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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.

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--Jack

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What do guys find attractive in a female not only in the way she looks but also the way we act what kind of personality and what kind of personalities do lots of men dislike?

I myself like any type of girl. I honestly don't judge looks as much as I do personality. If a girl is absolutely stunningly beautiful, but she's a bitch- why would I like her? What would our relationship be? What would we talk about? Her latest hair extensions? Yeah- that would be REALLY nice *Sarcasm: Party of one!*...
If a girl has a really nice personality- and she's really outgoing and sweet and nice and smart- and she's not necessarily the best looking girl- but she's not super unattractive- then I'll most likely want to date her over the beautiful bitch.

Guys like girls who are confident in themselves.

Guys like girls who are individuals without being too weird.

Guys like girls who are smart.

Guys like girls who are well-rounded.

Guys like girls who are willing to carry on a conversation.

Basically it differs for every guy, but generally, that's what guys think.

--Jack
(16/m)

Well
I've had sex with my bf once.
And that was it.
Everytie i kiss him a certain way, hold him a certain way, touch him a certain way of stuff like that, he gets a little "excited".
He tells me that i give him boners all the time (and he makes me pretty dern horny) and that he loves me (we've been going out for a year) and he lets me touch his happy place and all but it never really goes any further....
How can I tell him I want to have sex with him again without making him feel awkward?

If you want something in a relationship, sure, you can try nonverbal tricks and such, but you know the only FOR SURE way that you're going to let him know what you want? Whether it's sex, love, comfort, more attention, or whatever, it doesn't matter- the ONLY for sure way is to ask him. Sure it may be awkward, but relationships without communication often end badly. If you communicate what you want and what you're comfortable with, I promise you things will be more enjoyable. Just ask him if you want it. If you think it's awkward, chances are it's not.

--Jack
(16/m)

ok. i know this is gross, but is it normal a ringworm?? nd how do i get rid of it??

It's certainly not normal in the sense that it's alright to get them, but it is pretty common, if that's what you mean.

Like it was suggested, go to a doctor now. Trying home remedies may work, but you're best going to a doctor and having them prescribe medication.

--Jack
(16/m)

i want to know which is a better movie:
of mice and men, the 1992 movie
or
of mice and men, the 1939 movie

surprisingly, both movies got 100% on rottentomatoes.com, which is really quite rare!

PLEASE BE HONEST and even if you haven't seen both (which is most-likely), even if you've seen one of them, tell me how much you liked it on a scale of 1-10 !! i absolutely ADORED the book

I've also only seen the 1992 version, and I actually liked it. Lenny was really brought to life, and it was good because I couldn't really picture him for some reason. I would rate it an 8 or 9. Movies rarely ever get 10s with me xD.

The book was actually not that bad, but it got really irritating at times. The book I would rate a 5 or 6.

--Jack
(16/m)

okay. well i have had an advicenators for a while now. but sometimes when i ask a question i wont get any answers. and it pisses me off sometimes cuz i really need help. then on the other hand when i go to yahoo answers sometimes i get stupid answers that dont help me at all. so which do you like better?? yahoo answers or advicenators??

Yahoo answers gives good answers SOME TIMES, but with Advicenators, you can get an answer and see if that person can help you out more if you ask them an inbox question. It's much more interactive and therefore, better.

Obviously I have a bias, being on this site almost 2 1/2 years xD.

If you don't get answers on here, try rephrasing your question so it's less wordy and more to-the-point.

--Jack
(16/m)

hi
i was wondering if its safe to put a tampon in your vagina before you actually get your period? like if its safe. my sis wants to know wether its safe or not so plz answer this question!

I was under the impression [and my friend that is a girl confirmed this] that it is not safe, because without the blood flow, it can't come out.

Tampons are used so that girls can swim or whatnot without worrying about a pad.

=P

--Jack
(16/m)

my boyfriend finishes in my everytime we have sex for like a whole year he has && I never became pregnant..&& I dont even take birth control or anything to that extent..is anything wrong with me? I want kids in the future is this a bad sign already that I cant?!

Like someone else said, it could be that you're extremely lucky to not get pregnant or that one, or both, of you is infertile.

If you really want the truth, see a doctor. They would know better than us, especially since we don't know you =].

--Jack
(16/m)

when ppl say dont pop or squeeze pimples,

then how the heck do i get rid of them?
especially when thefollowing day is a special day?

what do you guys do whenyou have apimple and want to get rid of it RIGHT AWAY?

home remedy?

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=507367

Check that out. It's a question I've answered before similar to yours and it has a lot of useful information about caring for acne. =]

--Jack
(16/m)

how do i get rid of whiteheads?

what do you guys do?

any special technique?

