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well i'm 14, female
and there's is this guy that i have liked for almost a year now and in the beginning of the school year we would both flirt with each other (like hugs and things like that) and i knew he liked me... but then he started going out with someone else and after that he made everything so akward between us and we both just stopped taking to each other
but he would always look at me with this look like he was sad or something
well the end of the school year came and i decided to tell him how i always felt about him
so i emailed him on myspace.com and said
that i know you're in love with her but i really like you.... and he read it but never wrote back so a week later we were both on at the same time and he says....."well why do you like me?"
so i told him and he says...." okay can i tell you something that you cant tell anyone? i mean i know i'm going out with.. her but i have to let you know how i feel about you"
so he told me that......" well on the first day of school when you walked into homeroom i was like woah!!! she's is absolutely gorgeous. but i wish that we could have talked more"
so i told him everything to and we kept talking till it was alomost two in the moring and the next day kept talking and the day after that...etc.
well what i wanna know is do you think he likes me?
or have any feelings or something!!
and i'm curious to see what happens next year because his girlfriend is going to a different high school then us we're going to the same one!
i think he likes me but his girlfriend is the only thing in the way!!!

Thanks for inboxing.

This is such a tough situation, trust me, I've been there. It seems like he likes you, I mean, if he's telling you all of this. I guess the only way to know, for sure, is to ask him about it. If he's willing to open up about how he felt before, I'm sure he's willing to tell you how he feels now. Ask him if he likes you, because you really like him, but you're confused about how HE feels.

But, I have to say be careful. If he does like you, I'd tell him that if he wants a relationship with you he better end things with his girlfriend first. Cheating is never cool, and neither is a guy lying to his girlfriend.

-Laura. (16-f)

I'm entering high school this year and I'm terrified. Can you help me and give me some pointers and advice?

Ahhh the joys of entering high school. I think I can help you, and I'll even share a few stories! ;]

I don't know why everybody is so scared, because it really isn't that scary!

Here are my tips;
1. Be yourself.
- Cheesy and cliche, I know, but it's true. You have to be yourself in order to make new friends. You want people to like you for YOU, and not a certain way you're acting or talking.

2. Wear what you want.
- This goes with the above. Don't dress a certain way to impress people, it isn't worth it. Just wear what you want, and you'll be fine. DON'T DRESS SLUTTY. It will only make people assume that you are, in fact, a slutty girl, and people usually don't like that. I'm also sure YOU wouldn't like having mean things said about you, right?

3. Talk to people, and let them talk to you.
- Making new friends is so not hard! Funny [and true!] story: I met my current best friend freshman year. We were put together as partners in our AP tech [just a fancy class with a lot of technology stations] class. The station we were assigned to had a wind tunnel, and of course being the klutz I am, I broke it. Well, I really didn't know my best friend too well yet, but he still stepped in to save me. The moral of the story: Don't be afraid to talk to new people, or let them help you when you need it. You might even end up being best friends with them like me and my friend!

4. Give people a chance, and don't judge them.
- Don't think that just because a guy is on the football team he is unapproachable and you have no shot at being friends. You never know until you try! This also goes the other way, too. Just because somebody is really smart and in band doesn't mean they aren't a totally awesome person. Also, just because you don't like somebody at first, does NOT mean you won't end up being friends later. Another true story: Sophomore year, I met another one of my good friends. We had health class together and always competed for the highest grade in the class. Well, long story short, it kind of made me mad and then one girl got a higher grade then both of us. But, the boy I competed with and I are now really good friends, and I laugh at the fact I didn't like him at first. We actually ended up dating the next school year!

5. Don't make friends with the wrong people.
- If you start talking to somebody, but they DO end up being a total loser [pothead, gossip, etc.] then don't be afraid to stop hanging out with them. Do what's right for you, not what's "cool" or anything else. You are your own person. Find people who accept you for who you are, who you trust, and who you know you can count on.

