like the pants. they are very distinct jeans with flowers all over them. i really want them, but anne has them already. would it be bad for me to get these jeans? anne isn't in any of my classes, and she's a nice girl, but i still don't know if it's okay (I AM NOT GOING TO ASK HER). i see her on occasion at the end of the day. these aren't just any pants, they are very cool with flowers down the leg & on the butt. do you think anne would get mad? do you think elle would be like "you bought those pants after i told you where they are from & anne already has them!" do you think anyone would be mad or do you think it's okay to buy the pants? THEY ARE SO COOL! (link)
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if they are at a store that a lot of people shop at..and you've shopped at before, you shouldn't even feel guilty buying them.
if they are really unique (it says on the site that they are rare) and you can't get them at a store many people go to..you can stlil get them if you like them..but girls do have a thing about having the same clothing as someone else if its something unique.
do what you want. its just a pair of pants.
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So I have this friend whose a guy. (I'm a girl btw). I was going out with this amazing guy for about 3 months. Well I thought he was ohh so amazing until I figured out how he acts towards other people. And things went bad and we were over. So my friend is really cool and he was always telling me about this mystery girl who he was obsessed with like I was always thinking he would make a great boyfriend for whoever she was. Then the other night he told me that girl was me. And then I kinda got freaked out and thinking about im. I mean he would be a great boyfriend and he's cute and funny. But I just don't know what I want to do right now.. stay single or go out with him.. I'm afraid if I decide to go out with him it'll ast a long time... umm I need help! (link)
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what's wrong with it lasting a long time? as long as you are happy with him..
if you are really more into being single right now..let him know. tell him exactly how you feel. don't go out with him unless you like him back..otherwise you will feel trapped.
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So I go to a very small junior/senior high school. I have about 45 kids in my class half of which are guys. Well yeah most of the girls are pretty and stuff and a few bright guys decided to make a list of the hottest girls. Some how I ended right up there at #1. I'm not sure how I like this since some of the guys are rather creepy and I don't want them to think I'm hott.. uh help pleaz? (link)
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take it as a compliment! It just means they think you are good looking. Just stay humble about it and let it give you an extra confidence boost instead of making you feel bad.
If you need any more advice, don't be afraid to drop one in my inbox. I check a few times a day cause I'm just that cool. =).
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I get really stupid little things stuck in my head and they end up worrying me for ages. E.g. something I hear about a persons past can really bother me to the point where I can't talk to them without thinking about it. Is there something wrong with me? What can I do about this? I'm pretty normal usually - just for some reason I dwell on really stupid things and end up making a big deal about it.
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it depends what you are dwelling on. does this have to do with relationships or just in general?
if someone cheated on a boyfriend or girlfriend..that's something you should think about because it's likely that they will do it again.
if a friend got in a fight with another friend..that's something you can forget about. if it was over telling a secret..maybe you should be careful what you tell that person until they prove themselves trustworthy..but don't hold a grudge against them.
i'm not really sure what you mean..but i tried my best. it's okay to pay attention to things you hear..but remember it might not all be true. you can always talk to the person about it. just don't hold it against them until you know you know the truth.
if you want to get more specific or you need any other advice, drop one in my inbox. i check a few times a day cause i'm cool like that. =).
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Please only answer this question if you're not mean or a smart aleck, and you're mature. Thanks!
Anyway, I have a friend that I've known for many years. Her parents are going through a divorce. I know she's hurt, and I want to be there for her, but here's the catch.
I've noticed that we're growing apart. She hasn't talked to me for a long time, except for the few times we've talked on AIM, and I started all of those conversations. She hasn't tried talking to me at all, and we haven't talked about the situation, even though she knows that I know about it (She wasn't the one who told me about it). It's been weeks since I've been aware of this.
At first I wanted to give her time, which I have, since I haven't said anything to her about the situation. Now, I'm fed up.
I'm sick of us not talking. She has made no attempt to talk to me, even casually. Like I said, all AIM conversations were started by me. I want to help her, but I can't if she won't say anything to me about it. I just wouldn't feel right starting up a conversation about it because I'm unsure if she is ready to talk about it.
What also irritates me is the fact that we've been friends for so long, and yet she (like I've said) hasn't tried asking for my advice or anything. I feel like I'm not a good friend; like she doesn't feel that she can open up to me because she's embarrassed (or for whatever reason), even though I don't know if that's the case. What I'm saying is that she should know that she can come to me, talk to me and ask for advice, and not be embarrassed.
It makes me sad that I can't be there for my friend, and that she's not talking to me. What should I do? Please help. Thanks so much! (link)
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she's obviously really upset about the divorce and she may be one of those people who keeps things that big inside. she has to deal with it at home..so maybe she likes her friends to be an escape where the divorce doesn't exist. have you hung out with her recently? invite her over. not only will it give you time together..it will get her out of the house.
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This boy I like (ive gone out with him 3 times) came over like 2 days ago and we kissed alot and well he fingered me. Within these two days, he hasn't even called me. He always used to call me..almost everyday. I talked to him online but i dont know things dont feel the same. I don't think he knows I like him but I do A LOT. yeah, he's my first love...dead serious. I don't know what to do..what I'm supposed to say, or anything. I dont thinik he used me because we we're really close before all of this. He acts different around me than all the other girls..like fools around with me and hes like not wicked serious. hes really funny and fun to be around, but hes serious around other girls.So anyways, what am I supposed to do? What should I say to him? I don't wanna call him because I'm just scared to. I don't see him in school, because he doesn't go to the same school. What do i do?? I've been like sad and stuff for a while now :( thanks in advance..I just really need some help
-kate (link)
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maybe he doesn't know what to say after? i don't know. if he hasn't called you..why not call him? i know it goes against what we girls do..but we all break our own rules all the time. just call him and act like normal and see how it goes. once you know you can talk normal..you can talk about what happened.
if you have any more questions about this..or any other problems..drop one in my inbox. and especially drop one and let me know how it all went. =).
