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there iis this kid at my school that likes me and we have a dance next friday and he is going to ask me and I like him to a whole lot but I have a boyfriend that I like a whole lot so I dont know what to do I mean its not like I can go with the other person becaseu I am going with my boyfriend

It's kinda simple; you have a boyfriend so don't go to the dance with the other one. Unless you like the other boy more, then at least dump your boyfriend first, don't cheat.

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any good colors for braces i am freaking here o yea i am a GIRL thanks xoxoxo

I always had the craziest colors, it was awesome. Just have fun with it, express yourself. One time I did pink and yellow, another neon orange and green, blue and yellow, green and red (christmas), and so on. But if u aren't into wild, just get one plain color like pink or something.

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How do u get rid of stage fright? please help! I rate high! I have a play comming up soon and Im fine doing it with my class but im scared to do the play in front of the whole school and then in front of ever1's parents! PLEASE HELP

You can't really get rid of it just like that. You just have to try and get comfortable with being in front of people. A lot of people just deal with it, and eventually get over their fears over time, after they've done it forever. Don't even think about the crowd, focus on your performance.

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Why do I get in trouble for the simpleist things, honestly I think my parents are out to get or keep in the house forever. I'm like grounded for like 2 months and all that's keeping me up is karate and ever second I'm being punished, all of the times I'm trying to be nice to them and seriously that's all I am doing. I'm 14 and I can't move out so I have no other choice. I'm seriously thinking of getting tape and taping my mouth shut. I get good grades and things but my parents just think sometimes that I'm like a bad daughter, that's the impression I get from them. Help me... =(

They just want to protect you and keep you as their little girl forever. You have to expect it and just try to deal with it because they aren't going to stop unless you can show them that you're growing up and don't need to be babied. The first step would be to try not to get grounded and show them you're mature enough.

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theres this one kid on my bus and hes mexican. i have nothing agains mexicans but he is really annoying. but i feel bad 4 him kas he gets harrasses so bad on the bus. every one makes fun of him. i laugh at it sometimes because it is a little funny but i still feel bad. what can i do to stop them frim makin fun of him?

Stand up for him and don't let them do it. Defend him and tell the people to shut up. As long as you make it clear that you don't think it's cool, the mexican kid will be grateful.

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ok so,i play like every sport there is except rugby and football...cuz im a girl...all my friends say that im amazimg cuz when i get home from school iu do my homework get online then sports the rest of the night..but sometimes i goto basketball then to soccer then to lacrosse then to swimming. everyone says that i should quiet mayb 3 sports and only havge like 3 sports to do...should i quit? but i always have time for them...i rate REALLY high..*but it has to be good please!)

If you love sports, don't get rid of them. Don't quit just because your friends tell you to, if you love sports that much you wouldn't do that. But if you feel overloaded and have too much to handle, I'd give up a few. I'd say two or three is a good number, like you said. Then you can join another club that you've wanted to try, or you can enjoy the time you have off. Either way, it should be about you, not about anyone else.

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my mother is very unhappy about her figure and she wishes to hide it. Are there any specific colors she can wear to make her look thinner? If So Please HELP!! Shes always so unhappy. Thanks!!

I know black is supposed to be slimming. Well really any dark colors could do it, maybe navy or brown. Vertical stripes are also supposed to work I think, and when you wear one color from the neck on down is slimming. I really only know those couple of tricks, sorry!

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Hi well i love playing the piano but i hate goin to lessons. I just HATE lessons. Does any1 kno how to make myself want to go to lessons?

You can't make yourself. I play the piano and used to hate lessons also, so I quit. The only way you can keep yourself from quitting is knowing that it's helping you out and if it's a career you want to go into you should remember that. Just know that you have to know the rules before you can break them. The lessons suck now but they'll start getting more fun later when you get to the fun pieces.

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when you're multiplying 2 numbers with a exponent do u multiply the 2 numbers and then square that or square only the number the exponent is over and then multiply by the other number. -2(-1) with a 2 over the -1

thanx

and dont tell me to look in my text book bcuz im in algebra 1 and this is pre-algebra.. i just dont remember.

