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Hello. My name Is Solemnstar.
I'm a fifteen year old (assumed) male-to-female Transexual.
I want to help, plain and simple.
I like plain and simple, I like to catergorize people, ptu them into nice little boxes in my head.
and I LOVE figuring out the ones that don't fit.

Chatspeak annoys me, It takes an extra two seconds to type the real words.


I don't anwser advice as often as I should. Mainly because of School.

advice

im a guy 15yrs old yes im gay i need your advice. i like this guy well actually i think i love him and im not shore if hes gay or not. now my question is should i ask him and take a risk of him hating me. its not like hes like straight every one thinks hes gay so theres a strong possibility he is. my only fear is that i will ask him and he would say get the fuck away from me and hate me 4 ever and that would crush me. n e imput would b realy helpful.

thnx much

It is upon all left unsaid that tragities are built....if you leave this alone it will fester in you mind, control you and domiante you. you must speak your mind, regardless of fear, for fear is weakness

Solemnstar

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my sister & I have been so excited to buy harry potter & the goblet of fire on dvd & we did today. my sister opened it and watched it, and then realized that it wasn't the version that came with special features! i want the version with special features, but i don't think we can return it to the store if it is already opened (the plastic is off). i'm not even sure if the specific store we bought it at (strawberries) sells the special feature one, so i'd have to buy it somewhere else. what should i do??? is there anyway they will take it back??

if you have a superstore near you, take it there. they exhanche justa bout anythign that isnt edible

i know ive tried

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well usually i like my mom but now i feel like i hate nothing more than her! i told her not to go into my room but she did and i mean thats not thaat baad but she told me she wont but she still did and then she read all the things i wrote and i have this crush on a guy named david and i wrote his name like 50 times on a piece of paper and she saw that 2! i hate that i dont want her 2 know!!!!!!!! and now i'm really angry at her i trusted her and she just went in there! i think she knows 2 much about me she knows that i hate school she knows all my friends she knows like everything and i always hated that and now she also knows who i have a crush on and I CANT STAND IT ANYMORE! ore i want to go out at 7pm and than she says no no its to dark and blablabla and there are even junger kids than me out there! I'm 13 and will turn 14 in 23 days and my parents treat me like a baby! they wont aloude me to have a mobile ore a computer and i have to go to bed at 8pm and I REALLY HATE THAT! i tried talking to my parents but they never listend and i dont know what 2 do anymore! I NEED ADVICE!!!

THANKS!!

no offense, but you seem a little too(how should i put this)


RELAX! its no biggie, by the sounds of it shes afraid you are trying to have sex with this guy.just agree with her, get brownie points and itll be good

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I just want some opinions on this:

Do you think it's wrong to let your boyfriend go to a strip club?

I personally think it is wrong, but then I see some girlfriends even go with their boyfriends to stripclubs!! I just don't get it. How could you let your boyfriend get turned on by another woman? ..or let alone get a sexy lap dance by another woman? I personally think that can even lead to the thought of cheating.

What do you guys think? I am 18 and my boyfriend is 17 and he will be 18 next month. I don't know whether to never let him go to a strip club(since that is a common thing for men to try out at least once in their lives) or to let him try it out. I am really uncomfortable with that idea.

umm. evn if you dotn let him hed go eventually. it a guy thing.

heres an unwritten list of our intrests writtin down for ya.

food
sleep
vidio games
TV
boobies.


there we go. now its not wrong or right. but either way hell go so its kinda piontless

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Hey there! Currently, I'm experiencing feelings of disinterest towards the things I once enjoyed in life.... It's like, I don't really care for school, when it used to be the most important thing, and it seems like, the things I once valued so highly and such, like my ambitions aren't as important as it used to be. Is there anything wrong with me? What may I do to change this perspective?

im pretty sure your just becoming more mature. is short you suffer from what doctors and other people with messy writing call "nothing"

Just so you know (no offense ment) but onyl nerdy people acctually enjoy SCHOOL. unless you mean friends and stuff. thats normal to eventually get bored of.

I went through somethign of this sort...just relaxe take a break from life and think things through. get things in order.

Solemnstar

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my girlfriend thinks that im too innocent, how could i change? I hardly know any sexual slang,ect.

changing cuase somebody wants you to is bad.

you might as well be a herd animal.

just accept what you are.

btw why dont you peopel just serch slang on google?

Solemnstar

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is there any other image host besides photobucket that doesnt resize the image? thanks in advanced

http://www.flickr.com
http://www.imageshack.us

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what are some good ideas on what i can do with my boyfreind when we hang out. like games and stuff. we always just watch movies...and its getting lame.

what are some ideas besides going out too?


xo thanks


ps 16/f

i guess for games you could play some sorry, or darts.or practice at a 2 player vido game and then whuphim at it (watch him freck and try to beat you)

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Ok, well i basically have two questions.
The first is about my heart. Sometimes when im standing and i twist my body back and fourth, i hear my heart grinding.. anybody know what thats about?

And secondly, sometimes i dream while i'm awake. No, not day dreaming. It's like an actual dream that i'm not controlling playing it my mind. Sometimes it's like watching a movie. Does anyone know what that's about?

Thanks..!

it may be a heart broblem of some sort. id get it looked at.

And you may be seeing some parts of a future.

or just a mental disorder of some-kind.

id reccomend getting them both looked at be a doctor.

