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Q: ok..well i have been dating my boyfriend for about 2 months and all we have done is hugged and held hands and talk on the phone 24/7...i really wanna kiss him!!....i just get really nervous!!...I dont know y ive kissed a lot of guys but i dont know y im so nervous with him...i love him more than anything!...what can make me not so scared???...

just kiss him! every guy likes to kiss, trust me. or just talk to him about it

Q: my boy friend is here right now I am so in the mood roght now but I have a promice that I wont lose it ( virginity) till I get married but I want to so bad what do I do help me

i think its ok, you can do it

Q: My xboyfriend just asked me out and told me he loves me still and it was very stupid of him to break up with me. i've found some one else, his best friend, but i dont want to hurt him.

well, do you love your ex?? if you do you have to choose one of them, or none of them.

Q: ok I am a 16/f and there is this kid that I am close to being able to say like I love him but not quite. And I introduced my cousin to him, which was a big mistake. Because shes now dating him or whatever, which is total bullshit. Because she knows what was going on between him and I and how I felt. I confronted her about some shit but she just doesn't understand and doesn't see what shes done she thinks shes miss innocent does no wrong. What do I do? The guy was one of my best friends on top of it and now doesn't even call me anymore, like its all screwed up. Can someone help me please I would really appreciate it. Thanks

wow your cousin sounds not too nice...well you could just talk to her about it....and to him, tell her its not fair what she's doin

Q: ohkay, my boyfriend, Chris tried making out with me but then i pulled back. He said he's planning on doing it again. But i love him so much and i feel so bad, so i plan on making the move, so guys, how would you want a girl to "make the move"?

umm well...just get closer and closer to him by cuddleing and then just go for it.....KISS HIM..he will be one happy guy lol

Q: Recently this boy has been walking me to class with his arms around me. Everyone is starting to think that we go ouy but we don't. I tell him I don't want his hand around me but he still does it. But the bad thing it thatwhen I am not around he makes fun of me and calls me bad words. See if I tell someone about this they may think I am unpopular or whatever and I can't afford that to happen. So what should I do.

if the guy is sayin stuff about you, well then of couse you have to tell someone, dont you rather be a little more unpopular then to have this guy constantly bother you?

Q: 13.f
alright. for about two years i have been cutting myself. and at first it was very innocent (little scratches with saftey pins... butter knifes, things like that) then one day i ginaed access to a really sharp razor blade and cut extremely deep. and for a year and a half thats how i have been doing it, because it is so addictive. more than once a day, and so i can go to sleep at night. most of my friends found out, one way or another and eventually my best friend got me to tell the guidance counselor. my dad now knows, and so does my psychiatrist (whom i have been seeing since I was 8 and my mom died). but i know he doesnt want me doing it, and niether do my friends. so latelyt i havent. but things got worse. im always pissed off at everyone, and lash out. also, i have been thinking about suicide more and more. i always considered it before but never like this. but when i talk to my friends, all the do is beg and pleed with me to stop. I CANT. when i was on the bus, i started tasting blood in my mouth, and noticed I had been bitting a chunk of my lip off as a pain reliever involuntarily. last night, I cut again and felt SOOO much better. but im so afraid someone will find out and be angry. im on medicine, and everything, it just sux. snapping rubberbands, and all that doesnt help. I know this is long, but im so upset with myself, I just dont know.

I rate 5s.

Manda.

well, i dont know what to say, really because i was never in a situation like this. my friend was though, and i understand that you just cant stop it. i think you should get help from a profesional person or somthin. thats the only way you will be able to stop. i dont understand it though, doesnt it hurt??
if you want, you can talk to me on aim if you have any further questions or somthin....
xxpolishbabiexx

Q: ok well i broke up with my girlfriend and i really miss her. and i dont know why. she's really pretty, the sweetest girl i ever met, and the only reason we broke up was because i thought she liked me best friend nicky. i dont know how to tell her, and really she's been a mess, but i really want her back because i care about her more than anything in the world.

thats really sweet of you, but anyway, i just think you need to talk to her and maybe sort out all of your problems. who knows, you guys might be happy together yet!!!

Q: at school, there's this boy who's been bullying me for ages. he's nasty anyway, but he always picks on me. it's stuff like hitting me on the head with his folder, hitting me with a ruler, putting things like selltape and pencil sharpenings in my hair, calling me a minger, and saying stuff like 'your hair is nice, *ahem*'. my hair is horrible, but he has to say something nasty about it. i've spent loads on products to sort my hair out, but nothing worked. sometimes in the corridor he just pushes me into a locker, or into someone, it's embarrassing. if i'm happy, he will do something like that, and i'll feel really depressed, like i want to die, 'cos i'm worthless. i can't tell a teacher, 'cos 1. it's embarrassing, and 2. his twin sister and mum will hate me for getting him into trouble, he's from a rich family and he thinks he's better than everyone, he always gets his own way =/ sorry it's so long, but please help? thanks xo

just stand up to him. be like 'dude, stfu!!!!! leave me the hell alone' or somethin like that...but maybe it means that he likes you.