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=507367

Check that out. It's a question I've answered before similar to yours and it has a lot of useful information =].

--Jack
(16/m)

are the questions here anonymous?

do they know which user was asking the question?

this guy said he KNOWS that "from my past questions.. "
how would he know?

As Razhie said, questions here are completely anonymous to everyone except Level 2 Moderators and above. That's less than 7 people, and they won't use your information against you unless it's to deal with abuse.

Paid accounts, those columnists who pay $10 a year to get extra perks, can see your age, gender and your past questions. They cannot see your username unless you have given it in a question.

--Jack
(16/m)

Hi jack, my name is ashley!! You're a guy/gal my age and I was wondering if I could ask you for some advice?? Ok, so... I do like this guy and I'm pretty sure he likes me back. He asked me for my number at the end of the school year and he hasn't called me yet this summer, could he be scared or what? Hmmm... anyway's he's very intelligent and I'm not really smart but I'm about average. He has most of is future planned out, he's in the marching band, and has straight A's... do you think he might expect that of me? So, there's this physics day at my school where we go to an amusement park and do problem solving things. Well, I went on a roller coaster with him and you know how they take those snap shots? When we got off the rollar coaster my hair was up and everything and I was so embarrassed, so I said I look horrible there... then he looked over at me with soft eyes and said you look good. What does that mean? It seems like when I see him in the hallways at school he looks at me differently then he would someone else...??? I'm curious on how guys 16 think, but he's just so mature. Although, Then there was this one time in the lunch room... I was sitting next to him and my elbow kind of touched his and neither of us moved it until we had to...???? Do you think that means anything? I really like him but I'm not ready to date and he's not allowed to, but I just wonder if he likes me and if they're any hints to that...??? Do you think he'll call? Anyway's thanks for reading this, I know it's a lot to read... but for some reason I have a good feeling asking you gyes about this???

I'm fairly confident this was asked to my inbox and is now asked to the pool.

Here was my answer in case you didn't get it the first time xD.

My short answer to this is, yes, he likes you. Guys do little things like you're describing, and they aren't very good at hiding that they like girls.

Even if he doesn't like you, he at least has some type of crush on your or just is thinking of you as a really good friend.

As for the phone call, he might just be really busy. I'm sure you'll get the call eventually.

Thanks for inboxing =]

--Jack
(16/m)

Heyy, how do you get a forum?
Can just anyone get one or are they SPECIAL?

Hey there.

http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutme.php?userboard_id=30323

Notice the "30323" at the end of the link. If you go onto your column, and click "ASK ME A QUESTION", the URL on the page has a number at the end. This number is the registered columnist you are. So, I am the 30,323rd columnist to register on this site. There are 46,535 registered columnists right now [July 20, 2007 3:50pm Eastern time].
Anyway, take your number, and replace my number with yours [so you put it at the end after the "="], and that gives you your own personal forum.

So you take your URL, and add it to the following code to get it to appear like it does in my column [as "my forum"]:

My Forum or whatever you want to show up

Check mine out sometime, and make sure to put the link on your column so people know about it.

--Jack
(16/m)

15/f

ok well i think i like this guy and we were hanging out last night and hes really nice and always smiles at me and talks to me like a friend and i texted him about hanging out again and he was like "yeah sure whatever you want to do" .. does that mean that he wants to do what i want to do because he might be into me?

thanks

When he says "whatever you want to do", usually that implies that it is your choice.

Does he like you?:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=506340

And he could very well be into you.

Thanks for inboxing.

--Jack
(16/m)

Hi jack, my name is ashley!! You're a guy my age and I was wondering if I could ask you for some advice?? Ok, so... I do like this guy and I'm pretty sure he likes me back. He asked me for my number at the end of the school year and he hasn't called me yet this summer, could he be scared or what? Hmmm... anyway's he's very intelligent and I'm not really smart but I'm about average. He has most of is future planned out, he's in the marching band, and has straight A's... do you think he might expect that of me? So, there's this physics day at my school where we go to an amusement park and do problem solving things. Well, I went on a roller coaster with him and you know how they take those snap shots? When we got off the rollar coaster my hair was up and everything and I was so embarrassed, so I said I look horrible there... then he looked over at me with soft eyes and said you look good. What does that mean? It seems like when I see him in the hallways at school he looks at me differently then he would someone else...??? I'm curious on how guys our age think, but he's just so mature. Although, you seem pretty mature,lol!!! Then there was this one time in the lunch room... I was sitting next to him and my elbow kind of touched his and neither of us moved it until we had to...???? Do you think that means anything? I really like him but I'm not ready to date and he's not allowed to, but I just wonder if he likes me and if they're any hints to that...??? Do you think he'll call? Anyway's thanks for reading this, I know it's a lot to read... but for some reason I have a good feeling asking you about this???