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17/m
So, what does being a Wiccan mean, to you. I'm just curious. What sort of things can you do, and how are you training.
You seem very mature for a 14 year old. Which person in the picture are you?

Krupple@gmail.com

the blonde one.

ummm.
it's allowed me the contrast to what i've seen before when I was christian.
so i guess it's an awnser to who i am.or more like a guess.It can sometimes lead to me thinking overly baout something most would deem unimportant.

I train by my studies and then by practice. recording everything that happens related to that spell or charm or whatever.
I need to always learn more. if i was unable to it would be the ultimate failure.
It has let me think past things i was used to btu that may be just from age more then religion.
it has more then once brought up disagreements with friends and i lost a friends in the process.

you hace to be able to think ahaead and to be able to accept.that what i think of my being wiccan

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if love was a question would you answer it? even if it made you feel sad, or mad, or dissapointed or insecure?

"It is the internal struggles, when fought and won on their own, that yield the strongest rewards"

I would have to.

If you hate the question then there is no awnser (this doesnt work for math i have been told)

your emotions, fear or insecurity ar eyou and is what makes yo human, if you do not face that, and accept it then you have failed the question, completlly and utterly.....


Solemnstar

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i hate fake people. i can't stand them. my freind is kind of shy around people. but when she gets online she talks to everyone. liek to all these guys who she would NEVER talk to in person. and the only way she knows these guys are because of me. she had a myspace and talkd to all these people and acts so fake! how can i get her to stop?

she is not faking it. she is just afraid and shy like you said.

she wants to be like that and is. but only if she can;t talk to them or see them, it gives her a security.

If she start lying about herself and such yo need to remind her thats not who she is and she can attract some ...unwanted attention.

you are over reacting i think.

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I need your advice...
Well, my friend(John)is gay and he just found out his bf was cheating on him. So, I invited him to see a movie to get his mind off of the situation. Well, of course he wanted to see Brokeback Mountain. So I went with him and what do you know? His ex bf was there with another guy. He asked me if I could pretend to be with him to make his ex jealous. I didn't know anyone in there so i agreed. I didn't think he would do anything extreme. Well during the movie he held my hand, and i felt akward. He even leaned over to kiss me and we actually started making out. I actually enjoyed it and I invited him over to stay the night. Well while were bed one thing led to another and we ended up having sex. The next day at school his ex started telling everyone that he saw me and john making out. Now everyone thinks i'm gay and they aren't being nice about it. Just because i had sex with a guy does that make me gay? And if i am should i try to have a relationship with him? He wanted me to, but i didn't know if i was ready.
Thanks

perhaps it was just pity...that may even be what you hope.

Or he tricked and lied to you to get back his old BF he may have used your emotions to gain what he wanted.

Or he truly cares for you and was unsure how to get to you. that may have been a fantasy that you inacted.

you need to speak with him about your feeligns, not us.

but what kind of adive would it be if all we said was talk to him.

I think he manipulated you.

But if he does care for you. then you may truly be gay or bi.

now for your questions.
1.Not for sure doe it make you gay.

you say that as if doing a gay act will convert you into a gay person.
you are still you.but you may have woken up a better part of you,or a worse part. you need to ask yourself about this in order for the true awnser.

2. you cannot have a relationship unless you are sure.you don't seem to be.I would aviod this for a while until you are sure

3.only if you are gay or bi and if yu care for him. otherwise it would be lying to him and yourself.

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does anyone know of another site i can go to just like this except with not as many questions about losing weight?

I am pretty sure a question like this was on before (if a long time ago)

there are not that many sites like this,thats why this place exists

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Everytime I post a question, it gets deleted because it's rated level 1 by the moderators. But I have perfect spelling, grammar, and punctuation. Why does it keep being deleted?

it may be it is just a bad q.
or perhaps it is on the list of questions they delete

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i am 13/f and we had an author come to our school a few days ago, and she said that kids can get stories published and make alot of money, i love to write, and DEFINETLY need money! haha so my question is does anyone know a site that shows a publishing comany that will publish books by kids? please, if you know anything, help me out!

i guess any pubisher will if its good.
i mean my mom's priting shop hs prited out books by kids so,go for it.
as for what. try all over.

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I live on my own and I'm out of groceries. Tomorrow I have to go shopping, and I never know what to buy. I always end up getting junk food or fattening stuff. Can anyone give me a grocery list that has healthy, sensible foods that I can prepare nutritious meals with? My budget is about 80 dollars.

k, first off.only buy things that are on sale.no-name brands are just as good.

you want to buy things in bulk. kraft dinner and hamburger can be used in so many different meals.

hamburger is often a sure bet.
you can make spaggeiti sauce,meatballs,the obvios hamburger,tacos,lasonga

buy alot of it at the beggining of the month

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i know this is weird but why are some mean people popular, why would you wanna be friends with a mean person

just wondering?

perhaps around that person you would feel superior then the rest. you may feel better then the unpopular. and as such you feel better by others pain. its evil to think about.

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just died. She was 23. Should I go to the funeral, or will it be too depressing?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

helps you move on. makes the death definite.

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is rapheal cheating on nyesha

i would need ALOT more information in order to know.
for the record if i am unsure of anything these are the steps i take
1. ask myself what is most likely
2 and those involved what is most likely.
3 if i still cannot see a result or desision i just flip a coin.

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