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Cutting
Hi, I'm fourteen, and I would love it if you could give some advice! I've been cutting for 5 months, and it's time to stop. How can I though? My Mom doesn't know, no one does. My friends saw the scars and cuts yesterday and freaked out. Should I tell someone??
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Well, you need to figure out why you cut. Does it make the pain go away? Or are you starved for attention? I'm serious here. You need to find out for yourself why you're doing this, because it isn't obviously to end your life, because you would have done it by now. Most young teens say it makes the pain go away, but is that the case for you?
Either way, you need to talk to your mom. Maybe you don't need to tell her right away about cutting, but you need to identify with her that there are problems in your life that you just can't calmly deal with. You need to stop doing yourself harm, but that is obviously easier said than done. I'd consider getting a journal, a paper one (as opposed to online) and writing down dates and times and things that happened if you ever feel like you need to cut yourself. Make sure you write in it if you actually do it. That way, when you and your mom go to your doctor to get some professional help, which I really reccommend (and I don't mean you're crazy or anything, just someone who really understands and can help you), you can have concrete examples of what made you cut and how you felt at the time and how often you did it.
If you cut because you're frustrated and you have no other outlets, you should take up writing or drawing or something else that you can release emotion into that really only makes positive results. The strongest emotions make the most interesting art.
Beyond all of this, you do need to tell someone. Mainly this is to make sure that you get the medical attention you need and you also need more emotional support because if you didn't you wouldn't be cutting in the first place. If a very close friend knew as well as your mom, I think that you would greatly improve and really get the help you need. Sometimes, when you feel the crappiest, the best thing isn't just to suck it up or find your own way to solve things, sometimes you just have to reach out and ask for some help. So at least you're on your way to fixing this.
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