My short answer to this is, yes, he likes you. Guys do little things like you're describing, and they aren't very good at hiding that they like girls.

Even if he doesn't like you, he at least has some type of crush on your or just is thinking of you as a really good friend.

As for the phone call, he might just be really busy. I'm sure you'll get the call eventually.

Thanks for inboxing =]

--Jack
(16/m)

Hey, a friend of mine is named "Amanda" but she doesnt like the name so much so we're trying to find a nickname for her. Anyone got any ideas?

P.S. She doesnt like the nicknames Mandy or Manda either (yeah, i know, she's a annoying about it).

Manders
Andy
Amy
Manny
Anda
Mandily (its pronounced manda-lie)
Ams
"A"
Ama
Mady
A man, duh!

Just be creative =]

--Jack
(16/m)

What are the signs that a guy likes you? But he is my best friend..

I'm going to give you a list of what guys tend to do when they like girls:

1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.

2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.

3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...

4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.

5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".

6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.

If you like this guy- and he does all or most of those things- my best bet is that he does like you. That means one and only one thing: Ask him to make sure, and then try the relationship out. Who knows- it could be great!

--Jack
(16/m)

bulimia
ok how bad is it really?
i just want to loose weight really fast.
ive been doing it for two weeks now and i cant even stop anymore...i dont know if thats a good or bad thing.

Bulimia is definitely a bad thing, and can lead to serious problems.

You can really hurt your body by doing this. If you want to lose weight, here's a way you can do it:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=522387

Please stop as soon as possible, actually, stop now. If you need help stopping, talk to your mom or a friend or see a doctor.

--Jack
(16/m)

Well, I'm 19 and I am in my first year of college. At orientation I met this girl who is great and we hung out most of the summer. I really like her but we both have busy schedules with work and school and we haven't seen eachother that much lately. I dont know if I should cut my work hours or what.

If you really want to spend more time with her, then maybe yes. I wouldn't cut your hours SO much that it starts to hurt you financially, because you need all the money you can get for college tuition.
I'd say cutting maybe 3 or 4 hours a week would be the most I would. Yes, work will always be there, but right now you should really stick with work and stick with earning money. Having college debts won't be fun, why add to it?

--Jack
(16/m)

Okay, well I'm not a big TV and radio fan. I get all the music I listen to from MySpace or the internet. And so now, I can't find any good music. Help please.

I prefer the following genres:
`Acoustic
`Alternative
`Dance
`Dance Rock
`Electro
`Electronic
`Electronica [is there a difference b/w the 3?]
`Emo
`Indie
`New Wave
`Pop Rock
`Powerpop
`Rock
`Trace
`& Any good soundtrack song from movies [ex. Marie Antoinette]

Some of my favorite artist are:
`Albert Hammond Jr.
`All Time Low
`Amber Pacific
`Backseat Goodbye
`The Beatles
`Benny Benassi
`Cobra Starship
`Daphne Loves Derby
`Fall Out Boy
`Forever the Sickest Kids
`Jason Mraz
`John Mayer
`Justin Nozuka
`Katy Perry
`Ladytron
`Meg & Dia
`Metro Station
`Phantom Planet
`Playradioplay!
`A Rocket To The Moon
`The Scene Aesthetic
`Shwayze
`Tegan & Sara
`Yellowcard
`You say party! We say die!

Thanks so much in advance!
Sorry, if it's too much.

I'm going to recommend my favorite bands, and I think you might enjoy them. My list isn't nearly as long as the other people's, but I hope it may give you an idea of what to listen to.

1. The Rocket Summer
2. Relient K
3. Cartel
4. Maroon 5

Yes. It's FOUR bands. I know it may seem like nothing. Relient K has had well over 100 songs recorded. Cartel has near 50, as does Maroon 5. The Rocket Summer has around 35-40 recorded.

That's like 250 songs or so, if you listened to them all. They are very enjoyable to listen to ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

In your opinion, how stupid are boys?

Hmm. I don't consider myself stupid, and I don't generally call someone stupid unless they are incredibly lacking any intelligence whatsoever.

The stereotype that guys are stupid when they are teenagers is actually pretty false, as with most stereotypes. Guys, behind a few immature jokes, are actually very smart at times.

I'd say, if anything, girls are just as "stupid".

--Jack
(16/m)

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