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i have this problem with my mom...
well usually i like my mom but now i feel like i hate nothing more than her! i told her not to go into my room but she did and i mean thats not thaat baad but she told me she wont but she still did and then she read all the things i wrote and i have this crush on a guy named david and i wrote his name like 50 times on a piece of paper and she saw that 2! i hate that i dont want her 2 know!!!!!!!! and now i'm really angry at her i trusted her and she just went in there! i think she knows 2 much about me she knows that i hate school she knows all my friends she knows like everything and i always hated that and now she also knows who i have a crush on and I CANT STAND IT ANYMORE! ore i want to go out at 7pm and than she says no no its to dark and blablabla and there are even junger kids than me out there! I'm 13 and will turn 14 in 23 days and my parents treat me like a baby! they wont aloude me to have a mobile ore a computer and i have to go to bed at 8pm and I REALLY HATE THAT! i tried talking to my parents but they never listend and i dont know what 2 do anymore! I NEED ADVICE!!!
THANKS!!
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no offense, but you seem a little too(how should i put this)
RELAX! its no biggie, by the sounds of it shes afraid you are trying to have sex with this guy.just agree with her, get brownie points and itll be good
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hey!!
i just want 2 say ........ hang in there!! sometyms its lyk my mums going out of her way 2 drive me crazy!! but honestly if shes anyting lyk my mum she rly doesnt mean it!! its her job to drive you mad. try talkin 2 her about it it helps! shes probably just tryin 2 look out 4 you as your a teen n she knos dat its 1 of da hardest areas of your life lol
niway gd luck!!
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Well first off, you're 13. Age is everything to parents. If you're young, you're limited. At 13, I wasn't doing any of that either, but I did have a computer and cell, but I hardly ever went anywhere.
Trust is the easiest thing to break with anyone, and seems to me your mother broke yours. Talk to her about it. Tell her you don't like the fact she broke her word, and now you don't trust her because of it.
I can understand why they don't let you go out at night. For one thing, it is dark, and there a very crazy people out there. For instance, a girl was raped over myspace, so now schools have banned the site from their systems. If you're outside playing in the dark, they can't keep an eye on you. They wouldn't be able to see you because it'd be too dark for them too. And I really don't think you wanna wear reflectors. They just make these rules for your safety.
As for bedtime, deal. I don't have one, but I know what it's like. They set those because it's proven that kids with more sleep have better grades. I don't know why or how it works out, but it's true. There's nothing you can do about it. But, maybe if you talk to them about bedtime CALMLY, maybe you guys can work something out for something later.
& for your crush: very bad idea to write his name on a sheet of paper over and over and over again. I did that in 2nd grade for a boy whose name I don't even REMEMBER, and my dad found it, not my mom. Equally both upset, but, I got it worse from my father. He took my notebooks away from me. =[
For what she read, you can't blame her. Everyone has a natural curiosity for knowing what's up with their kids. We never tell them, so they need to find out somehow. Now, my mom has never read my diary, and she really knows better, but, I can't blame her for being curious. Her knowing that you hate school isn't such a big deal. A lot of kids do, so that's natural. And about your friends? Don't you think she should know? I mean, if your friends are doing drugs and whatever they're not supposed to be doing, she needs to know. Those are not people you wanna hang out with. They'll influence you to do bad things, and get you into bad habits. And habits like drugs, drinking, and smoking are HARD to break, because each is VERY addicting.
Really, you can't blame your mother, sometimes it's our fault too. Such as leaving those things out in the open for them to look at. Keep stuff like that hidden. I'm not saying what she did WASN'T wrong, because believe me, it was, and I'd feel so violated if my mom did that, but give her a break. She's curious to know what goes on through your head. Just respect her, and her wishes, and when you talk to them: Talk calmly. If you're yelling and screaming, and throwing those temper tantrum we all love the throw, then you're going to get nowhere.
I hope I helped you, and I'm sorry it was long. But sometimes it needs to be for a point or message to get across.
&TiNA;
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