Q: ok so me and my boyfriend went out for 6 months... and then things started to change. so i broke up with him. then the next day he asked me back out and i said yes. and then after like a week i broke up with him again because it was different then before and i didnt like it. and he keeps calling me when hes in tears and i dont know what to do.. if i went back out with him ide be doin it because i feel bad for him and i dont wanna hurt him. more and more people are telling me "he'll change for you... he'll be different" and its all retarted and i dont wannna go back out with him.
any suggestions on what to do next???
thanks in advance
13/f

i think you sould talk to him about what is it that is goin on w/ his mood-swings or w/e......then just make a choice

Q: I've just had a few knocks lately with everything and i've lost my confidence and i've got low self esteem how do it get my confidence and steem back. Many thanxz

wtf do you mean by knocks?? i think that has multiple meanings...

Q: I have this boyfriend and I need some serious advice. I love him do not get me wrong on what i am about to say. He is an alcoholic. It didn't bother me at first. He used to let me do what i wanted when i wanted and now it's like i have to beg and plead with him to do what i want to do. He expects me to be at his house as soon as i get off work. If i'm not he's mad and we fight. Not all the time but..the majority. He gives me a time to be home and i am . When i tell him a time he says he will do as he pleases.
sometimes he is real mean to me. I cry cause it hurts me. somdays it's like he doesn't want to be together anymore. So then i told him if you want me to leave i will leave. I will get my shit and never come back. Then he pleaded with me . he said no. I love you please don't leave. We play around and sometimes he plays to rough. It's like he doesn't care. I let him go to girls house or even be alone with a girl. But..if i do the same he accuses me of cheating.
He has only hitt me twice out of anger. I buy his cigs,his beer and any thing else he wants.Sometimes he calls me mean names and I've asked him not to. It feels somtimes like he wants hiss cake and he wants to eat it to. Please help me. I don't know what to do anymore.

well, okay when i was in school one day, we had a presentor named tom santoro, you should go on his website: www.dearlisa.org
his daughter was killed by her b/f..and if you dont get out of this relationship now.....it might be too late later.

Q: I am 14 and I have really big boobs. I don't even know what size I am anymore... maybe D or DD. I have a really hard time finding bathing suits. Any suggestions on where to shop?

shop at plus size stores, and if your not plus sized, ask for the smallest size available there.

Q: i am 13/f, and i know this sounds really gross. but can you have a pimple on your (down there). when i was putting on my jeans the other day it started to hurt. and when i got out of the shower there is this big bumb down there. its kind of white on the top. which to me looks like a pimple. what can i do? i'm scared. how can i get rid of it? I RATE 5's!!!

ps. i am not a virgin, but its just now showing up and the last time i had sex was 3 months ago.

umm pop it?? lol no i dont know. maybe its from shaving....

Q: one of my friends asked the guy i like if he likes me and he said he doesn't know and he likes a lot of people. so when he says he doesn't kno...does that really mean "No but i'm not gonna say it"?? thanx! i rate high

noo, that means he doesnt know...

Q: Okay there is this REALLY nice guy and I like him a lot.. and he REALLY likes me.. but then there is my ex bf who also likes me.. This new guy chris I havnt gone out with yet.. and I went out with my ex steven 6 times already and it didn't work out.. I am thinking Chris but a lot of my friends r picking Steven.. Please help me..

Chris or Steven??

dont listen to your friends, do what you think is right.♥

Q: i went out with this really amazing girl.but then her n her best friend got into a fight,so her best friend told me that my girlfriend likes my best friend n my best friend like her,which wasnt true,but when i talked bout it 2 him he promised he wud never do sumthin like that 2 me.n then 2 months later my girlfriend says she wants 2 break up cuz she feels vulnerable.n then my asshole best friend moves in on her n now theyre goin out n r deeply in love.sum girl liked me when i was goin out with my girlfrnd but she kept her distant n didnt make a move.my best frnd was just being a bastard n seduced her n stabbed me in the bak.its been 1.5 months since we broke up but i still miss her more then nething.she was my first love n its just so hard 2 move on

yea i agree, it can be really hard to move on, but your friend wasnt too fair to you, either. i think you should talk about it with him and then ask him to back off. talk to the girl too and see what she has to say. tell her you really love her and miss her. she will understand.

Q: okay. well i'm 14 years old and my best friend is a guy. and i do have a boyfriend whom i really love. but my best friend recently has been flirting with me and crap. but i only think of him as a friend and my boyfriend is starting to think i'm cheating on him. i want to tell my friend about what he's doing but i still want to keep him as a best friend...what should i do? how can i tell him to lay off?

well, since he's your best friend, you should be able to talk about anything, right? so just tell him how you feel, he will understand.

Q: my dad hits me. and i'm really afraid of him. when he comes home from work i stay in my room. but whenever i do something wrong. even when i get less than an A on a test he'll hit me and say i'm not living up to my potential. i don't know what to do. He hits my mom to and i get badly bruised from the battles. what can i do? who can i go to? and is there anyway possible that i can get out of my house and be adopted or something? help me Please.