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Ferns General Advice Do or do not, there is no try. If you have to try, then it just isn't you.
If you aren't sure if you should have sex with him, then you are not ready to have sex with him.
"But I still love him!" Well he does not love you. If he loved you, he would not hurt you.
Let's get one thing straight. STUPIDITY IS NOT COOL. So hey, why not aim for more?

There's your answer fishbulb.



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Yo Fern,

Mk. I got mIRC since mostly EVERYONE told me too but how the hell do you get to advicenators chat room with it? I followed the instructions thats on the chat room page on here and somehow I get to advicenators chat but I'm the only one there. Huh? what tis going on? I read the help and FAQ but nothing helped me. Am I just too stupid to understand these sort of things or what?
BTW, I also would have just asked you or someone else in the chat using Java client if my Java was working! I updated my version and all that but some how I just get a nice lil' red X at the top left hand side.
I hate computers.

One more thing, (I might as well make the question worth my while) do you by chance have the link to Hell? I asked Draak and she said she didn't either. She told me to give it to her when I get it also.

Thanks Ferin.
AG (Indeed)

Ya Java is not working at all right now I guess.
Ok so! Lets see if we can get this to work for you. Open mIRC and click continue. A menu should pop up. Put in a name and email address(or fake stuff, it honestly doesn't matter) and then put in a nickname and then an alternate nickname in case someone already has your preferrred nickname. Now, below this there should be a button that says 'Connect to server'. Beside that button is a weird little yellow/orange star thing, click on that. Under the drop down list for 'IRC Network', scroll down and find 'Sorcerynet something something' and select that. Under the second drop down list (IRC server: ) there is an 'Add' button. Click that. When the box pops up, type whatever in the Description (I guess sorcerynet if you want) and in IRC server: type irc.sorcery.net - and in port type in 9000. And then hit Add or ok. Now when you are back at the original menu, click 'Connect to Server' which is next to the weird orange and yellow star thing. When you are all connected, type /join #advicenators and voila, you should be one of us.




I've been having a few problems trying to get into the chatroom lately. Everytime I open it up, it will say that it's loading Java Applet... After about 5 seconds this message shows up: java.lang.class.NotFoundException:Chat.Class. I've tried loading in several times with no luck. I'm horrible with computers so I have no clue what "java.lang.class.NotFoundException:Chat.Class" means. I've never had problems with the chatroom before and I've never been banned from it either so I don't know what the problem would be. If someone amazingly wonderful with computers could help me out that would be PERFECT! Thanks so much if you can help! (Indeed)

It looks like I can't get into the chatroom via Javachat either. I attempted to access another website's java chat through the same way and it didn't work either.

I really recommend getting mIRC however, it is just a lot better to begin with.




I just had this revelation. I realized, holy crap, Fern is like, at least FIFTEEN times cooler than I am!

What do you think?
(Indeed)

Finally you admit it.

I think you might just be right.




Hi, I'm fourteen, and I would love it if you could give some advice! I've been cutting for 5 months, and it's time to stop. How can I though? My Mom doesn't know, no one does. My friends saw the scars and cuts yesterday and freaked out. Should I tell someone??
-Thanks (Indeed)

Well, you need to figure out why you cut. Does it make the pain go away? Or are you starved for attention? I'm serious here. You need to find out for yourself why you're doing this, because it isn't obviously to end your life, because you would have done it by now. Most young teens say it makes the pain go away, but is that the case for you?

Either way, you need to talk to your mom. Maybe you don't need to tell her right away about cutting, but you need to identify with her that there are problems in your life that you just can't calmly deal with. You need to stop doing yourself harm, but that is obviously easier said than done. I'd consider getting a journal, a paper one (as opposed to online) and writing down dates and times and things that happened if you ever feel like you need to cut yourself. Make sure you write in it if you actually do it. That way, when you and your mom go to your doctor to get some professional help, which I really reccommend (and I don't mean you're crazy or anything, just someone who really understands and can help you), you can have concrete examples of what made you cut and how you felt at the time and how often you did it.
If you cut because you're frustrated and you have no other outlets, you should take up writing or drawing or something else that you can release emotion into that really only makes positive results. The strongest emotions make the most interesting art.
Beyond all of this, you do need to tell someone. Mainly this is to make sure that you get the medical attention you need and you also need more emotional support because if you didn't you wouldn't be cutting in the first place. If a very close friend knew as well as your mom, I think that you would greatly improve and really get the help you need. Sometimes, when you feel the crappiest, the best thing isn't just to suck it up or find your own way to solve things, sometimes you just have to reach out and ask for some help. So at least you're on your way to fixing this.




