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Should I say something?
Hi. My names Kylie and this is my situation. I live with my older sister because my dad left and my mom died when I was born. I'm 13 and she’s 29. Anyways when I was 4 one of her friends was watching me while she went out and he was touching me sexually. I didn’t tell her and the next time he babysat me he did it again. He did it 4 different times that I can remember. Anyways I never told my sister about it. And they’re still really good friends today. He comes all the time so I see him a lot. And I feel really awkward around him. What I'm wondering is should I tell my sister about it? I don’t know if shed believe me and if she did I don’t know if shed do anything about it. I know its sexual abuse but can he actually get in trouble for it? Like since it happened a long time ago?
Please reply. I really don’t know what to do here.
Please email me if you think you can help.
hollisterhunni0628@yahoo.com
- Kylie
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Yes, yes, yes, yes!!! TEll For one it will get it off your chest and two, tell your sister, and three, tell your sister, she can probably help you put the creep in jail. I'll pray for you. There is a way that you can tell her without her flipping out, talk to her in a natural tone, calm and serene, I know it sounds hard, but try and don't sugar coat it too much but do sugar coat it.
Be safe and watch your back
Ashobi
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I'm very sorry to hear you are going through this. This is a very serious situation, and right now you really need some support. It's going to be scary, but you should tell your sister what happened. What you do next depends on how your sister responds to what you tell her. She should support you, get you into therapy and call the police. If she does not do this, then, please, seek out some help at school. Is there a teacher you trust? If there is not a teacher you trust to tell everything about what is going on, then at least tell one of your teachers that you need help from a counselor. There are people who want to help you-- it is their job to help you.
Yes, your sister's friend is going to get in trouble. What he has done to you is very wrong, and he needs to be stopped. Please keep in mind that you may not be the only person he has abused. Someone needs to stop him.
Most importantly, please realize that you need help. If your sister won't help you, then find a professional who will.
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Okay, well unfortunately i had something like this happen to me.. except it was a siblings friend.. was my stepdad.. well anyway, i felt the same way.. it took me so long to tell my mom.. i planned it out though.. i would wait until this guy is not in your house.. what i was afraid of, was that this guy would hurt you or your sister, but i don't know him.. so i don't know. But of course this guy can get in trouble.. think of R. Kelly.. but yeah.. i would defiantly tell somebody.. if your sister doesn't beleive you.. then she has a real problem.. i thought my mom wouldn't believe me.. but as soon as i told her.. his ass was in jail the next day.. the only hard thing about this.. is that you will have to explain to the police exactly was happened.. and you might not remember because you were four.. but they make you get into details.. which made me cry.. which made me feel like i was being interigated.. which i didn't like.. anyway.. of course you should tell your sister.. it would be wrong not to. don't be afraid.. i've been in your shoes.. except i was 11.. and i felt like i had no one.. i'll be there for you.
-meagan
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If something like this happeend to your sister would you want her to tell you. Would YOU do something abotu it. I think so. You should definitly tell her. The only problem is how. i would say when the 2 of you ar eon really good terms... you just need to comfront her. Tell her your sob story... and how confused you were and tell her everything. Hopefully she will do something baout this disgusting friend of hers.
beccers_boo
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i dont think she'll lose it if you tell her. the guy will probably make it so your the lier. i was in the same exact situation with my uncle. he tried to make me seem like a lier but i was 5 then and now im 14 but you need to tell her b/c that is a crime molestation. itll be hard but if hes the same age or older than her he can go to jail. and that probably makes you really not wanna tell her. if you want to listen to my story i'm not afraid to tell you my email is DaddysShortee@aol.com you probably feel like you dont want to get him into trouble but thats how i felt. i thought my mom would hate me b/c it was her brother. it will make you both closer even with other family problems. Please rate me!and you can tell me nething! Tori
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u need 2 tell ur sister. it did happen a long time ago but that doesnt change what he has done. besides if u dont say anything that may give him a chance to do it. call the child abuse hotline (ill put it on my column if i can find where i put it). send me ur qs if u ever need help in the future. good luck!!!
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Yes you should tell her!!! Tell anyone you can, your teachers, guidance counselor, anyone. Get your story out. Yes, he can still get in trouble, it doesn't matter how long ago it was. What he did was illegal and you have to get this out.
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HELL YEAH YOU SHOULD TELL HER! no guy should be allowed to get away with touching a young girl in any sexual way, it's not right and it's not fair to you, you'll be ok i promise but you've got to let your sister know what happend so she can take care of you and get rid of that loser creep!
*~*shan*~*
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I believe the laws are different for each state. If I remember correctly here in Texas, the law is in full effect within around 8 years of the offense, and it's a lesser penalty afterwards. But the guy still could get in trouble.
You really do need to tell your sister. Even if he can't get in trouble with the law, he could get the shit beat out of him by your sister!
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i don't know if you can do anything about it now since that was 9 years ago. you should tell her but don't be surprised if she doesn't beleive you-but she should since she's your sister. and yes, he could get in trouble but there's not exactly any evidence for him to get in trouble with the law. that's the best i could do...hope i helped!
xoxo *MiZZ niCoLe LYnn*
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yeah you should deffinitly tell your sister. she needs to know this, i mean do u really want your sister hanging around a guy whos done such things? and yeah he can get into trouble even if it did happen a long time ago. and as for if your sister doesnt believe you, shes crazy, i mean why in the hell would you lie about something like that. Goodluck and i hope everything works out okay!!
-MeGan*
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hey hun, yeah he can definately get into some major trouble for what he did to you. so you should def. tell your sister. she should believe you after all you are her sister. if she doesnt want to believe you or if she does and she doesnt do anything go to the cops about this. they will be willing to help and they will believe you.
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yes hun...he can still get into trouble for it..you seriously needa say something..im just tryin to tell you whats best..that is seriously not right..you need to tell your sister ASAP
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Yes you should tell your sister. As for if he would get into trouble, I can almost guarantee it. I wouldn't worry about it anyway, if he does he deserves it. Anyone who will try to take advantage of a four year old deserves to be shot. She'll believe you, why on earth would you make something up like this? Anyway, you have to tell her. If it's eating you up to the point where you need advice here, then you have to tell her. Besides, do you really want your sister to be hanging around a guy whose capable of such acts.
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