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okay so i am just going into a high school, and well i kind of just want some pointers, including on fashion, like are you usually allowed to have those tote bags instead of a backpacks, because i know at the school i was at didnt allow us to carry those around. maybe pointers on good ways to meet new people im going to a private school if that helps at all =] thanks =]
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Ahhh the joys of entering high school. I think I can help you, and I'll even share a few stories! ;]
I don't know why everybody is so scared, because it really isn't that scary!
Here are my tips;
1. Be yourself.
- Cheesy and cliche, I know, but it's true. You have to be yourself in order to make new friends. You want people to like you for YOU, and not a certain way you're acting or talking.
2. Wear what you want.
- This goes with the above. Don't dress a certain way to impress people, it isn't worth it. Just wear what you want, and you'll be fine. DON'T DRESS SLUTTY. It will only make people assume that you are, in fact, a slutty girl, and people usually don't like that. I'm also sure YOU wouldn't like having mean things said about you, right?
3. Talk to people, and let them talk to you.
- Making new friends is so not hard! Funny [and true!] story: I met my current best friend freshman year. We were put together as partners in our AP tech [just a fancy class with a lot of technology stations] class. The station we were assigned to had a wind tunnel, and of course being the klutz I am, I broke it. Well, I really didn't know my best friend too well yet, but he still stepped in to save me. The moral of the story: Don't be afraid to talk to new people, or let them help you when you need it. You might even end up being best friends with them like me and my friend!
4. Give people a chance, and don't judge them.
- Don't think that just because a guy is on the football team he is unapproachable and you have no shot at being friends. You never know until you try! This also goes the other way, too. Just because somebody is really smart and in band doesn't mean they aren't a totally awesome person. Also, just because you don't like somebody at first, does NOT mean you won't end up being friends later. Another true story: Sophomore year, I met another one of my good friends. We had health class together and always competed for the highest grade in the class. Well, long story short, it kind of made me mad and then one girl got a higher grade then both of us. But, the boy I competed with and I are now really good friends, and I laugh at the fact I didn't like him at first.
5. Don't make friends with the wrong people.
- If you start talking to somebody, but they DO end up being a total loser [pothead, gossip, etc.] then don't be afraid to stop hanging out with them. Do what's right for you, not what's "cool" or anything else. You are your own person.
6. Go to school functions.
- Football games, dances, and pep rallies are not only a ton of fun, but a great place to hang out with friends or make some new ones. So get out your school colors and go have fun! ;]
7. Do your work, don't be a slacker.
- Look at it this way, if you do good in high school, you will get into a good college. If you get into a good college, you will get a good job. If you get a good job, you will have a better chance at being happy. Isn't it worth doing your work for 4 years to achieve a lifetime of success and happiness? I think so!
8. ENJOY your experience!
- This is probably most important. ENJOY YOUR TIME IN HIGH SCHOOL. People call the high school years the "best years of your life", why not make that saying true? Get good grades, make new friends, and enjoy the ride B]
Good Luck, and don't worry, you'll be fine!
-Laura. (16-f-Junior)
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I just graduated high school last month, and my high school didn't care what bookbag you carried.
Here are all sorts of examples of bags myself & others carried at my school
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Fashion wise - we had a dress code, but it wasn't too bad. No shorts more than 2-3 inches above the knee. No strapless shirts, tanks, etc. unless the sleeve was 2+inches (the width of our ID cards), etc.
No drug refrences, alcohol refrences, gang refrences (Anything the refers to lawbreaking). Things like that.
Meeting new people is easy. Just strike up conversation with people who sit near you in class. If you're shy, this could be difficult. If you're like me & only shy when you first meet someone (like... the first day), then you'll be fine, too. Don't be afraid to be yourself. That's how you'll meet people who you will become good friends with. If you lie about doing things to make yourself look cool, you'll only be found out and people will think of you as a poser & nobody will like you. It's better to be upfront and honest.