Does anyone know anything you can do to get rid of kanker sores. thanks in advance. (Indeed)

I used to get Kanker sores allll the freaking time, and I bought this stuff specifically for them called Kanka. I'm not sure if they still make it, but it worked well.

If you don't get Kanka, I'd try just rinsing your mouth with salt and water, because drying out a kanker sore is the best way to get rid of it. That's why you should never like, lick them or just touch them with your tongue, because it just prolongs them sticking around in your mouth.




Yay! Let the commencement of the celebration of Fern's blindfoldedness occur!!!! (Indeed)

That was such a disturbingly complicated sentence to read for me.




How can you tell if your rabbit is pregnet? (Indeed)

Ok well, I can't say I know this offhand, so I did some googling and got these web pages;
http://islandgems.net/palpating.html
http://www.petpeoplesplace.com/Advice/small/rabbits/19.htm

I guess what you should do is check to see if you can feel grapey-like things in the rabbits abdomen, or if the rabbit starts pulling all the hair off of its stomach. All of the sites I visited recommended that you put a box with stuff for the rabbit to build a nest out of no matter what - just in case she is pregnant.




skating? sk@ing? sk8ing? Since we are just gurls we can meet some sk8er bois. Oooh I am annoying. But my mother ditched me for bingo, so I need someone to harass. (Indeed)

Ok so when I started reading this I was all - what the bloody hell?

But then I realized who it was and it all makes sense.

Dofasco is stupid because we can't rent skates and I know at least one or all of you guys needed skates? I have a couple extra pairs but the whole fitting/being sharp thing might be an issue. I'm not going to sleep tonight because I am working on de-fucking-up my computer. Plus I have to do the whole turn my sleeping pattern around for school. Therefore, I'm going to have some time where I can find out either what size all the skates are or where we can go that rents skates out or something. Possibly double rinks. I don't know.

I will call you tomorrow at some point, I have no idea what time you get up at and I think you are probably already asleep. Anyways, I will call at some point.




does wearing bras to sleep cause your boobs not to grow? what are the side affects (Indeed)

Sleeping with your bra on doesn't stunt growth, that's a myth. I've heard however that sleeping with your bra on can restrict breathing slightly or affect your circulation. Also, it really isn't that comfortable, especially if you're wearing something with one of those really painful and jabbing kind of underwires.




can you get toxic shock syndrome by either masturbating or getting fingered? (Indeed)

No. Toxic shock syndrome is associated with tampons because they absorb so much moisture (which is what its supposed to do). Having this much moisture loss and getting some of the bacteria which I think is probably called Staphylococcus Aureus (I very well could have spelled this wrong, I don't think you care). So, with the combination of the absorbency of tampons and this bacteria, you can get toxic shock syndrome. They say you must change a tampon frequently because it reduces the risk.

So no, especially since if you are doing these activities right, there should be some kind of natural moisture happening. So long as you aren't upsetting the balance of moisture, you will be alright.




have you guys ever babysat and goten really mad at the child and you wanna just sling them into a wall? well i do alot but i do not sling them into a wall i just get really really mad! what do i do to a winny 1 year old? He never shuts up crying help! (Indeed)

You stop babysitting young children.

I figured I'd give something more serious to this answer. A child that is only 1, can't help but be annoying. Some kids are more well-behaved than others, but you have to expect whiney and kind of annoying behaviour from such a young kid. You can't get angry at them - it isn't their fault, they are just so young, they don't understand things yet.