I think you'd square the number it's above first, then multiply that number by the other number. So say it's -2 with an exponent of 1 times 2. It'd be -2 times -2 which is 4, then 4 times 2 which is 8. Does that make sense? I couldn't really understand what you meant, sorry if it wasn't what you asked.

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Hey. WeLL, I have a lot of stress on me right now. I have a math project and a book report to due, and I only have 3 more days tp finish including today. The book report is not only writing the book report, but you have to make a cover for it, reading notes, web organizers, etc. And in the math project you have to make graphs, research, solve problems, etc. I really want to make staright A's this quarter, and I think that if I don't complete these 2 assignments that it will bring my grade down, and everytime I think of that I have emotional breakdowns where I keep on crying, and I can;t control it becuse I keep on thinking negative without thinking positive like I should be doing. Can anyone help me get through this on a positive note. I'd really appreciate it.

Just calm down, forget when it's due, and finish them. I'd rather have it late by a few days than do it crappy by the date it's due and get a 50%. The worst thing you can do is just not do either at all. If you've known about the projects for a while and are just now doing them, remember next time to not procrastinate. Start the day they're assigned and break the work up evenly day by day the next time you have one, so you aren't having an emotional breakdown like now.

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ok im 13 and have always been energic. Ever since this school school year started ive been exusted every day after school. Its so bad that i acually want to take naps (ive never done that). i don't do after school programs so those can't wear me out. plus for the last 3 days ive done nothing but want to eat (also never done this before). i have no idea wats wrong and i can't go on like this. plz help i'll rate.

p.s. i can't take naps after school i have no time!

I've been the same way lately. For the food part, you're probably just growing and need more than normal or you're using up what you eat faster by being active. For the being tired, you either aren't getting enough sleep or you're wearing yourself out during the day by walking all over the school to get to classes and stuff. That's what happened to me when i went from the elementary school to the high school. It was such a big change in the size and how far I had to walk that I was constantly tired. If it keeps up though, you should probably ask a doctor.

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ok my grandma is coming 2morrow and she wants my xmas list i have no clue what i want she spend like 80 bucks on me,im 13/f, i dont want like makeup or bath & body works stuff. i need ideas thanks
i give 5s to everyone

It's simple, just ask for money. That's what I do. Or, if you love a certain store and want something there, ask for a gift certificate to that place. Maybe you want a few dvds, jewelry, cds, books, shirts, or some video games. Don't make it so stressful, just tell her what you like.

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i usually do pretty well in school, but i am a really bad test taker. even if know the stuff, the second a test is put in front of me, my mind blanks. i don't know what to do because my test grades are bringing down my averages...especially bio. do any of u have any tricks for taking tests? if u do please please tell me...thank you so much

I'm one of those people that finds it easier to remember things by writing them down. I'll write things down over and over until it's set in my memory. Also, if it's like with orders of events or something like that, i try to make up a song that makes sense. In biology I once remembered the difference between eukaryotic and prokaryotic by knowing that eukaryotic is the one with the nucleus, because it has the letters "eu" in it and so does nucleus. Just do anything you can to link a word with what it means, like what I did, read the material a billion times before a test, do practice questions in the book, ask yourself what the teacher will probably include on the test, and know the material. If nothing works, you might have a real problem; if your homework grades are really high and test grades are extremely low, you should talk to your guidance counselor or teacher about it.

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ok...i have been going out with this guy for about a month now...he has become one of my best friends too...any ways....my friend is all over him ALL the time! she hugs him, holds his hands...and i dont like it...im going out with him not her! im not jealous....i just dont like it! what should i do!?!?!? thank you soooo much!

Talk to your friend, it's that easy. Tell her that it bothers you when she's touching your boyfriend more than you are and if she doesn't quit then you can't be friends with her. That's really all you can do.. Oh and talk to your boyfriend also, because maybe he doesn't realize he's letting your friend do that stuff.