6. Go to school functions.
- Football games, dances, and pep rallies are not only a ton of fun, but a great place to hang out with friends or make some new ones. So get out your school colors and go have fun! ;]

7. Do your work, don't be a slacker.
- Look at it this way, if you do good in high school, you will get into a good college. If you get into a good college, you will get a good job. If you get a good job, you will have a better chance at being happy. Isn't it worth doing your work for 4 years to achieve a lifetime of success and happiness? I think so!

8. ENJOY your experience!
- This is probably most important. ENJOY YOUR TIME IN HIGH SCHOOL. People call the high school years the "best years of your life", why not make that saying true? Get good grades, make new friends, and enjoy the ride B]

Good Luck, and don't worry, you'll be fine!

-Laura (17-f-SENIOR)

okay so i am just going into a high school, and well i kind of just want some pointers, including on fashion, like are you usually allowed to have those tote bags instead of a backpacks, because i know at the school i was at didnt allow us to carry those around. maybe pointers on good ways to meet new people im going to a private school if that helps at all =] thanks =]

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=544383

From there:

Ahhh the joys of entering high school. I think I can help you, and I'll even share a few stories! ;]

I don't know why everybody is so scared, because it really isn't that scary!

Here are my tips;
1. Be yourself.
- Cheesy and cliche, I know, but it's true. You have to be yourself in order to make new friends. You want people to like you for YOU, and not a certain way you're acting or talking.

2. Wear what you want.
- This goes with the above. Don't dress a certain way to impress people, it isn't worth it. Just wear what you want, and you'll be fine. DON'T DRESS SLUTTY. It will only make people assume that you are, in fact, a slutty girl, and people usually don't like that. I'm also sure YOU wouldn't like having mean things said about you, right?

3. Talk to people, and let them talk to you.
- Making new friends is so not hard! Funny [and true!] story: I met my current best friend freshman year. We were put together as partners in our AP tech [just a fancy class with a lot of technology stations] class. The station we were assigned to had a wind tunnel, and of course being the klutz I am, I broke it. Well, I really didn't know my best friend too well yet, but he still stepped in to save me. The moral of the story: Don't be afraid to talk to new people, or let them help you when you need it. You might even end up being best friends with them like me and my friend!

4. Give people a chance, and don't judge them.
- Don't think that just because a guy is on the football team he is unapproachable and you have no shot at being friends. You never know until you try! This also goes the other way, too. Just because somebody is really smart and in band doesn't mean they aren't a totally awesome person. Also, just because you don't like somebody at first, does NOT mean you won't end up being friends later. Another true story: Sophomore year, I met another one of my good friends. We had health class together and always competed for the highest grade in the class. Well, long story short, it kind of made me mad and then one girl got a higher grade then both of us. But, the boy I competed with and I are now really good friends, and I laugh at the fact I didn't like him at first.

5. Don't make friends with the wrong people.
- If you start talking to somebody, but they DO end up being a total loser [pothead, gossip, etc.] then don't be afraid to stop hanging out with them. Do what's right for you, not what's "cool" or anything else. You are your own person.

6. Go to school functions.
- Football games, dances, and pep rallies are not only a ton of fun, but a great place to hang out with friends or make some new ones. So get out your school colors and go have fun! ;]

7. Do your work, don't be a slacker.
- Look at it this way, if you do good in high school, you will get into a good college. If you get into a good college, you will get a good job. If you get a good job, you will have a better chance at being happy. Isn't it worth doing your work for 4 years to achieve a lifetime of success and happiness? I think so!

8. ENJOY your experience!
- This is probably most important. ENJOY YOUR TIME IN HIGH SCHOOL. People call the high school years the "best years of your life", why not make that saying true? Get good grades, make new friends, and enjoy the ride B]

Good Luck, and don't worry, you'll be fine!

-Laura. (16-f-Junior)

what should i do...
the guy i like is like 5 inches shorter than me should i go out with him or not???

Yeah, why not? It's really shallow not to date somebody because of something as meaningless as height.