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i'm a guy and was wondering something. as the question implys, i would like to know whether most people put feelings or morality first, and why. my example is pre-marital sex. there must be at least 20 questions on that topic before this one...some say 'do it if you feel ready' while others say 'no because you'll regret it and it's not meant to be that way'. both seem good reasons for or against it. is it both? should you really put your feelings and that of another first, or should you stick to your moral values, reguardless of what others or society has to say about pre-marital sex. thanks, will rate. (link)
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my feeling is to wait. it saves you from regret. even if you are sure you love the person, if it doesn't work out, which it most likely won't no matter what. you will regret it even the tiniest bit. if you think you are going to be together forever..they say why wait? but think of it this way..why not wait?
if you would like me to get into this any further, which i can, drop one in my inbox. =).
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O.k Well my best friend is a total whore... i mean like shes the type like if you have a dick .. shell suck it like after an hour of knowing you.. i confronted her about it like.. why have you changed so much (because she was never like this)The Other night i said some
things to her i maybe shouldnt have said..
but i meant them she told me i was never on her side, and i never helped her through anything meanwhile when she broke uph with her boyfriend i was there, through everything and when other people called her a whore i was there through it allll!!!
Well I Told Her i hoped she got pregnant and, shes a f****** whore, and a slut, and guys only want you for a#$ soo yea, i was pretty mean she was probably crying...
But today i was thinking am i just jealous of her. I mean shes a whore and she gets all the guys she wants, i always thought that if you havent done a lot of stuff with guys they'd want you more, am i wrong... AM I JEALOUS? (link)
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you aren't jealous. you are smart and you respect yourself and you want the best for her.
if you are willing to do things with guys just so they will want you more..you are attracting the wrong kind of guys.
respect yourself and you will find guys who will respect you.
you could have told her a little more nicely..but she needs to be told the truth.
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im 13 and a female. everyday me and my bf go to our school library and hang there and we are usually kissing and making out but i dont really want to all i want to do is talk to him and some friends, snuggle close with him, and maybe a odd kiss a day if im in the mood. he love to snuggle with me too but he takes it too far and i really need to be answered tonight cuz tomorrow i might be biking to his house tomorrow and we will be alone and im sorta afraid of what he will do. is that wrong? what should i do? sry its so long.
**sleepiesheep** (link)
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this reminds me of my last relationship. my boyfriend eventually wanted to go farther than i wanted to..so he broke up with me. tell him how you feel before you do something you don't want to..or you will feel used. that's not a good feeling at all. if he really likes you an respects you..he will understand your feelings and take things my slowly.
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OK, the story goes like this. I go out with my ex-girlfriend and she says she won't ever leave me, and BANG. A week later she leaves me(she's f/17). I tried to call her...a lot for two weeks. I then decide not to contact her anymore but it's been two months and i'm still not over her. Must i contact her or must i just accept that she will never come back? (link)
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if it's still bothering you after two months..i think you should at least try to get an explanation. you haven't called her in a while so that's good cause its given her space. but it also raises the probability very high that she has definitely moved on. call her..but don't expect that she will come back to you. just tell her that you still have feelings for her after all this time and all you need to know is what went wrong..and you will feel a lot better. be prepared that what she may tell you might not be what you want to hear, but you can't go on wondering forever.
drop one in my inbox if you need anything else. =).
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alright, i'm 14 years old and i'm around.. 5'3" or possibly 5'4" and im about 106lbs. I'm just asking.. is that really skinny? I mean, I have like, real high metabolism ( both my parents have it ) and all my friends say I'm too skinny and that I need to gain some weight. I'm just having some trouble. How would I go about doing that? Cause I'm not gonna sit there and like, pig out till' i die. I just don't want people thinking i'm anorexic or something. I mean I'm really not that skinny. I think I'm averagley skinny. =/ I don't know. Please help.
Signed,
Sad to be skinny (link)
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no, lots of girls are just naturally thin. ignore your friends' comments. they're just jealous. make sure you eat healthy and you'll be fine.
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I like my best friends X. They just broke up and it was only 2 months but i still cant like do that to my gurl. and the guy is still like in love with her how can i get him to see me?n not have my friend get hurt or mad? (link)
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here's what you do. wait a WHILE. get to know him more..but don't be too flirty yet. once you think that she's moved on and he is over her..do you still like him? this could be just a passing crush and someone new could be headed down the road..so take some time before you jump into anything. just make sure you ask her if it is okay with her before you do anything even after waiting a while longer.
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what is a way that you could be understanding if your boyfriend makes out with another girl while your going out. like how can you be a pacifist..saying like "well i trust him and i know he still loves me" or something idk (thats why im asking)
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it sounds to me like you aren't understanding and he is telling you that you should be. whether or not i'm right..you CAN'T be understanding and you SHOULDN'T be. he is not worth your time. if he wants to go kiss other girls, he can go right ahead and do that, but he'll never be able to kiss you again. don't let him push you around like that. you deserve a guy who likes, and kisses, only you.
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