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Whenever im cold, whether im outside or whether im inside, my nose gets so red..and it looks like ive been crying or something so its really annoying. how do i prevent this? I dont wanna start wearing foundation so if u have any other ideas they would be greatly appreciated!! Thanks!!

Everyone's nose gets red after being in the cold. Well not everyone but a lot of people. It happens to me all the time because I wait at my bus stop for almost 10 minutes in the winter. There isn't really anything you can do when you're inside a building, but outside in the cold wrap a scarf around your lower face or rub your nose every now and then. It looks kinda silly, but it's either that or have a red nose. I don't know if foundation would work though.

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I have been taking paxil (An anti-depressent pill) for about 3 years, and I'm now 16. Recently I stopped taking it because I feel like it blinds me. I feel like i'm too happy on it and I'm not myself. I was thinking about lowering the dose but I've already been on that and It didnt seem to do anything. I think that by taking the pill it changes who I am. My parents are getting really worried now because I havent taken it, and i'm not sure if I should get back on it. Does anyone get what I mean?? I was born who I am, and that is depressed, anxious, and with anger. I think I should be myself and face these problems on my own, with out medicne. I dont think medicine is the best way to deal with problems. Can someone please give me some advice on what to do. Am I doing the right thing?? What do you think about this. Thanks! -Jenny

It's however you feel. No one can tell you whether to stay on it or not, it's all about you. Do you want to be depressed and mad, or do you want to feel really happy and not you? Personally I'd go with being happy and taking them because you can enjoy life, but it's up to you.

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do guys like it if girls ask them to dance or go out w/ them...ive always wondered. or does the guy have to do it all?

It really depends on the guy. Some guys like the daring, go for it type of girls, but others feel intimidated by girls that aren't afraid to ask or anything. You just have to know the guy and know what he likes. If he's more shy, though, I would do the asking because if you wait you won't get anywhere. Just remember that guys think just like we do, they wonder if they should be the one doing it all.

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Hey i really need your help.. okay i like my ex again and weve gone out like 20 times and i think i broke up with him last and that was like 2 weeks ago and he told his friend that he didnt wantn to go out becuase ive broken up with him like 20 times... what do i do ?

First of all you need to figure out what your actual feelings are. You've broken up like 20 times for a reason, so figure out what those reasons are. If he said he didn't want to go back out with you, just move on. Don't sit there and wait for him to come crawling back to you, find another guy to be with. There's obviously something you don't like about this guy anyway if you keep breaking up with him.

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Hi. My names Kylie and this is my situation. I live with my older sister because my dad left and my mom died when I was born. I'm 13 and she’s 29. Anyways when I was 4 one of her friends was watching me while she went out and he was touching me sexually. I didn’t tell her and the next time he babysat me he did it again. He did it 4 different times that I can remember. Anyways I never told my sister about it. And they’re still really good friends today. He comes all the time so I see him a lot. And I feel really awkward around him. What I'm wondering is should I tell my sister about it? I don’t know if shed believe me and if she did I don’t know if shed do anything about it. I know its sexual abuse but can he actually get in trouble for it? Like since it happened a long time ago?

Please reply. I really don’t know what to do here.
Please email me if you think you can help.
hollisterhunni0628@yahoo.com

- Kylie

Yes you should tell her!!! Tell anyone you can, your teachers, guidance counselor, anyone. Get your story out. Yes, he can still get in trouble, it doesn't matter how long ago it was. What he did was illegal and you have to get this out.

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i want to lose 10 lbs in 3 months cuz on my bday i am geting money adn i want to buy clothes but i want to look cute in them i am 118 and i waer size 5 but i am not satisified.oh i am short i am like 5'3 ish.. My question for you is this: A) is that unrealistic? B) anyideas on how i could do that?

thanks a bunch

You're already at the perfect weight, you don't need to lose any!! So yes, it is very unrealistic and possibly dangerous if you try to lose any. I honestly wouldn't try it, but if you really have to, all you have to do is exercise 30 or so minutes a day, three times a week, like jogging. Then just eat healthy, skip the sodas and nachos, and you'll be fine. Maybe you could just tone up a bit instead of losing 10 pounds.

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