-Laura. (16-f)

Okay, so recently my family and I went on vacation to the beach and one night my parents and his dad were out at some dance club place and my sister was asleep in her room and so my cousin and I were laying on the pull out couch on our stomachs watching the TV. My cousin is an avid texter and so he was always texting but I noticed his foot started to touch mine really softly. At first I thought nothing of it and was like whatever, it's nothing. But then he would roll onto his back to text and go back to lying on his stomach and look back to where our feet were and then I would feel his foot on mine again. This happened a lot more than once too.

What does that mean if anything? + Should I ask him why he was doing that or let it be?

I'd just let it be. It's kind of an awkward situation, and you don't want to make it worse. If he keeps doing it, and does other things like that, then ask him why he's doing it. But for now, just let it be.

-Laura. (16-f)

i'm sort of a tomboy.and i like a guy whose like 15 and is one of my friends.i don't want to ruine our friendship cause his family are friends to my family so i see him alot.what should i do?

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=506340
From there:

"I'm going to give you a list of what guys tend to do when they like girls:

1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.

2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.

3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...

4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.

5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".

6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.

If you like this guy- and he does all or most of those things- my best bet is that he does like you. That means one and only one thing: Ask him to make sure, and then try the relationship out. Who knows- it could be great!"

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=543173
From there:
"Well, there are 2 major options you can go about to solve this problem:

1. Be blunt about it.
2. Be shy about it.

I highly suggest being blunt about it, and either asking him if he's into you too, or simply asking him out yourself. Guys like when girls show confidence, and there's no better way to show you're confident than walking up to a guy and asking him out!

Or, you can go the other route and be shy about it, possibly doing nothing to show him you're interested in him. Sometimes, people who use this method drop subtle hints such as smiling [which is common in girls and doesn't always show you're into a guy] or having a friend ask if he's into you [this only shows that you're too shy to do it yourself]. This option is really kind of stupid, and is used all too much...

As I always say:
Life is WAY too short to not take chances and risks once in a while. Why sit around wondering what could've been, what would've been and what should've been, when you can answer all of those questions and then some by being honest and telling a boy how you really feel about him?"

-Laura. (16-f)

In sims 2, Can you meet aliens in another neighborhood that is not strangetown?

Nope, only in Strangetown ;]

-Laura. (16-f)

For some reason, lately i've been into the 80's. Maybe it's just the trend going around? Any ways, I've kinda felt like dressing like they did back then because I always kindof liked that style. So, I was doing some internet research and this is what I found;

-lots of colorful watches on the arm
-leg warmers
-teased hair
-arm warmers
-skinny jeans
-converse
-headbands

Is that all correct? Can you give me other things they liked to wear? I'm really liking this style ha ha thanks!

Long shirts, I think they call them tunics? Bright colored jewelry, and lots of it. A lot of colorful eyeshadow. Leggings!

-Laura. (16-f)

Alright, so, I just started texting this guy last week. We're meeting each other on Thursday with a few friends so it won't be as awkward. As we've been texting, he'll always bring up something perverted, but then say he was just kidding. Some times I can't tell if he's kidding. Should I give this guy a chance or not? My friends want me to and I think he's super cute. I don't know what to do.

I'd give him a chance, but not before talking to him about it.

If he's saying perverted things and really is just joking, tell him to cut it out. But, if he's serious about them, let him know you don't like it and you want him to stop or you WON'T give him a chance.

-Laura. (16-f)

My dog has a sore on his leg. Half of the sore has a bunch or red bumps and the other half looks infected and raw what do i do? Is there a medicine that i can get or do i have to go to a vet?

You should definetely visit the vet. It could be harmless, but it could be really serious. The only way to find out is to ask a professional =]

-Laura. (16-f)

ok, well I just moved the furniture around in my room today.
I hate the color of my walls and I want to paint.
The thing is I want to do something crazy, but I have no idea what colors, and if I had colors I dont know what to do with them.
I dont know if I want some sort of design or what, I'm kind of stumped.
If anyone has any suggestions that would be lovely (:
the only thing i know is that I dont want pink or red.

I painted my room teal, and I have a black and white theme. I have black and white pictures and a zebra bedspread. I love it ;]

The other idea I was debating was painting it yellow and having a tropical theme.