If you're nervous, just try to relax. Realize that everyone feels the way you do. If you see someone sitting alone, don't be afraid to go up to them. Maybe they're really shy and not too great at making friends. You could easily make someones day by just being nice.
If you don't drink, do drugs, etc. then don't worry & don't start. It's a messy thing to get into. I've seen a lot of people get hurt & even die from doing all that stupid stuff. Don't start sleeping around because you think it makes you look cool. Don't lie about sleeping around because you think you'll look cool. You won't. People may say to your face "wow, you got him!?",etc. But behing your back you'll be know as the school's biggest slut...
What it all comes down with is being comfortable in your own shoes.
Confidence is key. If you feel good about yourself, you shine. Literally - people who are confident (not like bragging & thinking they're better than everyone - just people who are comfortable being who they are) really light up a room. Laugh & smile & be happy - it rubs off on people & people will love being around you.
Don't lie about your feelings. Don't be afraid to show you're happy/sad/mad, etc.
Don't be afraid of upperclassman. Mostly they're nice. Those who aren't, well, they aren't worth being friends with anyway.
Join clubs & sports teams. (With sports - don't be afraid to try something. You may be good at it. If not, the worst that will happen is not making the team - who cares?! - Maybe you can be a team manager instead - I was for some stuff).
If you have any specific questions, feel free to drop a line to my inbox. I have experienced lots of stuff, especially with the world of high school. I know all about making friends, clubs, sports, depression/cutting/suicide/anorexia.
--- S_C 17/f
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Usually high schools are more lenient when it comes to backpacks and such. So you should be able to have a tote bag if you can have a backpack. Maybe ask someone you know who already goes to the school.
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I was a freshman two years ago- and I have to say.. it was one of the most scary things I've EVER experienced! I was thrown in the trash can on the first day and it was horrible. Some kid even had to go to the emergency room! It was the WORST first day of school of my entire life! I almost didn't go back!
Haha- so hopefully you didn't take that seriously- because it really wasn't like that at all. I always play that trick on people who ask this question. C'mon- I gotta have a little fun! High school is NOT scary. It actually is a lot more fun. You have more freedoms than middle school and you can take REALLY awesome classes. If you have to chance to take a Speech class- DO IT! You think it will be the dumbest class ever and you'll be really bored- but you get the chance to get really good at speeches- and you'll learn really awesome things! When you get to be a Junior/Senior- take AP and Honors classes- these will impress colleges and they will want you to go to their college if you do well enough on them.
People may tell you that Freshmen year doesn't count for anything- so slacking off won't matter until you're an upperclassmen. This is wrong. Colleges will look at your cumulative GPA- and that includes your freshmen year. Don't slack off; you'll regret it later.
Just to debunk the rumor- There is NOT a "Freshmen Friday". Sure, this used to exist back in the 60s and 70s, but it doesn't anymore. Any school that actually still does it will probably end up getting sued by a bunch of parents. So most don't do it. Chances are, your high school won't do it.
Here is my list of DOs and DON'Ts:
Do:
-Do all of your homework.
-Make new friends [some old ones will naturally just fade away] and do this by just starting up simple conversations with people- and it will eventually lead to a great friendship. Ask someone you may want to get to know for a pencil in class.. that's a classic. Sit with new people at lunch.
-Ask the teacher for help if you need it.
Don't:
-Don't talk to seniors.. they most likely DON'T like you. The won't give you any respect.
-Don't wear revealing clothing- seniors will automatically hate you.
All in all- if you just be yourself- you'll be fine. If you have upperclassmen in any classes- you'll get to know them over the course of the year- and you may end up meeting some really great people. I know that some of my best friends I met at school freshmen year- and most of them were 10th grade or older. Not all seniors hate you- some will be welcoming- but just assume the worst in them, at first. After awhile- you'll know who to avoid and who to warm up to. You'll be fine. Don't worry.
--Jack
(16/m/Junior)
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