If you can't handle this kind of behaviour or you find that you get angry easily with kids being whiney, stop watching other people's kids. Watching children takes patience, if you don't have the patience for it, don't do it. You're only asking for trouble by babysitting kids that you can't handle.




The picture of you about to mercilessly beat the defenseless Petey has made me aroused. What should I do? (Indeed)

You should stop being sick enough to enjoy Petey's pain you sadistic monster.

OR you can come closer to me and I will just kick you really hard so you won't have such feelings anymore.




hi my name is felicha im 14 and iv never did anything with a boy before not even a KISS only a hug ''wow'' but i have a boyfreind and im a very shy person!! and i wanted some advice from someone and so ... i would like to know how to kiss and do all of that good stuff soon .. thankz (Indeed)

Alright well, you can't 'learn' to do those things. If you try to learn, or do things step by step, it'll seem forced and therefore weird. The trick is to just let things come instinctively, which they will.

If you want more technical explanations, click on the link on the side panel of the main page that says 'Search Questions' and search for how to kiss and such. Really though, I think you are much better off just letting things come naturally. Just do small things, like hold his hand or look him in the eyes or just generally get close to him, and maybe he'll take the opportunity to kiss you instead of you making a move.




Since I already owe you 3 songs, which are indeed in progress (I need to do a 3rd attempt at Whirlwind - after reviewing the 1st 2 tries, I cannot make either of them work)... I thought I'd add this to the bargain - should I make enough money off of whoring out my music to the masses, I will buy you that bass, but you must come and personally receive it. Deal? (Indeed)

I will put it on my list of things to consider.

It's a short list.




So, you want the newer & upgraded version of the 5-string bass I already have, but in a different colour? How 'bout I let you borrow my 4-string bass instead? (Indeed)

But... but... I want THAT one.

Don't make me throw a temper tantrum. BECAUSE I WILL.




Every time I see the Petey pictures, I feel that I must have that shirt. It is just so festive, and I've been eating too much mexican food, and I just listened to a crapload of spanish guitar... and I need that shirt! I NEED IT! *cries* (Indeed)

I'll sell it to you for this:
http://www.ibanez.com/guitars/guitar.asp?model=EDB605&z=y

I'll try to learn bass, I swear! Or I might just look at it for a long time.




I asked this guy to marry me through this mutual friend we have and I'm you know... 15 years old...

good idea? (Indeed)

omg lyk, u shud g0 2 vaygaz or sumthin!

Getting married at 15 is ALWAYS a spectacular idea. You are so mature, ready and worldy at this age.




Hey!! Where's the sexual harrassment bear?
(Indeed)

He's dead garbage bin. Dead.




I know this is a dumb question.. but what do you exactly do when you give a blowjob? (Indeed)

Ok, this is I suppose a valid question, but we like to encourage people to use the 'Search Questions' link on the side panel of the site. That way, we don't get super duper amounts of duplicates.
So, what I did for you is I looked this up using the Search Questions link (I picked the category Health -> Sex, and then for Keywords I just typed in 'blowjob'). This way, you have access to not just one answer, but a whole crapload of answers.

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?t=40&keyword=blow%20job&backlog=2

I do have this to add, because it is really important: Condoms! Even for oral sex!




your hair looks really good in that picture. But this is not what I am asking.

It would appear Tracey has the straylight run concert on saturday. Sooo shall we postpone bowling? Venture without her, and just go to lazer tag with her? Or would she get super pissed about that? ANXIOUSLY AUTISTICALLY AWAITING YOUR AWESOME ALLITERTATIVE ANSWER
-AJEN
(Indeed)

Must I muster many words with very similar sounds in order to engange extravagantly in alliterative altercations?

Anywho.

Is it only Saturday that glow-in-the-dark bowling happens? Because if they have it, say, Sunday, then we could go then perhaps. I believe we could always go lazer tagging with the brown power that is Tanya to occupy ourselves until Tracey is able to go bowling.

She said she is alright with us going without her, but I doubt she means it. I don't know if she cares as much about going to lazer tag, but I am not sure.

In conclusion, I don't know anything.




Holy Matrimony Batman - I need to go back up!
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