-Laura. (16-f)

when do you stop growing?
isn't it like, 21?

Thanks for inboxing.

Most girls stop growing by the age of 18, and most guys stop growing by the age of 17.

-Laura. (16-f)

I have At&T and i was wondering if there is anyway to get a number blocked from calling or texting you. I was gonna call up and ask too but i was wondering if anyone knew in advance

I think you can block somebody. I remember my best friend either wanting to do it or actually doing it. But like Jack said below, you should ask anyways and be prepared in case the answer is no ;]

-Laura. (16-f)

Hi there!

I need advice on what to put in a scrapbook.
It's for my cousin, he's turning 20.
Not stuff like:
Flowers
Decoration
Paper

But stuff like:
Favorite music
Memorable Quotes

like that

I really really need help becuase I have no idea what to put in it. It's 14 sheets (28 pages), and I'm really stuck. Please help!

Kkytha - 14/f

Well, obviously put a ton of pictures in it.
You can also put ticket stubs from movies, concert, plays, etc you've been to together.
You can also put
You can print pictures of his favorite things, like his favorite band, car, sports, etc.

Good Luck =]

-Laura. (16-f)

i wanna get my bellybutton pierced but i dont know if it will look good on me. is there any like magnetic or clip on bellybutton rings just to try out before i actually get it done? thankss

I know they have clip on rings, I think you can get them at Claire's, or probably a few different places in the mall.

-Laura. (16-f)

I babysit a 5 year old boy. Sometimes he's very sweet and polite, but a lot of the time he's very obnoxious. He hits me and never listens to me. If he's doing something he shouldn't and I tell him to stop, he'll say, "You're not the boss of me," or, "I can do whatever I want," and tell me to "get out." His parents let him get away with a lot and he's kind of spoiled. He always throws things around and if I tell him to pick it up, he says, "Leave me alone," and hits or kicks me. I talked to his parents and they told me to make him go to his room if he acts like that, but when I tell him to he doesn't listen and yells at me. I really don't know what to do.

Talk to the parents! It's ridiculous that they let the kid treat you like that, and you have A LOT of patience for putting up with it. Let the parents know that he will NOT listen to you, and that he is physically hurting you. You have to tell them what you told us, and tell them their suggestions are not working.

Some other suggestions:
- Reward him when he behaves.
- Be tough. Not hitting him tough, because hitting children is wrong. But speak with confidence, and let him know that you're the boss.

I really don't know what else to suggest. If none of this works, and the parents don't do anything, I'm sorry, but I'd quit babysitting this kid.

-Laura. (16-f)

how come some schools wont let the girls wear makeup?

Some schools just have a really srict dress code policy, and I guess they feel that make up is inappropriate. It varies from school to school, though.

-Laura. (16-f)

does anyone knw any GOOD workout moves...or like exercisses that will help with your weight??? ANYTHING will help please!!?!?!

thankz in advance
-cuttechick24

Google can always help!

-Laura. (16-f)

My best friend is always saying how she kisses her friends all the time, but ive never kissed her before, for some reason i really want to, and like i dont know how i can get her to kiss me, i really want to try kissing girls, like ive kissed one of my friends once but i was drunk so i dont remember one bit of it and what its like. What should I do!?

Erm, I disagree with the columnist below. You shouldn't just kiss your friend. That would be extremely awkward. I guess you can just ask her, and let her know you're curious?

-Laura. (16-f)

Hey!

Well, I've been trying to get a different background on my Advice column from Photo
bucket, for 2 day's now and I don't understand
what I did wrong this is what I did,
I found the background, and copied the URL
for the website's and blogs. Than, I go to
my column settings and pasted the URL. Than
I checked out my column and nothing happened! :/
Does anyone know what I did wrong?

Can someone please tell me what to do.

Thanks for any answers!

Make sure that after you copy the link, you put in under "Page background image (URL):" and not any other section. Also, try a different background to make sure there isn't something wrong with the URL.

-Laura. (16-f)

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